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what is he talking about

forget liver. . . . .

na who wan die for govt

erico2k2:
I have seen where the buying of flower became war  lol girls in 9ja want physical cash,phone, most especially pay the Rent.


NOW @ OP
Answer this or hold your peace,what  do you want from the guy?? stop bitting arround the Bush,lets see if you are woman anough to answer this question.

very true

give 9ja girl flower she go ask you whether dem tell you say i be GOAT

Dyt:
U mean Boko haram?
Y?
Na dem go pay govt worker salary ni?

how much govt go give ma family if boko haram catch me

govt no dey dat reliable for me to listen to them

ok den

na boko haram . . . . make dem no make suya out of me

lovedgal:
@r231,

yes, i think long term because he wants to marry me and I like him a lot except this 1 thing that disturbs me,  which I will talk to him about.

again you didn't answer my question. . . . .

DO YOU REALLY KNOW THIS GUY YOU PLAN TO MARRY.

don't tell me because he like you and you liked him a lot thats pure nonsense. . . . .

definitely you don't knw him

Buc:
Spending money on gf is not d way 2 learn how 2 take care of family. Another thing is that if eventually d relationship gets 2 marriage d family of d lady may not consider his efforts when thinkin if d guy is good 4 their graduate daughter.

bless you mehn. . . . .

most of these lot dont use their brain at all

lovedgal:
yes, oohunt. It is serious and I will talk about it with him at some point soon. I have committed the relationship into God's hands.

@erico2k2, I wouldn't go for a man who wouldn't love me but I really hope this one who loves me will provide for his family if we eventually end up together.
I was not just worried for the now, I wondered for long term.

why are you in this relationship. . . . . cus to me i dont think you really knw this man and you are sitting here talking about long term

none of the above

why would i want to do that

there is something called walking away or taking a walk which i do alot

saves time and trouble. . . . . I dont have to beat my wife for nothing

wen she is not a child or something

seedord247:
Tosin . . .

I still got the remaining Chemical they use for Michael Jackson. If you want i can send you some. You are too dark not even black. Don't let shy one fool you that

US Girlz will hunt you down. Well sha, you can get some pple of your clique in south Chicago (Eaglewood). .

beside i ain't saving your pic. . . i set a trap for you and you fall into it. . . . i got so many Nairaland Guyz picz.
where do you want him to get money for all those thing you mention.

well shaaa pure water na fresh water

WHYYY?

are you that bored

Mrs, Chima:
You are stingy!!!!  I asked you to buy me a singlet and you went on sabbatical for nine weeks!

hahahaha. . . . . not only singlet, i will buy you wife beater too

Shy-One:
Thank you very much

kool

the rest of the picture is on our site. . . . . see link below

Mrs, Chima:
The only way the guy wouldn't know if his girl doesn't need anything if they are living in separate housing and she is jobless.  

Don't like asking and have never asked are two different things.  You can ask someone indirectly or directly and if the person still do not get it then that an issue on both sides.  

You can tell whether someone is stingy or not by the way they conduct themselves and what they say about certain things.

you know what, I am like that and my wife knws that i am not stingy

its just the way that i am programmed. . . . . . so you have to ask me

just cus you are telling me dont mean you want my help and my wife clearly understand that yea she have to ask me if needed. . . . . well that was b4 we got married

Shy-One:
@ r231

You are correct - I agree with you.  She must ask him or at least open her mouth and share what is going on with her with him so he can of his own volition offer if he is inclined to do so and not call him names.

On a side note - the wedding album that I keep looking at over and over again on your profile - did you have that professionally done in Nigeria? - How can shy-one get the information from you on who did this for you?

I love it very much.

oh yea

it was done in 9ja. . . .

the guys name is moses 08037229303, 08022278212, 07042112020

Mrs, Chima:
If he is stingy why wouldn't she call him stingy?   Would you tell a stinky person they do not smell?   

Maybe she have asked him in the past and concluded that he is stingy.  People don't always tell the whole story and there are two sides to every story.  We don't know the half of it.

she said that she dont like asking

that the guy suppose to be a mind reader

he was suppose to offer without asking

Mrs, Chima:
Maybe she didn't want to be coined as the typical Nigerian girl who begs for money and things.

den she should kp her peace and stp calling the guy stingy

Shy-One:
Mr. Fork

I think Shy has to disagree with you.  Just to state very calmly and without foul language.  I think that you are mixing her up with being someone who is a "user and financial abuser of men."

This does not sound like what is going on here.

