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Twenty8:
Can you believe the what this woman is saying fa?
You want to carry another man's child, and you expect a correct/undiluted/unmixed/unwashed African man to treat you like a baby during pregnancy?

Olorun ma je

You dey mind the fool? Indirectly ending the marriage

squad03:
I have been pondering on this for several years and I'll appreciate the inputs of good people on this forum.

Way before I got married,I had considered that should I encounter any delay in childbearing,I would be open to 'unconventional' means like IVF, Surrogacy or adoption.
Thankfully,I didn't encounter any delay and my husband and I have had 2 kids.I am not keen to have any more kids but my husband is open to more so we are keeping our fingers for a few more years.

Despite having completed my family (maybe temporarily), I have always kept on my mind the urge to volunteer to be a surrogate for another family.Why not since pregnancy treats me really well,my body snaps right back and I hardly experience that postpartum drag, it's a superpower I feel bad about going to waste since I probably won't be having anymore kids for myself.
Over the years,I have encountered couples I would gladly have engaged in this conversation but every time I run it past my husband (before I get their hopes up) he shoots the idea down.

I found it quite odd at first until I read about a woman who after 2 kids died during childbirth as a surrogate for another couple. That was scary for me but it didn't quite dampen the desire.

The first couple I spoke to him about are friends of ours who have been making efforts and he said he appreciates my kindness but that this is Nigeria where nothing is black and white and he wouldn't want any troubles as a result of it.
I paused for a bit.
We have all been friends for a while since we were all single and there's an adage in Yoruba that translates to 'Communual eating isn't sweet if one person doesn't contribute' and there has been that silent wedge even though it's often ignored.

For me, I can hardly see the downside to this,granted I will have to pause my career for just a few months during the advanced stage or early postpartum phase but that pales in comparison to going on the journey with a friend who can be a part of it every step of the way,can come to Antenatal and ultrasound scans..it's exciting to me.They will be rest assured that I will be taking all the right steps to ensure perfectly healthy babies.Please bear in mind that the baby(ies) will be 100% theirs (husband's sperm and his wife's eggs),I will just be a happy incubator.

There are legal aspects I am happy to follow through as they please and this is no quest for financial gains as my family is more than comfortable.

I also have a cousin who has been trying for a baby but has medical conditions which have hindered this so far and I will do this for her in a heartbeat but I have to convince my husband to allow me.
I have been having sleepless nights about it and I'm hoping that since it's family this time,he won't hesitate to give me his blessings considering it's a sacrifice for him as well.This is the only time I can take this break in my career and I want it to be meaningful.
God answers prayers in diverse ways,maybe this is it for my cousin.

Husbands in the house,how will you react to such a request from your spouse?

Wives,can you volunteer to be a surrogate?

Parents-to-be,will you allow known persons to be surrogates for you or have you considered any downsides to it?

I come in peace and for the love of babies,may the joy go round.

Your English is very sweet. Thats all I can say. Your husband is lucky to have someone who will sharpen his grammar. As for you helping people stomach their kids, he is not lucky to have you in that regard

can somebody tell me devil is not after this one, she doesn't want to have any more children for her own husband, but she thinks it is necessary to have kids for other people, men really are suffering and smiling ,God know if na me i no go even answer you, as soon as you try am i go impregenate your sister or cousin to complete my house .

squad03:
I have been pondering on this for several years and I'll appreciate the inputs of good people on this forum.

Way before I got married,I had considered that should I encounter any delay in childbearing,I would be open to 'unconventional' means like IVF, Surrogacy or adoption.
Thankfully,I didn't encounter any delay and my husband and I have had 2 kids.I am not keen to have any more kids but my husband is open to more so we are keeping our fingers for a few more years.

