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Please sisters, may I have a copy of the supernatural child birth e-book?. I will really appreciate it. thesugarfairyng@gmail.com

[quote author=tsquaure post=38718478][/quote]Thanks dearies. ..I hAve gone to see my gyno and thankfully after scans he assured me that the Fertilaid is probably trying to regularise my cycle. For now I am on observation for this month. Baby dust!!!

Good day everyone and baby dust to you all. I started following this thread a couple of days ago and I have been pondering since then if I should share my dilemma. I started TTC some months back and got on fertilaid 2 months ago. Before then I had a missed or rather delayed period (I tend to have an irregular cycle once i get stressed). I was hoping fertiliaid will help regularise that and boost my chances, but it's been 2 months and this intermittent spotting won't stop. As in I could spot like a few drops bi-weekly or every week. Am so worried and too scared to go see the Gyno. Has anyone experienced this please. Help!

ifyalways: Reporting live from Onitsha . . .

Truly,I was surprised to hear that Ngige organized a rally yesterday in Onitsha. Mind you,Im his ardent surpporter.
Our Ofala festival is widely announced,even a year before. All major roads(Awka road,Okosi road,Ugwunabankpa,ime ogbe nile) are shut down.
Ofala is our sacred festival and lasts for a whole week. No one is buried,married or any sort of gathering allowed within Ofala week.
Why then did Ngige fall hand ?

Was he mis-informed? Could he have been communicating with a fake palace secretary?

He has just lost some supporters yet again after yesterday's incident.I feel bad but as a titled Igwe nwanyi with complete Odu aka to boot, the gods of our land wont be happy if i vote/align with/support a man that have desecrated our land. A lot of people share same sentiment. I now fear for Ngige's candidacy but i still wish he emerges victorious come November.

As at yesterday night, titled men and women (Igwe nwanyi's,diokpa's,agbalanze,ozo,odu,nne nmo,Onowu etc)have been mandated to inform their kit and kin that anyone found voting,campaigning for Ngige would be ex-communicated. It's that bad.

Please tell them! Traditions and customs may be going extinct but one that is still going strong is Onitsha's. The ofala is considered sacred even to the most learned Onitsha indigene. Note that Agbogidi Achebe is highly educated.

manny4life: My friend please do us a favor and be quiet..Go read about the man, a top senior exec @ shell, our chiefs and Igwe's are not rascals and illiterates, MOST of them attained the highest echelon of life.

Beyond the Obi sef, Dude thinks the Igwe' council dashes out titles? The only title anyone can get as they so choose or want is the Ozo or Odu titles so pllllls it's got nothing to do with him wanting to give them titles n them refusing.

IMO there's no way the Obi's secretary would have okayed Ngige et al's visit before or during the Ofala. If I remember onitsha traditions well, the Obi goes into seclusion the week before the Ofala and only reappears to the public on the ofala day. Ngige can't say he doesn't know this

dokunbam: Desperate House Wives
Everybody hates Chris
Ugly Betty
Dirty Sexy money
Smallville

Dude Smallville and DH Ended. They weren't cancellef

handebayor: 1.STARGATE OF ATLANTIS- its uncomplete, no end to the war against the wraiths and my best ever series.
2.Terra Nova-its got potentials.
3.Vampire diaries- its highly doubtful they re gonna continue though i hope not.
4.Fringe-same with vampire diaries.
5.Legend of the seeker

Vampire diaries S05 has started airing!. Though from the book, I am thinking this will be its final season seeing as its spinoff - "The Originals" just started airing too.

Believe it or not, guys aren't deaf and there are many ways to make your guy listen.No one likes being ignored, especially when trying to say something important. While everyone I know has their own methods, you can get amazing results through a few tried and true ways to make your guy listen.

1. PAY ATTENTION TO HIM

After talking to a some guy friends, I was surprised to find out one of the reasons they tune out is because they're ignored. It's easy to get caught up talking about your day and forget to ask about his. One of the easiest ways to make your guy listen is by listening to him. You'll make him feel important and he'll be inclined to return the favor by listening to what you say. You will be amazed at how sensitive guys are and listening is as important to them as it is to you.

2. STAY ON TOPIC

I'm incredibly random and skip from topic to topic. If you want your guy to listen to something, stay on the topic. The more you change subjects while making a point, the more you get the blank stare. Now, make a point of staying on the topic and being as concise as possible. The result is a guy who can actually repeat what you say, even hours or days later.

3. CHOOSE THE RIGHT TIME

I'm not saying you can only talk to your guy at certain times, but there is a right and wrong time for conversation. Think about how difficult it is for you to pay attention after a hard day at work. If you hit your guy with conversation the moment he walks through the door, he may not hear much of what you say. Wait until he's had a moment to relax and change focus from work to home. Also, it's not even worth it to try to interrupt him when he's engrossed in a TV show, movie or a favorite activity. Choosing the right time means he'll be tuned in to you.

4. DON'T NAG

Start nagging a guy and he'll either go on the defensive or tune out completely. I don't like it when people do it to me, so I know my guy's not going to either. Be respectful, yet authoritative when asking your guy to do something or reminding him about a chore. If he puts you off, explain why it's important. Treating him like an adult instead of a child magically makes his ears start working again.

5. SHARE HIS INTERESTS

I believe in the opposites attract theory. The problem is your interests may not always mesh with his. Even if it's something you're not interested in, listen to him prattle on about the latest sports game or action flick. When it's your turn to talk about fashion trends, he'll be more likely to listen. Sharing interests ensures the conversation is always a two-way street. If he doesn't want to listen, remind him about all the things you listened to and he'll quickly change his tune.

6. GIVE HIM A SIGNAL

Sometimes a guy is so busy with something else that he truly doesn't realize you're talking. I didn't really understand this until I thought about how I tune out distractions when I'm watching an interesting movie or reading a good book. When you need to tell him something important and you want to make sure he listens, give him a signal. Tap him on the arm, lay a hand on his leg or look him straight in the eyes. He knows you want his attention he's happy to comply.

