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greatiyk4u:
HOW A LAGOS DRIVER CONNECTED ME TO MY WIFE 😍❤️

Going to work everyday from Bariga to Island is not beans. If you know, you know. The traffic, the rush, the conductors shouting "CMS CMS O PAY O!"

That Tuesday morning, I entered a danfo as usual. The bus was full. Just one fine lady beside me. Complete spec. The one wey if you see am, you go say "God really took time."

We got to Obalende and wahala started. Change.

Driver no get 100 naira to give us. I no get. She no get. The driver just looked at me and said, "Oga, take 200 naira share with my sister for back."

I was still calculating how to share 200 naira for two people, when this damsel looked at me calmly, smiled and said, "Don't bother, Sir. You can have it. It's fine."

Ha! In this Lagos? Where person fit fight you because of 50 naira change?

It wasn't just the money. It was how she said it. So respectful, so kind. Her words melted me. For a city where everyone is angry and rushing, her calmness stood out.

I couldn't let that kindness go just like that. I said, "Ah, no na. Give me your number let me do transfer, or at least let me reciprocate tomorrow."

She laughed and gave me her number. Happily.

One thing led to another. Chat turned to calls. Calls turned to dates. Dates turned to love.

From a stranger in a Bariga bus to my peace of mind.

Today, we are not just lovers. We are partners. And by God's grace, this January before election - because nobody knows where this country will go after election - we will be walking down the aisle. 😊

Moral: Kindness still exists in Lagos. Sometimes your destiny is sitting right beside you in traffic.

Lagos driver, thank you. You shared more than change that day. You shared my future wife.

Happy Sunday all
Ladies can you do same?

In summary she dashing you N100 swept you off ?

She acted posh seeing how your expression said you ain’t letting go of your own half

Hope you tall like your name is, I haven’t seen a person answering Iyk that’s short

Come do event for South East let us make merriment in your private gathering

What could be wrong?

Virtual verification for tinted glass permit not allowing uploading of images

Can anyone give hint on this?

The images are below 2MB

VVS has been paid and VIN validated

The guidelines on their IG handle says click actions on one’s profile click RENEW PERMIT, but is returning me back to payment page for VVS

Help help please

Cc:Rapmoney
Or anyone that can help

Ahanna the rattlesnake keep resting in peace Amen

Where is Peter that featured in the movie presently?

Good old days when Nollywood movies kept us in suspense

Not presently we already know the end, once the first scene is shown

That’s not true about men and women

UrVillageChief:
So you mean you haven’t repainted the car since six years ago? That’s impressive. Would you mind sharing the name of the paint product you used then and perhaps the painter and location?. I repaint almost every 1 and a half years😂

You repaint every 1 and half years? Are you always going for competition with the vehicle of yours 🙊😬🤣🤣 ? You are trying.

Name of paint is P p g
Name of painter is Sante
Location of painter is Nsukka in Enugu state

Sirchiboy:
Some people don’t even pray or fast but things are working perfectly well for them!

Such is life, myself don’t struggle for things like my friends do, but it still comes to me.

I know someone in same situation like yours, but this person doesn’t have a good heart. If he was in my position, I would have seen shege in his hands. He finished school before me, said lot of things those years but today. Places he will go and get stuck, I will go, the door will open for same thing he couldn’t get.

If you want to be rich to afford what you want, are you ready to work for it?

Forget the notion that miracle money will fall from heaven for you.

It is not going to work.

Where did you see 100k to dash the so called spiritual woman?
Hope your chi is stronger presently?

[quote author=UrVillageChief post=140844065]So you mean you haven’t repainted the car since six years ago? That’s impressive. Would you mind sharing the name of the paint product you used then and perhaps the painter and location?. I repaint almost every 1 and a half years😂[/quote

Every 1 & a half years? Is it cloth 🙊🤔🤣🤣

Sorry for late response, the painter(Sante by name) is in Enugu state. I wasn’t the one who bought the paint. In 2020, I decided to repaint, I told my mechanic, who called the painter and in my front, he was told, if he didn’t spray the vehicle properly, he will start afresh and is his money he will use to repaint if anything goes wrong. He carefully understood the task, my mechanic is also someone that will not let you breathe, as he inspects the vehicle from time to time. Even the painter(Sante by name) will see me and say, Oga this your paint don last oo.

