₦airaland Forum

juman:
The write up is one sided.
Painted women as devil.

In reality its not like that.
A man that went home and took a wife abroad, when they reached abroad the man believed he is now the wife's God.

That's the basis of many problems.
The wife will fight back to liberate herself.

My point exactly, the dings here just don't want to see it that way.

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Cocao:
Men,

Taking your wives to a civil society means that you should begin to see them as worthy partners. Do not think you can be their master and God abroad, instead, work in a partnership, like marriage was intended to be.

Women, this abroad is for everyone. It is not gender specific. If you want to be in a society that values your contribution as a woman, you can make the move for yourself without waiting for any man that would continue to use that help as a chain on your neck. Do your thing biko.

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Tell your kids..

Men don’t need your advice..

Me too cuz relationship to Female na Scam and way PARASITIC(with the benefits to them alone while they only have Pussy to offer)

Kapilta:
I hate relationship and anything bout it.

Word l! you smart bro!

Pierocash:
I often say it. Nigerian women are the most wicked sets of women on earth. I read an article sometime ago about 10 different Nigerian women abroad,who where murdered by their husbands and are serving jail terms.

It is only a Nigerian woman you send to university she replies you with a new wedding card invitation.

Don't marry a black woman from Nigeria and relocate her abroad, marry her here,leave her here to take care of your kids. If you do otherwise, you either lose your life there,or lose your properties.

Mikehot:
Bro tell us about redpill.
What is the best way to have a marriage that you can be safe incase the marriage crashes?

Look for the monikers ubunja and harddon and red their threads

jornwhite:
By slaves you meant, cook, clean the house and take care of the children without privileges of going on dates or clubbing with whoever they want. Even the so called oyinbo women do domestic chores we see it even on blockbusters movies all the time. most of you're just confuse being.
An average naija gurls grow up cooking for her dad, mom & siblings, clean the house & run errands buh when they marry "it becos a slave role". las las eye go clear, nd more men will see babymama is the way forward.

I wonder o. I usually sit down to think this over if I'm the only one who notices. If it's family they enjoy cooking. If it's marriage they say it's slavery. Mehn Don suffa

afroxyz:
You don't need his consent, but at least he should be in the know. if not, why are you guys married in the first place? What a generation!

Nowhere did I state that he will not be in the know. My query is "why do I need his consent to have a landed property?"

GeneralPula:
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Tell your kids..

Men don’t need your advice..

Alright, will do!

Cocao:
What you just typed has no relationship with what she said. Let me help you. Once you decide to take your wife abroad, you have to leave behind all traces of domineering attitude as the society there frowns on it. What usually causes friction is that Nigerian men think it is going to be business as sual even abroad. They expect the women to remain as the slaves they were in Nigeria which is not possible in a land of opportunity. It threatens them that their women are now free to hustle and make their own choices. So, maybe begin to see your wife as an equal partner and record less frictions.

Nice points! But how can we be equal when I bankrolled your travel expenses, paid your tuition, fed and housed you during your training period? Then few months after earning peanuts you want to 50%-50%? Even in corporate organisations, the holder with the greatest stock controls the direction of the company. If you want 50% bring 50% from the onset. Thank you

ziondaughter247:
Nairaland men and their usual inferiority complex rant! So because you brought your wife over, did you bring her to heaven! Many of you useless men dish out a lot of shit to your Nigerian wives, half of these you can't even try with with foreign women! Honestly it is saddening to read this these kind of useless rants everyday. Travelling abroad is no biggie nowadays! You are not doing anyone a favour, if you want to marry from over there do so and stop insulting Nigerian women. Many of you obviously came from disfunctional homes where your father beat and was controlling your mothers.

I am so glad at the way you #AlphaApes go to jail abroad! Yes, you think you can take your uselessness from Nigeria to developed countries. they will just treat your fuckup! In all the countries(western) countries that are doing so well which you #AlphaApes are running to, have gender equality. In some of them, the women are even the presidents/prime ministers. But checkout retarded and backward Africa and Middle east, the useless men have nothing to offer except shouting respect, submission etc. The average Nigerian woman is really sick and tired of you apes. You have lost respect and relevance the world over, hence the regular rantings on nairaland. I can assure you that most of these AlphaApes cleaning toilets abroad that came home to marry women, did so because they are looking for who to bully and subdue. They take the poor lady abroad and start mistreating her, because they feel that they own her and they did a big deal bringing her over. Any lady that wants to relocate and still believes that she needs and AlphaApe to do it for her is a nicoompoop. There are serveral countries one can relocate to now and it's as simple as ABC, you can do it yourself. Lol. Gone are the days when travelling abroad was such a big deal. As long as you take your useless behaviour outside, they will keep treating your Bleep up and throwing you in jail. Bunch of nothings! Empty vessels.