7. TALK ABOUT IT

Get rid of all the distractions and ask your guy why he doesn't listen to you. Some guys don't realize how often they tune their partner out. The problem could be something stressful in his life instead of just him. Being open with your guy helps you both understand each other better so both parties become better listeners.

8. SPEAK UP

If you're a soft spoken kind of girl, speak up a little. Make sure your guy can actually hear you. After all, if he doesn't know you're talking, he isn't going to listen.

9. KEEP IT SIMPLE

While us girls may love hearing a lot of unrelated details, guys aren't that interested. If you don't want him to tune out, keep what you tell him simple and concise. For example, if you want him to do several things, give him a quick, simple list instead of explaining each task in detail and why he needs to do it. Odds are, he'll only hear the first task. Guys hear far more if it's basic without a lot of flair.



Most guys are good listeners if you talk to them correctly. Sometimes you have to remind yourself that he's not one of the girls. While he'll occasionally tune out, it doesn't take much to get his attention again.



What methods do you use to make sure your guy always pay attention when you speak?

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The 21st Premier League is well and truly underway. In this brief article let's take a look at the five biggest lunatics ever to embrace our league.

5. Lee Bowyer



Premier League Clubs: Leeds, Newcastle, West Ham

Bowyer's date with the newspaper front pages began while at Charlton, where he and a teammate tested positive for cannabis. However, much worse was to come during his high-profile spell with Leeds. Firstly, Bowyer was accused of an alleged racist incident at a McDonalds. Then, he and teammate Jonathan Woodgate were charged after an incident outside a Leeds nightclub. Bowyer was eventually cleared following two trials, but an argument with Leeds over his discipline led to his exit.
Controversy seemed to follow Boywer as a mid-match fight with teammate Kieron Dyer earned him a six-game ban and a police conviction for using threatening behaviour. A monstrous 80 yellow cards and five red in the Premier League are almost forgotten in light of his off the pitch antics.

4. Ashley Cole



Premier League Clubs: Arsenal, Chelsea

Ashley Cole in the twilight of his careers has settled down, earning his 100th England cap, and captaining his country on numerous occasions. However, it wasn't his recent antics which got him the label of being controversial.
During his time at Arsenal, he grew an unwanted reputation for diving. This was the start of what was to come as his reputation grew when he switched the red of the Gunners to the blue of Chelsea during the time when he became really unpopular.
His famous quote of feeling "physically sick" at the thought of being offered 'only' £55k-a-week enraged fans. He then attracted the wrath of the football establishment after arrogantly turning his back on Mike Riley, who was trying to book him for a high tackle against Spurs.
Despite being a fairly quiet individual, and a fantastic full-back Cole still managed to anger many when he tweeted calling the FA a bunch of tw*ts' in October 2012.

3. Eric Cantona


Premier League Clubs: Manchester United

Eric Cantona is not only a United legend, he perhaps had the greatest impact of any overseas player in the Premier League. But opposition fans never liked him, principally because he was deemed arrogant and partly because he was an integral component of a dominant side.
Leeds despised him with a passion after he ditched them for their bitter rivals across the Pennines, but Cantona needlessly fanned the flames by idiotically spitting at a Leeds fan at Elland Road. His astonishing flying kung fu kick on a Crystal Palace fan increased his notoriety and saw him banned for nine months. Cantona revelled as a figure of hate, leading United to four titles, two FA Cups and a League Cup.

2. Luis Suarez



Premier League Clubs : Liverpool

Where do we start with the Uruguayan. With great quality comes great stupidity should be the motto surrounding Luis Suarez.
Before his Liverpool days his reputation was not the best, having bitten a PSV player with Ajax he was banned seven matches. With Uruguay, before this cannibalistic episode, in the 2010 World Cup he stopped a ball with his hand to deny Ghana a certain goal to take them through to the semi-finals.
Despite being a wonderfully gifted player, and scoring 30 goals in all competitions for Liverpool last season, the controversy seemed to have followed Suarez, when he allegedly racially abused Patrice Evra and was given an eight match ban in December 2011. After refusing to shake Evra's hand in the reverse fixture that season, he again bit Branislav Ivanovic against Chelsea at Anfield last season and has just completed a 12 match ban. Complete nutter.

1. Mario Balotelli



Premier League Clubs: Manchester City

Well,well, well where do you even start with Mario Balotelli. He came to the Premier League with the reputation of a bad boy sewn into his veins. His first big controversial moment was in Manchester United's embarrassing 6-1 defeat to rivals Manchester City. They derby was intensified after Balotelli celebrated scoring the first goal of the game by lifting up his shirt to reveal another shirt underneath it with the words 'WHY ALWAYS ME?' written across the front.

Then later that season in a key title decider with Tottenham Hotspur, Balotelli appeared to stamp on Scott Parker's head. This enraged Spurs fans as he went on to score the winning penalty and effectively ruin Tottenham's title bid. He went back to Milan in January 2013, but it is fair to say the Premier League will never be the same without him....
So, tell me, is the list apt? Lol.....

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They just had to add Nigeria to the story!!! Please what proof do they have of her being in naija?

All in the quest to get married, New York Post journalist, Stephanie Smith, truly believes the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. After her boyfriend told her she is 300 sandwiches away from an engagement ring, Stephanie got cooking and started a blog to document her progress. She is currently at sandwich #176.
Stephanie says her relationship to her boyfriend, “Alexander Skarsgård look-alike” Eric, has always been centered on food. They met at a restaurant, he cooked her dinner on their second date, and they’ve hosted numerous dinner-parties together, so she knew how important food was to him. And there was nothing he liked more than sandwiches. “To him, sandwiches are like kisses or hugs. Or sex,” the young journalist says. The two New-Yorkers had been going steady for about a year and even moved into a cozy apartment together, but Stephanie was wondering what it would take for Eric to finally pop the big question. She found the answer one day, after she made him her first sandwich, turkey on whole wheat bread, with mustard, lettuce and swiss cheese. “Honey, this is the best sandwich ever!” Eric told her in between bites. When he was done, he dropped the bomb on her: “You’re, like, 300 sandwiches away from an engagement ring.” That was it, the secret to the marriage proposal she had been dreaming of. Stephanie didn’t really know how to cook, but she was willing to learn and she wasn’t one to back down from a challenge.



