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I need to let every1 on here know that the last time we actually had issues with her speaking with her ex was like 5 years ago, she only stated the actual reason of recent as to why she removed her ring, alongside other things she said that the guy talked down on me and made himself look good, though she also stated that he is the kind of guy that does not look at peoples ass. Just finding out more made me feel i should eff the guy up, I detest and despise people like that, I changed her number when she came back from the USA, but she was the one that called him. The issue of her saying she just finished effing a big d.cik caused alot of trouble, I just didnt want a broken home that early with my daughter being just some few months, trust me people, I mad pass how some people seem to take me here. Its just that some Unilag girls ehn, to tame them na war. Another thing I blv is, shes a cheat that normally MIGHT want to stay faithful, but feels if this guy dey cheat, abeg make I go do my own. Another reason why I feel her ex ust have taken advantage is because, when we just met, she talked about how big her ex manhood is, how it took her 3months b4 she could adjust to the size, not that am small sized, but comparing to her description, I would say am far behind, in which no amount of stamina, skills will to her be matched to what she has experienced with him per her own explanation though. So I can imagine, if she thinks am cheating, she might definitely want to go have a taste back. I even bought se.x toys to fill up the differences,not easy for a man to do that, but I just had to do what I have to do. I am 5 years older than her for u people asking. Also I remember during that time we werent having much sex at a time, there was even a time I noticed a minor tear on her anal area, asked her whats the cut about, she said she does not know, and even said herself thereafter that we havent had sex in 2weeks, because I sometimes go through her backdoor. I tire. So what am saying is, her ex issue was wayback, just that she spilled more beans of what happened in the past of recent, why I wanted to Bleep the dude up, something I would have thought about wayback if she had all this spilled b4.

Thanks for the mod that moved this to HP. i wont be able to quote some posts because they are many. but I'll summarize.

1: To the guy that kept emphasizing on the ex already knows she married, so she has no reason to remove her ring, the person by the hand "godquality" has perfectly stated what I wanted to say. Guilty conscience and fear of desecrating that ring in the act makes them remove it.

2: People say I am too weak, maybe I WAS BACK THEN, I was young and was no ready nor even dreamt of marrying then. Its what you plan for is what you prepare for. I repeat she got pregnant and my family forced me into marrying. I saw her as a wife material when we started, just didnt know it will kick of so soon. Blv me, I am a no bullshit taker, but I had a promise with her that I am finding hard to break, she opened up to me on somethings that no woman can ever say b4 we got married, infact b4 she got pregnant, I promised never to forsake her. Just turns out that everything is backbiting me

3: The issue of her calling her ex was like a year and the half into the marriage and the issue of ring. It was just last week that we were talking about the past peacefully when she now said that the real truth about why she removed her ring was because she told the ex then about me looking at a womans ass, and he packaged a story which she blv, she even said when they were dating, hes not the type of guy that looks at other women, the story he packaged made her remove her ring because he was promising to run away with her.

4: Let it be known as I have said in my initial post, I was no saint, I didnt sleep with any lady, but was flirting, she saw those flrts, but thought I was already sleeping with them, I guess reason why she went wild, then when she use to ask me questions, I answer her, but she always want me to say, yes I slept with them, which is not possible even if I did. Then after answering questions, shes not satisfied, she then claims she calls her ex to explain whats going on in her matrimonial home.

Cuddlebugie:
I've been following your threads and i've come to the conclusion that

1. You are a nag

2. You have trust issues

3. For a man, you talk too much

(No offence is meant, so, none should be taken).

Like the poster above suggested, seek the service of a marriage counselor.

You can call me whatever you want woman, I understand its coming from the perspective of a woman like you. You dont see anything bad in a woman trailing in bad deeds, I bet you are nothing different or even worse than her.

Nazeren:
Why is your stupid wife talking to her ex? I'm sorry, but I'm annoyed. What kind of shit and disrespect is that? Why do people enter into marriages before letting go of their past? I also wonder why couples don't resolve ex issues before tying the knot.

