About a year, I met this girl at the waiting lounge before our flight arrived. I didn't engage her much then cos I felt she was a snub.
When we arrived at our destination, we went separate ways without exchanging contacts. However, it happened that the next day we ran into each other again as we both came for the same thing. Got talking, went out for blow off steam after the interview. She seemed to me to be a nice damsel, quite open and a talker in that regard, while I was the ever ready listener.
So, our journey began then as friends and closer we got by the day especially during the lock down as we had to work from home and we talked more and got close.
She opened to me about her past relationship and how the guy was a control freak, demanding to check her pictures before she posts them on social media, and a whole of other things control freaks do. Well, I felt bad for her and just wondered why such a damsel would subject herself to such.
As we got close, she was keen about knowing what we were, I told her friends, inasmuch as my plan was to surprise her with a proposal when I got my upfront towards the end of last yead, so I played the friend game though we were close and confessed to liking each other, I saw the perfect woman in her.
All this while, we didn't get to meet in person, so after the lockdown we met, and the outing was more like with third parties, my friends and colleagues. So we had to have ours, well, since I'm not much of a Google map and places person, the few places I know I hold dear. On the D day, I took her to a place I usually frequent, just to share moments and laughs. After having to complain about the weather and everything wrong on our way there, she then said, she couldn't believe I brought her there, that responsible people don't come here. I literally shutdown when she said that, she didn't consider or show the least appreciation for my little efforts. We called it a day, and I just waved it behind and accrued that showdown to the hot weather.
A large chunk of our relationship time, has had me listening and encouraging her. She probably feels I'm superman that I don't need words of affirmation, having mentioned it to her, she still doesn't. It's as though she's the only one that needs to be listened to.
On subsequent outings that followed, I came to notice that this my damsel does not bend talk more of compromise, her say is her say, she doesn't even listen or try to obey me. It's not the first close relationship I've been in, I've had friends that were despite their elevated bank accounts or their being older than me yet still heeded to my say on a matter. When I talked to her about not listening to me, she said it's because we're not in a relationship.
After, collating the data sets, I decided not to go ahead with taking the relationship to the next phase, seeing that she doesn't even hear me as friends, how much more when we stay under the same roof, morever, her disobedience grieves my heart. I couldn't imagine going on and maybe getting married and having a wife that one's the family to be run by her and her rules only.
I just hope she doesn't go telling the next person how wicked I was or heartless, I pray she tells the truth for what it is and work on herself.
Some would call me simp, but the marriage bed is one I don't intend to defile till rightly joined.
My question still is, Is she stubborn/ disobedient because we are not in a relationship??

You keep deluding yourself. Like the lady said, you're not even in a relationship with her and you're complaining of marriage and her attitude.



Stop giving yourself unnecessary high BP over things that shouldn't matter to you. Know this and know peace.

My dear when you see this single trait in a woman, Run. Don't just run, run extremely fast and far.

First, that you met an individual and you connected on a level does mean anything divine. It only means you met someone.

2. Stop forcing it. Any relationship where a single party is carrying the bulk of the burden of making it work is toxic and unhealthy. Beyond talk, you know it, you do the whole relationship work. What then is her role as the female, whose role ought to be the nurturer and caregiver to the relationship?


3. As the saying goes, never marry a partner who has values you won't like to see replicated in your kids. Does her negative vibes and attitude not stare at you in the obvious?


4. It is almost always singles feel anyone that comes is the right one or possibly needs patience and all and it creates room to excessively tolerate what should be rebuked not accepted as a norm. If you have a lady who won't listen to you, then the signs are clear, you don't need a muse or a dibia. Bugger, there are lots of clean Chicks around, stop operating with the scarcity mentality. It's her job to be womanly and care for the soul of what you have, her failure in this department makes her a failure.



5. A relationship shouldn't feel forced or feel like work when with the right person. It seems you're the bricklayer doing all the hard work while he sits on her Queens throne and receives your worship with you at her mercy. She has her hands wrapped round your waist bro. Untie yourself and regain the control. You're the man. The one who chooses, if she can't fit into your world open the door and tell not to return. Infact I'm recommending you to this as a last chance to her. Call her give her a hard Frank talk telling her she's adding rather than relieve stress from your world, and to either fit in or walk away.