Smith’s friends weren’t exactly supportive of the idea. “How ‘Stepford Wives’ of you!” one of her single girlfriends said, while another told her “It’s not 1950! It’s chauvinistic! He’s saying, ‘Cook for me, woman, and maybe I’ll make you my wife.’” Even her own mother had some doubts. “Honey, can you even cook?” she asked. But Stephanie wasn’t going to let all the negativity get between her and her goal. Plus, she didn’t share her friends’view of the whole situation. “Some say I’m just desperate to get engaged. Hardly. I don’t have to be,” Stephanie writes on her 300 Sandwiches blog. “Eric didn’t say ‘cook me 300 sandwiches or I’m leaving you!’ He gave me a challenge—a dare, to some degree—and the type-A, Tracy Flick side of me can’t stand being challenged. I will prove to him and the rest of the world I can make the 300 sandwiches.”
Oh Lord! I can’t stop laughing!!!!. Come to think of it, do you guys think he was serious about the statement??

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I know, I know....."premarital sex is a sin", true.

But I read an article posing this question and I had to share it, and throw it open for discussion.....Read excerpts from the article culled from Your Tango

I got a call from a client earlier today that really annoyed me. She’d been out the night before on a first date. The guy asked her if she’d have sex with him, and when she said, “Not until I know you better,” he started getting annoyed and told he she was a tease.

I’ve been in the relationship business for nearly 20 years, and I can’t believe there are still men that behave like that. It’s one of the reasons I’m so determined to teach guys how to behave with, and communicate better with women.

You see here’s the truth…

Real men who are used to having sex, and men who understand women properly will NEVER attack a women for not having sex with him; especially only after one date!

Men who get angry when a woman won’t sleep with them are the ones who don’t have sex on a regular basis. They’re so hungry for sex, when they get an opportunity they become aggressive. Think of a dog that hasn’t eaten for days being thrown a steak.

A guy who reacts badly when you hold off from sex is telling you what sort of person he is. He’s pretty much saying, “I’m a very insecure guy who hasn’t had sex in ages. I’m so desperate for this opportunity because if I don’t sleep with you now, I may not get another shot for ages.”

Seriously, you need to keep away from this kind of “man.” They’re not emotionally mature enough for a relationship. Even if you like them, I guarantee it’ll end badly for you.

If a guy accuses you of teasing or leading him on, get rid of him as soon as you can. You can do so much better.

So what do you think? When should sex be introduced in relationships. 1 month?, 2 months? , sometime? Or NEVER? ?. Lol.

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Miley Cyrus says she's done Twerking.....Shall we all Rise and Praise The Lord!!!
Miley Cyrus is n*ked … again … but could her twerking days be over? According to the new issue of Rolling Stone, they are.

Following her 100% n*de music video for “Wrecking Ball,” the pop star is stripping down again for the magazine’s cover, covering her cleavage with her arms as she gets out of a pool in the buff.

And yes, she’s still sticking out her tongue.

Inside the issue, Miley says she hears what people are saying about her -- and she seems to understand the backlash."People are like, 'Miley thinks she's a black girl, but she's got the flattest ass ever,'" she says. "I'm like, 'I'm 108 pounds! I know!'"

Talking specifically about her infamous VMA performance, she adds "Now people expect me to come out and twerk with my tongue out all the time. I'll probably never do that s--t again.""I wasn't trying to be sexy,"...ya think??

And she goes on to say..... "If I was trying to be sexy, I could have been sexy. I can dance a lot better than I was dancing."
Well, We'll believe it when we see it.

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I had to share this because I sooo love John Legend's music, especially "ordinary people"

John Legend and Chrissy Teigen are finally hitched! The Grammy-winning singer married the model in an intimate wedding at Villa Pizzo in Lake Como, Italy on Saturday, Sept. 14, his rep confirms to Us Weekly.
Mr. and Mrs. Legend were feted by family and friends, including Kanye West and Stevie Wonder. The "Isn't She Lovely" singer also performed with Legend as a special treat. Actress and model Brooklyn Decker took on the role as maid of honor and Biz Markie helped DJ the celebration. Teigen's other close friend and bridesmaid, sports journalist Erin Andrews, was unfortunately unable to take off work to attend.
Teigen, 27, wore three Vera Wang** dresses for the big occasion, including an ivory strapless open back, V-neck ballgown for the ceremony, and an ivory strapless mermaid gown with a pleated bodice for the reception. She finished off her stunning looks with a crimson strapless mermaid gown with a hand-draped bodice and inverted flange skirt with crystal embroidery for the after party.
To top it off, the blushing bride even got serenaded by the "Ordinary People" singer! "I will be singing for her, 'All Of Me,' which I wrote for her," Legend, 34, previously told Us at his private performance at The Box in NYC on Aug. 27. "I wrote most of the album about her."
The song is featured on his latest album Love In The Future, which was released over a week ago, on Sept. 3. A source tells Us that the couple made the decision to say "I do" before Legend left to tour in October.
As for pre-wedding jitters, the pair revealed that getting cold feet was never an issue. "I guess you're supposed to get nervous before you get married but I feel good," Legend said at NYC club The Box on Aug. 27. Teigen similarly admitted that any worry she may have had before her trip down the aisle was over something silly. "My jitters come from the dumbest things, like, 'Oh my God, there are a few steps I have to go down," she told Us at the REAL-volutionary Awards Fashion Week Kickoff Party in NYC on Sept. 4. "I'm having these little nightmares [that] I'm going to fall."
She continued: "But no! We've been together for like a long time now so there's no, 'Is this the right decision?' No. There's none of that."
Indeed, the Sports Illustrated supermodel** had some fun before saying "I do" when she was joined by friends for a bachelorette party in Mexico in late August. "[There] were 10 girls in total," a source told Us. "They stayed at the Viceroy [Riviera Maya luxury resort] and had a blast!"
Legend and Teigen began dating in 2007. The "Tonight" singer's rep later told Us in late December 2011 that the R&B singer popped the question while the couple vacationed over the holidays in the Maldives.
"She's beautiful, smart, funny, a smitten Legend told Us about his new bride back on Sept. 5 at the Galore magazine party in NYC. "She loves to cook. She loves to eat. She's awesome."

