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Please what do you know about Oak Business School at Ogba?
their website doesnt seems to have much information as it supposed to ,
thank you

My best so far , couldnt help laughing . Oh! this keeps me so rocking

I just realised that the thread said "dont click", Naija

I am following my heart ! I deserve happiness and joy

@ Chidexy , I have returned and finally decided what to do
might not go down with everyone though , but this is me.

Hi nairalanders , thank you so much for the love shown, I am refreshed now.
May God send help your way too .

@Willyesq thank u so so very much. I got every point.

Well thanks to you as I havent been on for days now, trying to get settled, Thanks for all of ur comments and advice. I am at the top view and It's been a clear vision for me.
Thanks thanks thanks.

"If only the little child's interest could be considered" I love my child and I have also realised I love my EX so so very much, all that will bring happiness to my world right now is to be with him.
nevertheless, thats why I am going on holiday , at least 2months is enough to actually make up my mind,
why would i care about a husband that doesnt care if I exist anymore and only calls or comes just cos of his child? and here I am someone willing to give his all to me, travelling miles down to see me, calling me on the phone over and over everyday to check how I am,
to be honest with you, my husband is richer than him in all context, so its not about money, its about happiness and I know I will have it with him.

all well and said, 2 months is still not too much , whatever happens!!! I am going to bear the brunt of it all, I have my convinctions , I truly love and desires him !!!!!!
thanks again for all of u input ,

the little girls' interest spurs me , I must admit, it makes me weep . but would u rather not grow up with a lovign stepfather than an un-loving and cheat father ?

aus123:
This is why we can just address simple issue in this country of our's. Put her post into a context and digest it.

In PHYSCHOLOGY you state a problem b4 offering a solution.

This has do with emotion. U don't lock it on box, otherwise one day it will explode.

He/she needs help. Not the one you re offering,,,

Ha nothing to do with emotions,  the help I need is getting away and thats what I am going to do

@ Chilums wetin u wna chop? too bad I could ask my househelp to drop by and give u some amala and efo riro , thats what I am having for lunch , but in anyway thats if u are close by ,
lollllllllllllllllll

chihums:
i'm hungry i need to shop, see you guys later or abi rominiyi you cook food

am not ignoring anything, more reason why I need to check out, thank God I dont need a visa, I'd wanted to go to court today and dissolve my marriage but My Pastor said I think a break where not one of them can reach me to get a clearer mind , cos no matter what anyone says , is what I want to do that I will do , I just love u guys so so much .

busygirl:
I'm quite suprised by alot of responses on this thread . What if the ex in question truly loves her. Well, from my own point of view, i see no reason why she should be suffering and smiling especially if her husband is not treating her right. Her situation is quite complex, I applaud her bravery for speaking to a Man of God. Based on religious grounds, it's not acceptable to divorce but in some cases you have no choice. I won't tell you what to do. The answer lies within you. SEEK GOD VERY WELL, be sure of what he's saying before you conclude. If you choose to carry on with your ex, you must have done your Homework properly on him. All sentiments apart, find out stuff about him. Speak to his friends too, Ask him questions about his failed marriage. Don't ignore anything. all the best!

why is everyone blaming me? I have endured and worked hard for this 6yrs marriage and all I get is a stab in the back? we all have own differences and backgrounds , but I have worked and tirelessly so trying to save a marriage, but I am not going to be a second best , I will rather stay a first and real love to my first love , Thanks for all of ur input , I am not going to lose my sanity or senses by staying in a marriage I am not happy about,

thanks JJYOU . I mean its only someone that has been there before that will understand what I am going true, those that are screaming at me or getting angry over what I am about to do are just talking or reasoning cos of our culture and religious belief . A psycologist told me to  follow my heart cos of happiness , that's what I think I need , but in all I am taking my child and we are getting out , at least for the next 2months , My ticketing agent has confirmed my ticket and I need to get away from the two fo them , at least for now ,

@temi4rea, No I can come to Nairaland, after all we all need one help at one time or the other , I mean do I have to take all advice given me to me, hook , line and sinker? Nooooooooooo.
My husband is with his white girl , want me to be waiting for him ? No way I have sent him an email and left a text msg on his phone,

@chihums , thanks , thanks thanks. wishing myself the very best

chihums:
all d best dearie. take kia.

Kx:
A married woman?
I think most people simply dont understand the santity of marriage b4 going into it.
Its contracted and seen now like a meal ticket,nothing more nothing less.
Go back to ur ex becos u still love him.What a shame!

