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Kachisbarbie:
Welcome!
 
Welcome, to our year of light, of continuity, of amazing blazing glory.
Things can only get better.
 
 
Have you ever been in that position where it felt like you have found that one person who means much more than a lot to you?
 
Have you ever thought of yourself as "in love?"
Like there couldn't possibly be anywhere you'd wanna be in the universe except in the arms of your loved one?
He spoils you silly with love and you feel like, before you, after you, beyond you, nothing else matters, just you.
 
And then all of a sudden --- you find yourself soliloquizing in the lines below;
 
How does a person love up on someone so much only for them to give you the cold treatment just after you decide to love them back, perhaps even more than they showed you? 
 
How can someone who had all the time in the world for you suddenly become busy and unlovely and unloveable?
 
Somehow, you know the individual doesn't despise you, but as is obvious, their action(s) doesn't quite measure up.
 
Now, there are two things involved here:-
 
Either that person has become plain disinterested in you and is actually giving you the green light to move on with your life 
 
Or 
 
Maybe, just maybe, it's about time you pursued them too; maybe it's time you loved up on them - more.
 
So, I want to make a proposal; as we all know --- life is a teacher, like Jim Palmer would say - "there's twice as much we don't know, than we do know". 
Granted, I'm yet to get past my confuzzlement on why the male folk especially, lead ladies on to a certain extent only to turn them into bundles of insecurity, all the same:- 
 
My proposal goes thus:-
 
- I'd like for us to re-adjust our definition of love.

- Let's operate from this base of understanding that beyond the frills and thrills, underlying and over the top excitement; Love Is A Decision.

- It's about time we turned on our humanity towards our partner.
 
Loving and our emotions are something else, simply out of this world. I've heard people reduce love to chemical equations and mere release of hormones into the human brain and all I literally do is just shake my head.
Some, have even tried to calculate love by overly using their brain, in a bid to avoid being friendzoned  or outrightly fooled.
In my sojourn though, I've found that you'll fall for whom you'll fall for and you'll get bored if you'll get bored.
 
We could do without overly mathematicalizing love.

Ultimately, we ought to be proactive. 
When the boredom comes; owh trust me, it will.
When the attraction becomes less; When there's absolutely little or nothing to talk about; 
What measures do we take to spark it all up again?
This would normally require us going beyond ourselves, and ego, maybe. But with the right person, it's worth it, I think.
If he doesn't call you as usual, call him.
If he fails to say I love you and those sweet nothings you like to hear, say it to him.
If he doesn't ask about your loved ones, your family, your career and your circumstances, ask about his.
If he doesn't buy you those thoughtful gifts anymore like he used to, please go out of your way and get some for him.
 
If you really love that guy AND YOU THINK HE IS WORTH IT, despite his below par performance, love up on your man, love him, not because you are desperate - no, no; not as a means to manipulate him into doing your biddings [i] mbanu (no),[/i]let your actions towards him flow from a pure heart, as much as you can, give your best into the relationship without expecting so much.
 
 
"But Adannaya, what if he doesn't reciprocate, what if I genuinely get tired and I just need to break it off with him"
 
^^^ Always follow your heart, be sure you're being guided by your inner light --- by that feeling that's real, deep inside you.
 
Remember, patience is a virtue and there's really nothing like certainty in a relationship that is built to last.
 
Perhaps, one of the greatest lessons we can learn during this season, as we usher in the New Year is that, Giving is the best form of receiving.


To the guys reading this, a friend shared this text with me as shared by Kanye West via his twitter account --- you might be inspired
 
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To our dear readers;

If you're inspired by this write up, please share with your friends, and as always, your comments are most welcome
 

http://mizmycolimusings..com/2015/01/ladies-before-you-finally-give-up-on.html

crazysaint:
1. When a boy says sorry even though he didn't do anything wrong.

2. When he cries because he still love you or miss you.

3. When he still tries to get you back.

4. When he still love you, no matter how much you hurt him

5. When he stops his argument with you, just to save his relationship.

6. When he continously make you feel special and tries to make u happy.

7. When a boy is upset but doesn't tell you as he think he is annoying you.

8. When a boy wants to leave you, because of your rude behaviour, but he is not able to do.
Dont let him because you'l never find someone like that ever again.

Trust me!