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kiddaz:
So you plan to take advantage of her situation to corrupt her and create more problems? If you're looking for a 4ck buddy why not hit the zones close to you where you can an do all these? Na una dey mislead weak minded women. Na so dem done carry my gateman wife since morning abokkky no see him small wife who was supposed to be off work today as she works at a restaurant close. She pick call talk where she dey and she's not there till now she no pick again and abokkky dey restless. You better warn yourself

No mind am. She's female by the way. Probably a horrny lesbian!

UnknownQueen:
OP, this resonates with me because I’m experiencing something similar. If you’re male, we can connect and support each other; if you’re female, we can explore being L partners. Life is too short to be lonely. I’m being genuine.

U r a lesbian?

gabbytabby:
Na this worse pass. If you are single you are more likely to get invited out.

Right. Especially for a woman. Everybody will keep away from you because u r married. And unlike a man, you can't make the first move

Whyme24:
The only beautiful thing in my marriage are my three lovely kids. Loneliness knows my name. Me and Loneliness no get any biz wen I dey single

So sad. And you're a man!

Kobojunkie:
There are lonely introverts out there. Just because you are not lonely does not mean all introverts are not lonely. Let's be sure to separate the mental illness — loneliness — from what is instead a personality trait. 🥱🥱🥱

Well said Kobo.
Though some people ENJOY being lonely and crying about it, and telling everybody how lonely they are!

HacheNoire:
🏃 🏃 🏃

Listing to tuning away by Craig David

Come on, you no longer think a side chick will solve her problems?

HacheNoire:
Boss, it’s the bitter and same time honest truth.

No need telling lies or disguising.

Some women will make you forget about home and your children when they give you mad love

You know those ones that call every 30 minutes JUST checking on you. Kill you with food, sex and loyalty, and the only thing they demand from you is loyalty and trust.

They are so much out there. They just need love, nothing else!

BUT she's a WOMAN!
MARRIED WITH KIDS!!!😂😅

thomas2024:
Lol😂 Sorry bro don’t cry, clean your face😂

What's so funny about a soul saying he's deeply lonely. Some of you people have no heart. None!

zubinike:
My current state of Act, mind, etc. communication do not work here I guess, it’s bitten deep more than that stage

Your state looks more like the affections were once there, some actions or inaction might have caused the loss in affections.

Create a space for distance and let go or live in the facade for ever

What's that your current state? Care to elaborate?

Sirseedorf:
As a single guy I feel your pain, because categorically am dealing with it as well, only me the room singing, cooking and watching films alone is crazy, I just wish i had a partner to talk to already.... find something doing that will take u mind off being lonely, trust me you will feel better.

Feel what pain? She is MARRIED WITH CHILDREN and has a very demanding job!

HacheNoire:
Get a side chick who will show you love.

Trust me, your love life will be renewed.

Many ladies out there just looking for someone to show them love.

Don’t let ONE lady make your life miserable when you have several options out there desperately wanting to be loved.

Better don’t let depression get to you! You have just one life, live it to the fullest!

Sexyrosey here's very good advice 4 ya:
Get a side chick!

Juliearth:
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If you understood my context, especially my opening statement, we won't be here. He desires companionship and I asserted that there's nothing stopping him from achieving that. However, if that cannot be possible or whilst he is working on that, he should perhaps deploy an interim plan: looking inward and finding happiness from the simplest of things... I hope this is clear enough... Should it not be, let me know. I'm a teacher, patience runs in my blood.

Not all teahers though. But u r ok. What level do you teach? You seem to be good. Maybe I employ u

Juliearth:
That was me saying one's happiness should not be dependent on what is not tenable. Seek it from the simplest of things that are at your disposal. Life isn't meant to be as complex as we are making it be.

But where did he say it is not tenable
Here is what he wrote:
"There are moments I just wish I had someone to talk to someone who would listen, understand, and remind me that I’m not alone"

His soul is clearly telling him something. I don't think what it is telling him is to go inwards, isolate himself more!

And how do we know this is not blogger content??

tfelicityk:
What happened to the married woman too?

MarianaTrench:
Good question

Here she is below

Double0h7:
I’m sorry you’re experiencing this at the moment. I think the best thing to do is to redirect your attention inwards.

Show yourself love, compassion, and kindness. Take care of yourself physically, mentally and emotionally. Everything you are missing, you can give to yourself.

Focus on your own self development, set goals for yourself and enjoy the dopamine boost when you achieve them.

The world mirrors back our beliefs and thoughts, so consider what you’re putting out there. We teach people how to treat us by the way we treat ourselves. Don’t let these current feelings trick you into further self sabotage (looking for those things outside your marriage) and cause you to further hate yourself.

"Everything you are missing, you can give to yourself." - hmmm, not sure about that. Maybe, but it won't be same as getting it from another

Good write-up tho

Kobojunkie:
1. The problem with these statements of yours is that it fails in recognizing the source of lack — loneliness — you feel. Loneless is a result of inner emptiness . No amount of external affection, attention, connection, romance, passion, etc., can cure emptiness. The solution has to come from within yourself —self-love.

