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Sleekyshuga:
After our traditional marriage on December 2013,I had some financial challenges,and then my rent was due for renewable,she offered to assist, at first I was skeptical about it ,because I know her kind of person, knowing full well that she will use that to ridicule and abuse me in no distant time.

But,then,I didn't have any alternative,so I allowed her pay d rent. Now,she's claiming ownership,saying ..."which house,the one that I have been paying the rent or another one"...


And yes, he had an alternative knowing the kinda viper he married for a wife but yet, he threw cautions to the wind..

Maybe, I had issues reading the context the 1st time ,I had to read it again, and again, and I never saw where the OP mentioned earning 4 times better than his wife..[/b]

I'm done with the topic.. The OP should have gotten the advice he seek..

Good day..

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I will like to correct an impression that most posters had,though,it may not be necessary,but I will just have to say it so as to keep the record straight.
I'm financially independent of my wife, I pay all the bills at home, I only allowed her assist me when I had some financial challenges and that was immediately after our trad, I have since bounced back,
plz ,be guided that what I earn in a month,my wife earns same in 4 months or more.Thank You.

Natasha2:
hmm I really wished you could settle, I dislike broken homes



Since you have decided its a divorce, its alright, as for the child I'm sure your lawyer will enlighten you more on the chances you have, but It might be difficult since the child is still very much tender and needs its mother, but if you're able to prove she is a bad mother and that the safety if the child is questionable perhaps you'll be given the child.


Its like you haven't spoken to her up till now, Is she aware of the new development?

No, she is not aware.

Natasha2:
You can't accept all the blame, anyway thats by the way.


What have you decided to do now?

I have decided to leave the house for her,I will be renting another apartment soon.Already making arrangement.

But,my greatest challenge is my son,I woudn't want to leave him with her,she hardly breastfeeds the baby, I usually buy baby milk: SMA Gold on weelky basis for my boy.

I will be speaking to my lawyer tomorrow to know how to work things out cos I want the child to be in my custody.

Obviously,she would fight to keep the child,but then I wouldn't want her to visit my office,even though the security guys would not let her in,but she would want to create a scene and possibly attract the attention of my boss. And that will not mean well for my job.

Considering the location of my office,any form of disturbance will attract the attention of security operatives and high net individuals,that, will automatically kill my career,therefore I wouldn't want dat to happen. I know she's capable of taking such extreme measures to pull me down.

So,I still don't know how to handle this situation.

Best solution is what I seek now.
Thanks.

Wow,nairaland family section is indeed a big family. Thank you all for your comments ,advice and suggestions.

I have already accepted all the blames,it was my mistakes,but then,there's no perfect human.

I will like to correct an impression that most posters had,though,it may not be necessary,but I will just have to say it so as to keep the record straight.
I'm financially independent of my wife, I pay all the bills at home, I only allowed her assist me when I had some financial challenges and that was immediately after our trad, I have since bounced back,
plz ,be guided that what I earn in a month,my wife earns same in 4 months or more.Thank You.

elantraceey:



I'm against divorce but in this case that's the only way out for you , A married woman wearing butt pad against her husbands' wish , who is she trying to impress?


But op be honest , you saw some of these signs before you married her right?

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Thank you all for your contributions, I really appreciate your comments,suggestions and advice.
God bless.

My marriage is just 1 year and few days old,but within the last 365 days,I have seen torment and hell on daily basis. We dated for 2 years before tying the knot,she's a nice person,but her mouth is destructive,she has this overbearing attitude,always trying to control me or dictate the pace,and can keep malice,anger and record of evil done to her for a long time. She's the type of person that talks very well,I mean convincely well,but unfortunately,she speaks more negative words. She can talk for hours non-stop,especially when provoked,saying all sorts of bad words.

She has threatened to kill me & send assassins after me on different occasions in the past,though I just ignored such threats.

My wife has been abusing me verbally and always say nasty things at every slightest provocation and at the same ready to engage me in fisticuffs.

She can really say unprintable words such as "it will not be well with you","as you go out,people will deal with you", "you will work like an elephant and eat like an ant", "this your certificate will never yield you any good thing", etc, name callings,abuses,curses etc.

Please Nairalanders, I will like to know if it is wrong or out of place for a working class married lady to assist her husband in paying some bills or buying some foodstuffs at home. Because,anytime she assists in doing anything,she will record it and consequently use that to abuse and insult me whenever we have misunderstanding and or exchange of words.

