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keepingmum:
Oga its clear you are boring in bed and dont satisfy your wife. You come across as a selfish lover. Go and learn the art of romance and pre-intimacy- when you have done that, trust me, she will come be your hoe in bed.

How can you be shagging and the person is sleeping? you are really an awful novice oo baba. Even without hearing from wifey, with what you have said so far, I think the problem is You

Infact if you have an affair, your side chick will still cheat on you because you will equally be boring in bed to her. Work on yourself and dont be ashamed/afraid to seek help.

Now I think this is passing a harsh judgement. For seven years with three kids and suddenly she starts sleeping off during sex? First thing I'd expected you ask is 'has she been like this from their first year?'

If not then, it now goes down to 'TALKS'. Heart baring talks, 'talk your own as e dey do you make I talk my own as e dey do me.'

For one, I have a feeling that it's not just about sleeping off during sex or the husbands lack of EXPERTISE bedmatically, there is just more to it which can either be resolved when minds are bared or keeps growing when it's left bottled up inside.


Putting the blames on the man without exploring other angles to the issue is not so cool dear

Nitefury:
You made sense here. And I believe the "WE" refers to both husband and wive?


Crap. How about our wives stop "dating" us after marriage? Or preferably, "We stop dating each other after marriage"? I believe the marriage union involves two people? So why must one partner (in this case, the husband) continue to put in the "dating" effort?



Comments like this are becoming too trite on NL for goodness sake. Annoyingly so too. Chores, chores, chores all the time.... If I may ask, what are these chores y'all keep talking about? Are you by any chance referring to fixing of minor electrical, plumbing or carpentry issues? Is taking out the trash, grass cutting/clearing or weeding, gardening, mowing the lawn on your list of chores to be done? How about (minor) painting, attending to the cars, feeding the pets, driving out to fetch water in gallons for the household (in some situations), helping kids with their home work, laundry etc etc etc... Please tell me the chores you guys keep talking about because in all the homes I've come across, the man more often handles or assists in these aspect of home keeping.

Oh my, i forgot. The man doesn't cut vegetables, refuses to do the dishes while she cooks. Not to talk about refusing to put yam in the mortar while she pounds when cooking. Only when he does this, would wifey reward him with sex.

But i wonder how many wives out there give their hubby mind blowing sex in appreciation whenever he pays the rent, pays their children's fees, bills (hospital, water, electricity, TV subscription etc), sends money to her folks, etc. Again I forget, these are simply his responsibilities. What do I know.

And the kids? Yea, I know he (Husbands) acts like they aren't his (theirs). Yet we see kids who are more attached to their dads than moms right from childhood.

If e don reach stage wey i go wash plate before i sleep with my wife, make she carry her marriage go abeg. No time


Exactly what I'm saying bro. When last did she take him out? When last did she buy him that designer fragrance? Has she ever taken time to spice up their sex and love lives? Or try telling the hubby what she wants him to do in the bedroom?


You took the words out of my mouth. Does it even cross her mind that the Op (hubby) is stressed by work and the challenges of providing for a young family like theirs in these times? Hence she should stop sleeping on his emotional needs as his wife because she's supposed to be a sort of comforter to him. You know, he comes back home after a hard day at work. She runs him a bath, feeds him good, encourage him while he eats dinner and then later in the night screw him real good while telling him everything will be ok. I bet the Op (hubby) too after receiving such a treat would wanna please her too.


Yea right. Op, sit your wife down and have a heart2heart discussion. Tell her you feel and the challenges you're facing. Also demand to know whats bottling her up and what she expects of you. Simply, talk WITH your wife

How can someone keep making so much sense like this. Fury your head no just dey there, e pass well well.