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ronkebp:
^^^^^ that type of man will receive his own part of the beating outside, oh yea!!!! dem boys will panel- beat him and when he comes home, i will help him massage his bumps with hot water.

Keeping secrets from your husband is not good, but keeping secret from a wife beater and potential killer (who calls himself a husband), is the way to go!!.

oh yea you are right

ronkebp:
There is?? did not know!

that's like keeping a secret from your husband

ronkebp:
You are so right!!! moreover women should empower themselves, work abegiii, because women that their men provide everything for do not always have a say, [b]there is nothing wrong with having your own properties (landed or otherwise) [/b]in your name. no one knows tomorrow, we all hope for the best and with God on our side, it shall be well, no need to fold arms. because if you are well made, no man will throw you around. you call the shots in your home. though there are some men who will see your prosperity as a threat to them, especially if you are making more than them. That happened to my cousin, her husband showed her pepper, now she turned that pepper into a landed property in her name in lekki, without the knowledge of her husband, and the babe is living large, irrespective of all the nasty names her hubby calls her.

yes there is

debrief08:
Hmmm, Madam Permit me to answer: well in my case none of those things were present when we were dating, we were really really close, he never supported his dad abuse even when we were younger and it was rampant, the changes came a little after the wedding, he started hanging out with his dad started drinking and having affairs. We used to joke have fun but all dat stopped as every joke turned to a fight. I will say in his case Nature won over nuture my dad was like a defacto dad to him and tried to raise him a different way than his father was but just 2 months with his dad that side came out. Anyway, didn't leave after the first slap, didn't tell anyone I didn't want 3rd parties in our new marriage, after slaps dem blows den flogging with belts. When I finally opened up I was advised to endure and pray, I did that, was almost non existant, only spoke when he spoke to me, became timid and scared I was told and believed I was doing something wrong, I almost left my job when he started finding faults with it, lost lots of friends only the friends he approved, told his mom she advised I endure cos she had been tru worse, did dat till I landed in d hospital and had emergency surgery and my Dad told me its time to let go, dat was d wake up I needed, he didn't come to the hospital even when I almost lost my life, I didn't go back and he threatened to bring another woman to take my ace I told him to go ahead, he made a statement that made me make up my mind he said his mom had endured worse so why would I walk out on our marriage that told me dat he wasn't gonna stop. Anyway when it was clear I was leaving I went tru hell, even my mom avioded me, my dad was the only one who stood by me. I learnt to become strong and tough, I had to learn to speak up, still working on my self esteem, it was hard leaving but it was harder staying. Gender Alert helps women I had their number before but lost it but if you google you can get it. Well I don't know other peoples situations but I don't think there is any justification for hitting your partner male or female not just physical abuse but emotional abuse which is worse. its been a while only a woman who has been abused can understand somethings you have to start building urself from scratch emotionally, mentally and phsically. I heard some pple stop some don't but I wouldn't want to be around to find out. Did I live out anything?

wow

Left Nigeria after secondary school and that was the last time they gave me money

Started working in Burger king at the age 17 to support myself

obviously i got grant and student loan for UNI that time

if you can afford it. . . .

but don't come bck here crying dat she didn't marry you

who is VIRGO

SeanT21:
WTF. She looks like a man in a wig!

lol

oh well

give us the website add pls

hmmmm. . . . . what are you selling

Dyt:
Uncle Segun s angry ooo

seriously!!!!!

the dumb girl is not serious. . . . . if you feel the guy is not doing enough or nothing,

go talk to him simple

i feel sorry for the poor guy thinking he has a gf. . . . . if you cant communicate with the guy now, how are you suppose to build a home with him

lovedgal:
@emmatok, let him at least volunteer, the thoughts go a long way

its like you are deaf and dumb or something. . . . . . ASK HIM

I neva volunteer for crap wen we are still dating and she will neva in a million yrs think or say that i am stingy. . . . . . dats why i respect my wife more dan all you crackheads out there. . . . . if a woman can get up on their own birthday to go out and shop for you and bring you a gift on their own birthday then you cant get better dan dat. . . . .

taking about volunteer. . . . . do i look like salvation army to you. . . . . woman open your mouth and ask the guy rather dan you disrespecting the man online. . . . bringing his business to the whole world

lots of joint in Lagos

or go suya spot

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Dyt:
Its such a pity dat sm of ow men thinks awkwardly
i smh 4 d babes dat ll call dese field of grasshoppers husband
.
Erm Relax i stay everywhere o
i b lyk wind
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Emmatox
gd point
so i c no reason y u cant spend on dat gal u v d mutual thing wit
ll it b cool c dat gal u v d mutual thing wit sad?
Cmon think guys
its nt all abt d dough
bt lil smtyms mks u real men
i m very independent bt i wont tolerate a stingy negro

hmmmmm dyt is dis really you or you hv been hijacked cus i cant understand what you have been saying for the past hour

Relax101:
hello dyt? love your profile pix.

you get money

Dyt:
Smh

me too

poster wash TAMPAX in his town

lovedgal:
@r231,

he dotes me with plenty love, which I like, I know you have been saying that I ask, but the words are just heavy for me,

he is your boyfriend so you should be able to confide in him

especially when you are planning to marry him

lovedgal:
thanks!!! ibrosaunks!! yes, I have surprised him with gifts a few times, and this is not to say I expect him to return the favour because I did,  It is just to support when I really need the help. It has been his response to when I talk of how things are tight at this time and he responds wishing me luck,  him helping me now would not give me the yardstick to make that gesture a constant because he loves me,  as some people have said here that if he starts, he will continue,  I won't necessarily need help next month just because I am in a tight situation now. I have mentioned more than once that I am not one to constantly depend on a guy but 97% of the guys here  turn a blind eye to this and are just venting out their anger because other girls have used them as atm machines.

i understand that and dats why i said ask him or talk to him

are you saying this guy has never given you anything

since you have been going out with him

Dyt:
^ ha
dont mind dem
dey v fish brain

fish brain for wia. . . . .

the girl didnt ask the guy for the one millionth time GUYS ARE NOT MIND READERS

ypad:
@Poster I have read your text and I understand your situation. And I know for you to have wished your BF assist you shows that there is no financial assistance coming from both parents/relative and friends. This is what you 'll do to increase your income.

Do you know how to make moi-moi (beans puddy)? Go to any provision shops around and ask for their concept to supply them with moi-moi. Make sure you use foil for packaging and add boiled egg into it. you can as well supply to the stores within the school you attain.

Think of supplying chin-chin, meat pie, zobo, soya milk, to stores, or workshop etc. sell recharge cards while in office or in school. This trade do not need much money to start it and you stand to gain more profit.

As for your BF, i 'll advice you to pretend as if he is not existing and forge ahead with your life.

hmmmmmm. . . . . . .  ;

ronkebp:
Nope, they obviously don't.

they