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It's damn easy to cheat in a relationship, marriage wouldn't be an exception... It's becoming a heart break that marriage is extremely overrated this day's, and the fear that many men will still end up with damage beyond repairs goods as wife is a pity. Once a cheat always a cheat so I heard. Unrepentant cheats are more abounds than you think.... It takes only a God fearing lady to ask for forgiveness after cheating.

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This is what you get in a society having enough feeding problem triple with the hunger for sex.... Anywhere you look it's sex they are selling, from tv to radio to your street and your church.

It's inevitable that we are lost already.

I gave been advising lot of young man here to look before they leap... Not all ladies are woman. How would a lady that has more than 5 BF while dating then mistakenly got married and you expect her to change. Humans don't change from what I have learned so far.. This bastard useless girl's are the reason good girls are having serious issues with good men.

It's a pity that many men will work hard but end up with over uses holes. I pity many guys shall.

The first rule is to stop masturbating.... You heard me right??.... Please stop it immediately.

Masturbating is the cause and here's why... It weakens you and always triple your urgee because it's a bad way to enjoy yourself.

You are killing your dick without you knowing. When you masturbate your performance on bed will be reducing gradually... And you'll be having low libido too. Prick go quick rise when you see anything sexually arousing but when you want knack the prick go dey disappoint you.

Stop masturbating... Stop watching porn and when you see any lady or anything that moves you.... Don't get moves. Just stare at it normally.

The last and not the least stop visiting olosho house... 5 min or 10 min sex will not satisfy your urge ... That's why you keep running back there.

Look for a very matured lady... Don't rush her, always admire and tell her how beautiful she's.... Let her know you are really into her.

They understand what you wants more than you do.... So the last is to take anything sex from your brain.

And man up my brother.... No let those sex neuron's turn you to a simp.

My one Kobo advice... I game it to someone on nairaland and I know it would work for you too.

It's clothed messes and it's not normal... Are you using postinor or any pregnancy prevention pills.. the last time I checked who had it .... Was because she's using one of those deadly pregnancy prevention pills.

If you are not using any of the above pills ..... Go to your doctor or consultant a professional asap.

fadilaMaikiriki:
Hello all. Please, I want to know if this is normal. Whenever I'm menstruating, there are usually some things that do come out like pieces or chunks of meat, I mean bloody meat.
It's usually jelly-like and can be felt when it's dropping or coming out.

It occurs every month, but that of last month was much and the flow was heavier too, that I ended up using more than one pack of sanitary pads.

I don't know if this is normal. Please, if it's not, is there a way I can stop it from happening again or at least reduce it. Has anyone experienced this? Is it something to be worried about? Thanks.

Attached below is a picture of what it looks like.

The first rule is to stop masturbating.... You heard me right??.... Please stop it immediately.

Masturbating is the cause and here's why... It weakens you and always triple your urgee because it's a bad way to enjoy yourself.

You are killing your dick without you knowing. When you masturbate your performance on bed will be reducing gradually... And you'll be having low libido too. Prick go quick rise when you see anything sexually arousing but when you want knack the prick go dey disappoint you.

Stop masturbating... Stop watching porn and when you see any lady or anything that moves you.... Don't get moves. Just stare at it normally.

The last and not the least stop visiting olosho house... 5 min or 10 min sex will not satisfy your urge ... That's why you keep running back there.

Look for a very matured lady... Don't rush her, always admire and tell her how beautiful she's.... Let her know you are really into her.

They understand what you wants more than you do.... So the last is to take anything sex from your brain.

And man up my brother.... No let those sex neuron's turn you to a simp.

My one Kobo advice.

Badboibipo:
This is one problem many guys suffer from but hardly really speak about. I’m attracted to everything in a woman, their face their breast they arse their armpits, their smell, their panty lines, everything female turns me on. If I do something about it like masturbate or have serx, it takes just two days at best and I’m hornyy again. Please is this normal? If I’m sick what’s the solution? This shit makes me so miserable.
I learned to control my urge to approach any and every girl like my body wants me to do I just visit olosho houses regularly and the more I go the more I feel like going. I can’t stop myself or even date any girl because all I see in a woman is their sexual nature , I cannot talk to a girl without touching her for five seconds. What’s happening to me

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You look so beautiful ���... Hope you are enjoying the weather over there.

And I hope those men will appreciate you more than us over here �.

Count your loses and move on... No be all toto Dem dey Bleep

Kingozymandias:
Okay so I ran into this fine babe at the INEc center near my place where I went to check my pvc registeration.
.we got talk and she gave me her number. My expectations where much because frankly she is a Nigerian woman so...