I wonder when mehn would stop falling for damaged women. Girls wey too many people Don oil thier towtow their them cum get character-mix problem. Tueh.


I've been there never before. The moment any girl starts acting like a daytime witch, drag her by the pushy and throw her in the thrash where she belongs.

If a woman by nature who should be womanly is given masculine vibes, fvck her outta the door and call the waste management or septic tank cleaner to cum clean the shiit. No time.

Fixey:
My dear when you see this single trait in a woman, Run. Don't just run, run extremely fast and far.

First, that you met an individual and you connected on a level does mean anything divine. It only means you met someone.

2. Stop forcing it. Any relationship where a single party is carrying the bulk of the burden of making it work is toxic and unhealthy. Beyond talk, you know it, you do the whole relationship work. What then is her role as the female, whose role ought to be the nurturer and caregiver to the relationship?


3. As the saying goes, never marry a partner who has values you won't like to see replicated in your kids. Does her negative vibes and attitude not stare at you in the obvious?

Seconded....

@oP run as Oga don talk am....



Cuz we know how this kind matter dey take end.



Chioma be wan do this kind thing to me not knowing to her that I'm a Redpill Nigga


Uptil Today, she doesn't know why I dumped her ass....


Babes Plenty for hood....no time ...


Unto the Next one

You are dealing with a self centered and proud girl who would stop at nothing to frustrate you. A girl like that can be pain in ass. Whenever you demand respect, she'd want to ruffle feathers with you not to talk of whenever you demand listening ears. She's on a mission to conquer and the earlier you realized that the better for you. No servant is higher than his master.

No, no, not a wife material.

Fixey:
My dear when you see this single trait in a woman, Run. Don't just run, run extremely fast and far.

First, that you met an individual and you connected on a level does mean anything divine. It only means you met someone.

2. Stop forcing it. Any relationship where a single party is carrying the bulk of the burden of making it work is toxic and unhealthy. Beyond talk, you know it, you do the whole relationship work. What then is her role as the female, whose role ought to be the nurturer and caregiver to the relationship?


3. As the saying goes, never marry a partner who has values you won't like to see replicated in your kids. Does her negative vibes and attitude not stare at you in the obvious?


4. It is almost always singles feel anyone that comes is the right one or possibly needs patience and all and it creates room to excessively tolerate what should be rebuked not accepted as a norm. If you have a lady who won't listen to you, then the signs are clear, you don't need a muse or a dibia. Bugger, there are lots of clean Chicks around, stop operating with the scarcity mentality. It's her job to be womanly and care for the soul of what you have, her failure in this department makes her a failure.



5. A relationship shouldn't feel forced or feel like work when with the right person. It seems you're the bricklayer doing all the hard work while he sits on her Queens throne and receives your worship with you at her mercy. She has her hands wrapped round your waist bro. Untie yourself and regain the control. You're the man. The one who chooses, if she can't fit into your world open the door and tell not to return. Infact I'm recommending you to this as a last chance to her. Call her give her a hard Frank talk telling her she's adding rather than relieve stress from your world, and to either fit in or walk away.

Thanks for this... I feel I needed this info more than the OP himself.

Vulcanheph:

Thanks for this... I feel I needed this info more than the OP himself.

You're welcome brother. Remember, you're a king. Hone into your advantages and place demands

Fixey:


First, that you met an individual and you connected on a level does mean anything divine. It only means you met someone.

This alone explains a lot, thanks bro.

Kriss216:

You keep deluding yourself. Like the lady said, you're not even in a relationship with her and you're complaining of marriage and her attitude.

I'm not deluded bro, not being in a relationship doesn't give enough grounds to be outrightly stubborn.

Divoc19:
No, no, not a wife material.

You lie not

LewdJoey:

This alone explains a lot, thanks bro.



I'm not deluded bro, not being in a relationship doesn't give enough grounds to be outrightly stubborn.


You lie not

Carry out this research. Not just because of this but against future sotuations


Narcissism in females