ManLikeL:
Brothers, What Will You Advise a Brother?

I'm currently confused about my relationship journey.

I haven't really been the type to consider a serious relationship for a while now. It's just been a couple of sex partners here and there. We do it safely and keep things on a superficial level.

Now, recently, there have been demands and questions here and there about starting a family, especially considering that my immediate junior brother is done having children. His lastborn will be three next month, while the lastborn of my family is also done having kids. Her firstborn is already 10 years old.

I seem to be the only odd one out in this regard, even though I'm arguably more financially settled than all of them. Not to brag, please; I'm just trying to paint a clearer picture of the situation.

I clocked 35 in May, and it was as if everyone in the universe agreed to centre their birthday wishes around God providing me with a wife and family. Ever since then, the reminders from my folks have been pretty loud, persistent, and disturbing.

For the first time in years, I decided to seek a proper relationship, unlike my usual superficial flings and sexcapades.

Come to think of it, I can barely go three days without proper sex. This detail should be useful later.

I met this very beautiful babe from my state. She's 27, a first-class graduate (I am too, actually), and I'm naturally attracted to every facet of intelligence, especially communicative and academic intelligence. She has both, and I'm superbly into her.

She can hold a very reasonable conversation without leaving you mentally exhausted. She's become an integral part of my life, and at this point, I think it's safe to say I'm deeply attracted to her and genuinely like her.

Worthy of note is the fact that I've enjoyed a very unusual level of peace with her over the past three months, which is absolutely unlike me.

I get correct anger ish, although I've learnt to manage it well. I'm not a violent person, but I pick offences easily, and most times, I walk away when provocations get too loud. More often than not, my walking away is goodbye. I'm so good at it.

But since meeting this babe, we've not had any ugly disagreements over these past few months. She's very calm, calculated, and receptive. These qualities have made me like her even more.

She has a reasonably good-paying job, but that's not even an issue. I earn well enough to cater for everything, but she's also financially independent. Gifting seems to be her thing, too, as she's spent quite a sum on gifts for me without expecting anything in return. I haven't even matched up to a quarter of what she's spent on gifting though.

For the first time in my life, I agreed to a no-sex-before-marriage relationship because she's a virgin.

I still dey run my games on a low, so this didn't really look like an ish.

Here lies the rub.

Just last week, she said she had a confession to make, and she opened up about being SS. Mind you, I'm AA, so, by the usual norms, this shouldn't be an issue.

But during one of our previous conversations, she had claimed to be AS and asked if I would be comfortable settling down with someone who was SS. I almost freaked out.

I'm sorry, but I've always wanted to have AA kids. With apologies to those affected, I've always believed that if I ever have children, I owe them the best possible chances at life, including heightened intelligence, beauty, and a sound genotype. I believe I have a reasonable degree of control over who complements my genes to bring these qualities to fruition.

I'm honestly very good-looking and intelligent, so why not get someone who possesses these qualities, too?

Call it insipid or vapid, but I could swear that life has already dealt some people heavy blows by limiting their options in their quest for a future partner. Unlike those of us with AA genotypes, who can consider partners across all the common genotypes without the same risk of having children with sickle cell disease, they don't always have that freedom. I wanted my kids to have that freedom and an avalanche of options, too.

So, when she asked me that question, I sincerely freaked out and couldn't hide my disdain.

This, in turn, stopped her from opening up until last week, when she could no longer hide it.

Funnily enough, I already like her to the point where I don't mind if she's SS, BB, or iPhone.

But the fact that she lied is what actually turned out to be my ish. She's been a very straightforward person so far, and this particular issue has upset our fashioned norms.

I proposed that the no-sex-before-marriage agreement should be off if we were going to be together, and she agreed. But now, I'm beginning to think it might look as though I'm trying to take advantage of her at this point.

Brothers, what will you advise a brother?
Am I being unreasonable?
Considering the emotional supports people with SS need, how challenging can it be? What is the possibility that she lives long enough?