Despite having completed my family (maybe temporarily), I have always kept on my mind the urge to volunteer to be a surrogate for another family.Why not since pregnancy treats me really well,my body snaps right back and I hardly experience that postpartum drag, it's a superpower I feel bad about going to waste since I probably won't be having anymore kids for myself.
Over the years,I have encountered couples I would gladly have engaged in this conversation but every time I run it past my husband (before I get their hopes up) he shoots the idea down.

I found it quite odd at first until I read about a woman who after 2 kids died during childbirth as a surrogate for another couple. That was scary for me but it didn't quite dampen the desire.

The first couple I spoke to him about are friends of ours who have been making efforts and he said he appreciates my kindness but that this is Nigeria where nothing is black and white and he wouldn't want any troubles as a result of it.
I paused for a bit.
We have all been friends for a while since we were all single and there's an adage in Yoruba that translates to 'Communual eating isn't sweet if one person doesn't contribute' and there has been that silent wedge even though it's often ignored.

For me, I can hardly see the downside to this,granted I will have to pause my career for just a few months during the advanced stage or early postpartum phase but that pales in comparison to going on the journey with a friend who can be a part of it every step of the way,can come to Antenatal and ultrasound scans..it's exciting to me.They will be rest assured that I will be taking all the right steps to ensure perfectly healthy babies.Please bear in mind that the baby(ies) will be 100% theirs (husband's sperm and his wife's eggs),I will just be a happy incubator.

There are legal aspects I am happy to follow through as they please and this is no quest for financial gains as my family is more than comfortable.

I also have a cousin who has been trying for a baby but has medical conditions which have hindered this so far and I will do this for her in a heartbeat but I have to convince my husband to allow me.
I have been having sleepless nights about it and I'm hoping that since it's family this time,he won't hesitate to give me his blessings considering it's a sacrifice for him as well.This is the only time I can take this break in my career and I want it to be meaningful.
God answers prayers in diverse ways,maybe this is it for my cousin.

Husbands in the house,how will you react to such a request from your spouse?

Wives,can you volunteer to be a surrogate?

Parents-to-be,will you allow known persons to be surrogates for you or have you considered any downsides to it?

I come in peace and for the love of babies,may the joy go round.

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggarrrr
Isoright....grab my Hennessey and my weed while i seek for knowledge on this topic
A real niggar should always smoke some weed, bang enough pussy, drink some bottles, make some dope money and SEEK FOR KNOWLEDGE anyday anytime twice on Monday especially on topic like this that is almost beyond his comprehension
Am going to put on my intellectual cap while blazing my weed as i perused and read between lines on every comment on this topic

Show a nigga how to make money abeg

[ YOUR desire is a noble one.Myself have been pondering and considered getting a surrogate mother when the time is right.HERE IN FOREIGN COUNTRIES IS A NORMAL THING.this is Nigeria, Africa where surrogacy is somewhat alien.They are not yet used to it.so, some responses will be crazy.I understand ure the kind of woman who likes pregnancy.If i had a surrogate mom,I would treat her well,give her millions,any food of her choice,cater to her cravings and desires.Surrogacy is good
DO IT .UR COUSIN WILL FOREVER BE GRATEFUL TO U.in otehor03 post=97021662]I have been pondering on this for several years and I'll appreciate the inputs of good people on this forum.

Way before I got married,I had considered that should I encounter any delay in childbearing,I would be open to 'unconventional' means like IVF, Surrogacy or adoption.
Thankfully,I didn't encounter any delay and my husband and I have had 2 kids.I am not keen to have any more kids but my husband is open to more so we are keeping our fingers for a few more years.

Despite having completed my family (maybe temporarily), I have always kept on my mind the urge to volunteer to be a surrogate for another family.Why not since pregnancy treats me really well,my body snaps right back and I hardly experience that postpartum drag, it's a superpower I feel bad about going to waste since I probably won't be having anymore kids for myself.
Over the years,I have encountered couples I would gladly have engaged in this conversation but every time I run it past my husband (before I get their hopes up) he shoots the idea down.

