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Smallville10:
I hope as e collect d clothe, money have enter his bank account...


Idiot! No go fight boko haram, u dey here dey harrass woman

You're very foolish. Why not go and tell your sister to do the same.

Tomorrow people like you will Come and shout youth leadership.

Get sens.

Good

Good

Let the referendum hold ones and for all.

Angeleena:
true

This babe you fine sha ooh.

What have they contributed to the economy of Nigeria??

Why can't they hold meetings that will aid the development of Nigeria??

Now that you people have finish taking pictures oya go back to your various bedrooms and removes those load on your bodies.


Africa

Nice one.

Meanwhile Ronaldo is in my village.

drake2000x:
These people always shouting Niger Delta Republic, let me tell you something: Rivers, Delta(Igbo clans/parts), Cross River and Akwa Ibom can never ever join Niger Delta Republic if Biafra was an option. I'm conservative for not including Urhobo, Istkeri and Ijaws; as I know in a referendum over 50% will choose Biafra...again I'm just being conservative. But for Rivers, Delta(Igbo clans/parts), Cross River and Akwa Ibom in a referendum will vote over 90% for Biafra especially Cross River and Akwa Ibom. If you pay attention very well...Cross River and Akwa Ibom rarely identifies with anything to do Niger Delta nor do they like to be lumped in that category. If you go back and read anything that has to do with Niger Delta nonesense, you won't see Cross River and Akwa Ibom there except to collect their billions from NDDC, then they run back to SE.

At first you claim Niger delta are Biafrans

Now it's Cross Rivers, Akwa ibom and Parts of Rivers and Delta.

I thought your Supreme Leader Nnamdi Kanu said all the Niger delta states are parts of Biafra or are you people confuse??

Look at them they are afraid of biafra for the south east state alone.

I can't stop laughing..

Niger deltans have spoken we don't know what you mean by Biafra. Lol

Proudly Niger Delta

Hmmm. So sorry for your mom's death.

It's better my dad goes his way let my mom be. I can't afford to lose that woman.

Benita27:
Ok Sir, but don't send your dad that letter. We have elders for a reason.

Maybe i should wait until after the said family meeting by next month.

If he skips the meeting this time

Or

Continue with his current behavior then I'm done with him.


The most painful thing is, one will keep managing in school while your dad will be sponsoring other women and their children. It pains..


This man has been doing this for years especially when he was still working.


Now he is only receiving pension, why can't him call himself to order instead he is fornicating and sponsoring other women while at the same time accusing my mom of the same fornication.

We have a lot of financial needs.

My dad had money, he was balling but now no investment, incomplete house. The few furnitures we have in the house my mom bought them all.

He married late and close to 30years older than my mom.


That man is a complete failure. So sorry to say but he has refused to take correction.

Benita27:
I've come to the realisation that when there're issues between parents, the "Mother" usually gets sympathy from the kids. There's no smoke without fire. That you haven't caught your mum cheating doesn't mean she may not have cheated on your dad ever. I don't support the domestic violence but this isn't your call but elders. It's disrespectful calling his bluff for him. Let an older person with more wisdom handle this issue, your actions could aggravate things.

The first paragraph of your letter shows you took your mother's side and your dad would see it that way. Why not write him another letter, telling him of the good times you all shared together as a family, and stating why you would love him to change and make things work between him and your mum. Do this then invite the elders to talk to them both.

Most marriages go through this phase over time 'cause "Love" isn't enough. What they need to live with is wisdom.

My mom is a strong woman of God. She is the foundation of Christianity in our family today.

I don't believe she sleeps with the number of men in both her church, work place my dad is accusing her off.

eyinjuege:
If your mother's people can find her some money to get something doing they will be a nice idea.
As for your father, he's a lost cause. He'll only become normal when he's old and needs someone to look after him.
If his people can help your mum and your younger ones out too, to pay their school fees, that would be nice. But it's better your mum finds something doing too.
She can be a nanny to young couples who are both working to save up some money, or if her relatives can contribute some money for her to start a trade.

As i type there hidden letters my mom saw in his room where he clearly stated that he can no longer stay with my mom even with the financial needs in the family.

70% of wat i have spent in school came from my mom.


Only God knows the number of undisclose concubines he has.