You too stop looking at asses. Have some little respect.

Your wife is interested in other people. It's why her ring goes off and on depending on the time of the day.The day you went to your daughter's school was unusual, hence, she forgot to put it back on before your arrival at the school.

Apart from being a nasty move, she also wanted to get me jealous, wrong move still. The school day, she apparently forgot due to the emergency of what happened to my daughter. Also, during that period she has been talking to her ex consistently without me knowing.

powerkey:
We can track your wife down to affirm she's guilty or not and to find out every other thing she does to undermine the sanctity of your marriage...

How?

baby124:
I support that you should take your children for DNA. Your so called wife was never ready for marriage. She's gullible and should be blamed. Not you or the ex if your story is true. She finds little excuses to step out on her marriage. You really need to start being firm with her. That she considered running away with another man should really bother you. What next will you do that will make her run away? I doubt that guy will marry her by the way.

My daughter is surely mine, the boy is whom am doubting, God forgive me if am wrong, hes the one I am still thinking of doing DNA for.

Anyway, I'll continue. Went to the backyard from our room window, the blind is onesidedly moved so I could see whats going on, to my surprise, my wife was dressing up. First she was wearing her buttlift, something she has not worn in over a year, infact never thought she had it again. The enthusiasm in her dressing gave me chills, like wow, this woman dnt dress up like this when am at home. Next thing, wore her dress and put on her best wig. Started taking photos with her phone and typing bla bla bla. She then stepped out with the kids. Following her with my car at the back , I called and asked what the kids had for dinner, and then asked if she was driving, she said yes, said she wanted to go pick Cway water. Said ok no P. Saw that she parked somewhere and bought the water, then advanced to her friends place very close. I parked to observe, she was at her friends for close to an hour, she drove out and started heading towards home. I followed, 5 mins after she got it, I bursted into the room with surprise, she was about putting off the buttlift, I then asked her, wow, why are u wearing buttlift, she said shes just testing it now, I asked if she wore it out, she swore she didnt, said its weird for u to wear buttlift u said ur not interested in again, she still denided. So I opened up to her that I saw her while she was dressing up to go out, that I didnt like that she lied again, it was part of the deal breaker for the reconciliation I made after she cheated on me, she said if she told me, I might feel she wanted to go and see a guy. So I asked why she wore it since she wanted to go buy water and see her friend not too far away from home, she said she just wanted to test how it is when she remembered she was going to buy water and kukuma wore it out. So I asked if her best wig was also part of the test, she said no, that she didnt want her friends husband to look at her as a old woman with her natural hair. Nlanders, what are your thoughts on this? Because those excuses sounds lame to me.

Hello Nlanders,

Its me again. In the last 2 years, my wife and I have agreed to make things work by putting a stop to the things we do that makes either of us think we are getting involved in infidelity. As for me, being a father and a husband, I hold my home down by adhering to the rules, and she being the foundation, she also needs to. But as far as I have improved, she has not, and she even admitted to it, but she keeps saying am not doing anything which I have to understand because there is no concrete evidence. Although, I have seen several things that I cannot start with now because the story will be long. I will just narrate that which occured from few days past.

On Thursday, I called my wife to pass a message across to her, because she runs a daycare and she has nannies to represent her when shes not around. I called she didnt pick, normally if I call and she does not pick, I call her nanny to pass the phone across to her. After calling and she didnt pick, I called the nanny immediately, her number was busy, the time frame was just in btwn 1min when I called my wife back, her number was busy, so I thought she was trying to call me back. I waited to see if my phone would ring, it didnt, so I called back again, it was saying busy which is obvious she was on a call. 10 MINS later, she now called back that she saw my message that she should call me. I asked if she didnt see missed calls, she said her phone was on silent, I responded that ur number was busy twice while trying to call u and werent picking, she said the agent that has been trying to reach her was more important to speak with than taking my calls then because he has been expecting the guy to come to site. I sat her down that night, and explained that, its not like I dont trust u or am trying to figure anything out, as a mother and as a wife, if u are out, try as much as possible to be reachable, it could be an emergency or any other thing that would require u are reached promptly, she said sorry, that she'll always pick calls.

