lefulefu:
wise choice u did .Uniform ppl should be dating themselves biko.anytime they date someone who is not in uniform they always regard such a person as inferior to them hence the coined word bloody civilian.i dey use naija perspective though.

But me still like doke one atleast before i settle down...I need the experience

He doesn't love you.
He doesn't want you.
He is in another serious relationship.

Cut every ties with him and move on.
Just give yourself time, you will heal and get over him.
A guy who adores you will come along. It's not difficult to know if a guy loves a woman and vice versa.

Maybe the guy accepted the relationship out of fear or he is running out of fear. Fear of what brutish ways our military men treat people who 'fucku'p'.

I can't date a military personnel either. The disgust I have for what they do to civilians won't let the relationship work.

chinchonglee:

Listen young lady/officer!
Most guys dnt like being involved with female military personnels because it is of our opinion that you are already fvcking ur ogas at the office/barracks(oga food). No sane man will love a female military personnel wholeheartedly. It is too risky.

Besides that, the attitude of the military actually puts question mark on the psyche of those who date anyone there. I doubt I can ever love them.

Why are you in the army?

Dotar:
Please,kindly ignore any grammatical error.

I am a female military personnel dating a civilian in a distance relationship, I'm naturally clingy in a relationship, I love attention alot but my guy is always claiming busy at work ( well understood) but when he's off from work he doesn't give me a satisfied attention because is either he's sleeping,wants to prepare something to eat or already out chilling with a friend and whenever I call when he's out,he will tell me he's in a noisy place and can't talk till he gets home. so,most times I stay awake till 11 pm to get to speak with him before going to bed.

I always feel pretty lonely because I'm an introvert,I don't have friends.I really wish to keep another man to serve as a distraction but i find it difficult to because I love wholeheartedly and can only love one man at a time.

I cry everytime begging for his attention yet no changes,I feel ashamed that I can't have a grip over my emotions.

Right now,I am seriously fade up i dont know what to do any more, i have talked and talked but all fell on blocked ears, he doesnt even feel remorse whenever I complain,he rather defends himself and gives justifications for his actions and even blame me for being inconsiderate and that if I can't cope I should go because he's tired of my incessant complains.

I feel stucked in this relationship because i find it difficult to call it quit..i begged him to call it a quit but he said he can't do it,that I can go if that's what I want.

please advise me on what to do because I'm dying slowly.

Attention seeking mofo!!!! Keep sharing your punna to civilians.... When they're done with you then you will start looking for an innocent soldier to give him a withered c*nt in the name of marriage.

Dotar:
Please,kindly ignore any grammatical error.

I am a female military personnel dating a civilian in a distance relationship, I'm naturally clingy in a relationship, I love attention alot but my guy is always claiming busy at work ( well understood) but when he's off from work he doesn't give me a satisfied attention because is either he's sleeping,wants to prepare something to eat or already out chilling with a friend and whenever I call when he's out,he will tell me he's in a noisy place and can't talk till he gets home. so,most times I stay awake till 11 pm to get to speak with him before going to bed.

I always feel pretty lonely because I'm an introvert,I don't have friends.I really wish to keep another man to serve as a distraction but i find it difficult to because I love wholeheartedly and can only love one man at a time.

I cry everytime begging for his attention yet no changes,I feel ashamed that I can't have a grip over my emotions.

Right now,I am seriously fade up i dont know what to do any more, i have talked and talked but all fell on blocked ears, he doesnt even feel remorse whenever I complain,he rather defends himself and gives justifications for his actions and even blame me for being inconsiderate and that if I can't cope I should go because he's tired of my incessant complains.

I feel stucked in this relationship because i find it difficult to call it quit..i begged him to call it a quit but he said he can't do it,that I can go if that's what I want.

please advise me on what to do because I'm dying slowly.

Fvckyouall:
@Dotar Army people both the men and women are heartless pieces of shit cause of the training they went through go and date your fellow army man and leave civilians to date civilians abeg.

