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Kobojunkie:
a) Marriage is not an achievement.
b) Leaving a marriage is not the end of a life. You had life, dreams and desires -- longings-- while you were single. Those dreams ,desires and longings never disappear whether you are married or divorced
c) your dreams and desires are part of who you are. Never sacrifice or compromise them for the desires and dreams of another individual, not even someone you claim to be married to. That longing will always be there telling you of how much you should be doing with the time you have. . They should be part of your non-negotiable in life.
d) Center and love yourself first regardless of where you are in life. 🥱🥱🥱

Not bad, but...
Everybody keeps saying marriage is not an achievement. What then is an achievement? That you got some poor slob to swear to spend the rest of their lives with you (with all your ridiculous faults) is not an achievement?

jaxxy:
Sometimes People talk about marriage like they didn't know what they were doing when they were dating.

Nobody changes to a monster or stranger overnight, the signs are always they even when they pretend, if ure attentive u will see it at dome point but u ignore those red flags and don't even question them to gain clarity or address them to maybe correct them where possible cos once ure marriage its all water under the bridge.

If you're doing signs and clarity u go wait tire. Everybody has signs including you!😅

Diamond098454:
You would have tried sorting thing out with her. Women are so soft and very understandable

Women soft and very understandable. Wicked sarcasm😅

Diamond098454:
Kobo
What's your plans now in terms of marriage?

Are you in a relationship now? Are you planning to give marriage a chance again?

"Give marriage a chance". Like she has a line of people waiting to marry her/him!

Whois:
Who she help

Herself
Duh

ADAMUdaCOWBOY:
Op shared a YouTube video, I opened the same video on YouTube using the link OP gave herself, I opened the description on the video (and YouTube compels content makers to inform viewers if their videos are AI generated), I showed you how the description on the video says it was AI generated, yet you went and brought a Facebook link that said nothing about the nature of the video to counter me? Kai!

My description is also from the video. Click where arrow points. It is fairly easy to spot AI because the words misaligne with mouth and body movements from time to time.
Also, see that post from the comment section. Is it Al?

fitinwell:
you can never ran out of patience , because i was though patience and endurance works hand in hand.,.

Patience has limits. She said she had since reached hers

LordReed:
Wrong. Are you that sheltered? You don't know people of other faiths have miraculous claims as well?

Give an example where anyone said they gave their lives to Muhammad or Buddha entered them and it changed their Lives. Jesus IS alive and actually interacts with people and enters people's hearts!

fitinwell:
Do you understand the word patience?

Do you understand TIRED OF BEING PATIENT?

fitinwell:
Then she should give it time..

Give it time? Do you understand TIRED??

UnknownQueen:
Both...
If u give me I'll collect but I no fit give u..
That's my boundary

In that case you've come to the right shop. All u have to do is spread. Unusual 4 a Nigerian guy, I know

safarifarms:
How do you link the 2 threads by different authors (usernames). Are you sure they are related? The 1st one seems to still be married, while this one is already divorced.

That one gave birth to this one. Kobo was there Vigorously advocating for divorce. This thread is an extension of that advocacy!

guobe:
Are you sure of this answer or you just guessed

I thought it was minus.
It is 55 PLUS 10 not minus 10

Easy, 45

1 egg = 20

55 + 10 = 65
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ADAMUdaCOWBOY:
Oh come! It is screaming AI! see what the description on the YouTube video says:

How is it screaming AI?
Here's the description about how it was made.
It's originally fron Facebook

LordReed:
Nope. It just someone saying so. If someone had wrote the same about Buddha or Vishnu would you believe?

But no one does, Muhammad either. It is always JESUS!

epainos:
So, you thought I was arguing with you to win with the questions I asked based in your style? Wonderful! And you made sure you won the argument. Mehn! Una eh! Bravo! Keep winning arguments with your partner. OK.

See eh...you won the argument. This exactly is how all you men see this issue. Lol. Again, keep winning arguments with your wife....you all win learn. No worry. So, I agree...you won.

You all will learn.

YOU LOST, no big deal, you're not the first loser and won't be the last!😅

ADAMUdaCOWBOY:
Kobijunkie went through the. entire YouTube looking for a video to reinforce her bitter perspective on marriage and the best she could obtain is an AI generated video. If you feminists like, keep listening to her, all I know is Tonto Dike with her hot head is now speaking in tongues. Jungle go soon mature for una!

😅🤣😂
My thoughts exactly. But I don't think it is AI

We4all:
Most married women are not happy, but are just enduring. The woman made the right decision to leave her husband. More women should do the same for the sake of their mental health.

