I want so badly not to be harsh but COME AGAIN!!   You have been married for five years - Some guy shows up and you now want to throw all that away because of you feel you love the new guy!! Let me be real honest - that rubbish you wrote about your husband doing stuff to you - THAT IS BULLSHIT!! It is what you cooked up to make yourself feel good and have an excuse.

Damn it - I cant believe you are writing this!! Why then did you get married?

You need to sit down with someone you trust and respect and discuss this!! That somebody must be wise!!

rominiyi:

U really wont understand, I have heard all u have said both negative and positive to my ears,
Tomorrow I am going to court , I am following my heart ,

rominiyi:


I live in Abuja and my Ex lives in Lagos & Benin,

touchmeder:


Wonders will never end just like that? straight to the court, all in one day is this for real or what?
is this marriage not even worth fighting for?

essentialB:

You live in Abuja and probably with your husband. Then where did your husband meet the Whity that he wanted to leave you for? Abi he lives in another country?

I pray you don't regret your actions at last.

Dear Naira land,
Pls I need an urgent advise,
I lost a contact with a guy I love so much, almost 6yrs ago. …we were so very much in love…
Recently we met on one of the popular friendship site again where people exchange photographs and u see ur old friends and family.
I was shocked when I got his message , anyway he requested we see and arrangements was made , before I left he asked, are u still single, I said no I married with a child now for 5yrs.
Anyway we met and we talked, and by the time I got home , I know am still in love with him but I cant help it. can’t seem to get him out of my mind; he has been asking that I marry him, I am like what are u thinking? And he said I rightfully belong to him, I though it was a joke until he started visiting my parents in my hometown , begging my parents to pls give me to him, my parents find it funny but my father thinks otherwise,
I know we love each other but am in a fix, What should I do?
Please advise me?

U really wont understand, I have heard all u have said both negative and positive to my ears,
Tomorrow I am going to court , I am following my heart ,

tkb417:


ure highly retarded for this grossss post.
married with a kid and ure loving someone else.
gerrout

tkb417:


ure highly retarded for this grossss post.
married with a kid and ure loving someone else.
gerrout

chisimdi:

rominiyi:

I am not retarded , not at all . I am with my senses. I am also thinking with my brain,  whatever u say wont remove an hair from my body. I have listen to all,  and I am sticking with my choice,   

and why would it result to an acid bath , why didnt I bath him ( my husband) with acid when he got a white woman pregnant?
I am moving on , so whatever u like u say , TKB 147 - U are entitled to ur own opinion , thank you so very much ,

omega25red:

@ poster

I have read all the posts and your reponse to all the posts, honestly i dont have a problem with someone getting out of a situation that they are no happy with but what really bothers me is the fact that you just want to jump out of one marriage and right into another one. I wonder if you would have left your current husband if you hadn't run into your EX.

Also if you love this new guy as much as you have said in each and everyone of your responses, how come you weren't proactive enough to find him when you moved?? why didn't you go to where he lived to see how he was doing and what wasn't he living close to your parents home (he wrote you letters) [color=#990000][/color]
As for your husband are you mad at him because he cheated or because he cheated with a white woman

omega25red:

@ poster

I have read all the posts and your reponse to all the posts, honestly i dont have a problem with someone getting out of a situation that they are no happy with but what really bothers me is the fact that you just want to jump out of one marriage and right into another one. I wonder if you would have left your current husband if you hadn't run into your EX.

Also if you love this new guy as much as you have said in each and everyone of your responses, how come you weren't proactive enough to find him when you moved?? why didn't you go to where he lived to see how he was doing and what wasn't he living close to your parents home (he wrote you letters)

As for your husband are you mad at him because he cheated or because he cheated with a white woman

Busy_body:



Hmmn, I agree with your imput, and according to her story, she has been enduring for years, going back to her husband, hoping he would change, hoping things would change, and hoping things would work out, but how much can someone take?

I am not usually an advocate of divorce, and IMHO, when someone cheats on you once, I believe you should find it in your heart to forgive the person. But when they make a cold and calculating decision to have an affair, you forgive them, they still go back, get the girl pregnant, then rub it in your face that they would leave you for her, enough is enough.

Rominiyi, I know you did not just wake up this morning and decided that you are going to court tomorrow, you have had years to think about this, so I respect your decision, BUT what I would like you to do is not go into a relationship with your ex, as soon as the ink dries on your divorce papers.

It is vital you find out why his marriage failed too, because you know you were not to blame for your marriage breaking down, but how sure are you that he is not the guilty party in his?

Give it time, don't use him as a rebound, get to know one another first, explore what happened that made his own marriage to break up too, find out what his ideals about marriage is/are, discuss both your future goals and expectation, etc

Busy_body:



Hmmn, I agree with your imput, and according to her story, she has been enduring for years, going back to her husband, hoping he would change, hoping things would change, and hoping things would work out, but how much can someone take?

I am not usually an advocate of divorce, and IMHO, when someone cheats on you once, I believe you should find it in your heart to forgive the person. But when they make a cold and calculating decision to have an affair, you forgive them, they still go back, get the girl pregnant, then rub it in your face that they would leave you for her, enough is enough.

Rominiyi, I know you did not just wake up this morning and decided that you are going to court tomorrow, you have had years to think about this, so I respect your decision, BUT what I would like you to do is not go into a relationship with your ex, as soon as the ink dries on your divorce papers.

It is vital you find out why his marriage failed too, because you know you were not to blame for your marriage breaking down, but how sure are you that he is not the guilty party in his?  

Give it time, don't use him as a rebound, get to know one another first, explore what happened that made his own marriage to break up too, find out what his ideals about marriage is/are, discuss both your future goals and expectation, etc

JJYOU:

i have been wondering where you wazzz when your services was highly needed. i dont feel settled with the guy at all.

Busy_body:


Hmmn, I just can't understand all these rampant cheating stuff and people pleading weakness I don't understand why we human beings can no longer be satisfied with what we have, or wait patiently before going after what our heart desires