Yesterday, she had gone out from work to see a consultant, she called me while she was leaving the office that she saw a lady who said she knows me, that she should say hi to me, cool, thought she was going back to work, 3 hours later, I called to ask her if my chequebook was in the car she took as I could not find it. I called 3 times, my wife didnt pick. 35 mins later, she called back saying she was buying time to get some few clothes so that when shes done, shes going back to the consultants office, that she left her phone in the car. OK! I told her am not happy, it was just yesterday that I was tutoring you about the importance of having to be reachable while outside, she said shes sorry, I also reitrated the same point I made apart from the important of picking calls, that 3weeks back after finding out she cheated on me emotionally with a guy, which is an offense enough for some impatient men to chase a wife out, that I decided to forgive and move on, but she would have to promise to adhere to some rules, and to build trust is not a joke, you would have to be careful with things you do innapropriately in order for me to start trusting you again, going out and not being reachable two consecutive times is not good, though not judging you are up to something. I let that slide. Yesterday again, I called my wife after keaving the house to the barbing salon that a friend just came from jand, will be hanging out, probably wont be back until 1:AM. she said no P.

Based on the last incident when she cheated on me emotionally, I told her i was leaving the house for some days to go and heal myself, after 3 days, she took my kids around 9am, and started looking around for me, unfortunately, she left my daughter in the car parked in front of a locked gate with the engine on, carried the boy in her hands, walked down to a place she knows I might be with my friends, saw me, created drama that I must come home, was really mad when I found out that she walked this far and left my daughter in the car with the engine on. She said the children are second priority that am first. I convinced her to go back which she did, we settled and moved on. Now after telling her am hanging out, with the little argument we have had regarding not picking calls, I had a feeling she might again try to come and look for me with the kids at night, I decided to come home. But my coming home, went to the backyard to peep from our window room, I saw something ununsual. If you are reading this long story, and u want to know more, let me know and I will continue b4 some people will come here and say my story is too much.

Antina:
It seems u are hanged in between, a very good advise has been given by Babythug! U said u if u catch her red handed, you are out, and now u don't want to raise your kids separately.

Exactly, the sacrifice in staying to raise the kids together is far more than sacrificing to live in this marital darkness;

lashorrt:
She undermines you. It's either you stop entertaining her behaviour and put your foot down or be ready to watch her slip on another man's hands. Your wife is going to commit /has already committed adultery from how I see it.

Who earns more between you & her? I'm joking don't answer that

I apparently set up the business shes running now. And I still take care of 95% of the families responsibility.

kaffy4tope:
Don't blame the 'Ex'...Blame the prostitute you married as a woman that body language still gives the 'Ex' some hopes.



Are you sure the so called Ex have not or still banging your wife??

Thats why I tried to interrogate her to know if they saw each other, she said they never did, theres no how to know that, only Jah does. But the only thing that gave me a feeling they saw each other was the ring she pulled, her version of the reason why she pulled it sounds RED FLAG to me. In modern days now, some men and women who cheat always remove their ring aside.

labonita1:
now i see, she got pregnant and you were forced to marry her.

Op you can still work on your marriage.

with whats ground?

babythug:
You're unlikely to catch her red handed. If you are sure of what you know then make your decision and move on quickly

I wont doubt my ability to see something that is a viable evidence, its hard to catch a woman in the act. Plus i have two kids, wont want to raise them by separated parents.

babythug:
Dear OP you need to first decide if you genuinely want solution to this issue truly or just some jaw jaw sessions with the people of NL....

If it is the former please use the tips I will itemize below:

Firstly the past is in the past... She messed around with some guy in the past let it remain in the past! She may or may not repeat the act but that should no longer be your primary focus. Let your focus be on being a good husband and father to your children.

