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Happened to a friend o'mine, she absolutely fell inlove with the guy, she had never met him tho they communicated of phone often. all she had were pictures and a voice to go with it. she was a real sucker for d guy o. i think she fell more in love with the voice and what the voice said. that was the cake, the icing was the picture.

Aint no big deal, meet up and fire up!

IBDat:
@Qby - then u shld ave thought twice before accepting his money and allowing him to furnish yo house, knwing full well he wasn't going to get anything out it. U said u was up-front wit him from the begining, fact is so was he! The only person that benefited from yo relationship was YOU n he got nothing bk in return. How is it that he knows where u are on yo dates and everytime u go out wit another man he's there?

good question, come to think of it, how does he know and shows up. i no know o
like i said earlier IBdat, he was separated and we had a relationship. and He did NOT furnish my house. I did not plan to rip him off, it happened. we were, he went back into his relationship after telling me it was over and thru for several months(waiting only for divorce papers), i was heartbroken, i am not a home breaker, so i wanna move on. cant i? honestly i am fed up!

^{THANK YOU  NAIRALANDERS FOR YOUR SUPPORT}

Situation Report

Are you familiar with Alfredo from The gardener's daughter, well thats what Mister nice guy is doing to me, EMOTIONAL BLACKMAIL.  After he got back from the hospital, i gave him sometime to heal. Honestly, i could not hide d fact that things had changed. 3 weeks later, he called me and said he knew i was fed up with the him. I said i was not, but rather i was fedup of the relationship as we both knew we were headed no where, he simply said he had a headache and got up n left_{*** time to be bad girl***} i said ok. i met other people and 2 days later he saw me on a date with someone else, when we met later, o my, we were shouting at each other like nutters in public! i managed to calm him down saying "we were still friends and we should respect each other" He simply said "you dey use jazz for me, i just love you too much" Then came another date, someone i'd be dying to go out with, single cute and  , he called me out, made sure my date was within ear shot and said " is this the kind of life u want to live, follow follow for man! you make me sad and you know i love you bla bla bla" i simply said "there aint no big deal if i have friends", angrilly he left, then came back to be peeping through the window. I don't know what he expected. I aint promiscuos. We havent spoken since, that was last week. I hope this is the last episode of the drama! because i hope i aint going to kill someone, he has a wife and wont let me move on wit my life, more importantly i'm hell scared. I hope there wont be VENGEANCE, don't want some intoxicated brother chasing me with an axe or jazz

Depends, if i were married to him before i found out and he is truly not happy with the situation but "can't help it", i would take him to Pastor Chris for mind healing!! If he is happy with it and dont wanna change, i'll file for a divorce(adultery). If he were my boyfriend, well i'd ask to watch them live!!!
, just as a spectator, then bolt.

to guys, what would u do if u found your girl cheating on u with another chic

My guy messed me up. He has refused to call for about 3 months now. He is in England and all efforts to call/mail has proved abortive. I met a young guy recently. At the time, I wanted to get ahouse desperately and i did not have enough funds. The guy was of tremendous help. He completed my house rent and even furnished the house. he has been a blessing to me and my younger sister. We are from separate religions, am a xtian and he a muslim, he was separated(Not legally divorced) when i met him. Right now, his family is pleading n insisting he keeps his wife, even if he marries someone else. He has no child yet and wants one. last night, i told him outrightly i can't marry him as he has been asking insitently. i told him from d begining i could not because i don't want wahala. it was obvious i was very serious yester, I did not know this guy has high BP. I noticed his strenght was drained before he left, I found out he almost collapsed when he got home yesterday with his heart palpitating. he is a soft hearted person. I called today to say i was just joking because i was full of guilt. he is still in d hospital but i don't want him to die, even tho i don't want to be a second wife. he thinks am his only hope for a love, children and bliss.(he has been through hell in love n marriage). please help.

me i got a big question!

is falling in love = to loving someone? when exactly does this "falling" take place? some people even qualify love by saying "madly in love", this type

qualifies the insanity afore mentioned, doing things you'd normally not do abi?

I think we need love in our lives, even lower animals share and show affection for one another. what i don't understand is whether we need to fall, or behave abnormal just because "we are in love" . I don't think the author/creator of love ever behaved irrational, what He does is guard and protect what is His, even jealously. To me "falling" means being engulfed in passion and thats not = to love. passion can die, true love won't. infact when passion dies, you hear/see couples "trying" to rekindle the flame
Qby.

Valentine's Day. A blessing and a curse! People are supposed to reflect on love, and share(in my opininon it doesnt have to be all about my guy or my chic). why then do some people feel bad, some feel lonely etc etc etc. (why don't you try my-self!). i used to feel like that times back esp when i was in school but now i have learnt to give myself special treats, afterall other people will only be attracted to you when you love learn to love yourself, bliv me it works! from trickles (drizzles) on vals, am contending how to manage 5 dates!!! ,  n more still to come! (All hail, a thunderstorm is brewing!)




Qby