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bukatyne:
You don't force a virgin to have sex with you:

You counsel her with family/religion/professionals and if she is not bulging, add ultimatums and/or withdraw some of your extras at home.

CalliDora1:
The bolded are still measures of force. So, some form of force will still be required for her to succumb. .

bukatyne:
Mental 'force/pressure' is very different from physical force.

Denique:
Yes, I did. Good it's been deleted.

Denique:
You should try going down there and watch her beg you for it. It works, trust me!

Drella:
Pheew!

Denique:
You should try going down there and watch her beg you for it. It works, trust me!

Richy4:
Go down where? ..... elucidate Biko... some of us are altar servers / Mass servers from junior seminary

Denique:
Good day brother in the Lord,
So happy to see a fellow seminarian.

Diagonal:
I initially had a long distance courtship with my wife while we dated. Later she came and stayed with me for some months bc she had accommodation issues. She was based in a different State. Altogether we dated for 4 years before our eventual marriage. All through those times we never had se.x. She never allowed us to, and since I'm a Christian, I willingly left her alone since it's even against my christianity teachings. Moreover she was a virgin and I felt there was no need putting undue pressure on something that was eventually going to be all mine.
Fast- forward to today, it's been two months after our wedding, no se.x. My wife is too scared of it. Each time I make an attempt, she gets so scared of penetration that my "thing" just collapses. Forcing her would make me feel like it's rape. I have bought all kinds of gel to apply and reduce pains, but it's not working with her. She is still saying I should give her time to get used to it.
Meanwhile she is the over-jealous type. She gets angry for as flimsy a thing as me viewing WhatsApp status of female contacts on my phone or Facebook photos of female friends!
I'm already feeling I've made a huge mistake in marrying her. I never thought I'd ever cheat after marriage, but it looks like I'm being pushed into it.
What can a brother do in this situation?

Denique:
You should try going down there and watch her beg you for it. It works, trust me!

Kapilta:
Try going down there? There's a route there now? Bad commando.

Pochettino:
I don't advise this because we women can stink so badly down there

Diagonal:
I initially had a long distance courtship with my wife while we dated. Later she came and stayed with me for some months bc she had accommodation issues. She was based in a different State. Altogether we dated for 4 years before our eventual marriage. All through those times we never had se.x. She never allowed us to, and since I'm a Christian, I willingly left her alone since it's even against my christianity teachings. Moreover she was a virgin and I felt there was no need putting undue pressure on something that was eventually going to be all mine.
Fast- forward to today, it's been two months after our wedding, no se.x. My wife is too scared of it. Each time I make an attempt, she gets so scared of penetration that my "thing" just collapses. Forcing her would make me feel like it's rape. I have bought all kinds of gel to apply and reduce pains, but it's not working with her. She is still saying I should give her time to get used to it.
Meanwhile she is the over-jealous type. She gets angry for as flimsy a thing as me viewing WhatsApp status of female contacts on my phone or Facebook photos of female friends!
I'm already feeling I've made a huge mistake in marrying her. I never thought I'd ever cheat after marriage, but it looks like I'm being pushed into it.
What can a brother do in this situation?

Yimmicks:
Yours is even 2 months, ours was almost 6 months. It could be vaginimus such that the penetration is almost impossible. What helped me was first pelvic floor exercise, (learning to control how to relax my pelvic), second and really helpful was the DILATOR therapy. I started from the smallest to get the vagina used to having something enter and then proceeded to the biggest after which hubby could penetrate. I’m not sure you can get one easily in Nigeria but check out SexwithDrM (I think she changed to “becomingmorewithDrM) on Instagram or Oloricoitus on Instagram or any other sex therapist who could help her..please be patient with her. I’m sure she’s not faking it. I’ve been there. It’s just that awareness around that isn’t much in Nigeria, the media mostly portrays magical sex but it’s not always the reality especially for virgins. Sex is a skill too , she’ll get better with time and you’ll be amazed..