What's all this crying for

Beremx:
Women don suffer for nairaland. Is Nairaland promoting male chauvinism?

Blame the Buhari who you supported in 2015 for worsening the economy 'cos the reason for these chauvinistic threads is un(der)employment.

I don't want to believe that men in diaspora are still foolish to come home and pick wives. I don't just want to!

MrColdsweat:
Exactly our point. Both gender will disagree because we look at this issue from different perspectives.

Loyalty is the most important concept in masculinity. From the beginning till this day, all male groups, gangs, secret cults, teams are rooted in loyalty. A gang of criminal, through loyalty, created one of the greatest empires, the roman empire.

In the ways of men, once a man picks you from the bottom and raises you to a respectable position, you owe that man loyalty irrespective of whatever society. To men, loyalty is priceless. Loyalty cannot be bought.

But you women will disagree because you are not capable of loyalty. In your lifetime, there are very little to no situations where you women are required to be selfless. To offer something without expecting something in return.

Therefore, when men offer advice to fellow men on issues concerning our relationship with the opposite gender, you women are in no position to object or advice men because you are ignorant of the virtues and components of masculinity and the ways of men.

Interesting. Define loyalty.

In which situations do you give anything without expecting anything in return?

generationz:
When you try to paint a picture as if the man is doing the woman a great favour but fail woefully.
Was the lady an almajiri or the man thought he had something to gain by bringing a naive Nigerian babe abroad?

Let's stop deceiving ourselves. People go into relationships with their eyes open. Everything is about profit and loss. Whatever you get, take it like that. He know why he didn't marry any of the babes abroad even though they are well aware of the culture there and how finances are shared unlike with Nigerian babes and many are desperate for husbands. He knows why he abandoned the "ugly" one who stood by him when he was broke.

Are you typing this from Shiloh

Of course you're playing ostrich when you know this isn't the narrative she painted

360clips:
That's all you shithole monkeys know, marry , marry marry like idiots! That's the only thing in your goddamn heads?! Wtf

Lol

Collegelove:
You are totally wrong. Nigerian women(not all) are senseless. You are among those who are foolish. Look, when it comes to marriage, you need to understand some certain things. I recently talked with a young lady and discovered she has nothing to offer to my loved friend in marriage.

I told her my friend lives in Ghana and she was like 419, yahoo yahoo and she didn't even ask me about this guy. So terrible.

Later on, I said to her actually, the person I wanted to introduce you lives in New Zealand and he is an Engineer, a citizen and he is just 30. The babe up till now still calls me on phone. That was how she lost a great opportunity. Senseless girls.

Story.

Hathor5:
Interesting. Define loyalty.

In which situations do you give anything without expecting anything in return?

Loyalty is been there. It's a we thing and not an I thingy madam. Pure honest relationship is reciprocal and honest handling in mutual affairs in the best way possible.

OchoL:
A ridiculous rant again as I expected.

You are obviously still a young girl.

My prayer point for you is that you bear sons who will fall victim to the highlighted - let's see your online bravado and rants when that happens

Very wicked and self centred leeches,wont hesitate a bit to kill any bitch that tries such shit with me.

luminouz:
And I can bet my two big balls on it that her father trained her in that school.

She won't ever dare look at his face and call him misogynistic na...

No correlation whatsoever.

bluskyee:
Nice points! But how can we be equal when I bankrolled your travel expenses, paid your tuition, fed and housed you during your training period? Then few months after earning peanuts you want to 50%-50%? Even in corporate organisations, the holder with the greatest stock controls the direction of the company. If you want 50% bring 50% from the onset. Thank you

The thing is, personally, I can do this for whoever I love without seeking to control their actions. Love is not a business transaction, it is a promise of faithfulness, love and loyalty.

JovialJune:
No correlation whatsoever.

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Cocao:
The thing is, personally, I can do this for whoever I love without seeking to control their actions. Love is not a business transaction, it is a promise of faithfulness, love and loyalty.

Because of your purity. It's not the same with many of your sisters. So many act innocent and pure when outside,but when in, they become the enemy of the man and devil to him using all possible means. Many go extreme going diabolical to control and keep the man beneath them. To control their lives and have an advantage. Even when nothing is pursuing.

generationz:
You are still doing yourself if you choose that option especially with an exposed woman.