That nigga is scared as fvck dating a wicked ticking time bomb abeg free the guy, he can't tell you to breakup cause you might shoot/kill him or arrange military men to beat him up abeg go to your barrack and fvck your fellow army men leave the sane people alone.
Why do you guys exist sef you guys cower before Boko Haram but keep forming power for civilians. Spits

op this is the sad truth.


All uniform people in Nigeria are foolish


They cannot end Boko Haram insurgency in Nigeria, they cannot end banditry, kidnapping and robberies but when they see unarmed civilians, they start to form hero they are not



Leave that guy and go find a fellow military of Police guy and date.



I wonder how guys that approach you female soldiers do it.....how they find you guys attractive week me

angelfallz:
Why are you in the army?

one corrupt uncle helped her na, when they see bandits of Boko Haram or Fulani herdsmen terrorists, they japzcEoeavtCZNcc

Dotar:
Please,kindly ignore any grammatical error.

I am a female military personnel dating a civilian in a distance relationship, I'm naturally clingy in a relationship, I love attention alot but my guy is always claiming busy at work ( well understood) but when he's off from work he doesn't give me a satisfied attention because is either he's sleeping,wants to prepare something to eat or already out chilling with a friend and whenever I call when he's out,he will tell me he's in a noisy place and can't talk till he gets home. so,most times I stay awake till 11 pm to get to speak with him before going to bed.

I always feel pretty lonely because I'm an introvert,I don't have friends.I really wish to keep another man to serve as a distraction but i find it difficult to because I love wholeheartedly and can only love one man at a time.

I cry everytime begging for his attention yet no changes,I feel ashamed that I can't have a grip over my emotions.

Right now,I am seriously fade up i dont know what to do any more, i have talked and talked but all fell on blocked ears, he doesnt even feel remorse whenever I complain,he rather defends himself and gives justifications for his actions and even blame me for being inconsiderate and that if I can't cope I should go because he's tired of my incessant complains.

I feel stucked in this relationship because i find it difficult to call it quit..i begged him to call it a quit but he said he can't do it,that I can go if that's what I want.

please advise me on what to do because I'm dying slowly.

In all these, she has not really told us the truth why the guy is avoiding her like a plague. Maybe she stinks terribly or worse. They will never tell you the truth!

Can I date a military personnel? I don't think so. The thought flees whenever I remember watin dem do me for ibadan

You are dating your self... move on

Kingosytex:
My sister are you so naïve that you can't read the handwriting on the wall?

The said guy doesn't love neither does he value you, it is crystal clear.


Nobody really has time or chance, you create time for people and things you love and value.
If he values you, he must certainly make out time for you, no matter how busy he claims to be.

Is he trying to tell me that 24 hours in a day is longer sufficient for him? My sister, use your head!!!!

As long as I am concerned, the guy is not serious with you...guy man just dey use u catch cruise.

I suggest you start making another plans right now to avoid had I known.

Mr senior adviser

dairykidd:

Reminds me of one beautiful airforce lady back then for Abj. Na so i dey admire am turn her friend but i noticed other airfoce personnels i know go just greet from afar and position themselves if me and am dey chill out somewhere not until she mess up one senior airfoce man when i respect so much for public bar I come understand say she high for rank and dey very harsh and abusive.. Bro the slap no gree finish and na over little matters oo and this my bros still dey plead and beg ontop i gat to leave the place before she transfer aggression come my side.. since then i give her chance oo

lies! Even if she's his senior she can't still do that in a public place

Dotar:
Please,kindly ignore any grammatical error.

I am a female military personnel dating a civilian in a distance relationship, I'm naturally clingy in a relationship, I love attention alot but my guy is always claiming busy at work ( well understood) but when he's off from work he doesn't give me a satisfied attention because is either he's sleeping,wants to prepare something to eat or already out chilling with a friend and whenever I call when he's out,he will tell me he's in a noisy place and can't talk till he gets home. so,most times I stay awake till 11 pm to get to speak with him before going to bed.

I always feel pretty lonely because I'm an introvert,I don't have friends.I really wish to keep another man to serve as a distraction but i find it difficult to because I love wholeheartedly and can only love one man at a time.