I found it quite odd at first until I read about a woman who after 2 kids died during childbirth as a surrogate for another couple. That was scary for me but it didn't quite dampen the desire.

The first couple I spoke to him about are friends of ours who have been making efforts and he said he appreciates my kindness but that this is Nigeria where nothing is black and white and he wouldn't want any troubles as a result of it.
I paused for a bit.
We have all been friends for a while since we were all single and there's an adage in Yoruba that translates to 'Communual eating isn't sweet if one person doesn't contribute' and there has been that silent wedge even though it's often ignored.

For me, I can hardly see the downside to this,granted I will have to pause my career for just a few months during the advanced stage or early postpartum phase but that pales in comparison to going on the journey with a friend who can be a part of it every step of the way,can come to Antenatal and ultrasound scans..it's exciting to me.They will be rest assured that I will be taking all the right steps to ensure perfectly healthy babies.Please bear in mind that the baby(ies) will be 100% theirs (husband's sperm and his wife's eggs),I will just be a happy incubator.

There are legal aspects I am happy to follow through as they please and this is no quest for financial gains as my family is more than comfortable.

I also have a cousin who has been trying for a baby but has medical conditions which have hindered this so far and I will do this for her in a heartbeat but I have to convince my husband to allow me.
I have been having sleepless nights about it and I'm hoping that since it's family this time,he won't hesitate to give me his blessings considering it's a sacrifice for him as well.This is the only time I can take this break in my career and I want it to be meaningful.
God answers prayers in diverse ways,maybe this is it for my cousin.

Husbands in the house,how will you react to such a request from your spouse?

Wives,can you volunteer to be a surrogate?

Parents-to-be,will you allow known persons to be surrogates for you or have you considered any downsides to it?

I come in peace and for the love of babies,may the joy go round.[/quote]

squad03:
Husbands in the house,how will you react to such a request from your spouse?

Wives,can you volunteer to be a surrogate?

Parents-to-be,will you allow known persons to be surrogates for you or have you considered any downsides to it?

I come in peace and for the love of babies,may the joy go round.

If my wife wants to do this for family. I would agree. For a friend I dont think i would risk her life
Im not sure I want a known person to be a surrogate if we were to do this. I would say a stranger is better in my own case.

God bless you

Aunty,ur desire is very good and commendable.White women do surrogacy a lot to help barren couples.White men are different from blackmen.Your husband is a black man,a Nigerian.they usually are very selfish and egoistic.

Authority1o1:
Okay...



Do you really want to be a surrogate because you love babies and feel that women passing through conception-difficulty should be mothers too, or is it for the revenue it's going to fetch?


From your post, I can effortlessly see that the latter is your plight. Instead of becoming a surrogate, implore the party to consider adoption. I mean, what if it goes wrong, you leave your two kids motherless, and your husband, a widower?

As for me, I and my future wife will sincerely join you in prayers, but surrogate? Mbanu.

There are legal aspects I am happy to follow through as they please and this is no quest for financial gains as my family is more than comfortable.

nautybride:
Yes, I can allow my husband but I can't do it as a wife. Pregnancy is not an easy journey for me to now give the baby for money. I am to emotional for that kind of journey.

Please look at this paragraph closely,it was written in my write up:

There are legal aspects I am happy to follow through as they please and this is no quest for financial gains as my family is more than comfortable.


Money has never crossed my mind as an incentive it never will.

EricSmallz:
Seriously sha, I don't like the sight of a pregnant woman. Especially at that stage the tummy starts protruding.
Maybe it's because I never saw my mom pregnant though, but it just irritates me somehow. I mean no offense.
My wife will try no such thing. Unless we are living in different counties or states and we don't see each other for years.

From the bottom of my heart,I wish your wife all the best.
I'm sure you'll be magnanimous enough to let her know this before vows are exchanged.