2 days later in the evening I was bored so I gave her a call the conversation went well, good healthy conversation between two adults, no forming , getting to know each other better. "What do you like" "do you like your anus licked" " Do you squirt ": "Does your kitty smell " just a typical healthy conversation between two adult trying to get to know each other better.

Anyways eventually we fixed a date to see and she wanted me to invite her out to a neutral environment, nice place where we could eat and chill without any strings , so I invited her to my house.

She came over and we got talking and one thing led to another , we got naked and then I was about to slip on a condom when a smell hit me.

At first I was confused and rushed to check if I left unflushed shīt in the toilet as usual ,then I came back and realized it was from her kitten.

I have never smelt anything so bad in my life. I mean her kitty smelt like wet dustbin left for 4 years to rotten under ojuelegba bridge. Her kitty smelt like unwashed armpit of two almajiri children who haven't had a bath ever. Her kitty smelt like all the things wrong with Nigeria. Wait how can I describe how bad this kitty smelt, her kitty smelt like a wet goat which was rubbed all over with watery shit and left to dry in a septic tank.

My hard on disappeared immediately while I was holding my breath and trying not to vomit ... But I have up trying not to vomit when I rem8my free food she ate and the fact I won't sleep with her so I let go and vomitted all over her and her mouth was open because she was trying to open her mouth and also me what was wrong at the same moment I vomitted all over her face. ..she screamed and ran to the toilet to vomit ...

I lay there thinking about my sportybets ticket that cut that morning. Anyways so after she had a shower , abused me for vomitting all over her and refusing to apologize... I escorted her to my gate and when he turned around and asked me "What of transport" I slammed the gate and went inside. .. she kept running the bell for like 30 minutes until she left.

She called my phone over 20 times I don't pick them sent me abuses ... Because I sent my account number to her asking to send me 5k for the food she ate in my house ..was I wrong ? I mean I feel she should pay for my food she ate and DStv she watched . Diesel I bunred in my generator. 5k isn't too much ..

Serious advise needed

If she doesn't want to relocate with you why force her... And why would you have her in your house for three years and you didn't wife her.... If you love her at least you would have shown some seriousness in meeting her people and at least pay her bride price or must have done introduction and all..

She's fed up and want to move on... You too should move on... Know the type of woman you want to end up with.

My woman will never leave even if I cheat on her because she understands that men must cheats.... We would only have serious problem if I start to take any other woman above her and not paying attention to her again.

Becareful Bro... No force any woman do anything.

Akinbest:
Goodday nairalander, your advice is needed on this.
i and this girl have been dating since 2018,which i love her and i believe she love me too,she has cut me with girls but i do beg her and we get over it,but since late last year have promise myself and let her know i will never cheat on her again,and have been following it and never woo any girl but girls want me because am a little handsome,tall and black guy.i do turn them to friends and never have anything with them but we do talk always and my babe never trust me,all her thought was that am dating them.
so,we plan to relocate to other state which we have both agreed on,i suppose to pay up the rent this weekend and we move in next weekend,but last weekend, she told me shes done with me that am not ready to change and she cant continue dating me that she wanna move on with her life.mind you i have been the one taken care of her and she has been staying in my houuse now going to 3years. and till now we still stay in thesame house but she she said i should be relocating but shes not going with me, that she will still be in that same house till she find her way and the rent will expire by December..please advice needed, SHOULD I STILL RELOCATE OR STILL STAY IN THESAME HOUSE WITH HER

In their relatively rich neighbourhood, her beautiful mansion is the cynosure of all eyes, given its luxury trappings and the expanse of land it occupies. Apart from the main building, which is well finished, it has chalets, boys’ quarters, swimming pool, huts and other things of interest that could make living more exciting.

But as big as the house is, 75-year-old Mrs. Comfort (surname withheld), a widow, lives alone in the entire premises, and the only company she has are her driver and the home help, both of whom live in one of the chalets.

For the past seven years when she lost her husband, loneliness has been the only company she has had, and it is particularly challenging because all but one of her children live outside the country, while the one in the country lives in Port Harcourt, hundreds of kilometres away from her abode in Lagos.

On a typical day, the old woman told our correspondent during a friendly chat that she spends most of her time sleeping, watching television, a routine she’s now tired of, and is gradually aggravating her loneliness instead of eliminating it.

While one would assume that she could spend the rest of her time visiting her children one after the other, she said, “I can’t stay in the United States where most of them are; I can’t cope with the weather, and the one that lives here only comes once in a while and for some reasons, I would rather stay here alone.”