I cry everytime begging for his attention yet no changes,I feel ashamed that I can't have a grip over my emotions.

Right now,I am seriously fade up i dont know what to do any more, i have talked and talked but all fell on blocked ears, he doesnt even feel remorse whenever I complain,he rather defends himself and gives justifications for his actions and even blame me for being inconsiderate and that if I can't cope I should go because he's tired of my incessant complains.

I feel stucked in this relationship because i find it difficult to call it quit..i begged him to call it a quit but he said he can't do it,that I can go if that's what I want.

please advise me on what to do because I'm dying slowly.

The guy is already tired and wants out of the relationship...the handwriting on the wall is already very clear!

Kayberg:


Someone came for advise but proposal is already more than advise….

I believe all of them are lying.

They just want to sleep with her and move on.

I know men very well.

I pray God to give her a loving man.

The worst thing that can happen to her is to accept the so call proposal.

God will bless her with a true and loving man.

NNAMDIII:
lies! Even if she's his senior she can't still do that in a public place

Stop sounding as if our military personnels are orderly or obey rules. You are just ignorant. I stayed in FAAN quarters for 4 years. I have friends from airforce to army both high and low.. There was a particular usually drunk airforce guy who over did one day by shooting his gun in the air because he was high. Na the rest airforce guys bundle am beat am enter back of truck straight to base. Another one done drink forget gun na boys still package am n keep the gun for am till him eyes clear otherwise anything make am show duty post without tools na big problem.. Nothing special about them but for u to call me a liar when u weren't even there tells alot about u.. The old me would insult ur stupidity but i will let it slide

Dotar:
Please,kindly ignore any grammatical error.

I am a female military personnel dating a civilian in a distance relationship, I'm naturally clingy in a relationship, I love attention alot but my guy is always claiming busy at work ( well understood) but when he's off from work he doesn't give me a satisfied attention because is either he's sleeping,wants to prepare something to eat or already out chilling with a friend and whenever I call when he's out,he will tell me he's in a noisy place and can't talk till he gets home. so,most times I stay awake till 11 pm to get to speak with him before going to bed.

I always feel pretty lonely because I'm an introvert,I don't have friends.I really wish to keep another man to serve as a distraction but i find it difficult to because I love wholeheartedly and can only love one man at a time.

I cry everytime begging for his attention yet no changes,I feel ashamed that I can't have a grip over my emotions.

Right now,I am seriously fade up i dont know what to do any more, i have talked and talked but all fell on blocked ears, he doesnt even feel remorse whenever I complain,he rather defends himself and gives justifications for his actions and even blame me for being inconsiderate and that if I can't cope I should go because he's tired of my incessant complains.

I feel stucked in this relationship because i find it difficult to call it quit..i begged him to call it a quit but he said he can't do it,that I can go if that's what I want.

please advise me on what to do because I'm dying slowly.

Hello.If you are really a woman and not a man pretending to be a woman on nairaland (in order to see what people will respond),

I will advise you.

Most men on this forum are sex addicts.

They enter romance section all the time to try and hook up with ladies for some cheap sex.

I know men very well.

Please do not accept the proposals from men on this forum.

Most of them have dropped their numbers.

Just shun them.

God will bless you with a loving and caring man.

The worst thing that you can do is to accept to enter into relationship with the men on nairaland who are shamelessly offering themselves to you.

They feel they can exploit you sexually and then move on.

The way they are offering themselves to you is the same way they offer themselves to every woman they see just to exploit her sexually.

If they do not see your pictures, they don't know if you are really a woman,they don't know you, and they are shamelessly offering themselves,

what do you think they are doing with other ladies that are known to them or are living close to their area.

Please sister, I know what I am saying. I have sisters and I have seen things.

A matured man who really wants a true relationship leading to marriage will never come to nairaland and be offering himself to any lady who feels vulnerable.

I talk from experience.

Stay safe.


I only wish you are a woman and not a man pretending to be a woman.