UndauntedYOCA:
I'd prefer egg donation to being a surrogate as I'm scared of childbirth, however, I would most def love to.have 4 kids and then adopt 2 or more since there are many kids who deserve to.be loved and taken care of and of course, I have so much love to give. Na money remain and perhaps, husband.
If your husband doesn't approve of it then don't do it, you were fit back then doesn't mean you'll be fit this time. Plus, you aren't married to yourself, you're married to.your husband.

Absolutely!
Thank you.

squad03:
From the bottom of my heart,I wish your wife all the best.
I'm sure you'll be magnanimous enough to let her know this before vows are exchanged.

Amen. I will definitely tell her. I can't hide such from her

Vickytall:
My husband too refused, when I offered to help his very good friend and wife carry seeing that we already have two kids...but sincerely I don't know why it's a problem for our men

Thanks for putting this out here.
I feel less weird knowing that this has crossed another mother's mind.

A305:
If the pay is right. Why not?

But money isn't even a thing here.
Yeah,maybe the couple will pay the bills for Antenatal Care and delivery,other than that-Nah.

futurerex:
Potential oloshos/babymamas full this thread wella. Imagine what the're spewing out. You dnt want to give birth again but wants to be a surrogate to another family.

I hope you're proud of this comment many years to come.

First of all,you no Sabi me so lock away the thoughts that this is a potential whatever nonsense your shallow mind construed.
It's not my fault if you don't know decent people but please if you cannot comment peacefully,keep your nastiness to yourself.

How does not wanting any more kids for myself translate to not wanting to give birth again? It's a quality of life kind of decision,no be by numbers.
But again, I'll give you a few more years to catch up.

How about you do some research between now and those few years to come?

See you on the brighter,more enlightened side �

creepsyme:
The question is, will your husband be making love with you with the period of your pregnancy? if yes then that will be unfair to those you intend to help.

I am a bit confused about this angle you've pitched.
What are your thoughts about the likely consequences of this?

To the best of my knowledge it surely won't harm the baby,otherwise sex would be forbidden once pregnancy is achieved regardless of mode of conception.

Kittex7:
It's always cool to help. But if he doesn't support it, do not see your husband as a bad person. Personally I can't accept too and for my personal reasons. Besides I'm not in medical field and not a researcher.

Thank you.

queenfav:
I admire you...For me,i saw hell carrying my own child..I won't do it for another!Also the love i have for my baby wouldn't be this strong if someone had carried her pregnancy,then handed her over to me.Naturally humans never appreciate things that come easy.


Also,do you honestly think you will have no qualms handing over the baby at birth, without some sort of emotional attachment? My kind of person,i would want to be in that child's life even as a family friend... It's really tough, except you are doing it for strictly financial reasons.


Lastly every pregnancy is a risk.What if you get some sort of pregnancy induced illness or complication.It's not after every pregnancy you get the luxury of a 100% snapback o.tlTrust me ,i know first hand!My baby is a almost a year old and i still get bad waist pains,plus i am battling with ketorasis pilaris which i never had pre pregnancy.So think about it... Also very few Nigerian men would stand by and support you while you carry a child that isn't theirs for 9 months!

I perfectly understand your angle.

Thanks for taking out the time to share these aspects.

I don't think I'll feel some type of way handing them their baby (remember it's in no way my DNA involved here).I don't want any more babies for myself too and although there may always be a soft spot for the baby (like I'll probably still have regardless of how (s)he comes,It'll be all joy and peace from thereon out-so help us God.

Nobody can pay me to be their surrogate o,I cannot put a price on it.Money has never crossed my mind for this and it never will.
It just feels a bit hard listening to someone who you know is making significant efforts to achieve a pregnancy with little/no luck.No one pays so much and takes all those trips to different doctors not to appreciate the sacrifice-or so I believe.
I guess I'll just pray and hope for them from a distance.

