₦airaland Forum

The goal of the 10 percent is to tie you down which is already happening. That's why you are confused. Let go of the money and go for the better offer.

Chidiesta:
Good day nairalanders,

I have lived in Germany for 3 years now i have a 1 years old daughter and I also have a 8 years old daughter who lives with my elder sister in nigeria.

She is married with three kids , I provide everything for them and I pay one of her child school fee but my sister is never satisfied with the money she keep demanding me for more money.

She knows it very well that I am not stable yet in this country , life is hard just because she is taking care of my daughter and she want me to carry the responsibility of her three children.

I make sure that I send a big parcel for all of them once a year as I am typing the parcel is on the way but she want me to pay school fees for all her children too and I can't afford to pay for all four.

I am paying her son school fees is 87k per term and my daughter own is 67k . On the 2nd I sent her 300k for school fees and foodstuffs she called on monday demanding me for 154k for her son and my daughter school fee I asked her what about the money I sent on the 2nd she said she bought foodstuffs for 120k and use the 180k for her two oldest children school fee and she want me to send the 154k for the youngest 2 , I was angry with her and I cut the call.

I am angry my own sister is draining me financially and I have a lot of bills to pay too and a small child to cater for.

I have spoken to my friend she is happy to take care of my daughter for me until I am stable enough to bring her to Germany. I like the idea because my sister is not helping me to progress.

I hope my daughter living with my friend will be a good idea.

I haven't told my sister anything yet because we are not in good term but I want to hear from you first please let me know if I should allow my friend to take care of her or I should leave her with my elder sister.

It's quite unfortunate Sha. It's obvious she is not taking care of your daughter well enough. Don't allow your daughter's childhood to be horrible. All in the name of you don't want to offend your sister. Your sister is just being insensitive and not considerate. She is greedy and thinks it's all easy in Germany. She is just feeling entitled.. I will advice you to let your friend take care of the child if your trust her. If you still have your mum, that would be better. If you are a Catholic you can take her to Passionist sisters (Nuns) they take care of cases like this. And you can be rest assured that she will be in goods hands. Your daughter is young, please don't allow her childhood to be full of trauma all in the name of you don't want to offend your sister. You daughter won't forgive you when she grows older if she has Bad childhood memories. It is well ma'am

uuzba:
So if she was ugly, you won't like her to be found?

Lol calm down na. Why won't I? We are all happy she was found. But the girl is indeed beautiful.

The Girl is so beautiful Sha.

7 Billion dollars.. is this possible?

Tunjibalogun:
I'm doing well in Nigeria and a professional. I can't relocate to wash dead corpse upon sleepless nights like your useless self is currently suffering in abroad. Lmao. Only poor irrelevant Nigerians like u relocate, that's the truth. Lol

And you claimed you are a professional yet sounding like an illiterate. Shame!

chatinent:
Can you do what I'll say?

If you can, snub her intimately for three months...don't ask, don't act like you do want, don't do petty intimacies. Allow her to herself. Don't quarrel or speak rudely to her tho..in fact, be more lovely and hypercaring...but don't agree to intimacies.

Don't act angry! Act very happy always...esp when you return.

Talk normally and more confidently.

She'll feel you're getting it outside and watch the magic.

This life na common sense.

Best advice ever for this situation OP.

Godsofsoccer:
It's the gay tendency in you that's unfolding.
Werey.

Yeeehhh My chest.....

Where you go see all.these picture? Are these ones Fine? I would had agreed with you if you had posted Baaj Adebule self and Omolola Omooola ( the Nigerian Actors)

It's so Unfortunate Sha. Anytime a Young Girl is kidnapped, i am very worried. They will mess her up.

We should always remember death in every moment. May God rest his soul.

In everything you do remember death.. this world is not our home. May God rest his soul.

H0711:
I got married two months ago. I am 7 months pregnant my husband didn't tell me he had a child from his previous relationship and the child has a disability celebral palsy. Her mother came to dropped her off in my house saying she has done enough and she's tired it is now hubby turn to take care of her.

The child can't do anything for herself she can't sit, talk, walk and she does toilet in her clothes. I can't do it anymore I love children because I have taken care of my own nieces and nephews before I would have taken care of her if she was normal but taking care of a child in this question is hard and if her own mother has had enough she abandoned her and why would I kill myself taking care of her in my condition.

I want to divorce and go back to my village I have told him i am leaving next month. He is pleading with me not to leave him that he will take the child somewhere else but the place is not free he has to be paying like 200k monthly for them to take care of the child and he doesn't even have that amount of money because he is not financial stable.

I will stick to my decision but I want to know what will other people do in my situation.

To be honest this OP is a very Considerate and Happy Woman. Every other Mother's will understand. Ma'am, what I can Advice is that you should leave the house for now. Don't divorce him. That may be too harsh and aggressive. But give him space. Till he finds solutions to these whole issue. But some men no dey try sha. He lied to you because he never thought the mother of that child will ever come to drop the child. And also know that he actually abandon the mother of the child because of the condition of the child. That's why he got married to you . So definately if you yourself give birth to such child, (God forbid) he will abandon you too and go for another woman . So don't pity him saying you want to be managing .. just give him space.