All insults, curses, and whatever are welcome.
T for grateful.

As someone that had friends whose brother or sister was SS, you should abort mission. There’s more lies you yet to know.

The health crisis will still arise, move forward to some one truthful from day one.

All my friends were from a buoyant family background, but when it starts, you wish something happened differently.

Is not your cross to carry

amtheone:
Good Afternoon my people.

Pls I need a sincere review of this car; Acura MDX 2015 direct Tukunbo.

Thank you

Buy the vehicle you will enjoy it. I admire the woman driving it in my street. The 2015 MDX is very rugged. A vehicle that will make you want to travel always. I know a lecturer using the vehicle in my workplace, the wife bought it first and after two months the husband bought same vehicle. The only difference is the husband is a rough driver but the vehicle still imposing on the road when he drives past.

When you want to sell, take the vehicle to northern part of Nigeria, they will buy it. Most southern part prefer Toyota vehicles irrespective of how badly used, while some rare Yoruba people also like the Honda vehicles and Acura inclusive.

As someone that drives first generation MDX and first generation RDX buy the 2015 MDX you will enjoy it.

As many have said don't go to anyhow mechanic and stick to manual recommended oil, you be fine with the vehicle.

If I find someone to give me the vehicle to drive, I will love it

Buy one that has fog light also, not sure the picture you posted has the fog light on it

Green colour if you see am is very mad with better alloy rims

Enjoy Team Acura anyday

olaiya2007:
Sponsored... Is this related to Obi

This not related to Obi and the Gregory University Uturu is in Abia state owned by a popular wealthy individual

lamentor78:
Most Nigerian man are dumb especially those that show too much care for their family, go to some home where the man is a drunkard, the wife takes most of the responsibilities. Nigeria men should learn how not to be a mumu, my salary is over half a million my wife salary is about a half we share responsibilities and everybody knows what is his/her own. A woman that fails to support you dont have any small amount of love for you,,,,,is not rocket science .

I have a friend, he is a teacher his wife is a graduate of law , after their first child after marriage the woman refuse to work, and he pressure my friend to buy the latest iphone for her , two years gone she wants the child to go to expensive nursery school that people with jeep and fancy cars go to. ....long story short My friend have ran away o. he said he no dey do again. The girl has gone back to her mama house now working a 8-6pm job using torchlight phone. The child now going to a normal school in their street.

...but when my friend was at home this woman want to kill him....with problem

Why will your friend run away from the house? He started enabling her by buying the iPhone for her when he can’t afford it. Most guys are the ones that give their woman the respective hand to follow them. Abeg this so annoying to read

nickxtra:
Some women are terribly greedy and selfish

How can a husband asks his wife show concern and drop something to support atleast a part of one of the children's school fees/text books and she is resisting?

The husband has been repsonsible for the school fees and wellbeing of the 4 kids, but in this first term, the school fees have increased and the need to get a little support from a wife is creating discord.

The Federal government job the wife is doing was offered to her through the husband(originally meant for him), while the husband rather opted to be in the street hustling and in school too.

To cushion the effect of transportation, the husband had years sold his Bolt business car to buy a tokunbo car for her, as means of getting to and from work. Now the woman is working and at the same time running a side business, using the car as a support.

Anytime issue of supporting the family comes up, she flares up, whereas she sends money to family back home often (which am not critical of).

Out of the 4 kids, the husband has told her to take up a partial responsibility for one of them who is in JSS 3, because the fee is high.

Is it unmanly or wrong for a husband to call a wife to show support for children's school fees(at most partial support for one out of 4 kids)?

Or is she resisting this because she is used to not supporting before now, as i have never called for her support in any way before now?

What stops the husband from changing their school to the one he can pay for? Instead of worrying what amount school fees will be another term?

chrisxxx:
My boss drove his car to a meeting venue. After a while, he came back without the car. The meeting venue is about a 10-15 minute walk from the office. After the meeting, he got into a chitchat with someone who hadn't driven to the meeting. He followed the man and walked the distance, eventually getting to the office, while the man continued on his own journey.

