₦airaland Forum

Blunttruth:
I think it depends on the tribe.

putting tribe aside, is their any spiritual implication...

edochie12:
Mr op,una no go use my brain fry akara,is it your Friend or are you the culprit here?

it is not me, its my friend sir

Good evening dear nairalanders... something happened recently to a friend of mine... he has a girlfriend who has been out of town to school since last year... however when she eventually came around to see him last month, she told him of how a girl in her department was answering his surname... (he never had a sister, non that he's aware of, as he is the only child) at first he never saw anything big a deal in it, he said its possible several people are having the same surname, and there could be no chance they are related by blood... he gave instances just has many Igbo's have Okafor's, Igwe's as their names....

so when eventually his girl friend came with this girl to see my friend, one thing led to another without the knowledge of his girlfriend... they had one night stand, it was when my friend told me about it, i asked him of his grandfathers brothers and after so much investigations we found out that this girl was the daughter of his fathers cousin, that is the daughter of the grand fathers junior brothers son... which means the girl he has sex with was his second cousin....

so i decided to bring this issue for you guys to assist me in what to do for my friend, is their any spiritual implication... is their an abomination in all of these...

opera1:
Antonio Conte has made his intention known to have the guy on his team.

tottenham get money to pay... can they buy him for 150m and pay him 300k per week...

abeg from today go, i be napoli fan... mehn see how they got lots of love for Osimhen

village people or Haterz... which one

PointZerom:

We're here.

my brother if you have never liked football before, please go and watch how Napoli fans are screaming the name of Victor Osimhen... you will be proud to be a Nigerian... Damn

i bet you, you will hence forth like football

atm don light o... see gobe

i need a live link pls

Chai what a wicked world!!!...

i dont know the full story but let me address this issue prestisibly from two different angles...

Maybe the man is just fed up of the woman, and is looking for ways to dump her probably for another woman in spain (oyinbo i presume)

or

Maybe the woman has done something very very terrible and the man is too weak to accept the flaws of a woman

whichever way and however the story is

the man no try at all, he should have considered his son...

anyway to the woman... Welcome back to your country, lets start all over again

What do u mean by big boys... Why not call them what they are exactly...

I know the daughter

No worries we know Ngozi Utd cannot win the champions league...

Oga... have you heard of the saying that, it is only a fool/mad man that argues with the man holding a gun... as a common man who has no back up what so ever and also having a full knowledge of how the system works in the country, and also knowing fully well you have nothing to do about this view, why not avoid anything that will make the Nigeria police want to insult you (and you know if you insult them back, you go collect)...

police stops you and ask you simple question, instead of you to just politely answer and leave that scene (not because you are weak or lower in status to the police, but just to be civilized in avoiding unwanted problems) instead you start asking police who gave you the right to ask you such questions

just yesterday, police stopped the vehicle i was in, simple question Oga where do u work, i told em i dont have a job, they asked me to open my bag which i did, they saw my laptop and condom and asked, do i have receipt of the laptop and i said yes, next he said what are u doing with all these bullets (condoms) you no wan born he asked, and i jokingly smiled and we were all good to go... my point is no police man will assault you if you behave urself before them and u have nothing incriminating on u... thanks

i agree with this 101%... you see in as much as the image of NPF has been badly damaged, you cannot just do without them... remove police from NIgeria for just 48 hours and Nigeria will experience Russia vs Ukraine over night... i pity those who are saying Rubbish about Nigerian police, the day will come when you will need them more than you need the air u breathe ... I pray God continue to watch over every policeman out there (good or bad)

Osinbanjo still better than the rest

Them many o

Man u kwenu!!!

Who won the match...

Iliveforever:
Cash out immediately na

I have done that but the return is low, just 7,000

Pharaohny:
On this day in 2016,Roberto firmino scored his first goal at anfield in a 3-3 draw ...

Fast forward today,same date,same venue same opponent...

Epic �

No be juju be that

But life hard sha... I just say make I take risk... Play Napoli to win for llive betting...

base on say oppo get red card... Now Napoli dey lose despite having a man up...

Now 20k dey tell me bye bye like this

Who are these thieves trying to impress!

their girl friends?

Trying to understand the reason why this guy went to steal phone... Is more difficult than me trying to understand why I can't get sure 2 odds everyday...