What Mrs. Comfort goes through is central to what many aged parents go through, and the root causes are always similar, and chief among them is when their children become adults or get married. It is even more so because the culture in this part of the world makes it somewhat a detestable act for married children to live with their parents.

Apart from the psychological and emotional distress that accompany loneliness, scientific studies have also shown that boredom could lead to a range of health problems, like depression, and in extreme cases, some take their own lives when they feel there is nothing to live for again.

Given that it is a phase most people can’t escape, experts speak on ways to handle boredom at old age;

Get people to live with you: No doubt, some people are wary of outsiders, especially anyone outside their immediate family, but in the situation under discussion, elderly people are advised to have good people around them. This does not imply bringing strangers into the house, but if there are BQs or chalets that could be put up for rent, they are often advised to do that, for the sake of having people around. A professor of psychology, Oni Fagboungbe, said boredom could be a serious problem for elderly people and could even facilitate their death, if not addressed. He said, “Life is life with others, and it’s impactful when you relay what you know to others. Boredom at old age is a serious problem and it is capable of hastening their death. If they find no attraction in this life, they might be in a hurry to go to the other side; it’s as serious as that. One solution is to get people to start living with them. If the accommodation is spacious enough or is designed to accommodate more people, you can bring people in. With that, they would have people to relate with and that would do a lot to reduce the boredom.”

Mix with people: With the way some elderly people isolate themselves from going to fun places, one would almost see such as a norm, but no. Elderly people have been advised to go out and mix with people, especially because loneliness or feeling abandoned has been found to escalate depression. Thus, going to the beach and seeing the way people entertain themselves could be a nice form of entertainment. Fagboungbe said, “They can also go to the beach and fun spots; nothing stops elderly people from going out to have fun and mix with people.”

Stay active: It is not uncommon to see elderly people who still go to the mall, farm, take a walk in the neighbourhood, even if slowly, or do certain things for themselves, and findings have shown that engaging in such activities helps, even if children and neighbours are wont to advise them to refrain from doing certain things, thinking it could wear them out. However, it has been found that being active helps them to deal with isolation, and it eliminates the feeling of feeling like burden to others. A consultant sociologist, Dr. Franca Attoh, said things like religious activities could help. She said, “They can go into religious activities, especially if they were unable to be involved the way they would have loved to. Now that they have the time, they can explore it. That would keep them busy.” She added that doing charity works could also be helpful. She said, “There is no way you go into charity and you would be lonely.”

Try something new: It might sound unattractive or like an unnecessary task at old age, but findings have shown that trying something new, like learning an instrument or learning a vocation like hair plaiting, would help to engage their minds and keep them busy. “The best thing is for them not to feel old from within, if they have the feeling that they are old, the effect would be more devastating, hence, they need to feel young,” Fagboungbe added. “In fact, when it comes to psychological aging, nobody can help them, except themselves.”

Try sports and games: This is another way people could stay engaged at that moment of their lives. There are games and sports that are friendly to their age, like playing golf or some indoor games. Attoh, stressed that this could help to keep them busy. She said, “Look at Wenger, for example. He would soon be 70, but by the time he retires, he can become a commentator or he could feature on radio and television programmes. The 21st century is wonderful, because there is an array of activities that people can engage in.”

Consider writing: According to Attoh, writing could also be an option. She said, “If the person is literate, some people prefer to write their memoirs when they are old; so, they go into writing. They can begin to recall events. It’s like writing their autobiography. There is no way anyone involved in that would be lonely. It’s engaging.”

Try institutional homes: Some tend to skip this point because they see it as ridiculous, especially with the stigma attached, but it might be an option. Fagboungbe said, “It’s as if our culture does not embrace it because it has very serious social stigma and people would make jest of you, but it helps because there are other old people there they tend to interact with.” Notably, there is scarcity of that in this clime, but elderly people who are fortunate to live close to one or if they travel to countries where they have and they are admitted, experts say it is something to consider. Attoh said, “The sad thing about our society is that the government does not even prepare for them. The ones available are those established by religious institutions and some non-governmental organisations. Some countries have old people’s home, equipped with computers and indoor games and it enables them to compare notes and reminisce.” She said this elongates their lives because there is a reason for living. “But when there is nothing to look forward to, that is when you find that death comes knocking very fast,” she added.

Plan ahead: Perhaps this is for people who are not yet at that age, so they won’t find themselves struggling to adapt when they get to that age. Attoh said, “The old age is a phase that people must prepare for, so, you don’t wait for old age to catch up with you; you prepare for it.