@ kx, I dont need u to jugde me at all, after all we all have own good or bad sides, being married doesnt take my feelings away , I have blood running in my veins so are u ,

Thank you so very much , I have read and re-read over twenty something letters that went to my parents address while I was in Jordan studying, and he professes his love and said things about why I never replied any of his letters, I think all of this fault is from my parents, cos How could they keep letters being sent to me and never gave me even when I came home those days on holidays,
I know events has gone over these issue by me getting married, but He is the one that I have love all my life,
I also agreed not getting married to anyone for the next one year but I am definitely getting out of this present one , I have bought my ticket and I am getting away from the two of them, am going somewhere for the next 2months to get my life in order.
thank you all so very much , I love u and may u never be in my situation , its only me that knows what is going on in my head right now, my eyes are getting out of the sockets from weeping my heart out .

outlaws:


I only read the first page before posting my first message. Now I have read the whole thing. I don't think is a hard decision to make. It might be for many. I think the problem started with the poster. She ignored the guy. The question would be why did she cut the first guy off?

But for the current marriage. I think she should have ended it when the guy got another woman pregnant. I think no man in a marriage that really love his wife will think of sleeping around.

I don't believe in divorce, and I also don't believe in women suffering in marriage for the sake of claiming they are married. I think your best option will be end this failed marriage and don't think about getting married for atleast 1yr. This new guy coming in, tell him you just want to be friends for now. He may not be the right person because he may have changed and know why his marriage failed and confirm that with his parents or his friends. Read through all the letters he sent to your parents. Get to know some of his friends. Ask questions so that you don't come back to nairaland for another wahala. After one year of being friend with this ex. you will be in a better mind to decide if marriage with him is the best option. I am kind of curious why you didn't bother to look for this ex before you got married. So what happened?

Remember, chill for 1yr. without marriage and don't live together with this ex. otherwise, you are going to have another kid and mess things up again.

Peace.

Nay I am not confused, just trying to sample people's opinion on this, my Mom is screaming blue murder, but whatever anyone says I have the final decision ,
thanks for all of ur input into making me see the other very side,

dontexe:
You are just a confused soul. I just hope u don't regret your action. All that you said sounded somehow, I even doubt if you guys have not been in contact longer than u claimed, otherwise how would another man just have the confidence to walk into your (a married woman) parent's house to ask for your ( a married woman) hand in marriage. How does that sound to you ?

All you tried to do was just to absolve yourself of any blame, which is not good. Two of you are involved and whatever happens, you should know that you would have contributed to it knowingly or unknowingly. Running around won't help you just know that. You had better forget about the issue of love now. The worst time to take any decision is when you are excited or angry about something.

Rushing into another marriage won't help you. You've not told us all that happened, you only painted your husband as a bad man without letting us know what u also did wrong/contributed to worsen the whole situation. Madam, all that glitters is not gold.

thanks for all of ur advices

and why would it result to an acid bath , why didnt I bath him ( my husband) with acid when he got a white woman pregnant?
I am moving on , so whatever u like u say , TKB 147 - U are entitled to ur own opinion , thank you so very much ,

chisimdi:

I am not retarded , not at all . I am with my senses. I am also thinking with my brain, whatever u say wont remove an hair from my body. I have listen to all, and I am sticking with my choice,

U dont have to curse me,  why are u doing that? I have only asked for ur opinion not for a curse , thank God u are not in my shoes. he who wear the shoes knws where its pinching,
I have got my mind made up , thank u .

tkb417:
ure highly retarded for this grossss post.
married with a kid and ure loving someone else.
gerrout

I think the most craziest I have ever done or about to do is leaving my marriage of 5yrs for my ex, the most craziest thing, oh my God!!!!!!!

I am so very sorry, its not like I have made up my mind before coming on this forum , but just today alone, we have talked for over 11 times, I am just following my heart,
going to court tomorrow, have not said anything to bad, have i?
I live in Abuja and my Ex lives in Lagos & Benin,

Its takes pain to love, am ready to give all it takes,

U really wont understand, I have heard all u have said both negative and positive to my ears,
Tomorrow I am going to court , I am following my heart ,

JJYOU:
well you are 32 you still have loads of time to waste be very careful. naija men/ women can take you on a journey to no where without your knowing it

thanks JJYOU , U are indeed true,

I understand all what u are trying to say ,  but MAY U NEVER LIVE WITHOUT LOVE, Until you marry love you are not married,

I have just finished discussing with a man of God , he says biblically , its capital NO. nevertheless the situation is a complex one , its obvious that u are not married to the person whom u actually love.
take time to pray about ur decision, and he also said its true that people get married to the wrong person and when they actually sees whom their heart desires, His exact words,

we dont have to abuse each other, we are after all matured! I know your opininon matters a whole lot , to me in this time . but whatever I make up my mind to do is Final,
pls stop calling each other names and call me all the names u want, It might or wont bulge me at all.

May God gives me the grace to really say no, I may be foolish , but right now a decision will fall into place today , I am discussing it with my hubby,
I think its better for me to able to know his mind, after he was about leaving me for a white girl , even before this came up.

nues aweso:
Something is missing here, Why didnt ur old guy contact ur Dad during the 6 yrs u lost contact, _{abi the guy dey jail?}

he did, I have a lot of unopened letters with my Dad at home , cos that was the last address of mine he has, u know I moved and I think this mistake came on the part of my parents, they never sent those letters to me where I was and never informed me when i got home those days