After a long time of same-same a radical change is always good for the soul

Breaker001:
Anti-marriage agents using AI video to propagate false narratives from the pit of hell.
Which marriage? Which 69 year old woman? It's all lies, and we know it. Nonsense 😎

You people and this your AI itch. Is this below from the comment section also AI?

Inyaky:
Illiterate people, they won't learn the lesson in the message, this article could apply to any gender, it's a lesson that one should learn to walk away from anything that doesn't not make one happy. Most of you trying to mock the woman don't know that your mother could have gone through the same thing or is going through the same thing right now because mothers stay in an unhealthy relationship for the sake of their children. No empathy, everything a woman says is attack on Nigerian men, they act as if they don't have mothers or sisters at home.

Well said. Most Nigerian mothers go through something similar to some extent

Therokstar:
This is obviously Ai write up, not realistic at all. Why was there no discussion about their finances and plans for the future before the wedding? If she got married at 27 & now 70, the husband is probably way older,how realistic is it that a 70+ old is immersed on his phone like a Gen Z especially at an hospital? Then If she wasn't working for the majority of her life, i wonder what income she's depending on at 70. I guess the point is about DIVORCE & it's wonders.

You people are funny with this your AI. Do you think AI won't know to add finances?
This is a heartfelt narrative and the woman is NOT AI

Weknowbetter:
You only have one life to live. Her husband probably moved in the next servant shortly after

Servant?😅

Hypnotise:
This story get k-leg. Now that she has chosen herself, what difference does it make

See the difference in my post above

Lumig:
You can never satisfy that gender. Always whining about one thing or the other like toddlers in a supermarket. Irrespective of their age, they never grow up.
They expect their men to stop breathing, so that they can live. Just imagine the kinda talk a whole grandma dey talk for mouth, if the story is not fiction

The story is certainly NOT fiction. It is heartfelt and I'm not sure you read this part:

"At 70, I moved into my own apartment alone for the first time in my life. I was terrified. I woke up at night wondering if I had ruined everything. But I did not fall apart. I learned. I adjusted. And slowly I remembered who I was. The woman who loved books, who had opinions, who had dreams. I even went on a date. It did not last, but it reminded me that it is never too late to feel seen.

I am 74 now. My life is not perfect. My apartment is small. My income is modest. Sometimes I am lonely, but I am free. And that freedom is worth more than anything I lost."

TonyeBarcanista:
What I appreciate in the story is that the man did not beg her to stay in the marriage. He dodged a bullet! It is better she left him than kill him.

Meanwhile, it is important for husbands to seek inputs from their wives when making family decisions even when they think that they have better ideas. That sense of belonging is very important! Notwithstanding, they must ensure that the best decisions are taken in the interests of the family.

Well said. It is a mistake not to carry your woman along on decisions. The only problem is that women quickly take over if you give them an inch

Dogalmighty17:
The poster of this story is a sadist who's single life purpose is to discourage as many people as she can from putting in effort in their marriage.

Now, now, that is not entirely true.
He/she only advocates leaving unhappy marriages

mirrael68:
Thank you ma for this story. I understand you completely because recently I too had to leave a client who consistently undervalued, abused and willfully stagnated me all through the 11 years I worked for him. It was difficult and sometimes I second guess myself because some say half bread is better than none. Well one day I got sick of those 1/4 breads from someone who chose to keep taking advantage of me and I walked out to nothing waiting for me- but to my God and to fervent prayers. I too know I ll overcome. And at least for once I made a decision over the spirit of fear that kept me bound all those years!!!

Hearty congrats.
Better to die on your feet than live on your knees

epainos:
Something is wrong yah upstairs. Please, save your strength and ability to argue, and name calling to your wife you want to show you are right and she is stubborn. You will learn what loneliness is by force. So, keep it up.

Take care!

Take care too.
You obviously lost the argument!😅

nams77:
Wetin women even want? A man drinks and is a cheat? they complain. He is violent? they complain. He travels all the time and doesn't have time for intimacy? They complain. He stays at home and wire them always? They complain. Now this one is complaining of no connection and always being in charge. Interestingly, a lady ditched chuks because she felt he was like dodo. Always eager to please her. She now wanted an iron bender. This life, just be you. Period. You can never please a woman and you would die if you try.

Well said... but I have this suspicion women have similar complaint about men

Hellisreal70:
I don't know why someone will turn " evil advocating" to his/her passion.

Seeing the poster, I expected nothing short of the nonsense.

It is actually NOT nonsense if you calm down and read it or watch it

epainos:
So, :the man will die means the woman kills him?

Or, she gave her a final knock out means she kills him? Do you know what knock out means? Used in boxing. So, Antony Joshua killed everyone he knocked out?

My stubborn friend if you wrote:
"That boxer died from fighting AJ... Na final knock out AJ gave him."
YES. you're implying AJ killed him!