EMMAUGOH:
Bro don't do that. Unless u know ur mummy can provide for you and u need less of your dad. And by the way u would need your dad in the future even if he is a Adulterous. When u grow up enough u would understand why ur father or mother behaves the way they do then u can either shun or allow them to be. Choose your side which is your mom and keep your intention to your self. Some men are beast at this stage in life but when they see their children start becoming independent that's when they change . WAIT TILL THAT TIME.

My mom can, the most painful thing is the little the man has he is still sharing it with his concubines. Up till date my dad prefers to show himself outside and let the family manage.

A man who worked for years before his retirement, had cars and even dashed one out couldn't complete his house till date.

babythug:
Don't do it please!!!!

It'll shift the attention away from the subject matter which is your dad's alleged philandering and mistreatment of your mum. The focus will now be on you "disrespecting" your dad.

Besides as a student you're not yet empowered enough to call his bluff and damn the consequences.

Is your mum financially empowered? Can she care for her self and your siblings at the least? She should focus on that and ignore your dad much more especially if leaving him isn't immediately feasible.

My mom is a civil servant. 70% of all i have spent in school came from my mom.

For over 4 years my father have been accusing my mother of fornications which has been a serious issue in our family. (24 years old marriage)

My father have accused my mom of befriending different men in her work place,church and the compound were we live.

Me and my only brother don't stay at home most times due to our school (university).

My little siblings who are in elementary school are the only ones at home and my father keeps filling this kids heads with different kinds of questions about my mom.

Please note that my father does not stay at home often as he likes visiting the village and to be frank i and my friends have caught him several times but i keep it to myself and pray he changes one day just to prevent more chaos in the family.

One day we all went to the village. One of my cousin brothers who base in the village came to visit us. He is known to be a very funny person and to be frank he talks anyhow and jokes a lot.

But my mom was shocked when he told her that my dad had rented a shop for one woman and even bought refrigerator for her. My mom kept mute and never asked my dad.

As the accusations keep increasing my mom who have noticed several suspicious activities of my dad got angry and stated voicing out all she have heard and suspected about my dad including the refrigerator saga.

My dad has beaten my mom in several occasions but at night and even in the day.

Just to cut the story short:

There is a woman who lives close to us, her husband was a very close friend of my dad before he died.

We discovered that my dad eats food from her Unknown to my mom when my mom is not around and they both spend time together in our house and that of the woman.

We also discovered that my dad usually buys food stuff and pay for other items for her.

Now I'm very angry about this because he has carried this irritating life to to our neighbor who he claim the woman's late husband was very close to him and his just showing care for the family as a close friend to his late friend.

Currently now there are unpaid debts in our family, things are extremely difficult yet my dad could buy stuffs for the other woman.

My mom complains about how my dad uses his retirement salary for what she can't explain. He keep saying his clearing debts and all that.

I'm fed up. I want to take serious action. I want to come out to quarrel my dad to the last. After all he chased me out of his house because i had so hard with him due to this numerous accusations he keeps labelling on my mom without any tangible evidence. My mom keeps crying and have decided to call her family members for a joint meeting by next month after my dad have skipped about two different meetings called by my moms people (brothers and sisters cos her dad and mom are late).

Now below is the letter i want to send to my dad. I have made up my mind to take that bold step. Maybe it will change him. Please read below and advice me I'm totally confused i don't want our family to tear apart.

After carring out my research and investigations about the happenings in our family which has over the years been a threat to the unity, progress and stability of our coexistence as one family, i beg to state that:





1) Because you have decided for over 4 years now to frustrate, humiliate and disorganize my mother who happens to be your wife with all kinds of accusations,insults and disgrace for a reason best known to you. And:

2) Because you have derived more pleasure in carrying the bordens of your concubines and that of their children to the detriment of your own family even when you are aware of the sufferings and debts in your family.

I want to make it clear that as a result of this, i have taken it upon myself not minding how it will effect me to suspend anything that has to do with the both of us till futher notice to enable you have more finance and less opposition to continue with those activities of yours that gives you pleasure but i find disgraceful, irritating and odious to me.

Thank you.....

Please Don't mind my English and focus on the write up, na vex i dey use right all this stuff...