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Thebest12:
Dear nairalands
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Good morning all . Hope you have a nice day . I am here to table my problem to matured minds . Pls I need a genuine advise or better still a suggestion . My problem is that I have a lot of female friends . But each time they pass night with me in my room or a hotel they don't allow me touch them . I mean they normally denie me sex . And I am a kind of easy going guy . I don't like forcing them to avoid it being tagged rape . Am I being too gentle ? Pls advice me

Thebest12:
Dear nairalands
.
Good morning all . Hope you have a nice day . I am here to table my problem to matured minds . Pls I need a genuine advise or better still a suggestion . My problem is that I have a lot of female friends . But each time they pass night with me in my room or a hotel they don't allow me touch them . I mean they normally denie me sex . And I am a kind of easy going guy . I don't like forcing them to avoid it being tagged rape . Am I being too gentle ? Pls advice me

meobizy:
Buy a bottle of baby oil, a roll of tissue paper and learn to stay content with yourself.

grossintel:
0.00, took her out, ate then we went to the beauty spa did facials and pedicure, that was it.

Thebest12:
Dear nairalands
.
Good morning all . Hope you have a nice day . I am here to table my problem to matured minds . Pls I need a genuine advise or better still a suggestion . My problem is that I have a lot of female friends . But each time they pass night with me in my room or a hotel they don't allow me touch them . I mean they normally denie me sex . And I am a kind of easy going guy . I don't like forcing them to avoid it being tagged rape . Am I being too gentle ? Pls advice me

Babara1994:
You spent na. You probably spent a total of 10k at the restaurant and the spa

Spending123:
So upon all the problems going on in this country is sex that you're carrying on your mind up and down.

OP to use you cook beans and yam porridge just the hungry me now.

Thebest12:
Dear nairalands
.
Good morning all . Hope you have a nice day . I am here to table my problem to matured minds . Pls I need a genuine advise or better still a suggestion . My problem is that I have a lot of female friends . But each time they pass night with me in my room or a hotel they don't allow me touch them . I mean they normally denie me sex . And I am a kind of easy going guy . I don't like forcing them to avoid it being tagged rape . Am I being too gentle ? Pls advice me

grossintel:
That one no be billing na, I spent around 20k but most of that was on myself.

Babara1994:

You spent a lot, as opposed to one who only 600 naira on food and got the cookie.

Dreyton36:
Rape them
Why disturbing yourself just rape them jare
Nothing will happen
In fact you no get problem at all
If you they pay money for dustbin
Money for light
Money for data
Money for children school fees
Money for family feeding
Billings from house rent and others
If you Don trek for under sun when ur phone ring join for under sun and family still bill you join for under sun
I swear even if woman open totô say make u put prick inside you go just hiss pass



Lights up my kpoli in peace

grossintel:
Either you're stingy or broke. Take a girl out, you don't have to spend too much but show them you can take care of them and they will give you sex in abondance any day any time even if you're married.

I was with one yesterday, the way she was hugging and touching me in public fear me, I was like no be this church girl way talk say she get boyfriend again , she literally wanted to lick me like a lollipop.

Thebest12:
Dear nairalands
.
Good morning all . Hope you have a nice day . I am here to table my problem to matured minds . Pls I need a genuine advise or better still a suggestion . My problem is that I have a lot of female friends . But each time they pass night with me in my room or a hotel they don't allow me touch them . I mean they normally denie me sex . And I am a kind of easy going guy . I don't like forcing them to avoid it being tagged rape . Am I being too gentle ? Pls advice me

grossintel:
Either you're stingy or broke. Take a girl out, you don't have to spend too much but show them you can take care of them and they will give you sex in abondance any day any time even if you're married.

I was with one yesterday, the way she was hugging and touching me in public fear me, I was like no be this church girl way talk say she get boyfriend again , she literally wanted to lick me like a lollipop.

Thebest12:
Dear nairalands
.
Good morning all . Hope you have a nice day . I am here to table my problem to matured minds . Pls I need a genuine advise or better still a suggestion . My problem is that I have a lot of female friends . But each time they pass night with me in my room or a hotel they don't allow me touch them . I mean they normally denie me sex . And I am a kind of easy going guy . I don't like forcing them to avoid it being tagged rape . Am I being too gentle ? Pls advice me

JasperVII:
If I say what's really on my mind it'll seem like an insult. Maybe my superiors will know what to tell you.

Dpsychologist
Martinez39s
Luminouz

OkuFaba:
Until you learn how to spell DENY and not DENIE you might die of konji

MiddleDimension:
My dear, I understand how you feel and it is very natural. However, what I do not agree with is how you are taking or reacting to them declining to have sex with you, which is why I decided to reply you.

First of all, you asked if you are being too gentle. There are two ways thay statement can be seen: the first is that it shows you feel it is your right to have sex with them. Now IF that is the case, then I think you should re-examine how you see the human being. It could also be a reflection of how you see yourself too, because many times, we see others the same way we see ourselves. If you see yourself as not having any form of personal sovereignty, then you are likely to think other people do not have personal sovereignty too which is why you think you are probably being too ''gentle'' and so you should be more forceful. If you go more forcefully, that is a crime and you could get a jail term for that.

The second way your statement could be seen is in the idea that women do not mean what they say when they say ''no''and so you should be a bit more forward otherwise, they will see you as not man enough. Well, while I am not going to buy into the denial of this reality and go with the ''me too'' feminist narative of ''no means no'', I still think it is wise to stick to the idea that ''no means no''. This will help men to develop and realize what they have always had in themselves, the ability to stay without sex. YES, YOU CAN LIVE WITHOUT SEX! It is not all that exist!!! When men get this way, maybe women would be come more clear in what they want and what they do not want. But for you and every other man out there, I feel it is safe and better to assume that no means no.

If you cannot handle the urge, you can go into your bathroom and masturbate. This is what your hands are for. You can also get a gadget for that too. This is what they are for, that you can make use of them when you cannot get someone to agree with you to have sex with you, and you cannot go to a brothel for whatever reason, and you also cannot hold yourself. What you do in that case, is to get a intimacy gadget, or you masturbate with your hands. That's better than getting frustrated and thinking you should go ''rough''.