Kirkman:
May God bless you sir for this advice. RedMac shey you don hear?

Loud and clear sir... Thanks man

Hybridz:
One of the cardinal attributes of being a man is owing up to the consequences of your actions and inactions. Fine,you both entered into the relationship with a different mindset and things have taken a different turn now and you have to make a decision fast.

I understand the gulf in class but you just said she cuts almost everything as a wife material. That's worth more than a treasure in this century bro.

As for your family,remember they will not live with you and whatever pain and regrets you feel afterwards will be solely felt by you.

Why not take the option of upgrading herto your taste since money isnt a problem? You have no idea the extent an average or some women could go to retaliate such betrayal and time wasted. You didn't even have any issue with your feelings for her,just difference in status.

Bro, think this over and make a reasonable decision, one you would be proud of in years to come,if not,you are on your own.

Honestly with all the quotes and mentions I have been getting... I am beginning to love this lady more and more and I can't just think of leaving her just like that, she has in no way offended me in over 2 years of dating...

I will try my utmost best to stick with her and be the best I can be for myself and her... May God bless you all for straightening my mind set again... I bet I was dead in thinking before but now am alive

GenderMix:
Thanks for your input. Do you imply I should flog her if she refuses to go sleep in her room? Besides this, what other tactics would work?

However, I punish her if she misbehaves, sometimes I whip her hands, not like I give her all the freedom in the world.

Make her see reason why she must stay in her room... Do more to let her know that your room is not where she should be sleeping...

And talking about other ways, I think u should stay with her in her room some hours before she sleeps and also tell her never to come to ur room to sleep and be strick about it, it's not going to change the love u have for her

Though she might see it as harsh treatment, but if u give her good treatment in no time she will see it as the normal thing...

GenderMix:
i think flogging is too brutal and may cause another problem for her. However, i will try to be stern about it. I appreciate your response

Hmmmmm at 4+ come on man... If u continue shinning teeth with her at such age, she will see it as normal, but being harsh on her about this issue will change her thinking and she will get to understand better... By which ten years from now, she will not even remember all these...

When u flog her with left hand, u draw her close to u with right hand...

Good luck

[s]She wants to learn... Don't be a stumbling block... [/s]

Anyway... Na better beating go correct any error... Our fathers and mother's no teach us any other way to correct pikin pass flogging

By the time u flog her better flog she go understand... Say she get her own room

Ki wa ni big deal... Dem beat us, we go beat another person... Life no pass like that...

tosyne2much:
A tale of a people pleaser. A tale of a family pleaser. A tale of an adult who is still living in fairy tales

You don't even sound like a man who knows what he wants in life but only trying to please certain people

You were still making sense when you said she's a little bit below the par based on her educational standard which is still quite understandable but using your brothers' wives status as a benchmark to pick a wife is just so silly

Oooh you think marriage is all about marrying your standard? You think marriage is all about marrying a woman that will fit exactly into your brothers' wives status?

Anyway! just find a subtle way to pass your message across to her and I wish you well in your quest of looking for a woman that will measure up to your fairytale standard

I picked up something from u, thanks man... Am silly trying to please others

Chanchit:
Reasons why men will always be better than women. If it were to be the other way round, they'll use you until they are done, then move on gracefully.

I'm in such dilemma too. Don't be anxious, the relationship will die a natural death. My own finally got another guy. Though she didn't let me know, I found out and I'm playing along till when she'll tell me she's getting married. If you peradventure be the first to impregnate someone else, it makes it all better. But If it happens that you want to officially get married, then come I'm with the prophet stunt. But for now, continue with the oiling service.

This was what KATE eventually did to me... It was after her I vowed never to date any girl again until I become super financially buoyant...

Like I said, this lady wriggled her way into my life, she has in all honesty made me wish I met her first before the other girls in my life... So loving and caring, a lady who would call me almost 5 times everyday just to make me feel am not alone, being contented with the little she has while encouraging me the future will be better... I just don't know why I can't pay her back that love she deserves...

I know this is one of the hardest decision I would ever make in this life... May God forgive me if I eventually take the wrong decision on this... For now I will strive hard to be the best guy both for myself and for her...

Thanks man for the encouragement