Good night.

dairykidd:

Stop sounding as if our military personnels are orderly or obey rules. You are just ignorant. I stayed in FAAN quarters for 4 years. I have friends from airforce to army both high and low.. There was a particular usually drunk airforce guy who over did one day by shooting his gun in the air because he was high. Na the rest airforce guys bundle am beat am enter back of truck straight to base. Another one done drink forget gun na boys still package am n keep the gun for am till him eyes clear otherwise anything make am show duty post without tools na big problem.. Nothing special about them but for u to call me a liar when u weren't even there tells alot about u.. The old me would insult ur stupidity but i will let it slide

I'm ignorant abi? you have friends in the military but you've never been in the military, I'm telling you what I know bro, that shit can't happen, do you even know if I'm in the military?

NNAMDIII:
I'm ignorant abi? you have friends in the military but you've never been in the military, I'm telling you what I know bro, that shit can't happen, do you even know if I'm in the military?

Loolz... Do i need to be in the military to witness such? Guy even if u be general somebody is telling u what he witnessed firsthand and ur saying it can't happen even when it has Oh abi i dream am Ehhen ur in the military so what Does that now mean what has happened didn't happen? Can u hear urself? Abeg no quote me again. I have given u too much attention soldier.

blinking001:
This one na ugly military personnel oo .. op the reason he isn't taking you serious is because you're ugly....deal with it

and what right have you to call someone ugly?

Morray:
and what right have you to call someone ugly?

Ah!! Oshey... this one na defender of the weak...

blinking001:

Ah!! Oshey... this one na defender of the weak...

all these small children on nairaland. Universities will soon resume.

Dotar:
Please,kindly ignore any grammatical error.

I am a female military personnel dating a civilian in a distance relationship, I'm naturally clingy in a relationship, I love attention alot but my guy is always claiming busy at work ( well understood) but when he's off from work he doesn't give me a satisfied attention because is either he's sleeping,wants to prepare something to eat or already out chilling with a friend and whenever I call when he's out,he will tell me he's in a noisy place and can't talk till he gets home. so,most times I stay awake till 11 pm to get to speak with him before going to bed.

I always feel pretty lonely because I'm an introvert,I don't have friends.I really wish to keep another man to serve as a distraction but i find it difficult to because I love wholeheartedly and can only love one man at a time.

I cry everytime begging for his attention yet no changes,I feel ashamed that I can't have a grip over my emotions.

Right now,I am seriously fade up i dont know what to do any more, i have talked and talked but all fell on blocked ears, he doesnt even feel remorse whenever I complain,he rather defends himself and gives justifications for his actions and even blame me for being inconsiderate and that if I can't cope I should go because he's tired of my incessant complains.

I feel stucked in this relationship because i find it difficult to call it quit..i begged him to call it a quit but he said he can't do it,that I can go if that's what I want.

please advise me on what to do because I'm dying slowly.

You have to take the bull by the horn. You are not tied into that relationship.

You are afraid of starting all over again, the highlighted shows that he's NO LONGER INTO YOU. He's trying to frustrate you to the point that you ll ask for a break up.

Go ahead and end it, he doesn't deserve you

Seems he is no longer interested, well i am and i can give you all the attention you need and deserve.. Just reply me

Morray:
all these small children on nairaland. Universities will soon resume.

You have no idea.......

I think the best thing is to face ur demon(ild av made a joke it's cos u a military personnel buuuuh),things like attention & making time is a natural thing in any relationship watsoeva.

If u beg or ask for it then it's not a mutual relationship.yes it hurts & is not easy to let go,but u just have to.itld fade with time.get urself distracted by an activity or someone else,& adhere to not calling him.

Personally,ild just delete the her number from my dailed,contact & any other place it could be & face the pain squarely.& If she calls ,I dont pick & keep clearing my call logs.works Everytime for me

CalliDora1:
Who initiated the relationship?

Now, you both are not a good match because one, he's an extrovert and you're an introvert. so, there's no way your being together is gonna work.

Another thing ive come to discover is, most men are not so much into military women for reasons known only to them. Yeah, I've heard that a couple of time. your man may be in that category and its reason I first asked, who initiated this relationship. If it was you, please kindly call it quits but not before sitting him down to find out if he's still interested or wants a break.( Not breakup) . If he says he needs a break, know for sure he wants a breakup then break up with him and move on. Life is too short to be in a one-sided relationship.

introvert meet extroverts and work out well

Dotar:
Please,kindly ignore any grammatical error.