Yimmicks:
Yours is even 2 months, ours was almost 6 months. It could be vaginimus such that the penetration is almost impossible. What helped me was first pelvic floor exercise, (learning to control how to relax my pelvic), second and really helpful was the DILATOR therapy. I started from the smallest to get the vagina used to having something enter and then proceeded to the biggest after which hubby could penetrate. I’m not sure you can get one easily in Nigeria but check out SexwithDrM (I think she changed to “becomingmorewithDrM) on Instagram or Oloricoitus on Instagram or any other sex therapist who could help her..please be patient with her. I’m sure she’s not faking it. I’ve been there. It’s just that awareness around that isn’t much in Nigeria, the media mostly portrays magical sex but it’s not always the reality especially for virgins. Sex is a skill too , she’ll get better with time and you’ll be amazed..

Diagonal:
I initially had a long distance courtship with my wife while we dated. Later she came and stayed with me for some months bc she had accommodation issues. She was based in a different State. Altogether we dated for 4 years before our eventual marriage. All through those times we never had se.x. She never allowed us to, and since I'm a Christian, I willingly left her alone since it's even against my christianity teachings. Moreover she was a virgin and I felt there was no need putting undue pressure on something that was eventually going to be all mine.
Fast- forward to today, it's been two months after our wedding, no se.x. My wife is too scared of it. Each time I make an attempt, she gets so scared of penetration that my "thing" just collapses. Forcing her would make me feel like it's rape. I have bought all kinds of gel to apply and reduce pains, but it's not working with her. She is still saying I should give her time to get used to it.
Meanwhile she is the over-jealous type. She gets angry for as flimsy a thing as me viewing WhatsApp status of female contacts on my phone or Facebook photos of female friends!
I'm already feeling I've made a huge mistake in marrying her. I never thought I'd ever cheat after marriage, but it looks like I'm being pushed into it.
What can a brother do in this situation?

Diagonal:
I'll check that out on Instagram. But the annoying thing is that she isn't making any effort whatsoever on her part to find a solution. She probably just thinks I should understand, and I'm feeling that is selfish. The question is "for how long?" will I understand.
The whole thing is already beginning to take a toll on our relationship. Bad thing for me is that I'm not the womanizing type

Diagonal:
I initially had a long distance courtship with my wife while we dated. Later she came and stayed with me for some months bc she had accommodation issues. She was based in a different State. Altogether we dated for 4 years before our eventual marriage. All through those times we never had se.x. She never allowed us to, and since I'm a Christian, I willingly left her alone since it's even against my christianity teachings. Moreover she was a virgin and I felt there was no need putting undue pressure on something that was eventually going to be all mine.
Fast- forward to today, it's been two months after our wedding, no se.x. My wife is too scared of it. Each time I make an attempt, she gets so scared of penetration that my "thing" just collapses. Forcing her would make me feel like it's rape. I have bought all kinds of gel to apply and reduce pains, but it's not working with her. She is still saying I should give her time to get used to it.
Meanwhile she is the over-jealous type. She gets angry for as flimsy a thing as me viewing WhatsApp status of female contacts on my phone or Facebook photos of female friends!
I'm already feeling I've made a huge mistake in marrying her. I never thought I'd ever cheat after marriage, but it looks like I'm being pushed into it.
What can a brother do in this situation?

MrMacinterchi1:
Oga op , have you succeeded to consummate your marriage?

Have you succeed to have sex with your wife?

If not, it will be to clear you that your marriage is not yet totally Legel - even in religion or civil rights.

Your wife should put much effort. ☆Happy☆ ♡Valentine's♡ ☆Day☆

Diagonal:
I've decided to end the marriage and move on with my life, exactly 1 year and 3 weeks after our wedding. I couldn't put up with it anymore. Wife never ever showed any concern nor made any effort to solve the problem.