Cheating partners sometimes indulge in the act just for the thrills of sneaking around or because they enjoy how thier partner is in a Frenzy and chasing them around trying to "catch them in the act of cheAting". You will have to ignore your Mrs a bit more.

I'm not saying don't show her love but must you seemingly bother her with calls?

Try to structure yourself such that your calls to her too are limited to emergencies only! At least for now.... For eg even if the cheque book was in the car she had would you actually have left where you were to get it? You'll wait till whenever you have isn't it? So there! You didn't have to buzz her for it.

I felt I had reached an all time low the day I almost turned to chase a car I assumed was my husbsnd's own! I felt so low that I could think of it! Your driving behind your wife to see where she's going bla bla bla isn't gonna help your self esteem bro!

Ignore her and you'd see she will likely shape up and start to act right! If her excess behavior Is affecting the children for eg she isn't feeding the children at the right time or checking homework you fill the gaps by doing it or ensuring you get help for that purpose so the children don't suffer!

Dress well and fill in your time with stuff to make you happy. If you feel the urge to call her during the day pray instead or hold out for five minutes and decide if a text message will suffice instead

Hope this helps!

Cheers

Thanks for your post. I really appreciate it. Though, I will like to outline and clear something out. I am not the type that calls for nothing sake. I called to ask if the chequebook was in the car, because I needed to go to the bank urgently to raise a draft, and the bank would require that. I looked for it and thought to call and ask her if it was there, which was there.

I am not the type with esteem issue, all the following up is as a result of the things that I have caught her with and still decided to move on and she seems to have a heart of stone, one who finds it hard to change.. Will I say because I dont want to worry myself I'll be living in darkness if my wife is cheating on me or not? I know of so many bad things adultery from a wife brings to the family, I will not allow adultery to cut my destiny short. What am seeing is nothing short of adultery however it may be committed. I want her to change, silence and minding my business is not working, I had to opt for the second option of following up once in a while, if caught red handed, then I know am out

Hi Nlanders,

Happy Childrens day to all the daddies and mummies. Quick one, my wife and I are 6 years into our marriage with 2 kids, from the inception of our marital union we have always had issues that stems on trust, we both have that issue, and when I say trust, it has
to strictly do with her bickering into my phone and finding somethings not worth shouting or condemning me for, rather for communication, but she does otherwise. In her own case, it had to do with her ex she always talked about when we courted for a short period before marrying. She told me she called him to seek advise and confide in him, told her to stop and threatened fire n brimstone, but later found out that she saved the guys number with another name, gave me excuse as to the reason she did it.

One faithful day, a year after marriage, 5 years ago to be precise, she had gone to the school she worked as a teacher, there also she takes my dauther who resumes at the day care there. 2 hrs later, she called me crying over the phone that there was an accident, I asked what happened, she said my daughter of 9 months old then had a severe deep cut on her lips that I should rush down. Immediately, I left and branched at the clinic where she was being stitched, I felt for the poor baby, because at that age with such injury was not nice. Immediately, I told her that we'll leave for home for the day. The clinic was not far from the school where she parked her car, so I asked for the key so I could go ahead and pick the car so we can all be going home. On reaching the car, I saw her wedding ring kept in the glove compartment. Was surprised because she always wear it, and wore it out to work. At that moment, was more worried about my daughter.

