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Dapcity007:
God bless you

needanswer:
Being decent as a human- which you call benevolent sexism is totally different from fighting for equality for men and women in burning issues.

If she is against being decent as a human and to all humans if a genuine need arise for it then I wont be surprised. Such are the ways of radical feminist. Hope radical feminist know brideprice and alimony are all forms of DOWRY?

Magnoliaa:
[color=deeppink]Chimamanda has spoken against opening doors for women; you say it is being decent.

Ki ni problem e gan gan bayi - what are you complaining against?[/color]

needanswer:
So a Male feminist is supposed to treat a female feminist this way- as unequals? Or does this only apply to males who dont identify as feminist?

needanswer:
You missed opening doors for humans (Male and female and not females only) if a GENUINE NEED ARISES, like their hands are full and not because you are a girl and think it's your "privilege"

Magnoliaa:
[color=deeppink]YOU alluded here that pulling of chairs is to feminists unequal. feminists have spoken against it, and you are now coming back to say it is decent behaviour.[/color]

needanswer:
You missed opening doors for humans (Male and female and not females only) if a GENUINE NEED ARISES, like their hands are full and not because you are a girl and think it's your "privilege"

Magnoliaa:
[color=deeppink]chimamanda and other feminists have spoken against bride price; paying for women; opening of doors for women and pulling chairs for them, and carrying them BECAUSE you think they incapable of doing such for themselves - do you agree with these feminists?[/color]

Magnoliaa:
[color=deeppink]patriarchy tells you to protect women, so, shut up, suck it up and do what you're meant to do as beasts of burden.

feminists are not your saviours nor the cause of your woes.[/color]

needanswer:
Now look at the picture again and answer the following if you can. Who is demanding to be treated like a queen? It is the woman.

The man should always be a decent human to all humans provided a genuine need arises for that. But opening doors and other kind acts like that should not be demanded by women from men unless the men see she actually needs assistance and volunteer to help on their terms. Helping out in this context isn't benevolent sexism.

Magnoliaa:
[color=deeppink]patriarchy tells you to protect women, so, shut up, suck it up and do what you're meant to do as beasts of burden.

feminists are not your saviours nor the cause of your woes.[/color]

Magnoliaa:
[color=deeppink]incapable because you think they are women and soft. you said because they think they are girls. is that not what i'm saying?

do you carry things for your male friends because they are a guy? are INCAPABLE, as in, they completely do not have the ability to do basic things for themselves?

if you see a guy driving badly, do you presume men aren't wired for driving?[/color]

Magnoliaa:
[color=deeppink]stories. you dragged feminists for demanding to be treated like queens. i told you feminists have rubbished that notion, whatever we term it is none of your business.

why are you dragging feminists for something they have spoken against and do not practice?
why?

you just wan run mouth?[/color]

Magnoliaa:
[color=deeppink]stories. you dragged feminists for demanding to be treated like queens. i told you feminists have rubbished that notion, whatever we term it is none of your business.

why are you dragging feminists for something they have spoken against and do not practice?
why?

you just wan run mouth?[/color]

Magnoliaa:
[color=deeppink]stories. you dragged feminists for demanding to be treated like queens. i told you feminists have rubbished that notion, whatever we term it is none of your business.

why are you dragging feminists for something they have spoken against and do not practice?
why?

you just wan run mouth?[/color]

needanswer:
Maybe the feminist you know, but not the feminist I know.
So my point is valid.

needanswer:
Did you read where I said men should be decent with all humans if a genuine need arises, that includes men. So if a man has a flat tire and he is struggling as a man you should help if you aren't pressed for time, same applies if it's a woman. And not she has a flat tire and wont bother changing it but she waits along the road for a prince charming she can trick into changing it for her.

needanswer:
At this rate feminism is taking this patriarchal thing too far

Magnoliaa:
[color=deeppink]if i insult you now, you will start sulking. but your picture said opening doors and pulling chairs for women is UNEQUAL. and you called feminists out on that "hypocrisy."

feminists have spoken against what you intended to drag them for. they have done exactly what you expected. now, you're turning around and shalayeing what chivalry means to me?

you were just dragging feminists for "expecting" chivalry. when feminists speak against it, you say, "oh, it's not really that bad."

okay. going along with you, as i am a feminist (or picture just any other feminist), if i have my hands full, and i told a guy friend next to me to help me carry an extra item- am i guilty of hypocrisy?

remember you said it is good manners of the part of the guy ohhh. so if a feminist is, for a material reason or another, unable to open a door, pull a chair or carry loads and asked a friendly guy neighbor to help her - is that double standards or a genuine need for help? [/color]

Magnoliaa:
[color=deeppink]if i insult you now, you will start sulking. but your picture said opening doors and pulling chairs for women is UNEQUAL. and you called feminists out on that "hypocrisy."

feminists have spoken against what you intended to drag them for. they have done exactly what you expected. now, you're turning around and shalayeing what chivalry means to me?

you were just dragging feminists for "expecting" chivalry. when feminists speak against it, you say, "oh, it's not really that bad."

okay. going along with you, as i am a feminist (or picture just any other feminist), if i have my hands full, and i told a guy friend next to me to help me carry an extra item- am i guilty of hypocrisy?

remember you said it is good manners of the part of the guy ohhh. so if a feminist is, for a material reason or another, unable to open a door, pull a chair or carry loads and asked a friendly guy neighbor to help her - is that double standards or a genuine need for help? [/color]

JESHAL:
Tampon (sanitary pad) we made for them
Yet they call us oppressors

needanswer:
Maybe the feminist you know, but not the feminist I know.
So my point is valid.

needanswer:
Hi, I sight you . New profile? Welcome

Magnoliaa:
[color=deeppink]ehennn, abi? no wahala. my point is valid as well. and even stands MORE than yours could ever...

anecdotal evidences are not enough for you drag FEMINISTS of hypocrisy. i mentioned chimamanda. tomorrow, you pipu will want to cast her as the spokesperson for feminism. when i said jessica valenti's opinions are only about her now, you were baring teeth and yarning okoto for me.[/color]

needanswer:
If she asks or if you ask a man for help when ladies are around then that's benevolent sexism, but if the guy on his OWN sees how you are struggling and steps in to help that's been decent on his part. He didn't do it because you asked him for help, he did it because he saw you needed help and nobody was willing to help.

needanswer:
On cat calling.

How can you be against cat calling one year and the next year you suddenly miss it?

Magnoliaa:
[color=deeppink]there are no ladies around. only the guy came to offer me help because i needed it. i accepted because i needed it, not because i'm a woman. is that acceptance hypocrisy on my part?[/color]

Magnoliaa:
[color=deeppink]there are no ladies around. only the guy came to offer me help because i needed it. i accepted because i needed it, not because i'm a woman. is that acceptance hypocrisy on my part?[/color]

Magnoliaa:
[color=deeppink]ehennn, abi? no wahala. my point is valid as well. and even stands MORE than yours could ever...

anecdotal evidences are not enough for you drag FEMINISTS of hypocrisy. i mentioned chimamanda. tomorrow, you pipu will want to cast her as the spokesperson for feminism. when i said jessica valenti's opinions are only about her now, you were baring teeth and yarning okoto for me.[/color]

needanswer:
Definitely you wont be referring to so called "feminist" in Nigeria. Even abroad it is still a problem, the double standards.

needanswer:
As long as you didn't ask him for help and he volunteered willingly then it wont count as hypocrisy.

JESHAL:
Feminism now =Socially acceptable Sexism