When it was time to close for the day, my boss raised an alarm that his car had been stolen. We were surprised because no one had come into the work area where he usually parked his car. One clue led to another, and someone suggested checking the meeting venue he had attended. When they got there, the car was parked exactly where he had left it before heading to the meeting.

Share similar experience that you have had or heard.

One of my lecturers during my undergraduate days experienced this.
His own is that he was used to trekking before he finally bought a car, which he did his learning to drive more than a year.
He finished his lectures and went home, without remembering he came to work with the vehicle.
Is the next morning he dressed up for work, he started looking for his vehicle
Confused as well, he couldn’t recall where last he went with the vehicle
But the wife and kids was telling him he didn’t return with his vehicle the previous day
Which he didn’t believe but was only mopping at them in disbelief
He came to work and saw the vehicle under tree where he parked it.
Is then he started laughing while narrating to his colleagues what happened
I wasn’t surprised such happened to the lecturer
After that incident he hasn’t drove the vehicle to office again
He’s doing his trekking he’s used to

Gotocourt:
Parking under sun and low quality paint materials.

Parking under sun? If this really true, my vehicle I repainted in 2020 should have faded by now, since is always under sun.

Probably low paint materials and type of soap he uses to wash it.

Maybe the painter doesn’t know how to spray vehicles

I remember one lawyer like that in my former place, bought Camry muscle and allowed the son to be washing the body with detergent (kiln). I usually cry for the vehicle paint when I see the son doing so , saying the dad asked him to use it

Oops I had to tell the lawyer his paint is at stake if it continues this route (not minding he has two other vehicles that the paint is shouting detergent was used to wash them when it was bought)

Masturbation is not the cause of your problem. It should rather make you last longer not finish easily. I think you were beating your meat (in akpi’s voice) wrongly.
Running 10 laps in the stadium isn’t the solution as per how fit you are.
You ain’t maintaining erection long enough
Blood flow to your pelvic muscle is inadequate
Come see the exercises you should do for it
You will notice the changes too in performance

Cc: ZabiraECP

fineboynl:
Until early 20s Calendar can be found in every home, schools and offices worldwide.

Family and business needed them to track record of date and time of the week.

The advent of smart phones really changed a lot of things. Recently I was looking for calender to track and mark an invent. Something I can be marking on the wall and relied heavily on but I was just confused as to how I can get one or find one.

Alot of genz don't even know what a wall calender even look like.

Yes calendars still exist in some people’s house
Is existing in my parents house like three of it.
You will say there are calendars in our respective phones, but the calendars doesn’t have the market days prevalent with those from South East.
People from South East make use of the 4 market days on the calendar when fixing events like burial, traditional marriage, weddings , festivals.
They have to make sure it doesn’t fall on the respective market day of their host.

[quote author=Pootle post=140445279]i hate nonsense sack him and revoke his

The worse penalty he will get is extending his probation for 12 months in total while paying half salary monthly.
He will be monitored during probation, if the panel members see improvement in his conduct, he will be reinstated back for his full salary.

Outright sack doesn’t work so in the university system

Love800:
Wow.
Sorry for my late comment.

So you don't eat yam, eba, akpu, plantain, beans, potatoes, okpa, moi moi, groundnut?

What you listed above is once in a while consumption. Never been a fan of yam or potatoes from day one.
I prefer my beans with plantain but moi-moi feels so light, it doesn’t fill my stomach still don’t fancy it

Groundnut (fried) I run from it because of the oil to avoid pimple. Boiled groundnut causes me running nose, still avoid it

Okpa is very common where I stay, let’s say people like me are tired of eating it already

Love800:
All those things you mentioned in your last paragraph are the only kind of food you eat?

Yes
Also cook soup and leak sometimes
Black soup is next to experiment on, as the first time of cooking it
3rd of August I need to replenish my fruits for the week or more

ikeno:
The fact still remains that Iran is a rogue nation, a country that's a threat to world peace and they keep arming their proxies such as Hamas, Hezbollah and the likes just because they have the capability to do so.
Even other middle east countries not spare because they are also being bombed by Iran.

Just because of small quarrel between them and US them run go block the strait of Hormuz holding the whole world to ramson and billions of people to suffer.

