Gabry, perhaps this is a sign that you both should think about making your relationship permanent. If you feel so attached to each other now, and are both working, what stops you from getting married. Don't buy into the trap that 'marriage is just a paer' only to find out too late that you've given each other everything, and theres nothing left. Do you see yourself marrying him? having kids together? then perhaps y'all should talk about it as grown ups. well, thats my opinion. wishing you the best. and as for the vegetarian fasting, perhaps you should pray about it, cuz sometimes our minds can play tricks, and yet we conince ourselves thats its the voice of God (im not saying it aint), but still pray yeah. God bless

@ poster, its actually nice that u realise uv been wrong. my boyfriend and i have a long-distance relationship, and sometimes, i also feel like i need more attention, i think its just part of females, we need to know you as men think about us. so i can relate to ur girlfriend. it would perhaps be better though, if instaed of hoping she reads this on NL, u give her a call, and just apologize, and spend some phone quality time with her. wishing u all the best

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"Hell no. Wouldnt want any ass hole to look down on me on account of my wife's preference. I have no qualms about dating a tatooed babe though. Tatooed babes are usually liberal, ready to experiment how ever and whenever.They have no taboo. "

This statement has justified my sisters and friends comments to me that I should never think that just cuz a guy dates you, and you party, drink and "experiment" or whateva, it means he'll be ready to take you home to meet his mum. thank God for my older ones who give such sound advice, and now I have heard it from a guy as well.

Does anyone have any advice for me; I have two friends whom I believe to be exceptionally gifted writers, and I would love to put them in touch with publishers. Does anyone have any advice for me on how to contact a publisher, and such protocol? Thank you

@waterworks, what an excellent idea, the only thing is that I don't know if I'll have a trad. wedding, I don't know how his family would want it done, but thanx, you've given me ideas for my time,

thanx to everyone for your opinions. Its good to know that I'm not the only one to have these feelings, and when my time comes, I'll be able to do it my (or our,lol) way cuz its my (our) day!!!! God bless

Just Out Of Curiosity, Is It Possible To Have A "small" Wedding In Nigeria?

I'm asking in terms of people that will attend. At my older sisters wedding, there were soooo many people, including some that just seem to have appeared. My sis says it isn't worth fighting with your in-laws to reduce the number of people at the wedding. However, my other sister(who is a little more stubborn) says you can just be harsh and not invite people you don't to invite. The thing is, you know how people can be, such as mum and dad's coworkers who want to be there, and that midwife who bathed you after you were born, and that uncle who gave you 'money for biscuit' when you were 10. I was just wondering if its actually possible to have a wedding in 9ja with only 100 of the closest fam and friends. What do you guys think? How should one go about it? (I'm not getting married yet,lol) peace out

@ poster, you say you want revenge, but my advice to you is that you should think of your current girlfriend. Whats going on that you're seeing this other lady, who obviously wants you for your money, behind your gilr's back That is a very dangerous game to play, and believe me, if this girl gets her claws into you, she will probably never wnat to let you go, and your life will become havoc!!! YEAH, I SAID IT!!! No man, for real I'm saying it like I see it. there are soooo many sad stories out there, so don't be another example in that way. Tell her to get to steppin'!!!

@ poster, First of all, that was simply irresponsibility on ur part, not to mention callousness, and arrogance. You must know that this lady, whom u have been seeing for over a year would definately be in it for more than "boyfriend,girlfriend", and now you are trying to push everything off yourself by saying "she deserves better than you" and in so doing, you seem to be trying to make yourself out to be the one looking out for her feelings, when in actual fact it seems like you're just looking for an easy way out. That being said, I would not advise you to marry a woman you don't love, which may result in you resenting her later on. You need to come clean, at the same time, if you are a real man, you must take care of your child, as well as expect this lady to be angry at you, and yoou owe her your patience, and care. You have done a very wicked thing in wasting her time, but you can both move on. We can all give advice, but the choice is yours on what to do. Pray about it, come clean, apologise, and be there through the process. And remember that you cannot afford any longer to live irresponsibly.