Thank you again.
I wish you health and joy now and in the pregnancy (ies) to come�

prekumohtim:
It's a nice thought. Really beautiful but everything has a consequence. Sarah , the wife of Abraham tried to help God to perform a miracle. She gave her servant(Hagar) to her husband for a wife . They finally gave birth to a child called Ishmael (God didn't still accept him as the child of promise). Ismael was called the child of the bond woman while Isaac was of the freebond(It has a more deeper spiritual effects). Ismael(the founder of....)grew (carnally ) and stood up against the (Father of Israel) till date(Spiritual sense will tell you what am talking about.
There's another one:
A woman called Naomi: lost her husband and her two sons; she decided to return back to her people . One of her daughter in-laws( Ruth) made up her mind to follow her. The other refused and remained . Ruth was later the grand mother of David in the bible while the other was the grand mother of the five giants David and his men killed.
Don't help God to perform his miracle. His time is not your time , He's eternity. The best you can do for your friends is to pray for them or to adopt.
However, this is merely an advice , you are free to do whatever pleases you.
I wish i can explain more especially on the first example but this is a social platform

Thank you for sharing your thoughts
Perfectly understood �

Obioramichael:
A little question before I give my take on this..

Should incase your husband accepts your kind gesture to help

1. During the 9 months that you will be pregnant where will you stay?.. With your husband or with the family you will be having the child or children for?

I. If answer is with the family

2. Are you going there with your children or you are going to leave the children with your husband for the whole nine months to run their affairs

ii. If the answer (to number 1 questions) is with your husband

3. So all those little and tough nagging women give while pregnant would be channeled to a man who is aware that the child isn't his.. Hope you are not going to wake him up in the middle of the night to massage your legs while carrying another man's pregnancy..

4. Hope you will be ready to give him sex any time and in any position you guys have been having it before the pregnancy?

5. Hope you won't judge him when he starts looking outside for pleasure during the period you will be pregnant..

6. Hope you won't be angry if he ends up having a child from another woman since you are a lover of children who loves helping to put a smile on people's face by serving as an incubator but is still keeping your hands crossed when it comes to serving as an incubator to give your husband more kids..

You need to consider this before going ahead with those actions..

AND Finally, hope you won't go back to claim anything in future if things go south...

For my take on this your question.. My answer IS... I'M SOFT HEARTED BUT MY WIFE MUST ACCEPT THIS TERMS AND CONDITIONS BEFORE I GIVE MY GO AHEAD ODER..

This made me smile,especially number 6.
I know my husband,God bless him, he's not vindictive.
He knows the mandate before any more kids come in.

Rossycee:
Your kind is rare though, you sound like one with a good heart. My dear this is Africa and most men won't allow that. If your husband is not in support please let it slide.
Also think about it in two different ways, what if something goes wrong or a problem emerges in the future can you handle it. I will advice you to continue to pray for them, depending on how long they have been married you can advice them to try adoption while believing God to bless them with their own children.

Taken.
Thank you.

Emeraldgreene:
[ YOUR desire is a noble one.Myself have been pondering and considered getting a surrogate mother when the time is right.HERE IN FOREIGN COUNTRIES IS A NORMAL THING.this is Nigeria, Africa where surrogacy is somewhat alien.They are not yet used to it.so, some responses will be crazy.I understand ure the kind of woman who likes pregnancy.If i had a surrogate mom,I would treat her well,give her millions,any food of her choice,cater to her cravings and desires.Surrogacy is good
DO IT .UR COUSIN WILL FOREVER BE GRATEFUL TO U.in otehor03 post=97021662]I have been pondering on this for several years and I'll appreciate the inputs of good people on this forum.

Way before I got married,I had considered that should I encounter any delay in childbearing,I would be open to 'unconventional' means like IVF, Surrogacy or adoption.
Thankfully,I didn't encounter any delay and my husband and I have had 2 kids.I am not keen to have any more kids but my husband is open to more so we are keeping our fingers for a few more years.