Stay around family members: This is not alien to people in this part of the world, as their children tend to invite them to live with them. It is worthy of note that children sometimes find it hard to live with some elderly people because they see their behaviour as awkward, but with constant learning, they and partners who tend to have difficulty living with old people, could make life better for such elderly people.

Meanwhile, Attoh stressed that helping elderly people to deal with loneliness is a three-pronged approach; the individual, family members and the society. Also, Fagboungbe advised that children could make things easier for them by paying them regular visits and meeting their needs as and when due, even if it requires sending them allowances at regular intervals.

Kill that loneliness today and start doing one out of the above.

From my experience older woman is dope and sweet people to be with.... I have lost count of the older woman I have dated because they are the best for me actually, what attracts me to them is a lot but I'll be mentioning few here.

Maturity - they are matured and understanding. They know what they want in any given instance and doesn't have time distracting you.

Caring - they care a lot, and always lookout for you, they want the best for you and are always there for you.

Sexing - they enjoy and appreciate sex more, they don't waste your time, they are very clean and neat and always open to new sexual experience.

Trust and Confidentiality - There's no time for game playing, there's no room for blackmailing, they are out spoken and reasonable, they trust and believe in you.

What I understand is that a lot of them are very shy about there body and looks... Older woman think she's not your type because her breast is saggy or because she felt she's not looking as sexy as she used too. So she rather be lonely than to be with you.

My advice is age is just a number... Lots of men still fancy older woman till Jesus comes because of my above points or more and I guess it's high timd older lonely woman start going outs more. There's no enjoyment in staying indoors all day doing same thing.

Good Morning to you all... Nigeria as a country is filled with pretender's and hypocrite. We all know that what a lot oppose in public, they actually do the opposite in private.

Our damn society frowns on an older womam dating a younger man but in reverse older men kept smashing younger girls.

Although I'll always advice older woman to stop being shy about what the society thinks because society doesn't care if you are lonely, alive or dead, so please live your life happily na today we see who knows tomorrow.

My question is simple... Let's make this fun and truthful...

Compare to younger girls, what's your experience with older woman. I mean older woman for a guy who's 30 that can mean 40 and above

For the ladies how do you comprehend with younger guys... Please this is a faceless forums nobody is arresting anyone here for saying the truths. So let's go.

I can't get serious with a university girl... Guys are not learning at all.. either we are friends with benefits or simply Bleep mates. I dare not catch any mumu feelings self. Woman make dey school dey collect different rods. You dey here dey form BF. Mumu guys everywhere.

For the little period I was in Abuja.. I noticed that there's high chance of meeting someone that will give you what you want if you are willing to kill of shyness and ready to take the bold step. I met lots of beautiful ladies back then both married, divorced or widows. I love Abuja anytime any day when it comes to meeting mature ladies.

My ideal partner must share that special connection with me, understand me as I would understand her and respect the relationship like I do too.... our relationship comes first before me or her. Meaning our happiness comes first before any other thing. I may be a Muslim and she a Christian what really matters is truth and genuinesss in everything.

What’s the short answer?
Yes! Yes! Oh, yes! Sex really does help relieve migraine attacks in some people.

But keep your knickers on, and don’t go throwing out your stash of Excedrin just yet. There’s a little more to it than just banging migraine away.

Does it depend on the type of migraine or headache?
Based on what we know so far, it appears that migraine attacks and cluster headaches can be sexed into submission in some people.

There are also plenty of anecdotal reports of people who say that sex has relieved other types of headaches, too.

Before dropping trou’ and assuming position next time your head pounds, you should know that for some, sex can worsen or even trigger headaches. (More on that in a minute.)

What kind of sex are we talking about?
This is the best part! Any kind of sex that gets you to orgasm is more likely to do it. This goes for partnered sex and solo sex.

More research is needed to understand exactly how sex relieves headache pain, but orgasm seems to be the magic ingredient for most in this titillating headache remedy.

How does it work?
Researchers still aren’t exactly sure how sex relieves headaches, but suspect that the rush of endorphins during arousal and orgasm play a role.

Endorphins are the brain’s natural pain reliever and act like opioids.

According to the Association of Migraine Disorders, they provide rapid pain relief that’s even faster than IV morphine. Yes, please!

A surge in these endorphins when you’re turned on could numb the pain of migraine attacks and other types of headaches.

There may be other physiological processes involved when it comes to sex and cluster headaches.

Some expertsTrusted Source believe that orgasm has the same effect as deep brain stimulation on the area of the brain involved in cluster headaches.