EXPOSURE AFTER PREGNANT ABBBBBIII_ ___ well done

generationz:
You are still doing yourself if you choose that option especially with an exposed woman.

There's nothing like exposed woman in this discussion but rather damaged women. Too many ladies are damaged in every way possible

I know how many woman use all sorts of antics to destroy the man in a marriage and go diabolical for example in extreme scenarios. But make I no expose secret


I only counsel my brothers to be wise

RedPanthar:
Because of your purity. It's not the same with many of your sisters. So many act innocent and pure when outside, but when in, they become the enemy of the man and devil to him using all possible means. Many go extreme going diabolical to control and keep the man beneath them. To control their lives and have an advantage. Even when nothing is pursuing.

I am really sorry for men that fall for such deception, it is not meant to be that way at all.

Pierocash:
if another man can Bleep her here, another man can Bleep her there too, and that will be worst for you there ,because you can't do her any shit. If you try to react, she calls the cop on you. You can either go to prison or lose your property on top of her adultery.

Which is better,here or there?

You see, control and dominance is you guys problem with wives abroad,

Take a look at your comment....

ziondaughter247:
Nairaland men and their usual inferiority complex rant! So because you brought your wife over, did you bring her to heaven! Many of you useless men dish out a lot of shit to your Nigerian wives, half of these you can't even try with with foreign women! Honestly it is saddening to read this these kind of useless rants everyday. Travelling abroad is no biggie nowadays! You are not doing anyone a favour, if you want to marry from over there do so and stop insulting Nigerian women. Many of you obviously came from disfunctional homes where your father beat and was controlling your mothers.

I am so glad at the way you #AlphaApes go to jail abroad! Yes, you think you can take your uselessness from Nigeria to developed countries. they will just treat your fuckup! In all the countries(western) countries that are doing so well which you #AlphaApes are running to, have gender equality. In some of them, the women are even the presidents/prime ministers. But checkout retarded and backward Africa and Middle east, the useless men have nothing to offer except shouting respect, submission etc. The average Nigerian woman is really sick and tired of you apes. You have lost respect and relevance the world over, hence the regular rantings on nairaland. I can assure you that most of these AlphaApes cleaning toilets abroad that came home to marry women, did so because they are looking for who to bully and subdue. They take the poor lady abroad and start mistreating her, because they feel that they own her and they did a big deal bringing her over. Any lady that wants to relocate and still believes that she needs and AlphaApe to do it for her is a nicoompoop. There are serveral countries one can relocate to now and it's as simple as ABC, you can do it yourself. Lol. Gone are the days when travelling abroad was such a big deal. As long as you take your useless behaviour outside, they will keep treating your Bleep up and throwing you in jail. Bunch of nothings! Empty vessels.

Unfortunately, many black African men are like that - not being able to create functional societies yet lampoon men in developed countries who created functional societies for enthroning equality.

CalliDora1:
A God-fearing woman will never do such.

Marry a born-again Christan.
Marry a virtuous woman.
Marry the will of God not oustside His will.

Like you?

Oizatobad:
EXPOSURE AFTER PREGNANT ABBBBBIII_ ___ well done

If you don't understand what I mean by exposure, I'm sorry for you

Cocao:
I am really sorry for men that fall for such deception, it is not meant to be that way at all.

If I don't personally see and hear from the Lord I fell into the hands of one that looks pure and innocent as an angel . But with her family were intent to give me Duncan Mighty treatment


We love our women however when we speak in this manner we have legitimate reasons. At it being I don't see visions and hear from the Lord I would have become the next Duncan mighty


On top what. They want total control

RedPanthar:
Are you typing this from Shiloh

Of course you're playing ostrich when you know this isn't the narrative she painted

This is stale na, try something better.

Cocao:
Your post reeks of assumptions. Yes, I know what the word means, and yes, I mean it as it is.
Your marriage may be the one where domination is important, it does not have to be like that.

Before you speak of other nations, maybe be familiar with their statistics. That you don't hear about them does not mean it is not prevalent. You are obviously a product of search engine and social media algorithms. This link gives a brief insight to domestic violence in other immigrant communities.

http://www.futureswithoutviolence.org/userfiles/file/Children_and_Families/Immigrant.pdf

You really have time to make them see that it isn't a Nigerian thing, they have limited mindest, so I really can't waste too much of my time with them.