Despite having completed my family (maybe temporarily), I have always kept on my mind the urge to volunteer to be a surrogate for another family.Why not since pregnancy treats me really well,my body snaps right back and I hardly experience that postpartum drag, it's a superpower I feel bad about going to waste since I probably won't be having anymore kids for myself.
Over the years,I have encountered couples I would gladly have engaged in this conversation but every time I run it past my husband (before I get their hopes up) he shoots the idea down.

I found it quite odd at first until I read about a woman who after 2 kids died during childbirth as a surrogate for another couple. That was scary for me but it didn't quite dampen the desire.

The first couple I spoke to him about are friends of ours who have been making efforts and he said he appreciates my kindness but that this is Nigeria where nothing is black and white and he wouldn't want any troubles as a result of it.
I paused for a bit.
We have all been friends for a while since we were all single and there's an adage in Yoruba that translates to 'Communual eating isn't sweet if one person doesn't contribute' and there has been that silent wedge even though it's often ignored.

For me, I can hardly see the downside to this,granted I will have to pause my career for just a few months during the advanced stage or early postpartum phase but that pales in comparison to going on the journey with a friend who can be a part of it every step of the way,can come to Antenatal and ultrasound scans..it's exciting to me.They will be rest assured that I will be taking all the right steps to ensure perfectly healthy babies.Please bear in mind that the baby(ies) will be 100% theirs (husband's sperm and his wife's eggs),I will just be a happy incubator.

There are legal aspects I am happy to follow through as they please and this is no quest for financial gains as my family is more than comfortable.

I also have a cousin who has been trying for a baby but has medical conditions which have hindered this so far and I will do this for her in a heartbeat but I have to convince my husband to allow me.
I have been having sleepless nights about it and I'm hoping that since it's family this time,he won't hesitate to give me his blessings considering it's a sacrifice for him as well.This is the only time I can take this break in my career and I want it to be meaningful.
God answers prayers in diverse ways,maybe this is it for my cousin.

Husbands in the house,how will you react to such a request from your spouse?

Wives,can you volunteer to be a surrogate?

Parents-to-be,will you allow known persons to be surrogates for you or have you considered any downsides to it?

I come in peace and for the love of babies,may the joy go round.

Thank you.
I wish you all the best in your journey to bringing home your gold at the perfect time,may the lines fall for you in pleasant places.

900warriorz:
You dey mind the fool? Indirectly ending the marriage

The remaining four fingers are pointing back at your foolishness....Some men are made of more than those danglies but I can appreciate if you can't relate.

There's light ahead if your ego will let you find it.
Peace.

atilla:
If my wife wants to do this for family. I would agree. For a friend I dont think i would risk her life
Im not sure I want a known person to be a surrogate if we were to do this. I would say a stranger is better in my own case.

God bless you

Thanks for sharing your thoughts sir.

annyz:
Just say u want to have a taste of another man sperm inside you.
Why not get pregnant and have more kids for your husband.

Your are just trying to fetch ants infected fire wood & hope u will not start groaning when lizards starts visiting u.

Please read a few lines about surrogacy sir/ma.
There's absolutely nothing to 'taste' there.

squad03:
I hope you're proud of this comment many years to come.

First of all,you no Sabi me so lock away the thoughts that this is a potential whatever nonsense your shallow mind construed.
It's not my fault if you don't know decent people but please if you cannot comment peacefully,keep your nastiness to yourself.

How does not wanting any more kids for myself translate to not wanting to give birth again? It's a quality of life kind of decision,no be by numbers.
But again, I'll give you a few more years to catch up.

How about you do some research between now and those few years to come?

See you on the brighter,more enlightened side �

Low budget "babymama" is what you're. Just accept it.

Raskasal:
I would only allow my wife do it on a medical term and if the party involved is a close family member. What I mean is if the process of sperm collection and transfusion will be through IVF. More so there are ladies now who opted to be a ful time surrogate mother due to the monetisation involved, speak to a doc, and they'll get one for you.