Is there any research to support this?
You betcha! This actually isn’t the first time that sexual arousal and orgasm have been linked to pain relief.

Being turned on — especially to the point of climax — has been proven to relieve back pain, menstrual cramps, and even labor pain.

Doctors had suspected for years that sex could relieve migraine and cluster headaches, but only had a few case reports to go on.

In 2013, a large observational studyTrusted Source of folks with migraine and cluster headaches finally confirmed it.

Based on the results of the study, 60 percent of the migraine-having participants reported that sexual activity gave them considerable or complete improvement of their migraine attacks.

The same study also showed that 37 percent of participants who experience cluster headaches reported that sexual activity improved their attacks.

Many of the participants said they used sex as a reliable therapeutic tool for migraine relief. Now that’s my kind of therapy!

What if it doesn’t work, or you just don’t want to be touched?
You’re not alone. Sex doesn’t do the trick for everyone, and a lot of people report that touching and physical activity of any kind is the last thing they want during a migraine attack.

You could try a little gentle exploration if you want to give orgasm another chance to help your pain.

Try lying in a dark room and massaging any of your erogenous zones. Use whatever speed or technique you’re comfortable with.

If it leads to arousal or orgasm, great! If not, it’ll at the very least help relax tense muscles.

If you’d rather not get busy when you’re dealing with a bad headache or just don’t find orgasm helpful, there are other things you can do for relief.

Here are some options:

Head to a dark and quiet place. Migraine attacks increase sensitivity to light and noise. Find a dark, quiet place to close your eyes and try to nap if you can.
Try hot and cold therapy. Placing a cold compress on your forehead or behind your neck may numb the pain and relieve inflammation. A warm compress used the same way can help loosen tense muscles.
Have some ginger. Ginger helps relieve nausea caused by migraine and other conditions. According to researchTrusted Source, powdered ginger can be as effective as the drug sumatriptan for decreasing the severity and duration of migraine attacks.
Have a caffeinated drink. Having a small amount of caffeine in the early stages of a migraine attack can reduce pain. It can also enhance the effects of pain relievers like acetaminophen and aspirin.
Talk to your doctor about preventative therapy. Depending on the frequency and severity of your migraine, your doctor may be able to prescribe medication to help prevent future migraine attacks.
What about the opposite — can sexual activity trigger migraine?
Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but sex does trigger migraine attacks and other types of headaches in some people.

Why this happens isn’t completely understood yet, but researchers believe that it may have something to do with the involvement of muscle tissue in the back and neck when you get physical.

Another possible explanation is the relationship between stress, excitability, and mood.

In some people, sex also triggers other types of headaches that are referred to as — surprise — sex headaches.

There are two types of sex headaches: benign sexual headaches and orgasmic headaches.

People with migraine are more prone to sex headaches, but they can happen to anyone who’s sexually active, even if the only sex you’re having is with yourself.

How do you know if sexual activity is a trigger for you?
If you notice that you often begin to experience symptoms of migraine shortly after having sex, that’s a pretty good indicator.

Actual sex headaches are easier to self-diagnose. These types of headaches come on hard and fast, unlike migraine attacks which have a more gradual onset.

Sex headaches are also pretty intense, and start at the most inopportune time — like while you’re in the throes of passion or just about to climax.

Symptoms to watch out for are:

a dull ache in your head that intensifies as your sexual excitement increases
a severe, throbbing headache just before or as you orgasm
The severe pain associated with sex headaches can last from a minute to around 24 hours, sometimes followed by milder pain that can linger for up to 72 hours.

Unlike with migraine, sex headaches usually don’t cause aura symptoms, like vision disturbances or nausea.

At what point should you see a doctor about your symptoms?
Sex and orgasm headaches aren’t usually serious but they can be a symptom of an underlying condition.

See a doctor if this is your first time getting a headache during sex or if you experience a severe headache that begins abruptly or lasts more than 24 hours.

In rare cases, a sex headache could be a sign of serious medical emergency, such as stroke.

Call your local emergency services or go to the nearest emergency room if your sex headache is accompanied by:

loss of sensation
muscle weakness
vomiting
loss of consciousness
seizures
partial or complete paralysis
The bottom line
You may feel anything but aroused when your head’s throbbing so bad that you might vomit, but sex could be the key to stopping a migraine attack in its tracks.

If you want to give this highly enjoyable remedy a try, ask your partner to lend a helping hand or let your own hands work some migraine magic.

Read more below ....

https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/does-sex-help-migraines#takeaway