Just imagine if they were given the chance to have their own nuclear weapons then countries like Israel, and some European countries will not be existing.

Small quarrel is what you call it?
Let someone kill your loved one, maybe you can hug them for doing it
USA and Israel assassinated their Supreme Leader but is small quarrel to you?
Didn’t Iran say they will close Strait of Hormuz if their Supreme Leader is targeted?
Smh

Good evening this consistent rainy season oops

This Iran attack by USA is funny, they kept making mouth on NL that USA will teach Russia how it should have handed Ukraine. How many months, yet USA president never understood what’s happening in Iran.

There’s a reason the statement “attacking Iran isn’t the problem but what happens after”

Some making noise that Iran should strike Israel for Netanyahu to teach them lesson, forgetting last time he ran to Trump to hold off Iran?

Iran doesn’t attack first instead they defend, is left for Israel to strike them first, let’s check the outcome.

A sanctioned country still holding their own since February 28th 2026? Some people here should be ashamed of themselves

You lost me on groundnuts and melon?
Melon is rich in protein too? How come is heard more about the oil, how is not so ideal to be consumed often?

Also groundnut I am wondering if there’s a specific type or it still included fried ones? Boiled ones

Cc: Qwikkie please explain more

I usually do chicken, eggs, catfish ,ice fish, fio-fio, okpa, vegetables and sometimes rice as my weekly consumption but I do alternate them with different kinds of fruits

Where is our NL musician called Airforce and his two kids with the baby mama presently in?

Cc:Airforce a comrade who towed your path need help

The woman did well, fully support what she did
What a basket husband he always been

Transfer everything to you as what...?
His head is really paining him

It is clear why this statement usually come up by political analysts on TV “attacking Iran isn’t the problem but what happens next” is what nobody will wish to dream of.

Iran sits on economy of the world with their geographical location. They were minding their business until Donald Trump and Israel Prime Minister decided to seek for trouble.

Dropping the first bomb isn’t the issue but how do you come out, if the country of Iran is the type who doesn’t surrender?

Strait of Hormuz is more powerful than a nuclear weapon as IRGC officers always said.
They repeatedly said they will close it when their Supreme Leader is killed, they still do what they say.

Give Iran their flowers to them, is not an easy feat.

This remind me of that little girl in Warri flogged for not paying school fees “her words Dey go flog her, Dey go tire”

Donald Trump really met his match in people more crazy and unpredictable as he is.

3000 years of history wasn’t built on O yes leadership rather, years of war and quest to produce their ammunition for survival, which is a source of Pride for them presently.

Iranian officials are so good with words, you think is poem you reading

Flana:
I met this lady in my estate sometime in 2022. We exchanged numbers, but we never really had the time to hang out back then. Sometime in May this year, I saw her number in one of my old iCloud accounts and decided to give her a call. She picked up, but she didn’t seem to remember me—in her own words, because we used to only see each other on the road before she moved out of the estate.

We chose a date and location to hang out, and it all went well. We had a great conversation, and since then, we have been calling and texting each other. We went on a second outing, and she asked me a question that I actually expected of her: what did I really want from her? I told her that my days of playing games are over, and that I need a friend, a partner, and someone I can build a relationship with. In turn, she told me that she hadn’t given relationships a chance since her last one ended two years ago. She also mentioned that she doesn't want to have too much history with men, which is why she has been trying to protect herself.

Since then, things have been cool. We talked on the phone almost every day, and everything was going well between us. However, I noticed she asked a lot of questions, but whenever I asked her something, she was always reluctant to answer. I told her what I do for a living and where I work, but she would only tell me her job title, never the name or location of her workplace. I didn’t really have a problem with that, though.

A few weeks ago, she called me in the evening, crying on the phone, and told me she had just been informed that her dad passed away. Being the kind of person I am, I have never really had anyone close to me lose a loved one where I had to console them. I just told her, "May his soul rest in peace," promised to call her the next day, and hung up. Due to work stress, I didn't end up calling her until the third day. I noticed she wasn't really responding the way I expected, and after some questioning, she opened up. She said she hadn't expected me to just end the call like that on the night she found out, as she really needed someone to talk to, and then I didn't check back until three days later. I apologized and explained to her that it wasn't intentional—I just didn't know what else to say and wanted to avoid repeating words or rambling, which might not be comforting to someone grieving.