HAPPY MARRIED LIFE LEGEND!!!!

thats scary. I see pics of these baby carriers that lets you carry both babies. 1 infront and the other behind. That leaves both hands free right?. How do you make out time for yourself? . I can’t shooooooout!!!!!!!!!!

Connoisseur: This post is so on point. Trying to cope with my 5 month old twins. Aint easy at this stage though we ve got plenty of help.
Can't wait for them to start crawling all over the place and scattering things

Awww that's so sweet. I envisage having them so I had to find out what I should look forward to. Share your experience?

Does this sound familiar? "I'm successful at work but just can't make it happen in love." If you are a single, successful woman over 30-35, who has excelled in academics and the professional sphere, it's not so easy to meet the right man.

It is believed that it hurts a man's ego to have a more successful wife and also that Successful women are not used to compromising, whereas all marriages need compromise to be successful.

Some men say that successful women intimidate men who are not very confident and have a point to prove. They hold back and wonder whether they will be accepted or the woman is high-maintenance."

It's widely accepted wisdom that women are attracted to power and success, while men are attracted to youth and beauty.

Some say It's all about luck. Successful women can definitely find love and have meaningful relationships and that it also depends upon the man she is involved with. Some can sustain their relationship, some don't. So air your views: Does romance elude successful women or not, and why?

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uchechuwku: Miley is actually Older

Nope Rihanna is older. 25 against 20 abi nah 21 sef

Though there are claims that a woman's face is like an open book that reveals her state of mind(mine is sha), but men need to beware!

Better not take it as the last verdict, for irrespective of how much you trust and adore your little angel, women do lie to their significant others at times.......just like men.

Sometimes to carry off a situation without hurting his feelings or to save herself from trouble, while on occasions to contain her emotions and pose as Ms. Goody...popping casual, white lies is no big deal for women when it comes to playing it safe in the relationship.

White lies are no big blunders or massive betrayals, but small lies or 'truth manipulated' to handle a situation. At times she might fib to make her man feel better, to avoid a fight, or an embarrassing situation.

Here's a little help so that men can figure out when their adorable darling is not speaking her heart out and help them handle the situation with care.....and also to balance the scale a little concerning the premise that "mostly men lie in relationships"

Lie #1: "Oh! It's fine. I'm OK"

Guards on guys! You must know that she's not fine at all and nothing is OK. And sooner or later you will have to bear the brunt of her pent up emotions that she has somehow managed to hold back until now. You'll find her taking this emotional defense on occasions when you may have forgotten her birthday, taken her for granted or have done anything that hurts her.
To portray that she doesn't care, the emotional lady prefers taking a refuge in this lie.

Lie detector:
Well, an experienced lover would know of the crime that he has committed, but the amateurs should look out for her reactions. She might not get vocal, but will do everything to make you feel guilty about the fact that you have hurt her. From being tight-lipped to giving the briefest responses that don't go beyond 'hmms, huhs or yes and no', to mean tones and loads of sarcasm - are a few hints that you can look out for.
We Women have a tendency of expecting our man to understand the said, as well as the unsaid, and that leaves men in a dicey situation. And even here, by keeping quite or going away with a small 'I'm fine', we expect you to know that we hurt.

Lie # 2: "I love you for what you are"
...and I don't want you to change.

Well, may God be your saviour if you believe her for this. No wonders, if sheer pampering or impressing you might strictly be on her mind when she's saying this.

Agreed, that you don't like this lie. But just imagine how it would feel if to your face she told you how much she hated your paunch or how bad you looked in those lose-fitted denims. Thank her for appreciating you and taking care of your confidence levels.

Lie detector:
If you start observing the occasions when she backs this mushy phrase, you might just realise she's not lying at all. On most of the occasions it comes when you have made her happy with anything like a gift, a movie, a romantic dinner or for that matter by doing anything and everything that she loves. You were good to her and that's your innate quality, which made her fall for you.

Lie # 3: You stare, I don't care!

Either you are too lucky to have the coolest woman by your side, or you are getting an inflated ego without any reason if you believe her on this. No matter how hard she tries to look cool and composed, but the fact remains that no woman loves it when her man ogles at another woman. "After all, who wants to feel like second best? And the 'I don't care attitude' is usually to hide the vulnerability and a pretence. Most women hate their man staring at another woman.

Lie detector
She doesn't want to show you how she's feeling and is no less desperate to tell you that you are torturing her to the core. Well, easy indications to know she's lying can be the trail of questions she'll end up asking you. Casually and candidly she'll ask you things like 'Isn't she hot?' 'What makes her so hot? 'Did you like her?' She might appear to be your best buddy, but actually she wants to ask you, 'Do I score less that the chic you are ogling at?' And your answer will decide your fate not immediately, but definitely in the future, so better beware of what you say!

Lie # 4: Your friends are cool!

This might not be a lie always, but many a times your friends are nothing but a 'passion spoiler' for your girl, especially when they pop up during private moments.
Most of the times women end up praising your friends for you. They don't want to hurt you by revealing the truth and hope that you'll understand without saying, which usually doesn't happen.

Lie detector
A sure shot hint to the lie is written on her face. Despite being in the group she'll remain an outsider. The smile that's usually worth a million dollars might just look purely artificial and forced. Her replies to all your enquiries will end in a cover up lie, 'I'm fine sweet heart' or 'I'm enjoying myself' and that takes you to Lie #1. So, when you get something like this from your girl, understand that you are getting into too much buddy-bonding!

Lie # 5: Tell me, trust me I won't get angry

This one is tricky, leaving you with a ditch on one side and a bigger ditch on the other. This lie is usually thrown at you when she wants an honest opinion and knows what it can be, but still wants to hear it. Beware guys! Irrespective of what you say, she is going to get furious for sure. This usually happens in questions related to her looks, the food that she cooks, that tangy orange shirt she brought for you etc.

