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Am in shock, currently been thinking what to do... Right now am confused.

Life while growing up was not fair to us, we are not too poor that we can't feed three square meal but we where not comfortable until my elder bro left the country, we are all graduate and some master student while working.

Our eldest sis while in sch insist she will marry her date of four year (before she even gain admission ) My parents on the other hand opposed it saying she as the first daughter can't marry an uneducated poor man with no vision to survive and live above his status as my dad has talked with him, we are all Christian but his an othordox believe and my dad argued angry with my sis that faithful day that if she still keep relationship with him she will never in this life exist in my dad's life and my dad told me that she must not see his corpse after his death.

My sister left the house, running away with the man... Out of shame my father gave his blessings and the married when the man told my dad that he has talking my sisters virginity and she is pregnant but if my dad want let him take her daughter. This happened in 2009

Due to my elder brother stand on the issue my dad insisted that he must make sure my sis graduate and he must assist the useful bastard, he bought a car for the man which he use for Uber now but the car was bought 2015, he paid 2yrs rent for them in 2017 and we (I and my immediate elder bro place my sis on 40k allowance) 2019 as our eldest bro have decided not to assist him because the bus bought last year for him was not accounted for and his attitude, he wanted to collect the car but we deed not encourage it.

Now we opened our house in the village this xmas and everyone was home except my eldest brother who is based outside the country and his fam... My sis told us she will be coming back but two days after we all arrived home she as the Ada who must be at home this celebration period... I called her she said she will not come then I discussed with my second elder bro he said she told him she has no money, I was confused she is married and the husband has a functioning car what is the issue... I transferred 20k to my elder bro to give her note my dad don't speak to her and if she is around my dad will be indoors.

Finally she brought her children and told us she forgot her clothes besides she was putting on ... God help her

My brother gave her cash to go back home and get her clothes as she wanted to go back home.

She left her children and for days now she is not back as she promised to come back the next day.

Two days ago her 8yrs old daughter just told us that her mom always where that cloth when she is always going out for long now, and I ask she also wear that stuff to church she added that her dad don't let them go to church except his and if the mom attend to church without his notice the dad will slap the mom she innocently demonstrated her dad beating pattern

Me, my mom and brother was present because we were wondering what was keeping her and out of the discussion the little kid unveil the obvious.

The little girl has no clothes which my mom replaced immediately out of love for her grand daughter.

We are all in shock as we have not discussed the topic again because of my father and we don't know what exactly to do.

The major reason why we have been sponsoring the useful idiot is because of my sister and the major reason we have been giving my sister money is because we don't want her to look different from our current status.. but all this has failed.


How can you live with someone you don't love. Even if you hate your wife can you even like you child ?

Most times listening to your parents can save you so much problem later in life.

If she had listened to your dad, forgot about the boy and focused on her education by now she would have been a graduate with a good job, and had a responsible husband who would love her.

I do say this and will continue to say it, I don't know why good girls like loving the wrong guys.

Your sister is a good girl no doubt, but since she choose to fall for the wrong guy, she has to take full responsibility for her choice by enduring her husband while praying to God to change him.

Please ooo leave your sister to enjoy her marriage, she wasn't blind when she chose to settle down with the man.Later they will say a lady should not like money,is it not money that's causing all these problems

Your sister made her choice, she must live with it!

your sister's choice, her life

this story proved that what elders (parents) see while sitting, even if you climb Cocoa House u no go see shi shi

She made a wrong choice.

This is not about m0ney but loss of love. I pity the woman

tee59:
She made a wrong choice.

What is needed is the solution, we know she made a wrong choice. Sueing the man is the obtion I see (Human right lawyer is what am considering)

SkyRicks:
Am in shock, currently been thinking what to do... Right now am confused.

Life while growing up was not fair to us, we are not too poor that we can't feed three square meal but we where not comfortable until my elder bro left the country, we are all graduate and some master student while working.

Our eldest sis while in sch insist she will marry her date of four year (before she even gain admission ) My parents on the other hand opposed it saying she as the first daughter can't marry an uneducated poor man with no vision to survive and live above his status as my dad has talked with him, we are all Christian but his an othordox believe and my dad argued angry with my sis that faithful day that if she still keep relationship with him she will never in this life exist in my dad's life and my dad told me that she must not see his corpse after his death.

My sister left the house, running away with the man... Out of shame my father gave his blessings and the married when the man told my dad that he has talking my sisters virginity and she is pregnant but if my dad want let him take her daughter. This happened in 2009

Due to my elder brother stand on the issue my dad insisted that he must make sure my sis graduate and he must assist the useful bastard, he bought a car for the man which he use for Uber now but the car was bought 2015, he paid 2yrs rent for them in 2017 and we (I and my immediate elder bro place my sis on 40k allowance) 2019 as our eldest bro have decided not to assist him because the bus bought last year for him was not accounted for and his attitude, he wanted to collect the car but we deed not encourage it.

Now we opened our house in the village this xmas and everyone was home except my eldest brother who is based outside the country and his fam... My sis told us she will be coming back but two days after we all arrived home she as the Ada who must be at home this celebration period... I called her she said she will not come then I discussed with my second elder bro he said she told him she has no money, I was confused she is married and the husband has a functioning car what is the issue... I transferred 20k to my elder bro to give her note my dad don't speak to her and if she is around my dad will be indoors.

Finally she brought her children and told us she forgot her clothes besides she was putting on ... God help her

My brother gave her cash to go back home and get her clothes as she wanted to go back home.

She left her children and for days now she is not back as she promised to come back the next day.

Two days ago her 8yrs old daughter just told us that her mom always where that cloth when she is always going out for long now, and I ask she also wear that stuff to church she added that her dad don't let them go to church except his and if the mom attend to church without his notice the dad will slap the mom she innocently demonstrated her dad beating pattern

Me, my mom and brother was present because we were wondering what was keeping her and out of the discussion the little kid unveil the obvious.

The little girl has no clothes which my mom replaced immediately out of love for her grand daughter.

We are all in shock as we have not discussed the topic again because of my father and we don't know what exactly to do.

The major reason why we have been sponsoring the useful idiot is because of my sister and the major reason we have been giving my sister money is because we don't want her to look different from our current status.. but all this has failed.


How can you live with someone you don't love. Even if you hate your wife can you even like you child ?

yes a man can hate his wife and not leave her alone but derive pleasure in pursuing the hurt of the wife and her children!

so this happen to a very beautiful girl back in middle belt .she was suffering and her husband was deriving pleasure to the point of hurting the woman's mother sef!

then I saw another one in Lagos(this one the woman run for her life.the kid is now a graduate and she remarried to another man with kids)

Your family should intervene in the matter together with the family of the man, both families should discuss the issue and then invite your sister and her husband and talk things over. What he must stop doing and what he must start doing, if you guys are not comfortable with his response, then you involve the police in case of any domestic violence to protect your sister, I would not encourage separating the family but looking for ways to unite them, else let him sign an undertaking with the police never to raise his hands on the your sister.