After our traditional marriage on December 2013,I had some financial challenges,and then my rent was due for renewable,she offered to assist,at first I was skeptical about it ,because I know her kind of person,knowing full well that she will use that to ridicule and abuse me in no distant time. But,then,I didn't have any alternative,so I allowed her pay d rent. Now,she's claiming ownership,saying ..."which house,the one that I have been paying the rent or another one"...

She has done a lot of character assassination & damages to my personality before some of her relatives & family members(Her father and two sisters),thus they all support her & no longer regard me as anybody.

Few months into our marriage,she started wearing butt pads, I told her to stop ,because I don't like the stuff,but she flared up and we had exchange of words. She told me that she has to look good to outsiders.

Throughout her pregnancy period,she wore the butt pads on daily basis even at home,I allowed her because of her condition,even though it looked disgusting on her. After she put to bed,and few days later, I told her to quit wearing that stuff, but she refused,then I seized it,she started ranting to the hearing of everyone at home & neighbors that I have taken her padded pants(aka butt pad) to native doctor. I just ignored her. Few days later, she bought another set.

On Xmas day(2014),she dressed up & wore the butt pads again,I told her to remove it ,but she refused,then i tried forcing her to do so,and that resulted to a serious fight. She tore my already ironed clothes to pieces(an expensive Indian attire I bought when I travelled to India),I tore hers too and forced the butt pads out from her body.

Hell was let loose that day,because she called her sisters,they came to my house and created a very nasty scene in my neighborhood,they insulted,ridiculed me and made a mockery of me,her elder sister who is a police officer threatened to deal with me,she was talking and hitting her hands on the ground saying that,they are going to teach me some bitter lessons in this town. I tried to respond but my Mum,who's on child's visit(Omugwo) asked me to hold my peace. It wasn't easy though,they also insulted her too.

Since that day till date,my wife doesn't talk to me. The only thing that connects us now is the new born baby.

Her words have actually killed me psychologically, emotionally etc, to the extent that sometimes, I loose consciousness of my surrounding while driving to and fro from work , I will be lost in thought, and on a particular occasion nearly rammed another moving vehicle,if not for the speed bumps on the road that awaken my consciousness.


Her words:"if you are still regarding me as your wife,then you wasting your time". Its obvious she wants a divorce because to her,she's still very young(28 years),and can easily move on. She doesn't give a damn.

She has also repeated that same threat of killing me,these days ,the number of calls entering her phone is amazing,most times,she goes far from the house to answer those calls.

Please,kindly advice me.
Thank you.

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ajas baba: is that all you got

I have over 100 pics bro,still uploading them .

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I was at the Abuja carnival 2013 at the Eagel's square,here are the pictures:

musiwa112: this is how bad it is, this is way you people want to return too. where they bomb people and blow up people. get married.


The universities professor are striking because of the safety to their children life because of the satellite pictures. this is the reason.

https://static.guim.co.uk/sys-images/Guardian/Pix/pictures/2012/9/25/1348578668150/Wreckage-of-car-bomb-blas-008.jpg

https://www.nationalturk.com/en/wp-content/uploads/2013/08/Nigerian-Army-Killed-Boko-Haram-Members.jpg

What does it benefit you by posting these pictures? .

[quote author=Donalð Genes][size=28pt]Is there any Igbo among them? just asking[/size][/quote]You need serious psych examination.

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honeeyplum: [b][/b[b]]A psych evaluation of all this government convoy drivers is much needed at times like this,we need to be sure they r sane after which their ogass should be brought to justice

Well said,those drivers need serious psych examination.According to the FRSC Boss Osita Chidioka on a radio programme on Ray Power FM this morning,the FRSC has introduced a special driver's licence for convoy drivers,with this they will be able to examine and evaluate the psych of any convoy driver before issuing him a license.

Good policy you may say,but the question is :To what extent can FRSC implement this policy?

Wow,the news is already on the front page.

Tolexander: They are killing us economically and physically with their political powers, we no talk. Now they've started killing us with automobiles!

We can't continue to keep quite and allow this trend of reckless driving by VIP convoys.It's time we all speak against it.

kovak: If you meet a govt convoy on the way, just say your last prayer!

Too bad for this country.

Too bad indeed