Reduce ur emotion over the issue. And focus ur mind only on logic and strategy to get the truth u seek.

U have been told, u and ur cousin have the same mother. And u know, ur cousin is your fathers elder brother son. If all this are correct, u already have ur answers. Your quest is already almost solved.

If that story is correct, ur fathers elder brother died before his wife. Your father was now taking care of her and her son( ur so called cousin who is ur brother). By tradition, ur mum is ur father's wife after ur uncle (ur fathers brother) died. Your father got her pregnant and she gave birth to u. Your father did not commit any abomination by tradition for getting ur mum pregnant. It is his right and privilege by Tradition. The reason ur ralative told u, ur dad payed ur mum bride price. because by Tradition, ur mum is ur dad legal wife.

After u were born three things are possible.

Option 1. Your mum died at Child birth when she was giving birth to u. Or she died few years after u were born. Ur dad did not see any need to start telling u that u have a different mother. For sure, ur step mum was never in support of ur dad marrying ur mum even though tradition gave him that right. because ur dad have d right to refuse marrying ur mum, tradition aslo have a way of freeing the woman and the man, if her husband brother don't want to marry her.

Option 2: Your mum just hated your paternal family and left. That means she hate ur grand father, ur father and ur fathers family. She abandoned u and ur brother (cousin). If this is the case, the person most hurt is not even u, but ur brother (the seminarian).


Now, simply ask your cousin(ur brother), if he has the picture of his late parents. They have no reason to hide the picture of his late parents from him. If he has the picture of his dad and mum, then u will see ur mother.

Also, u can ask ur cousin(brother), where is his mum from. If he knows any of his mum relatives. If he knows anyone, he can link u to them.

But don't tell him, he is ur brother when asking this question. But if he refuse to answer u, u can then tell him all u know. No matter how he perceived u, he will be interested too in knowing. He is a human being. He will naturally be curious.


In my opinion, u have 80% of what u need to get all ur answers if the story that u and ur cousin have the same mother is true.

Reduce ur emotion over the issue. And focus ur mind only on logic and strategy to get the truth u seek.

U have been told, u and ur cousin have the same mother. And u know, ur cousin is your fathers elder brother son. If all this are correct, u already have ur answers. Your quest is already almost solved.

If that story is correct, ur fathers elder brother died before his wife. Your father was now taking care of her and her son( ur so called cousin who is ur brother). By tradition, ur mum is ur father's wife after ur uncle (ur fathers brother) died. Your father got her pregnant and she gave birth to u. Your father did not commit any abomination by tradition for getting ur mum pregnant. It is his right and privilege by Tradition. The reason ur ralative told u, ur dad payed ur mum bride price. because by Tradition, ur mum is ur dad legal wife.

After u were born three things are possible.

Option 1. Your mum died at Child birth when she was giving birth to u. Or she died few years after u were born. Ur dad did not see any need to start telling u that u have a different mother. For sure, ur step mum was never in support of ur dad marrying ur mum even though tradition gave him that right. because ur dad have d right to refuse marrying ur mum, tradition aslo have a way of freeing the woman and the man, if her husband brother don't want to marry her.

Option 2: Your mum just hated your paternal family and left. That means she hate ur grand father, ur father and ur fathers family. She abandoned u and ur brother (cousin). If this is the case, the person most hurt is not even u, but ur brother (the seminarian).


Now, simply ask your cousin(ur brother), if he has the picture of his late parents. They have no reason to hide the picture of his late parents from him. If he has the picture of his dad and mum, then u will see ur mother.

Also, u can ask ur cousin(brother), where is his mum from. If he knows any of his mum relatives. If he knows anyone, he can link u to them.

But don't tell him, he is ur brother when asking this question. But if he refuse to answer u, u can then tell him all u know. No matter how he perceived u, he will be interested too in knowing. He is a human being. He will naturally be curious.


In my opinion, u have 80% of what u need to get all ur answers if the story that u and ur cousin have the same mother is true. [/quote]

This is all you need to know, your cousin is your brother because you have thesame mom

If she is late that explained why the bride price was returned to enable him marry your step mom as his only legitimate wife

You and your Cousin/brother have thesame mom but different dad. You need to find his mom if she is still alive. She has all the answers you need because she is your biological mom.

This will curtail social gathering at night like club and partying which have high risk of people contacting the convid19 virus