2. Capable of love, or performance of love? I am of the mind that one is not able to love if one does not first love oneself. You say you are still capable of love, insinuating that you have been loving all this time before now. Is this really the case? I suggest you consider carefully what you think love is, and consider whether it has instead been you playing a part which you confuse with love. Love comes from a whole inside, not one battling loneliness. Please consider becoming more self-focused so you can once and for all resolve the reasons why you still have yet to love yourself more than anything else first. 🥱🥱

1) Not true. This is all theory. In reality positive interaction with familiar people who know you cures loneliness.
3) Another theoretical nonsense. You can fully love another and even be willing to die 4 them and it has nothing to do with loving yourself!

Kobojunkie:
Loneliness is resolved by way of loving oneself. As OP has clearly shown, marriage does not and cannot resolve that problem. Even if her husband suddenly changes. 🥱🥱🥱

Loving yourself is not enough. After a while you need human interaction with familiar people who know you

ufy4success:
There are many questions i will like to ask but i will let you ask and answer them. Marriage is a life long journey its best to always do it with who loves and you love too. I may not know the genesis but a relationship the partner is not willing to work things out. I'd advise you seek peace, its either you tell the hard truth or keep living this way because over time you'd become a bitter person.
Sorry, but i feel there was no love initially and maybe the marriage was forced. Hope you find peace and healing. 🙏

Pure nonsense. People madly in love may want to kill each other 6 months down the road. Happens all the time. Also, people change and evolve - that's human nature!

Tenrack:
I'm also single. Beta start to dey learn to love yourself and your own company.

Yeah, yeah, but after a while you get tired of your own company. Especially watching people socializing on social media

Tenrack:
But you saw all these signs prior, yet you shuuk head because he was ready ba

Do you know how he was in the beginning? Do you know how long they've been married?

kiddaz:
None is perfect including your spouse and yourself. So I wouldn't bother myself with whatever you did or he did that made things go south. Start by loving yourself first the way no one else can. Nobody has it all and the grass isn't always greener on the other side. Make time for yourself. Sometimes loneliness gets heavy especially when no one is there after all the world shuts down. Live more, laugh more, love more and fear nothing because one day you will wake up to find out there's really not enough time to even live so why focus on the negatives? Life is too short it's why I only focus on the positive in everything and shut down every form of negativity and it has made me a far better man than I ever was. Enjoy your life. You will never have the chance twice.

Well said. Voice of experience

Phraences:
We introverts can’t relate. So sorry

Depends what you spend your introvert time doing. If you spend it watching people socializing, then...
Besides, after a while u get tired of your own company and akso aware people are wondering about you!

advanceDNA:
If I ask you now...when was the last time you were all over your spouse? Initiate a surprise outing,? When was the last time you seduced your partner....?? Make your spouse feel desired...?? When was the last time u got home first and sent ur spouse a message that made him rush home to be with you...

The thing is y'all like one sided effort.....y'all expect the other person to keep the spark alive.....it's always the responsibility of the other person.....not me....

If u ask them too....they probably have the same complain as you......

Life happens....pple have to go to work and get tired when the day is over....if y'all are not deliberately intentional with investing in your relationship.....the spark will just fizzle out and become the everyday norm....

Did you read where she said she's "Tired of pouring love into a space that feels cold and silent."?
Bedides, what if he's sending clear signals he doesn't want any of these from you and it actually irritates him. He just want you to be

Juliearth:
And there's nothing stopping you from achieving that... the only obstacle is "you". Whilst you may find true happiness and companionship in a person, nobody says you cannot find it whilst doing the things that you love...

The is like saying the warmth you get on a cold day from another human body lying next to you is same as the heat you get from a heater!

QuinQQ:
😆 Well said. Dtruthspeaker guy won't know the truth if it hit him in the face.
This actually deserves Frontpage

We made it - Frontpage!
Sexyrosey you only have 13 posts and already on Frontpage with your first topic😅
While people like my buddy here have millions of posts and topics and never smell Frontpage!😂

wellmax:
Pastor: No name
Church: No name

Story: Not confirmed

But since it will be for the bashing of pastors , it’s already on front page.

So in your mind this mob below is part of a skit?

They showed the.pastor and the woman

Dtruthspeaker:
See, deflection. That means that i am right. You are the same as QueenQQ

Yes I'm Sexyrosey. I confess. Didn't know it'd be so easy to detect it despite all my coverup.
Everybody, we have a real genius here. Clap for him!

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jaxxy:
I obviously used the word bully as control her husband not anything physical. u are talking about psychos. I deal with such scenarios. His size won't help him in a sane society.

If you say they're unusually equal and non bullys or controls the other, then a physically larger presence offers obvious advantages - from lifting heavy stuff to reaching higher shelves to being a deterant to any dormant urge to bully or control.

So you see, however you slice it, there are advantages to being taller and stronger that your wife.
YOU LOSE!😅

jaxxy:
Nope I was talking about a sane couple and environment not where u have to physically restrain anyone. its not normal in sane relationships.

A "sane couple" where the wife bullys and controls the husband - in that case the husband uses his size to hold her without hitting her!

So you see my boy, either way, YOU LOSE!!!!!!!!