Lie detector
Well, there's no detector for this one, for undoubtedly she's lying. Then what's the solution? It's not that women cannot take true criticism from their man or expect praises all the time. But what they actually expect is that criticism should come in a softer and suggestive manner, rather than a striking taunt on her looks. So, without being too critical or over flattering, just tell her that she needs to work out on her minuses."

PHEW! Now it's your turn to share the sweet and salty white lies that you tell your man , or for the guys your woman pours on you to leave you playing a guessing game of true or false. hehehehhe. Fire on people!!!!!.

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kglamour: Gboju be

Oh my!!!! didnt expect anyone would actually post a pix

7 THINGS NEVER TO DO WHEN DRUNK
Its the "freak'n" weekend and i know a lot of y'all are all about partying, letting your hair down and painting the town blue-black.
Now, Drinking may be fun, but ensure that you don't have to bear the consequences.
Here's a tentative list of things to avoid doing when you have had a lil too much of your favourite chardonnay. ....

Drunk driving
This one is extremely serious. Not only are you risking your own life, but also that of the others in the car and those who are out on the road or in other vehicles. Make sure that you either take a cab back home or have a sober friend who can take over the task. It's not macho to drive when you are drunk.

Click pictures and upload them online
You do lose inhibitions when you are drunk, but if your drunken revelry finds its way online, it may cause a lot of trouble. Pictures that are loaded online can never be completely wiped off. You wouldn't want your boss to see your party pictures, right?

Drunk texting
Whether it's your friend or someone you are interested in, don't start a conversation with someone when you are drunk. You never know when your rather 'high' spirits may get you into some big trouble.

Get flirtatious with a stranger
Beauty does lie in the eye of the beerholder, but the illusion is bound to wear off once the beer haze passes away. You may end up regretting your actions the morning after your drunken revelry and do what is known as the 'walk of shame'.

Talk to your ex
Most people get highly emotional after a few drinks and dialling your ex will seem to be the perfect solution. Resist that temptation. It never helps to keep blabbering when you are high. In fact, you may end up quashing all chances of resurrecting your relationship with your drunken talk.

Respond to anything that's work-related
Well, you really don't want to mix business with pleasure. Sometimes, it is necessary to use a certain language while writing an official mail and you may just type things that you don't mean to. Ensure that your drunken state doesn't affect your career.

Get into a fight
When drunk, you may think that anyone who disagrees with you is committing a crime. But that is not the time to go about serving justice. Make sure that spats stay verbal and don't reach the physical level. You may not just end up with a black eye, but also a broken bone or two.....

Hasta la vista.. (did I get that right? ). Enjoy the rest of your weekend dearies....xoxo, Jay.

Talking about it and putting yourself in the other person's shoes works all the time for me.

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addictiv: mine went like this yesterday after two good years of a blissful relationship,i noticed she was consciously avoiding me and asked her about it and this was her response

woman :i love you but i really need to be alone right now, i need to think things through cos our relationship is so complicated.

addictiv: k how long should i wait for you to make up you mind?

woman: i dont know, i just want to be alone for sometime


addictiv: i want to see you

woman:no i cant see you,i want to be by myself

addictiv:can i call you

woman:yes feel free to call me anytime

please translate this for me cos me isnt thinking straight ryt now

errrrhm In my opinion dude! u been dumped!!!

Tolexander: OP, you are trying o.
Are you talking from experience?

one doesn't need to experience it to know! no?. i believe in learning from other people's mistakes...Even though i do make some myself

We all know it’s very hard sometimes to find and maintain a perfect balance between your career and personal life. It’s not always easy to face both your challenges from work and duties at home. If you spend too much time at work, you might miss out on a few significant things in your personal life, but if you focus too much on other things and neglect your job, this might have some unpleasant and unwanted consequences for your financial status. It’s hard, but at the same time, not impossible to find the perfect balance between your career and personal life. Just read on and find out how you can do this!

MANAGE YOUR TIME EFFICIENTLY
One of the best tips I could give you on how to find and keep a perfect balance between your career and personal life is to advise you to learn how to manage your time efficiently. You could put together a calendar of your family schedule that could contain the most important days in your life, the events you have to attend and also, a list of your chores. This way, you will always know what you have to do and when you have to do it or where you have to go, and you’ll avoid all that stress associated with deadlines.

DON’T BRING YOUR PROBLEMS HOME FROM WORK
Another mistake people often do when it comes to finding the perfect balance between career and personal life is the fact that they forget to set some clear boundaries between those two and they end up bringing home their problems from work. By doing this, you can actually harm not only yourself but your entire family as well. No one will be happy by seeing you stressed out, upset or even angry. So, learn how to set clear boundaries and stick to them.

WHEN YOU’RE AT WORK, FOCUS ONLY ON WHAT YOU HAVE TO DO
If you’re that type of person that always likes to help other people and everybody turns to you when they’re facing some difficulties, then try to be more assertive sometimes. Of course, it’s nice to be appreciated by other people, but sometimes that appreciation may cost you too much. Learn how to act in an assertive manner, learn how to say no, and when you’re at work try to focus only on what you have to do. This way you’ll avoid long hours because you’ve helped someone and you didn’t have time to finish your own work.

DEDICATE AT LEAST ONE DAY EVERY WEEK TO YOUR LOVED ONES
If you’re always extremely busy, even during the weekends, you should always try to make some time and save one day of the week for spending some quality fun time with your loved ones, whether they’re your family or your friends. This will help you feel more relaxed, it will recharge your batteries and your loved ones will appreciate it too, ‘cos they probably miss you a lot during the week.

DON’T TAKE YOUR WORK HOME!
Always keep in mind that you have to find the perfect balance between work and your personal life. In order to do that, at the end of your work day, avoid taking your work home because you didn’t have enough time to complete your tasks during your work hours. First, find out why this has happened; maybe you have too many tasks and too little time to do them, or maybe you don’t focus enough at work and you waste some precious time doing nothing. Taking work home or doing work-related activities in your spare time is not the answer!

