Nigerian men can be very loving and will carry you on a silver platter, and they always, always take care of their children. If you are in it for the long haul, there are sacrifices to be made and you better learn to cook some egusi soup!?

What a luxury! You are very fortunate. On my bucket list to see more of Africa. Good luck with your journey.

Please, you don come out from that taxi?

Work stress and being overworked can cause weight loss. Not getting enough sleep can also be the cause. Lastly, if you were used to eating 3 meals a day and you have cut it down to 2 or 1, it could be the cause too.

On a lighter note, please share your secret, some of us have to force ourselves to just walk passed the chocolate rack, have to wake up at 4h45 to get to the gym and every time you get on the scale, it hasn't moved 10 grams! I'm so glad the scale broke!

jrerico1:

Yes the blood line runs in some family especially the Urhobo's. Sometimes I see my mum and I cry, because assuming my dad didn't had her in his life he won't have been as wealthy as he is, she's a true companion. She said she wanna remain because of her children. My mums dad married 8, while my dad mum married 4. And am beginning to find some trace in me though am not even set to marry. But I vow not to be a polygamous man

I hope you won't give in to the temptation. It may be easy in the beginning, but I guess it will become harder.

Catastrophe (waiting to happen) bed!

jrerico1:
sometimes it follows. my dad is most caring man have seen while my mum is the best mum and she is persevering and conservative, yet my dad decided to marry another wife for no reason but he loves my mum, my mother's 7th child senior her 1st. I pray that spirit of our forefather don't affect me too.

And all the woman must do is turn a blind eye because of the children. They all tell you it is stupid to leave your home because of a cheating partner. Well, what about you? This is also the reason some marriages fall apart once the children have left home. Because all you've tried to do is keep it together all those years.

I want to ask the guys, if you were exposed to this (cheating/sleeping outside father), are you more prone to it, tempted to follow in his footsteps?

Marriage is not everything. Rather find someone you are comfortable with, can laugh with and whom you can just be yourself with.

There is too much pressure to tie the knot. Do you know how many unhappy married couples there are who wished they had waited? It's really not the walk in the park everyone makes it out to be.

All the the same, good luck with your search.

OP, I applaud you for coming here and sharing your story and knowing that not everyone will be kind to you. It takes courage, but please don't be discouraged, there IS hope.

Firstly, you have a good job and you seem like an intelligent guy. I can't tell you whether to choose abstinence or suppression (I am not in your shoes), but whatever you choose, it doesn't mean that your life ends there. And don't be a recluse. Get out more, hang out with friends, get a hobby or maybe study towards something. Set some personal goals, like traveling to a new country and work towards it.

Try to take your mind off the negative thoughts. I know it won't be easy, but please don't see your sexual orientation as a death sentence, it is not that. I know that perhaps living in a country that is not that liberal brings more anxiety, but at the moment you are your own worst enemy because of all the negativity.

Please shake it off, count your blessings and know that tomorrow the sun will shine again.

Be strong beautiful soul...

Kingsasian:
because most of the girls are too dull to learn

Since it's Monday they may actually be at work, or fetching the kids, or cooking.

Unlike some who are just pretending to be busy!

Well done op!
Not sure how I landed here, but it was worth it. Haven't done much work though.

Please, when can we expect the next one?

Peru

Made my day, more please.