There's a friend of mine who doesn't get enough attention from her man in her relationship. she's always complained but he gives her same excuse "he's hustling". This time things went outta hand,after series of complaint he gave her the most savage replies. Telling her " oh,you're an ingrate, you're mad, since its attention you want, you have lots of wooers, you can chat them up when I'm offline to keep you company, go and look for your Mr perfect". It ended that way, the guy asked for a break up. My friend came running to me explaining that she only complained that he's not giving her attention. But yet its break up he wants. I told my girl,this guy doesn't deserve you. or are you blind? There are things a guy can and cannot say to his loved ones even when angry. Forget the guy.

my girl didn't listen. she came to me again saying they've settled. That he's apologised.
how did he apologise? by saying "oya,I'll send you money in the morning" pls isn't that insult? But no,my girl was smiling when she received the msg. she also said, he wants to get her a new phone that's why he's been acting that way. Tried explaining to her that self respect isn't pride. Did I advice my friend wrongly ? she sees me like I hate her rn.

iLegendd:
You can't really handle this. Two deadly things are involved.

1. Religion
2. Tribe

To add more to it

1. Character of a figure head
2. Two women
3. Long distance
4. Inflow of income

If I were you, I'll write a book about it and generate money with it, then sell the script to a good director to turn it to a movie or Fuji House of Commotion kind of series. At the end, it will all turn in your favor. Hard times or dilemma is an opportunity to greatness, but unfortunately, most people don't see it, but instead prefer to cry and complain.

The above is "if I were in your shoe." Since I'm not in your shoe, I'd advise you follow your instinct and nothing more. Trust me, one day, peace will reign. Situations like these will only make you wiser and stronger.

smart guy, I wonder why you're so hated here on NL though

NO LOVE IN MY HOME (Advice pls)

My name is precious( wrong name). Opened this acct to go strictly anonymous. All kinda comments are accepted, good or bad. All I need is great advice pls. This is gonna be a little long story but pls bear with me.

I was born and raised in port Harcourt but moved down to Kano 2013. My dad is never home 'cause he works in the USA. So, believe me when I say I hardly know my dad. Comes home once a year sometimes once in 2 years. So, it's been just my mom all along. He's the very protective type not minding the fact he's never home. Especially since I'm his only daughter. Thing is I've never had my freedom, always indoors 24/7. Childhood memories are also boring asf, just the ones from school that's all.
Being in the USA, my dad is the type that loves to flex and chill a lot. Gets me nice clothes and all that. When we moved to Kano, he decided to open a clothing business for my mom with the capital of 4M. He agreed and had it done.

Along the way, they began to have issues 'cause my dad kept claiming he's the owner of the shop and wants all sales made to go to his own acct. My mum disagreed 'cause she was like even a sales girl gets her own salary. The agreement they made was that she's gonna send the money from whatever sales to his account while he pays her monthly for looking after the shop and selling the materials. Not minding the fact she's his wife o. They ran that way for months till my dad stopped paying her. She complained about it 'cause this man doesn't give her own personal allowance even as his wife. The shop was closed down for months.

He finally came back to Nigeria, my mom got pregnant but lost the baby to miscarriage. Just a month after, my dad married another wife. Even me as his daughter kept pleading on whatever issues they have and to resolve it but no. It was as if he was under voodoo. My dad is 50 and the lady he married is just 23.His first son is 25,imagine.

I asked my dad why he did all that but he told me was that my mom is proving stubborn. Fine, so thing is his family were super happy he got married to another 'cause he finally married their tribe. The young lady he married is igbo and my mom is Hausa. There's no single person from my dad's who likes my mom plainly because she's a muslim and not their tribe. We're Christians

In just one week of marriage, he already gave the new wife a car and also opened a shop for her. All this while, he stopped eating my mom's food. Claimed she should only prepare food for us her kids. And so it was
He travelled again after spending a good whole year at home with us (for the very first time) to stay with his new wife. When he got married to my mom,he got her pregnant and left the following month. So, he never stayed with my mom. But when he got married to this one, he stayed with her for a year.
He left again before the lock down while his new wife was pregnant. Before then, he was closed to divorcing my mom. That's just like some months after he got married to his new wife. My mum stood her ground that she's going no where so, my dad and one of his brothers went all the way to Jos to go talk to her parents. By the special grace of God, they didn't get divorced.

He travelled leaving my mom with no cash and no business. He never calls us, even we the kids. My mum collected goods on credit and is even currently planing to take a loan just so, she could feed her 4 kids. The other wife's business also fell. She finally gave birth to a baby girl and also always kept complaining that my dad never calls her. My mum would only laugh and tell her that's the way he is. The new wife would go to her parent's place to ask for cash sometimes be in tears and be like what kinda marriage is this? My dad only called my mom once ever since he left early this year just to inform her that his new wife had given birth and that was it. Today is October 10th,my dad never called my mom nor we the kids. He called once on sallah day ranting and asking why we the kids never called him. Someone that doesn't send us cash, abeg how are we gonna get money for airtime and all that. With the little money I could get, I'd always send a vn via WhatsApp to always check on my dad but he never replies but reads the msg. I stopped checking on him.

The new wife keeps complaining on how she's gonna live with her lil baby and still calls her bf secretly saying she's fed up with the marriage and would like to see his face. She claims the marriage was all a rush and never knew all that glitters wasn't gold.

We always have light issues 'cause we use a prepaid meter and we always gotta recharge. Since my dad doesn't send money home no one wants to buy including one of my eldest cousin who my dad asked to begin to stay with us as a watch on the house ever since he got married to his new wife 'cause then, both my mom and the new wife always beefed each other. But they all good now
So, once a while it's gonna be this my elder cousin to buy the Nepa bills. Though, my mom was buying ever since my dad travelled not minding that she wasn't receiving money. She was also feeding this 21 yr old cousin of mine all through but stopped when things got really hard.

We had water issues since we had no light. So, we went to the next compound to fetch water, immediately that night my dad called and had someone give us 36k to keep for the light bills just so he could save his name outside. My younger sister stopped school recently and attend a home library Islamic school which one of my uncle's own. Since it's family related, it's gonna be easy for her to sort.

I've cried to my dad, kissed him a mil times, told him how much I love him but no, he listens to no one.He just neglects us, I'm so fed up and feel for my mum every day. What do I do to bring back love to my family as a their child? I need advice pls

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