We eventually agreed that I could come for her dad’s wake-keep and burial. Initially, she only wanted me to attend the wake-keep because her family's village is far from her hometown and she didn’t want to put me through the stress. But I insisted that the stress would be worth it, especially since I would be experiencing a burial ceremony for the first time in my life. The wake-keep and burial were scheduled for last week Thursday and Friday, respectively.

God bears me witness, I had fully prepared my mind to travel. But on Wednesday evening around 5:00 PM, one of our clients called stating they were in the middle of a time-sensitive project, one of their services was down, and it needed urgent fixing. Normally, I could have resolved this remotely, but traveling from Abuja to an unfamiliar village where I wasn’t sure if there would be a network connection was a risk I wasn't willing to take. So, I picked up my phone, summoned the courage, and told her I wouldn’t be able to come as scheduled. In the middle of my explanation, she cut me off, saying she already knew I wasn’t coming. She said if I had genuinely planned to come, I would have been checking in with her since that morning. Because she hadn't heard from me all day, she had already concluded I decided not to show up. Then she told me, “I don’t think this whole relationship thing will work. You should just forget about everything and have a good life ahead of you.” I asked, "Just like that?" and she said yes. I wished her a good life ahead too, and ended the call.

After 20 minutes, I messaged her asking for her account details. She sent them, and I transferred some cash to her. She messaged me the next morning, thanking me very much. Why I sent the money, I can't really tell, but it genuinely calmed my temper down.

Since then, I have been calling and texting her, but she hasn't responded. However, I noticed she called me twice on Saturday, but I wasn't close to my phone. Since then, I’ve been calling her twice every day and dropping messages, but getting no response. I called her yesterday, and luckily, she picked up. I asked if she was back, but she said she was still in the village. I asked if she could talk, and she said yes. But as I was trying to explain myself and apologize, not even 30 seconds into the call, the line dropped. I called back and it was switched off. I called again later in the evening, but there was no response.

I really like her, and I want her to know it wasn't intentional, but honestly, I am feeling exhausted.

Let her be, quit pestering her around like a sissy
She not answering questions you asked her, should have informed you nothing will come out of it.
With the insecurity of the country, why would you embark on such journey to attend funeral of someone you know little about?
She wouldn’t have granted you such audience you did for her, if you were in her position.
Forget her joor and stop over doing yourself.
She was never ready for anything serious
Quit making yourself too available.
Stop the calls to her hoping she pick.
Let her be, she doesn’t deserve you
Which hand did she use to send her account details while grieving?

LadiIshola:
It's Ijaodola family. And mama is dead now, been a few years now since she died. The guy you're talking about is Shared, not Saidu. He's my very good friend. They're lovely people.

Thank you so much for the correction, I knew I didn’t get the surname correctly, but I wrote what I remembered it as.
Ewoo!! Mama’s soul keep resting in peace Amen
For the Shared you sure that’s the name? He’s fair in complexion and there’s another of his brother driving a black Camry either fish or pencil light that’s dark.
Extend my greetings to the second son please.

The first bike man I entered from my PPA then in Alaro community high school Iraye Oke-Epe who told me, how good their father was while alive. He said he was very popular also.

Tunde Taiwo street in Epe comes to mind during my NYSC days in 2016
Heaven Bless the Iyadola family that rented their apartment for me
Their mother as well though aged but she’s quite a delight
Not forgetting Saidu the second son
Babamina of blessed memory
All made the Sallah a memorable one for me

oarowosola:
Honestly, you guys are funny as hell. Some of the roasts had me laughing, some were annoying, but overall I enjoyed reading the comments.

But one thing I need people to understand is this, I didn’t come here because I was looking for relationship advice. At the point I made that first post, my mind was already made up. I was already mentally done with the relationship long before I even typed anything.

The reason I shared the story was mostly because I was exhausted mentally, and I also wanted people to see how extreme certain situations can get in relationships. Sometimes people think you’re exaggerating until you start explaining the details.