TAKE SOME TIME FOR YOURSELF
Each day, you should try to take some time to yourself (no matter how little it would be), to do something you enjoy like walking, going to a gym, talking on the phone with a dear friend or with a family member, reading a good book or listening to your favorite song. Always make some time for yourself, no matter how busy you are! After all, you are the one who counts the most, not your job and not your work duties.

GET ENOUGH SLEEP
There’s nothing more dangerous to your health than working without having enough sleep. You’ll affect your productivity and you can make some pretty expensive mistakes, too, if you’re always tired on the job. Be sure to always get enough rest and get at least 7 hours of sleep each night. By being more rested, your mood will improve, you’ll face your daily challenges much easier and you’ll have the time and the energy for your friends and family.
It is extremely important to find and to keep the perfect balance between your career and personal life in order to live a happy fulfilled life. Do you manage to do this or do you feel overwhelmed sometimes?
If you’re one of the lucky people who managed to find the perfect work-life balance, please share your advice with me and tell me how you did it!

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many ladies pray everyday to have twin or triplet babies...Primary Reason? it saves us the stress of having to get pregnant many times. But whenever we see these adorable tots especially the identical ones in most times matching outfits, and we go all coo coo, ahh ahh, i wannnt one!!, we fail to see the the stress and hard work it takes to raise these babies. The thing is, these parents adore their twin babies and would go through the stress a million times again, but the fact remains that raising them was tough,

Now, I am one of the "I adore and want twins" women, so i did some research, and asked some experienced parents of twins, for pointers on how to ease up on the stress that comes with raising twins, so here goes the top pointers!. Hope it helps you all, and please leave comments on your child birth and raising experiences, because we all could sure use some help!lol

START RECRUITING HELP EARLY .......During your pregnancy
Start recruiting help now, whether you'll be going back to work or staying home. "Planning for extra help is one of the greatest gifts you can provide for your babies, your other children, your husband..
Many moms-to-be get overwhelmed thinking about the many things that are out of their control, like,"Would the babies be okay? Would I deliver early?" But don't worry about what you can't control. Instead, focus on what you can, like your diet. Women of normal prepregnancy weight need about 2,700 calories each day. "They should gain 24 pounds by 24 weeks of pregnancy, then about 1 1/2 pounds each week." Underweight women should aim to gain 45 pounds, and overweight women will want to gain between 20 and 25 pounds. Expecting triplets or more? You'll need to add 5 to 10 pounds extra per additional fetus, depending on your starting weight.

NO SCHEDULE MEANS NO LIFE FOR YOU

It is hard enough raising a single baby, but when you have newborn twins, you definitely NEED to have everything on a schedule. Get the babies on the same feeding and diaper schedule. they will eventually learn to adapt.

YOU CAN BREASTFEED BOTH BABIES AT THE SAME TIME

If you breastfeed, you can feed both babies at the same time with one twin at each breast, mother of twins, Walker says. She did'nt like how it felt though. So her solution?: She breastfed one, and bottlefed the other at the same time. She would sit on the floor, breastfeeding one baby while the other lay on a pillow in front of her or on her side with the bottle. This usually took her 45 minutes... whew!!. here's to super mummy!!!!.

ONE CRIB IS FINE IN THE BEGINNING
Newborn twins can certainly remain in the same crib initially. If they sleep better knowing the other is close by, then they could share a crib till they can move into their childhood beds. You may have to switch to two cribs though if and when the twins begin to roll, bump into one another and wake each other up.
while using one crib is okay, two carseats and a double stroller are absolute musts for twins.




NEWBORN TWINS SHARE EVERYTHING -- Including Germs.
Twins are like all siblings in that they certainly get each other's illnesses. If one twin has a contagious infection, the sibling has the same risk of getting it as he or she would if someone else in the house had that infection. Parents of newborn twins may consider separating the two if one comes down with a contagious illness right after birth. This means if one twin has chickenpox, you can separate them and let the healthy twin stay somewhere else to minimize the risk. You can’t reduce the risk to zero, but you can control it better.

GOOD, BAD OR IN BETWEEN, YOUR TWINS' RELATIONSHIP WILL BE FASCINATING.

Identical twins tend to get along better and have stronger bonds than fraternal ones, but it’s impossible to characterize the connection between twins in any one way. You may have one twin who’s more outgoing and speaks for both of them. You may have twins who take turns being the “outgoing” one and the “shy” one. Your twins may be inseparable and have their own language (called idioglossia, when twins mimic each other’s babbles instead of their parents’ speech). Or, your twins may fight like cats and dogs when they’re together but hate to be separated. Throughout their youth and young adulthood, your twins’ primary relationship will be the one they have with each other. The ways in which they adapt to and for each other will be beautiful — and sometimes painful — to watch, as they figure out themselves in relation to each other.

TWINS MAY BE SIMILAR, BUT THEY ARE ALSO DIFFERENT.
When you have two kids the exact same age in one family, competition is inevitable. Sometimes, that’s a good thing. One twin might be more motivated to give walking a try when he sees his brother cruising around. And when you’re toilet training, a race to pee in the potty can make the process shorter for twins. But too much competition isn’t healthy: Try to avoid comparing your kids and emphasize each twin’s individual strengths. And spend one-on-one time with each twin as often as you can to nurture their individuality and independence from each other.
Encourage the differences between your twins. Most children do have their own strengths and weaknesses, and twins are no exception.

PARENTING TWINS GETS EASIER AND EASIER......Amen To That!!!!.

Now, the good news: Raising twins will not be this difficult forever. With twins, the hard work is front-loaded in the first three years or so. Later on, your same-age siblings will be able to entertain each other. Plus, you can put them in the same schools,and extracurricular activities without having to shuttle between programs suited for different ages. Also, they’ll likely be interested in the same shows and movies, eliminating fights over the remote, and you’ll have one bedtime instead of two.Get through the challenges of infancy and toddlerhood (and you will) and your twins will reward you handsomely.

