Lalas247:
Had a feeling you’re Igbo.. from IMO state ? My mum is Igbo Nice chatting dear

The pleasure is mine, am from Ebonyi state.

Lalas247:


The word is scary .. things people do for it sha ..
What tribe are you if you don’t mind me asking .. are you based in Naija ?

Am based in naija and am Igbo.

Lalas247:
It’s better that way jare at least he can’t tell her nothing .....

Abi?

Lalas247:

My dear I forgot a major one that a lot use “LOVE”

Knew a girl during school days .. had a bf .. she came in and she had a black eye .. we were like wtf happened
She later said her bf threw batteries at her those big D batteries and it knocked her eye out ..

We all opened our mouths screaming .. cause here that’s straight up jail time .. she kept saying no she can’t report it .. we should stay out of her relationship .. we asked her why she would take that sh!t at a young age

Her Answer ... “BUT HE LOVES ME” imagine

Hmmmmnn 'LOVE' the problem that word is causing is much and the meaning has been turned upside down.

Lalas247:

he asked for refund lol
I have seen it all....

Am serious, even the one he didnt buy he requested for it and because of how insultive and shameful it is, no one need to ask for verification and it was refundf, it was later that the aunty started saying and pointing to what he did not buy for her that he said he did even down to pant and cream.

Lalas247:

exactly ..
I put kids in my post too... thats one of the main reasons for married couples
best thing is to leave .. its even better for the kids not to be in an abusive environment..

Attimes its not ordinary, some forces are behind it.

don4real18:

So did the guy who went further to add finance

Hmmmmnnn? Finance is just a little and can be refunded even the guy one of my distant aunty dated did it and he later ask 4 refund of all he has spent on her and it was refunded.

Lalas247:

really so because of that u will remain in an abusive relationship ?

isn't your life worth more than that?

Me! Haba! 4 Where?
Am just saying especially in marriage if children has entered, the attention is now diverted and the lady will just have to be enduring and praying and hoping for it to stop. but in case of relationship, when am dating someone and i detect any sign of abuse either with words or anyfin, i option out

don4real18:
Invested what exactly?

Time, Energy, Emotions & Puna

Hector09:
its better to hop than to die

You are right to some extend but using the word 'scold' on your wife is not right and with them dishing food for themselves, attimes it depend on upbringing and how closely knitted they are cos like me i dont dish food/enter someone's kitchen except the person ask me to or am the one that cook.

Hector09:
how can u invest so much in an abusive relationship, why cant u invest on broke niggas

Do you think its easy to hop from one guy to another?

Because they have invested so much in it.

blackweaver:

Chai! Girls are not smiling sha Cheat me I cheat you, man no go vex eh?

Abi! Not at all, what is good for the goose is also good for the......... But the fact remains 'something bad is bad' no matter the excuses we give.

Toks2008:


Abeg which village be this?

Somewhere In Abakaliki, i can assure you it has send many men to early grave both innocent and non even my dad friend was a victim.

Angy55:

I guess you are from Isoko(Delta state).
Best revenge ever to a cheating husband, pay him back by cheating on him if he refused to change and watch him die.

The worst part is he doesn't have to know, just feed him with money collected from concubine or give it to him, thats all

Am not married, so i can't say, but when i have enter into the union, i don't think on any circumstance my hubby should cheat on me Thank God my village has a wicked culture, as in as much as she's married to you, cheat on her and let her do the same to you and watch yourself die slowly

Thank God there is money, if not i dont think the story will be same

My bf own is bigger... so f*ck off

@Guitarlife, hope you know respect is reciprocal, and they varies? I will just plead with you to just remove this mentality from your mindset cos inasmuch as it is there, you wil never be satisfied and you will always see her words as disresectful and if you go into the union like this, she wouln't be free as she wouln't know what she will say that you will term insult. Thats why friendship is important in a union, you cant marry your friend and be rigid with her
For me, i can't date a guy that we see me this, it woulnt help my self esteem, i have been there b4 and it was a joyous story to tell, i will respect you but you and make you the head but i wouln't make you my god

And this is seen as an achievement?

Men like you are the reason why i want to puke, you can't have this mindset and will have a peaceful marriage with this intended lady, it will be very hard cos in the process, she may lost herself. I believe you should Just let her go, go to the village, look 4 those girls that are semi-literate, trained by grandma. those are the types you need because they will never question you, moreover you are not looking 4 a wife but maid with this your igboitic african mentality cos only illiterate/educated illiterate igbo behave this way.
Take care

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