Truth be told, this breakup didn’t happen overnight.

I had already been thinking about ending things for a very long time. The only thing holding me back was the fact that she is actually an amazing person in some ways. She has a soft heart, and I knew breaking up with her was going to hurt her deeply, so I kept trying to find the best possible way to do it without completely destroying her emotionally.

But the events of that final weekend just pushed me over the edge.

The way she left my kitchen after staying over, combined with everything that happened the night before, was what finally made me snap internally. It wasn’t that I suddenly realized all the issues that day. No. Those things had been building up in my mind for months.

Before I eventually sent the breakup message, I had already started emotionally withdrawing from the relationship. I stopped calling as much, stopped texting often, and stopped engaging the way I used to. She noticed it too. She kept asking what was wrong, and I would just say I’m fine, even though she knew something was clearly off.

Eventually I realized I couldn’t keep dragging it out forever. I didn’t want to keep pretending while mentally checking out. So I finally sent her a message telling her I was no longer interested in continuing the relationship.

At first, she was shocked.

She kept asking how someone could end a relationship of over a year through text without explanation. She asked if there was another person involved. She begged me not to ignore her. She said she was trying to stay calm because she was outside in public.

Honestly, reading those messages affected me because despite everything, I’m still human. I’m not heartless.

So instead of completely shutting her out, I told her we could talk later because I was busy with work at that moment.

Later that night, I finally picked up her call.

And for the first time, I explained everything fully.

I explained how draining the relationship had become for me mentally. I explained how uncomfortable I constantly felt because of the difference in our lifestyles, hygiene, responsibilities, communication patterns, effort, and overall approach to life.

I explained the incidents that stayed in my head for months, the constant untidiness, the dirty environments, the financial imbalance, the times I felt taken for granted, the moments I cleaned her entire house just to prove that basic cleanliness was not impossible.

And no, cleaning her house was never a sign of weakness or simping to me.

I did it because I loved her.

I genuinely believed maybe if I showed her how simple it was to maintain a clean environment, things would improve. That was all. But instead, things kept repeating themselves over and over again.

I also explained how frustrating it felt to constantly give financially, emotionally, and physically while feeling like the same level of thoughtfulness wasn’t being returned consistently.

By the end of the call, she broke down crying and started apologizing repeatedly. She begged me to give her another chance. She promised she would change. She promised she would work on herself and become better.

And honestly… I softened.

Maybe because deep down, despite everything, I still cared about her.

So I gave her another chance, but I made myself very clear.

I told her this wasn’t about pretending for one week or acting differently temporarily because she got called out. I told her real change has to become natural. Cleanliness, responsibility, effort, and self awareness cannot be something you perform temporarily just to save a relationship.

I told her:

“Please change for yourself, for your future kids, and for me too. Don’t just act differently now and later return to old habits. Let it become part of you naturally.

As a lady, I honestly expected you to even be correcting me on certain things, not the other way around. I’m putting a lot on the line emotionally, and I don’t want to regret my decisions later in life.

I’m not saying this like I’m doing you a favor. There are billions of men better than me, just like there are women better than you. Nobody is irreplaceable. But while two people are trying to build something meaningful together, both people should be actively working on themselves.

You are free to call out my own flaws too because I’m not a perfect human being. Relationships are supposed to be about growth, accountability, and complementing each other. The moment two people stop growing and start merely tolerating bad patterns, the relationship slowly becomes exhausting instead of peaceful.”


So yeah… that’s the full update.

Some people roasted me in the first post. Some understood me immediately. Some thought I was overreacting. Some thought I was being too soft.

But at the end of the day, nobody truly understands how emotionally draining a relationship can become until they experience living inside that reality themselves.

Previous thread https://www.nairaland.com/8677133/cleaned-girlfriends-house-instantly-wanted

She deserves a second chance with a different person not you changing your mind,
Working on herself is what will take time not an immediate fix
I can’t tolerate a dirty female around me like the girl described in the passage
Eww eww

fergie001:
The GOAT stands tall with a sublime free kick


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CR7 for a reason
He doesn’t take defeat as the end but continues trying to win
His hunger for trophies will make you think he hasn’t won anything in his football career