Hope this post has been helpful. Please do share your views and general tips to raising babies... xoxo, Jay

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lol, are a guy. share the ones you have heard from women nah..This is basically from a woman's point of view

definitely COCA-COLA!!!!. There's something about the taste that's refreshing... pepsi tastes flat after a few sips.

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After the wedding bells have rung, the vows have been said, and the rings have been exchanged, your life as a married woman begins. Once the wedding is over, you and your new husband will have a lot of decisions to make, especially regarding finances. Money can be a relationship breaker, so when it comes time to merge your money, take as much advice as you can get.

Here are 14 tips for combining finances after marriage according to madame noire.......

Make sure you’re both in agreement

Before either of you can start the process of combining finances with each other, you’ll have to sit down and talk and decide if the two of you are on the same page. You may find that your husband isn’t exactly keen on combining finances right away while you’d like to get this process done and out of the way tomorrow. You both have to be on the same page before you make any monetary decisions.

Make money a priority
After the wedding you’re still probably on Cloud 9 and there are a lot of tasks to complete. From name changes to the honeymoon to just enjoying life as a married couple, you won’t have a lot of free time unless you plan for it. Before making any other huge decisions and life plans, be sure that the two of you make money a high priority on the list. You’ll want to work on a plan for combining finances as soon as possible.

Own up to your financial situation
Whatever you and your husband decide to do in regard to finances, be sure that you are both open with each other about your monetary situation. If you have a lot of credit card debt, it’s important that your husband knows about this. If you have a savings account at some other bank that you do not touch, make sure that he knows. The same goes for your husband. You should have a good idea of where his money is going and how much debt he has.

Pay off debt ASAP
Before getting married, a lot of couples work to pay off as much of their debt as possible. However, weddings are expensive and can put you right back into debt. If you, your husband, or both of you have credit card debt or other high-interest debt, be sure to pay it off before you go through the process of combining finances. The cleaner the slate the better, and the less chance of problems popping up along the course.

Examine your buying habits
Married couples tend to sometimes go above and beyond their economic means to buy the things that they want. All newlywed couples want a new home and a new car that they can call theirs. However, after getting married, both of you will want to sit down and take a good look at your purchasing habits. Do you go on shopping sprees every weekend? Is your new husband keen on buying new shoes every single month? These purchases will matter when you two decide to go about combining finances.

Open a joint account
Opening a joint account is one of the biggest steps towards combining finances. With a joint account, the two of you will have a single account that both of you have access to deposit and withdraw money from. This account should strictly be used for bills that both of you are responsible for paying such as the mortgage, HOA fees, the water bill, the gas and electric bill, and so on. This account makes paying household and joint bills much easier.

Keep a personal account as well
Just because you are combining finances with your husband doesn’t mean that you can’t still have your own personal account. This account is for your use only. So when you want to go to the mall and buy yourself a ton of clothes, you can do so without having to touch the money in the joint account. The same goes for your husband. If he has a separate account for just himself, let him keep it and use it when he needs to.

Map out your finances
Successfully combining finances requires some work and calculations. Since you are now a married couple, here’s a chance to determine how much money and expenses the two of you can expect as a couple. Hop on the computer or grab a pencil and paper and create a spreadsheet that gets all of your financial details into writing. Write down your gross monthly pay, as well as your husband’s, and start deducting the bills you two must pay together. This will help the two of you stay accountable.

Determine how expenses will be divided
For some couples this question is a no-brainer and for others, it requires a lot of serious thought and consideration. Some couples automatically go for the 50/50 approach, where both of you put in the same amount of money towards the bills. But, this isn’t the only way to do things once you’ve decided on combining finances. Some couples may find that one partner can pay all of the bills while others may decide that pitching forth a percentage is the best way to go about things. Find the way that works best for you two.

Have an emergency fund
Life is extremely unpredictable and the fact is that things can change in an instant. When it comes to money, it’s always best to be prepared for any situation that may come your way. In the event that one of you loses your job and cannot contribute as much to the bills, you’ll want to have an emergency fund handy to ensure that bills can still be paid without going into debt to do so.

Prepare for changes
Once you have gone through with combining finances, prepare yourself for changes. While it is just the two of you for right now, think ahead to the future. Your finances will certainly change if the two of you move into a bigger home or if you have children together. Finances are fluid and they will change with time, so prepare yourself and don’t get too comfortable with how things are right now

Decide who is responsible for paying the bills
With a joint bank account, the two of you in theory will both be contributing money towards paying the bills. However, you’ll also need to come up with a plan as to who will be the one to write the checks or schedule the online payments. It’s usually best if just one of you is in charge of this so that you’ll know exactly who paid what and when payment was sent. This makes paying the bills a lot easier.

Merge lifestyles
Aside from combining finances, as a couple the two of you will also need to work towards combining lifestyles. If there are income differences between the two of you, you may find that you want to go on a luxurious vacation while your husband can’t exactly afford that on his current salary. Be sure that your lifestyles match your financial decisions to keep things as sound as possible.

Continue to talk about money and finances
Even after all the decisions have been made and you two have gone through all of the steps to combining finances, don’t let this be the end of it. Don’t forget about the decisions you two have made and never make assumptions about changing or going back on these decisions. On occasion, talk to each other to ensure that you’re still on the same page and that the two of you still feel financially sound. You won’t know if there’s a problem unless one of you speaks up about it.

After all is said and done, Marriage is a partnership between two individuals in UNDERSTANDING. ...

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Have you ever thought of reasons not to wear a thong? It seems like we’re always encouraged to wear one since we all want to avoid the dreaded VPL or visible panty line, but is it the only way to go? I’m not anti-thong by any means, but I wanted to share some of the reasons many women decide against wearing the illustrious thong. If you’re a die-hard thong fan, check out some of the reasons not to wear a thong and let us know what you think!

1. INFECTION
One of the top reasons not to wear a thong for many women is due to the risk of infection. According to Adelaide Nardone OB-GYN, the thong acts as a connector and it can create a free ride for bacteria from your perineum to your vagina causing a yeast infection. Nardone also adds that thongs tend to rub, which can cause tiny tears in your vagina as well.