If you cannot during a friendship or dating relationship have "for better or worse."  How will you have for "better or worse." In a marriage?

If you cannot assist each other while boyfriend and girlfriend - and you run away now, or fear asking each now, or ridicule and slap each other around now during a request for assistance - "it matter not what be your lot, you need to separate"

If he meets me and I'm wealthy or he meets me and I am dirt poor - he is still meeting me and whatever time or condition is in my life - if he wants and needs to be part and parcel to who I am - then he helps me carry my load and I help him carry his load.

He needs to help her and then after he helps her - she needs to allow him to sit her down and focus on a "financial plan" that she can follow so she isn't in this situation again or frequently.  So poster really you shouldn't just ask for $$ - you should ask for $$ and assistance with managing what you have so you won't drain him - especially if he is and will be planning for the present and the future of the relationship itself - regardless to where you both are in the relationship.  Serious, semi-serious, just dating, etc.

I totally understand everything you said but the poster expect the guy to be a mind reader. . . . .

HAVE YOU ASKED THE GUY FOR HELP?? - - - - - - NO

so technically you can't call the guy stingy cus of your own stupidness

fork adict:
Funny how you have not really told us what exactly you need his financial assistance for. So i ask you (pardon me if you indicated it somewhere and i missed it), What exactly do you need your boyfriends financial assistance for?

one month's rent

go ma house go sleep. . . i no like mondays

hmmm

road dey clear now so i go reach soon

am on ma way home. . . . i don tire for one day

difference btw nairaland and facebook

andromida:
He can give her a lift only after discussing it with his wife or better still he can just jam her and go his way. He is a married man and must avoid all temptations.

what is temptation in giving somebody a lift?

damilolami:
Personally, I don't see the degree as a big deal. It's however important to bring in money for the family upkeep as the head of the house. That is not also a big deal but the big deal as far as I am concerned is the fact that he lied to her for that number of years. That man can actually kill her or what do you think?

kill her on top wetin HABA

so the man lied about his educational background big deal. . . . does that make him a murderer?

damilolami:
They actually dated for close to two years but you men now,

2yrs . . . . pls don't even try to say you knw men now cus upon all the degree and masters you friend have she still can't figure out a daylight from night. . .

so for 2yrs she didnt meet any of the guys family that she can ask question?

not even a simple graduation picture even doh its not enough proof cus pple borrow dat dis days

but at least she can use style to ask the boys family/parents before they got married

jennykadry:
You know threads moved from romance section the minute you read the replies.

Please do not listen to those telling you to be happy? Happy for what abeg? How can you date someone for 2yrs and there's never been a misunderstanding? Check yourselves very well because one day you will end up with someone whose true colour will come out after marriage. The real colour you couldn't see because the person was pretending, It is either pretense or one is not telling his/her mind just to please the other person. And if you are not telling your mind, then you people are bound to make mistakes in life because it's just one person making the decisions without counter opinions from the other person. For example, I had a misunderstanding with my man last year, I was supposed to travel for something I felt was very important and he was against it. I wasn't happy with the whole thingy and made sure he knew I wasn't happy. Everybody left for work that day and less than 2hours he was at my work place, took me into his car and explained to me the reason why he was against it. He told me about the risks involved and what not, this man loves taking risks but for him to have told me it wasn't worth it got me thinking. Honestly I thank him, till tomorrow because it took me 5months to see where he was coming from and I bless my stars that I did not go ahead with it it, else I would have cried for the money loss. Everybody's got diff opinions to things and if both opinions are not made known and weighed to know which to go for, then prepare yourselves to make huge mistakes in the future.

How can one marry a man or woman that has not showed the other side of his/her when he/she is angry? how do you know how that person deals with issues and reacts to things in anger? Oh, you think marriage is not forever and the time won't come? You don't even know if your partner is the type that hold grudges for days after the quarel or if he is the type that says things that hurt out of anger. You don't even know how your partner settles issues after quarels, I could go on and on and someone is telling you to relax? Very funny.

We have people opening threads daily here, crying because their once loving partners have turned into something else, mind you, this wasn't noticed during courtship because everyone was playing Mr and Miss perfect then for peacesakes.

I dated my man for less than a year and yea , we did have some misunderstandings then. Except it's long distance and you guys don't see eachother often but even @ that, people staying miles away from eachother still quarel.

There is bound to be misunderstandings in relationships and when it comes , it should be dealt with properly. Even in marriages couple do quarel once in a while. I cannot imagine a couple staying for 2yrs without one single quarel. That one is not marriage.

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