We got home, and I asked her why her ring was in the car instead of her finger,she said the reason why she removed it was because last Sunday I was staring at a girls ass and she was mad about it. In which I did, but didnt do it deliberately or seemed too obvious, I use style look, and it was more of a reflex, I am human. I apologized that very day, but to think after then, she decided to remove her ring because of that? RED FLAG. I kept my mute. Once in a while throughout the years, when we still have arguments, I ask her that I still wonder why she removed her ring, that it cant be the issue of ass staring that would make it that bad for her to do that. She kept on saying it was the reason. 5 years into the marriage now, we were having a deep discussion, then she started saying things about what happened during our early stage of marriage, that she called her ex, because that was the only person he knew as a bf then, reason why she confided in him, that he talked about leaving his wife too with two kids and run away to Canada with her bla bla bla. But the major thing about her point was that, she discussed the issue of me stearing at another womans ass with him, that was when the guy started packaging some stories that entered her head, which was the reason why she removed that ring on that faithful day. Wow! She now stated that she noticed he was trying to seduce her by seeing her, that he went to the extent of saying, if I should come and see u at that ur place of work, I might be forced to kiss you, stating that was when she knew he was trying to use words to have him come around, so he could have sex with her. I told her that whats the probability that they have not been seeing, she said NEVER. But then I reminded her of the day we had issues, she came back from work late, and I asked where she had gone, she replied by saying, I went to go and have sex with someone that has a bigger joystick that urs. She later denounced that it was a joke to get at me, its possible,, and it could be true.

Nlanders, sorry for my long story, if i dont put it down well, u wont know my stance on this issue, I wont say am a saint when I started this marriage, but I have changed, this woman up until now has not, I have another post to share right after this. Now my question here is, I WANT to keep my family regardless of whatever, but is it wise to Bleep that ex up? Because of what she told me he said, to me hes trying to spoil me to get into my wife, thats if he has not, because I one way or the other found this her ex wife number. And I have evidences to prove that she has been in communication with my wife. Or should I just let God judge? Cos as I bad reach b4 I marry, I have never, and will never sleep with a married woman, nor will I ever try to sleep with an ex who is already married. Sincere opinion needed.

missperky:
are you sure the baby is yours?

She is.

Anyway, I'll continue. Went to the backyard from our room window, the blind is onesidedly moved so I could see whats going on, to my surprise, my wife was dressing up. First she was wearing her buttlift, something she has not worn in over a year, infact never thought she had it again. The enthusiasm in her dressing gave me chills, like wow, this woman dnt dress up like this when am at home. Next thing, wore her dress and put on her best wig. Started taking photos with her phone and typing bla bla bla. She then stepped out with the kids. Following her with my car at the back , I called and asked what the kids had for dinner, and then asked if she was driving, she said yes, said she wanted to go pick Cway water. Said ok no P. Saw that she parked somewhere and bought the water, then advanced to her friends place very close. I parked to observe, she was at her friends for close to an hour, she drove out and started heading towards home. I followed, 5 mins after she got it, I bursted into the room with surprise, she was about putting off the buttlift, I then asked her, wow, why are u wearing buttlift, she said shes just testing it now, I asked if she wore it out, she swore she didnt, said its weird for u to wear buttlift u said ur not interested in again, she still denided. So I opened up to her that I saw her while she was dressing up to go out, that I didnt like that she lied again, it was part of the deal breaker for the reconcilation I made after she cheated on me, she said if she told me, I might feel she wanted to go and see a guy. So I asked why she wore it since she wanted to go buy water and see her friend not too far away from home, she said she just wanted to test how it is when she remembered she was going to buy water and kukuma wore it out. So I asked if her best wig was also part of the test, she said no, that she didnt want her friends husband to look at her as a old woman with her natural hair. Nlanders, what are your thoughts on this? Because those excuses sounds lame to me.

emeijeh:
How does a wife cheat on his husband emotionally?




Besides, na missed calls matter you carry come NL this hot afternoon?!

Got a peice of her phone conversation with a guy she was flirting with and talking down on me her husband.

Danielomisco:
Imagine wat ur contemplating be a man and fix your home,keep your wife in one place.It doesnt pain you that she misguided you and changed his name to some1 else on her phne?dont you feel disrespected she tempered with your ego as a man and called u small dick?yet your problem is her X??wud u bleep any man she flirts with?when you answer this question you will know your answer.You dont deserve anything more here.