This is what we are saying sir, the pregnancy will be achieved through In-vitro fertilization.
There's absolutely no 'whoring' involved for those who can't see past their nostrils implying otherwise.

There are no monetary profits involved here too.

meobizy:
All these professional writers, sha. At least it was a more enjoyable read than the normal chicken dribble some people pen here. The only solution is for this dream to remain a fantasy. If you divorce while still young then you can engage in the venture. Look at it from another angle; will you accept your husband to donate his sperm to help another family? Such deep thought can reveal how selfish your idea is.

Selfish?
Uncle, this is not the same thing.
I'm not offering my eggs and this 'baby' is not mine genetically.
In other climes,parents to be who can afford,it have their embryo groomed in Petri dishes and then transferred to an incubator where it is nursed to full term...but oh well,this is Nigeria.

We move.

ThinkSmarter:
U got the heart of Gold.
U re amazing.
U don't reason like a typical Nigerian .
U re like Mother Theresa.
Please do convince your husband that you are doing that for love, for humanity.
To put smiles on the face of loved ones.
To bring peoples hope alive.
This is commendable I must tell you .
U appears to be way more enlightened than your husband.
Ur husband seems to be very traditional.
He may likely be conforming to the archaic societal rules where sentiments and stereotypes are attached to every human actions.
I wish you good luck in your adventure towards bringing joy and laughter to families.
May whatever you believe in Bless you and guide you.
With love Abakaliki.
Daalanu Nne, Ezigbo Nwanyi

Thank you sir.

My husband only wants to be on the side of caution to avoid any unforeseen contingencies.

God bless your endeavors.

repent4christ:
You have the capacity to endure and surrogate for another but don't want to have more kids? And you think because God had given you grace to birth easily you want to abuse it.....It's because your husband is soft that's why you have the guts to bring this nonsense or maybe your jobless...if am your husband I get you pregnant...you must bear more children to keep you busy....Surrogate kor....take foolish risk for another ni.

God knows us all my brother.He cannot make me the bone/flesh of a man that cannot handle me.

My desire not to have more kids is based on quality of life.That I can have 12 kids doesn't mean I'll go ahead and have them and give them an average life (please make a mental note of this).
I want to raise kids who will soar,not grovel & be at someone else's mercy but you think this makes me jobless-Wonderful nonsense.I'm a career woman,mention the top professions in the world and put me smack at the zenith-you'll be shocked.

You don't even know my husband but your verdict is that he's soft-uncle calm down and respect yourself.Not every man hides behind their balls,soft doesn't even qualify my husband so talk another one.

Speak for yourself,you fit dey set timer for your wife belle o but my marriage is a partnership.

Moral:Don't make shallow inferences about people you don't know,keep your comments civil or by all means keep them to yourself.

Good luck with your choices in life sir.
May goodness go round and may we not be left out.
Amen.

squad03:
I perfectly understand your angle.

Thanks for taking out the time to share these aspects.

I don't think I'll feel some type of way handing them their baby (remember it's in no way my DNA involved here).I don't want any more babies for myself too and although there may always be a soft spot for the baby (like I'll probably still have regardless of how (s)he comes,It'll be all joy and peace from thereon out-so help us God.

Nobody can pay me to be their surrogate o,I cannot put a price on it.Money has never crossed my mind for this and it never will.
It just feels a bit hard listening to someone who you know is making significant efforts to achieve a pregnancy with little/no luck.No one pays so much and takes all those trips to different doctors not to appreciate the sacrifice-or so I believe.
I guess I'll just pray and hope for them from a distance.

Thank you again.
I wish you health and joy now and in the pregnancy (ies) to come�

aww, it's okay sis.You have a good heart.

squad03:
The remaining four fingers are pointing back at your foolishness....Some men are made of more than those danglies but I can appreciate if you can't relate.

There's light ahead if your ego will let you find it.
Peace.

If you get sense at all, you won't call me foolish.

You can take shit doesn't mean I can.