I am a female military personnel dating a civilian in a distance relationship, I'm naturally clingy in a relationship, I love attention alot but my guy is always claiming busy at work ( well understood) but when he's off from work he doesn't give me a satisfied attention because is either he's sleeping,wants to prepare something to eat or already out chilling with a friend and whenever I call when he's out,he will tell me he's in a noisy place and can't talk till he gets home. so,most times I stay awake till 11 pm to get to speak with him before going to bed.

I always feel pretty lonely because I'm an introvert,I don't have friends.I really wish to keep another man to serve as a distraction but i find it difficult to because I love wholeheartedly and can only love one man at a time.

I cry everytime begging for his attention yet no changes,I feel ashamed that I can't have a grip over my emotions.

Right now,I am seriously fade up i dont know what to do any more, i have talked and talked but all fell on blocked ears, he doesnt even feel remorse whenever I complain,he rather defends himself and gives justifications for his actions and even blame me for being inconsiderate and that if I can't cope I should go because he's tired of my incessant complains.

I feel stucked in this relationship because i find it difficult to call it quit..i begged him to call it a quit but he said he can't do it,that I can go if that's what I want.

please advise me on what to do because I'm dying slowly.

My opinion, if someone is important to you you will make time, I used to be like that, till I started seeing my babe's worth and had to be making time because although she dey touch from time to time, na good babe so making time had to come as priority.

am already imagining myself putting on a bulletproof vest if things go south

although, now that I know most of them are loving, I may go for one: some of these civilian ladies are something else!

Dotar:
Please,kindly ignore any grammatical error.

I am a female military personnel dating a civilian in a distance relationship, I'm naturally clingy in a relationship, I love attention alot but my guy is always claiming busy at work ( well understood) but when he's off from work he doesn't give me a satisfied attention because is either he's sleeping,wants to prepare something to eat or already out chilling with a friend and whenever I call when he's out,he will tell me he's in a noisy place and can't talk till he gets home. so,most times I stay awake till 11 pm to get to speak with him before going to bed.

I always feel pretty lonely because I'm an introvert,I don't have friends.I really wish to keep another man to serve as a distraction but i find it difficult to because I love wholeheartedly and can only love one man at a time.

I cry everytime begging for his attention yet no changes,I feel ashamed that I can't have a grip over my emotions.

Right now,I am seriously fade up i dont know what to do any more, i have talked and talked but all fell on blocked ears, he doesnt even feel remorse whenever I complain,he rather defends himself and gives justifications for his actions and even blame me for being inconsiderate and that if I can't cope I should go because he's tired of my incessant complains.

I feel stucked in this relationship because i find it difficult to call it quit..i begged him to call it a quit but he said he can't do it,that I can go if that's what I want.

please advise me on what to do because I'm dying slowly.

If ur illustration isn't imagination, I will advice you to give another guy opportunity but he would be a man you can gossip with and if possible not a distance relationship


Many atime distance relationship are pretense, deceit and fraud .


You noticed and seen red flag in ur guy already, but as usual outward attraction will not let you think straight. Until.......

CalliDora1:
Who initiated the relationship?

Now, you both are not a good match because one, he's an extrovert and you're an introvert. so, there's no way your being together is gonna work.

Another thing ive come to discover is, most men are not so much into military women for reasons known only to them. Yeah, I've heard that a couple of time. your man may be in that category and its reason I first asked, who initiated this relationship. If it was you, please kindly call it quits but not before sitting him down to find out if he's still interested or wants a break.( Not breakup) . If he says he needs a break, know for sure he wants a breakup then break up with him and move on. Life is too short to be in a one-sided relationship.

If you read her epistle very well, thou she is introvert, not up to the guy she is dating, she don't likes to be relating and sharing thoughts with anybody but her guy alone, so many people are like that.

2ndly no where in her story where she said her guy is extrovert