2. LACK OF PROTECTION
Another common reason medical professionals advise against frequent thong wear is the lack of protection the teeny weeny thong provides. Dr. Harlan Wichelhaus, an obstetrician and gynecologist from the Specialty Obstetrics Gynecology and Fertility Department in Texas City, states that frequent thong wear can cause lacerations of the anus and hemorrhoids. In addition, Wichelhaus says that thongs can cut off circulation to the vaginal area!

3. CLEAR VISIBILITY
While many ladies prefer to bypass a visible panty line, thongs can make things a little too visible at times. If you’re wearing sheer pants, low-rise pants or a sheer or short skirt, you can end up showing off a lot more than you intended! A strong gust of wind and your cheeks can be on full display. Sheer pants with the wrong thong can put your bum on display more than VPL would!

4. NOT FOOLPROOF
Many believe that wearing a thong guarantees a seamless backside, but that’s not always the case. Even the most well-meaning thong can still show lines. While it’s less likely you’ll get the bulky look of panties, ill-fitting thongs can still create their own panty line as well as create an unsightly bulge around the stomach and reveal itself at the waistline.

5. RIDING UP
Wearing a thong also does not guarantee that your undies won’t ride up on you. While a lot of this might have to do with the type of thong underwear you wear, thongs can ride up just like other types of underwear. Whether they’re sliding or riding up your jeans or bum, numerous women feel that thongs can still be just as uncomfortable as other types of underwear. The bottom line is, thongs are not wedgie-free!

6. IRRITATION
Another common complaint amongst women who don’t prefer thong underwear is that thongs can irritate sensitive skin down there. Again, this won’t be the case for all women. Some women find that thongs are the most comfy, but for some, thongs can irritate the vaginal area. If you have hemorrhoids or already have an infection, thongs are definitely to be avoided at all costs!

7. BACTERIA
The last reason to not to wear a thong has to do with working out. When we’re working out, we obviously move around a lot and get hot and sweaty. All of that moisture and friction combined with wearing a thong can be a breeding ground for bacteria! Always wear cotton undies when working out and switching to seamless panties might be a better option when you’re working out!

So what do you think, ladies? I think there are both good reasons for wearing and not wearing thongs, but would you ever change your mind about wearing thong underwear?

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The "It's not you, it's me." line isn't the most ridiculous one men came up with to break up with us. There's lots more where that came from!

I've just put together a list of 20 Ridiculous Break Up Phrases from Men I've ever heard of and my translation of what they really mean!

Have you heard even better ones than these? Please share them with me and we'll complete this list together!

1. "I'M JUST NOT READY FOR A RELATIONSHIP RIGHT NOW, BUT IF I WERE... YOU'D BE THE ONE!"

aka:"I'm still not ready to spend the rest of my life sleeping with one person, but if I were, it might be you."

2. "I STILL REALLY CARE ABOUT YOU."

aka: "... Just not enough to really date you or spend much time with you. But I still care!"

3. "I'D LOVE TO STILL BE FRIENDS AND HANG OUT AFTER ALL THIS."

aka: "Can you hook me up with your hot friends after you get over me dumping you?"

4. REALLY NEED TO FOCUS ON (FILL IN THE BLANK... SCHOOL, JOB, GOD, WHATEVER) RIGHT NOW."

aka: "I don't think you'll take this break-up well, but you can't argue with this one."

5. "I'M MOVING TO A FOREIGN COUNTRY, BUT I'LL CALL YOU WHEN I GET BACK."

aka: "I've got to get away from you, fast!"

6. "YOU CAN DO SO MUCH BETTER THAN ME!"

aka: "And I know I can do so much better than you!"

7. IT HAS BEEN SO GREAT GETTING TO KNOW YOU, BUT I THINK WE NEED TO SPEND TIME WITH OTHER PEOPLE."

aka: "I've already met someone I'd rather spend more time with."

8. "I'VE GOT A FEAR OF COMMITMENT."

aka: "I've got a fear of being tied to you for life!"

9. "I'M FEELING SMOTHERED, AND I JUST NEED TO GET SOME SPACE."

aka: "You're way too in my business, too fast - I am ready to get you out."

10. "THE GUY WHO MARRIES YOU IS SO LUCKY!"

aka: "I just hope I'm not that lucky!"

11. "I THINK WE NEED TO SEE OTHER PEOPLE AND JUST SEE WHAT HAPPENS."

aka: "I'm already sleeping with someone else, and I'm just telling you this before you find out."

12. "I STILL WANT TO BE WITH YOU, BUT I JUST WANT TO TAKE A BREAK."

aka: "I want to try sleeping around, but keep you close in case I can't find anyone else."

13. I'VE GOT A LOT OF ISSUES I NEED TO WORK ON RIGHT NOW."

aka: "My main issue is that I'm just not that into you."

14. "I FEEL LIKE YOU'RE MORE OF A FRIEND THAN A GIRLFRIEND TO ME."

aka: "You're just not as cute as you were when we started dating."

15. "I JUST NEED SOMETHING MORE."

aka: "I'm not sure what more is, but I'm kind of bored, and this line sounds really convincing."

16. "I'M STILL NOT OVER MY EX."

aka: Ouch. This one's probably true.

17. "I WISH WE'D MET FIVE YEARS FROM NOW INSTEAD."

aka: "I'm really not that mature right now, but I probably will be in five years, and then I could've made a great boyfriend/husband!"

18. "WE'RE JUST IN TOTALLY DIFFERENT PLACES IN OUR LIVES!"

aka: "I'm in this place called I Want to Go Out Drinking, Partying, and Sleeping Around, and you're in this place called Let's Settle Down, and those two places don't fit well together."

19. "I JUST RESPECT YOU SO MUCH."

aka: "Please don't tell your friends I'm a jerk, because I might want to date some of them."

20. "I THINK WE GOT TOO CLOSE, TOO FAST."

aka: "When you put your toothbrush beside mine in the bathroom, that really freaked me out."

Post in the comments and let me know the worst ones you've heard of!

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