Thanks fiends for your support , Now i am happy with my married life after living 5 months separate from my husband , now my hubby came to know importance of a wife now he supports me and he has changed his behavior too he has become a man earlier he was a mumma's boy now i am happy with my life...

Thanks friends for supporting me to keep faith...

Dear I told my uncle to call up my father in law to discuss about me and my husband issue as i know my husband can not take any decision regarding his life , but my father in law started complaining about me and my behaviour and told to fix up meeting after 2-3 months ..i know now they want that i keep on calling them and beg to stay with them .... my husband also complained about me like i did not used to sit with his mother etc...i think i was wrong this guy will never change...

Thanks dear

yes but we have given everything and if a girl is educated and her family background is good so no one has to follow this dowry system. And it is totally illegal in india to take dowry too if a person is found taking dowry then in laws can be arrested by police and there is imprisonment of upto 7 years in Jail. In my case and in my society dowry is not involved still my in laws have cheap mentality before marriage i did not know than these people are such greedy

thanks for your advice ivanya, i am in the middle i have feeling for this guy who is a timid man in front of his parents , you know i could not sleep whole last night...even in my country india also it is husband's responsibility to take care of his wife but god is taking my exam , i have not seen this king of mil in this world , i am totally disappointed with this condition.MIL thinks it is her right to interfere in her sons married life as she is the mother of the boy .....GOD PLS. GIVE SENSE OF RESPONSIBILITY TOWARDS ME EITHER TO MY MIL OR TO MY HUSBAND.......All terms and conditions are decided by my MIL

Dear Genius,

on the request of my MIL when she contacted my father and mother i started to give 6500/-Rs. to my MIL out of Rs.23000/- salary in the m/o Feb, but after some time my in mother in law suggested to open joint account with my husband in which both my husband and my signature were compulsory to withdraw money and i can admit that at the initial stage i denied to give any contribution to the family as i told my husband that my money will be used to purchase a flat for our investment purpose and we both will be the joint owner but from the starting my in laws do not have trust on me they even could not wait for some time they think if i am working then i should contribute on monthly basis for the money only my MIL called up my parents 2 times to have a chat about monthly contribution and openly told if i am not going to give his son any contribution on monthly basis then they do not need me and my husband is also agree with his mother , i am living with my parents right now for the last 3 months, i thought my in laws mentality might have changed in 3 months but still my father in law and mother in law and husband say the same thing if i will not contribute on monthly bases then they do not need me.And my husband is very emotional being an emotional he is close to his mother too, in front of his mother's wish he is not ready to support his wife(me)..My parents want me to divorce this guy due to his mamas boy nature.

Although our culture also does not includes such kind of conditions by mother in law , i have seen this kind of women first time in my life who does not bother about her son's married life in front of money

Dear All,

Thanks for your advice as i was totally confused before , i have decided to try to talk to this guy by 15th august , and put the condition clearly if he can take the responsibilities or not if not then i will take divorce as i have been staying with my family (at my father's home) away from him for the last 3 months when he beated me , although i am sure he is not changed but still want to make 1 effort may be within these 3 months he might have got some -20% realization of hurting me.

Yes dear i am indian.

Thanks for the response and Yes i understand but he is emotional too but when it comes to his mother's wish he always supports his mother ,although i am working and making good money too but not sure about my future if i will get good person or not , but why he can not understand this if i am his wife then he has some responsibilities for me too , at the initial stage he had this feeling but now he has lost that feeling ........

I have been married for the last 10 months and my husband is totally mamas boy, and most of the time my mother in law is very sweet with me and once I am not in front of her she starts complaining about me from her son , When our maid does not come then In front of her son she will pretend and will tell me to give my clothes to wash so that she can get sympathy from my husband and always she keeps on telling my husband not to spend money on me as, as per her if daughther in law is working it is her responsibility to bear her own expenses and she even told openly from my parents that if I want to live in their home then I need to pay 7000/- rs to them Per month , at that moment I felt so bad but for the sake of my marriage my parents got agree as they did not want to destroy my married life but from that day I am totally feeling like a tenant in their home who has to pay money to live in the house and I have no love for my husband too as he did not support me while his mother was keeping this point in front of my parents. And my husband had feeling of responsibility at the initial stage that I am his wife so he should incur my expenses but now my MIL has also changed his mentality that I am working so I will bear my expenses own and will give them money ,pls. advise what to do as I am very fed up of my mother in law interference . And in the influence of my mother in law my husband has beaten me up 3-4 times now i am living with my parents for the last 2.5 months , my mil is very greedy and my husband does whatever she tells him , now he called up to come back to his home but i need to pay him money too as i am working and has to do household work too but he will not help at all as he is the man but when it comes to money then he does not remember his responsibility , my mil wants me to incur household expenses as well as household work too.

It seems that i do not have any worth in their home , husband is neither interested to take financial responsibility nor household work responsibility , pls. advice what should i do as i am living at my parents place , even my mil has called up my relatives while i was living with my husband 2-3 times just to decide who will take financial responsibility of household expenses , she is a greedy women who always think about money and even my husband was supporting her while she called up my relatives, but now my parents have tired of their greediness and they want me to take divorce as they find no future and financial security with this guy ,pls. suggest i am very confused whether i should give divorce or not

Reema

I have been married for the last 10 months and most of the time my mother in law is very sweet with me and once I am not in front of her she starts complaining about me from her son , When our maid does not come then In front of her son she will pretend and will tell me to give my clothes to wash so that she can get sympathy from my husband and always she keeps on telling my husband not to spend money on me as, as per her if daughther in law is working it is her responsibility to bear her own expenses and she even told openly from my parents that if I want to live in their home then I need to pay 7000/- rs to them Per month , at that moment I felt so bad but for the sake of my marriage my parents got agree as they did not want to destroy my married life but from that day I am totally feeling like a tenant in their home who has to pay money to live in the house and I have no love for my husband too as he did not support me while his mother was keeping this point in front of my parents. And my husband had feeling of responsibility at the initial stage that I am his wife so he should incur my expenses but now my MIL has also changed his mentality that I am working so I will bear my expenses own and will give them money ,pls. advise what to do as I am very fed up of my mother in law interference . And in the influence of my mother in law my husband has beaten me up 3-4 times now i am leaving with my parents for the last 2.5 months , my mil is very greedy and my husband does whatever she tells him , now he called up up to come back to his home but i need to pay him money too as i am working and has to do household work too but he will not help at all as he is the man but when it comes to money then he does not remember his responsibility , my mil wants me to incur household expenses as well as household work too.
I know that I am wrong but I wish from my heart if she dies.And although my husband shows me that he loves me but whenever his mother does anything wrong with me he always supports his mother it seems that i do not have any worth in their home , he is neither interested to take financial responsibility nor household work responsibility , pls. advice what should i do as i am leaving at my parents place , even my mil has called up my relatives while i was leaving with my husband 2-3 times just to decide who will take financial responsibility of household expenses , she is a greedy women who always think about money and even my husband was supporting her while she called up my relatives, but now my parents have tired of their greediness and they want me to take divorce as they find no future and financial security with this guy ,pls. suggest i am very confused whether i should give divorce or not

Reema