Bro, we have thrashed her own matter out wayback, I even called the father and told him. He was disappointed, she said she has cut ties with him, but still saw the guy sending her message, saying answer me, she didnt, but she kept the message there until I found it, and then later found out that she had saved the ex number as another name. I am just mad at the fact that after treating my wifes Bleep up, this dude is still all up in our business.

fulaniHERDSman:
Hmmm ... You shouldnt have married a woman whose heart is else where from the onset. Thats why its unwise to try winning a woman's heart over from some other guy. Young people should marry their best friends. See, your best friend will always have your back all the time. That your wife's ex is her best friend! See why i think you shouldnt have married her?
Well, work on becoming her best friend or i see your situation get worse.
Btw, i am married too and your case is alien to me. Maybe cause i've gat the best friend in the world as wife. Our trust is 99%. 1% goes to being human.

It was not my fault, we barely dated for 1 month when she got pregnant. My family forced me into it, told them I did not know her well enough. Though she made it seem then that she found a new love. Was always jealous over small things. I never would have known that her heart was not actually with me.

Hello Nlanders,

Its me again. In the last 2 years, my wife and I have agreed to make things work by putting a stop to the things we do that makes either of us think we are getting involved in infidelity. As for me, being a father and a husband, I hold my home down by adhering to the rules, and she being the foundation, she also needs to. But as far as I have improved, she has not, and she even admitted to it, but she keeps saying am not doing anything which I have to understand because there is no concrete evidence. Although, I have seen several things that I cannot start with now because the story will be long. I will just narrate that which occured from few days past.

On Thursday, I called my wife to pass a message across to her, because she runs a daycare and she has nannies to represent her when shes not around. I called she didnt pick, normally if I call and she does not pick, I call her nanny to pass the phone across to her. After calling and she didnt pick, I called the nanny immediately, her number was busy, the time frame was just in btwn 1min when I called my wife back, her number was busy, so I thought she was trying to call me back. I waited to see if my phone would ring, it didnt, so I called back again, it was saying busy which is obvious she was on a call. 10 MINS later, she now called back that she saw my message that she should call me. I asked if she didnt see missed calls, she said her phone was on silent, I responded that ur number was busy twice while trying to call u and werent picking, she said the agent that has been trying to reach her was more important to speak with than taking my calls then because he has been expecting the guy to come to site. I sat her down that night, and explained that, its not like I dont trust u or am trying to figure anything out, as a mother and as a wife, if u are out, try as much as possible to be reachable, it could be an emergency or any other thing that would require u are reached promptly, she said sorry, that she'll always pick calls.

Yesterday, she had gone out from work to see a consultant, she called me while she was leaving the office that she saw a lady who said she knows me, that she should say hi to me, cool, thought she was going back to work, 3 hours later, I called to ask her if my chequebook was in the car she took as I could not find it. I called 3 times, my wife didnt pick. 35 mins later, she called back saying she was buying time to get some few clothes so that when shes done, shes going back to the consultants office, that she left her phone in the car. OK! I told her am not happy, it was just yesterday that I was tutoring you about the importance of having to be reachable while outside, she said shes sorry, I also reitrated the same point I made apart from the important of picking calls, that 3weeks back after finding out she cheated on me emotionally with a guy, which is an offense enough for some impatient men to chase a wife out, that I decided to forgive and move on, but she would have to promise to adhere to some rules, and to build trust is not a joke, you would have to be careful with things you do innapropriately in order for me to start trusting you again, going out and not being reachable two consecutive times is not good, though not judging you are up to something. I let that slide. Yesterday again, I called my wife after leaving the house to the barbing salon that a friend just came from jand, will be hanging out, probably wont be back until 1:AM. she said no P.