@ poster, there is a drug called "Nicosan" thats really good for sicklers. wishing u all the best

"Hey the miss home man, I thought you were one of the nigerians that killed our main man in southafrica. so you still can call nigeria, home. Let me see you here,"

what exactly do u mean? who are u referring to?

the whole xenophobia thing in South africa was terrible. 9ja is my home, and i hope to visit in a few weeks by God's grace. take care y'all

@ Poster, plz understand something, the way you went about with this subject is totally offensive. First of all, I am also a non-Nigeria(raised in Nigeria), and I disagree with this view. Yes, there are cases as you have described, however, what was the point exactly of coming across with the tone you took? What is there really to be gained from this argument? Did you want to clear up a rumour you had heard, or make an accusation form 1st-hand experience? How would you fell if someone came directly to accuse all Brazilian men or women in an offensive way? and how can you say the problem is " Nigerian women"? do you know all Nigerian women? have you taken a survey, or had direct access to accurate survey material? Plz, to cut a long story short, be considerate of others' cultures before you start pointing fingers yeah, at the end of the day, it will bring a better perception of who YOU are as a woman.

i think u shud get him a designer perf, n a nice jacket, organize a picnic for him as well. go to his work place and steal him away at lunch time, hope it helps

heya, totally agree with u on the spontaneity thing. i think its lovely to surprise each other, even with a simple text message just to say hi. as for gifts, u know what i find, its also imporatant as a lady not just to expect ur man to do all the romantic stuff, so why dont u go buy him a lovely sweater, hoodie, or something like that. perfume even? yeah, but thats just my opinion

ps, i also think its MUCH HARDER WORK being the spouse to someone who cheats!!!!!!!!!!!!

ok, lets take a deep breath and analyze this!!!!!!! isn't it always easier to blame it on the spouse who has supposedly let himself or herself go? is there really any excuse for cheating? would anyone here accept, or want their spouse to cheat on them? definately nooooooooooooo how would u feel if ur spouse cheated? i can bet u that half the people who are ready to cheat, would refuse such behavior from their spouse.so, for everyone who conveniently blames the spouse for their extramarital affair, i have just one request, let us view how handsome or wonderful YOU look, that YOU think u can blame it all on ur spouse. i rest my case.

@ poster, my boyfriend and i are abstaining by God's grace. its soooooooooo possible, and there are many other people who are too!

its actuallty quite encouraging for me to see so many Christians standing against pre-marital sex. Its wrong according to the Bible, and God is merciful, so He'll forgive all sins. Lets just do what's right, and move on by god's Grace.

@ Poster
Can I just thank you first of all for these wonderful tips you're giving guys!!!!!! Honestly my brothers, as I was reading this I was just smiling, so you can be assured that this will make a girl feel gr8. Its not cheezy or disrespectful, its loving and cute, and its not overdone. Really so simple, yet will be appreciated. Ciao

It's very wrong for a girl to slap a guy. If this happens, feel free to slap her back, but nothing more. She deserves it.


Thats what Seun says. Honestly, I don't see the reasoning behind this. What I think is that people should ALL control themselves, but if a girl slaps you and you slap her back (as you said yourself guys are heftier) one day if a girl slaps you really hard, you will use all your strength and emotions to slap her( and then what will Happen?)

Anyhow, lets all just take our anger out in better ways than to hit any member of the opposite sex(or the same for that matter.)

Peeps chilax! Its not Seun that said all those things!!!!!!!!!!!! He's quoting from that guy who was on you tube. Everything that guy said is what Seun wrote.

Hi. My dad is Congolese(DRC) and my mum is half Armenian and half Ukrainian but she was raised in Georgia.but their offspring were raised in Naija.
NB home is where the heart is. Peace out!!!!!!

@ Zazoo. I honestly think you should tell your husband how you feel. You said you think he might love his job more than you. Perhaps he has just got so caught up in trying to make a good life for you and your kids that thats whats driving him now he might not even notice how you're feeling because he believes he's doing his best for you. I think you should try and organize a getaway for just the 2 of you, without your kids, when you can just spend time with him to talk and get to know each other again, and rekindle your romance. All the best and God bless.

Ha ha ha. this is very funny indeed. honestly though, i don't think the victory can be attributed to anyone's good luck. those boys went out there and won the gold. its that simple. as was said, it takes training, a good coach, and the right attitude. so lets not give credit where its not due. congrats to the team.

Hey.I pray that the good Lord answers according to His Will all our prayer points. My own is this: I pray for peace and tranquility in my life, that I may know who exactly I am in Christ, that I may grow in Him, that I may develop healthy self-esteem, and this is my prayer for you all and for all my beloved ones. I'm really serious about his cuz its about time for me. I drop this at the Throne of Grace in Jesus' Mighty Name. Amen

Hey all. This is my first post. its so good to be with Nigerians again. Let me explain a little. I'm not Nigerian but I was born, bred and buttered in Bauchi State, and now I'm in my first year at university in Johannesburg. Miss home so much. I love keeping myself updated about home. So, just to say hello to y'all and God bless. Oh and by the way, if there are any YWAP members here, peace.