Based on the last incident when she cheated on me emotionally, I told her i was leaving the house for some days to go and heal myself, after 3 days, she took my kids around 9am, and started looking around for me, unfortunately, she left my daughter in the car parked in front of a locked gate with the engine on, carried the boy in her hands, walked down to a place she knows I might be with my friends, saw me, created drama that I must come home, was really mad when I found out that she walked this far and left my daughter in the car with the engine on. She said the children are second priority that am first. I convinced her to go back which she did, we settled and moved on. Now after telling her am hanging out, with the little argument we have had regarding not picking calls, I had a feeling she might again try to come and look for me with the kids at night, I decided to come home. But my coming home, went to the backyard to peep from our window room, I saw something ununsual. If you are reading this long story, and u want to know more, let me know and I will continue b4 some people will come here and say my story is too much.

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Hi Nlanders,

Happy Childrens day to all the daddies and mummies. Quick one, my wife and I are 6 years into our marriage with 2 kids, from the inception of our marital union we have always had issues that stems on trust, we both have that issue, and when I say trust, it has
to strictly do with her bickering into my phone and finding somethings not worth shouting or condemning me for, rather for communication, but she does otherwise. In her own case, it had to do with her ex she always talked about when we courted for a short period before marrying. She told me she called him to seek advise and confide in him, told her to stop and threatened fire n brimstone, but later found out that she saved the guys number with another name, gave me excuse as to the reason she did it.

One faithful day, a year after marriage, 5 years ago to be precise, she had gone to the school she worked as a teacher, there also she takes my dauther who resumes at the day care there. 2 hrs later, she called me crying over the phone that there was an accident, I asked what happened, she said my daughter of 9 months old then had a severe deep cut on her lips that I should rush down. Immediately, I left and branched at the clinic where she was being stitched, I felt for the poor baby, because at that age with such injury was not nice. Immediately, I told her that we'll leave for home for the day. The clinic was not far from the school where she parked her car, so I asked for the key so I could go ahead and pick the car so we can all be going home. On reaching the car, I saw her wedding ring kept in the glove compartment. Was surprised because she always wear it, and wore it out to work. At that moment, was more worried about my daughter.

We got home, and I asked her why her ring was in the car instead of her finger,she said the reason why she removed it was because last Sunday I was staring at a girls ass and she was mad about it. In which I did, but didnt do it deliberately or seemed too obvious, I use style look, and it was more of a reflex, I am human. I apologized that very day, but to think after then, she decided to remove her ring because of that? RED FLAG. I kept my mute. Once in a while throughout the years, when we still have arguments, I ask her that I still wonder why she removed her ring, that it cant be the issue of ass staring that would make it that bad for her to do that. She kept on saying it was the reason. 5 years into the marriage now, we were having a deep discussion, then she started saying things about what happened during our early stage of marriage, that she called her ex, because that was the only person he knew as a bf then, reason why she confided in him, that he talked about leaving his wife too with two kids and run away to Canada with her bla bla bla. But the major thing about her point was that, she discussed the issue of me stearing at another womans ass with him, that was when the guy started packaging some stories that entered her head, which was the reason why she removed that ring on that faithful day. Wow! She now stated that she noticed he was trying to seduce her by seeing her, that he went to the extent of saying, if I should come and see u at that ur place of work, I might be forced to kiss you, stating that was when she knew he was trying to use words to have him come around, so he could have sex with her. I told her that whats the probability that they have not been seeing, she said NEVER. But then I reminded her of the day we had issues, she came back from work late, and I asked where she had gone, she replied by saying, I went to go and have sex with someone that has a bigger penis that urs. She later denounced that it was a joke to get at me, its possible,, and it could be true.

Nlanders, sorry for my long story, if i dont put it down well, u wont know my stance on this issue, I wont say am a saint when I started this marriage, but I have changed, this woman up until now has not, I have another post to share right after this. Now my question here is, I WANT to keep my family regardless of whatever, but is it wise to Bleep that ex up? Because of what she told me he said, to me hes trying to spoil me to get into my wife, thats if he has not, because I one way or the other found this her ex wife number. And I have evidences to prove that she has been in communication with my wife. Or should I just let God judge? Cos as I bad reach b4 I marry, I have never, and will never sleep with a married woman, nor will I ever try to sleep with an ex who is already married. Sincere opinion needed.