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@browncocos

plenty things o! whether y'all lik it or not, SEX!!!!! lol, seriously o, all those movin in together and stuff, wat fun is there in movin in when ur married wen u hav already bn livin together, same goes wit sex too! mehn there r som other things sha

y wont people think its old fashioned when they are doing all the things they are not meant to do before they are married!

this is quite a complex issue.

i must say that it is very true that we should try and make changes instead of just changing churches (cuz leavin people in the wrong isn't very Christ like).

I just think it is the case where people should check their hearts and judge the reason against the Word of who they believe in (God), because for example, leavin a Church because of the pastor's accent is very pathetic, smh. When peeps go to Church, they should have some knowledge of the Bible in order to truly no whether the pastor is saying the right stuff, or just talking rubbish by mixing tradition with God's word, being judgmental, etc.

I recently 'left' the church i used to attend. Although the preachin was nice and convicting (which can be another reason why people leave churches because they want to continue living an opposite lifestyle), i had a problem with some people there as i felt there was no love in the Church and quite a lot of fakeness. I definitely tried to not conform to that because i was like ah ahn, this is meant to be the house of God now, so I made sure i tried to love people regardless, but i left when i got invited to another Church that was the opposite, lo, thank God.  me
should always have in mind that nothing is perfect and should be prepared to face crazy stuff in life, and use the authority God gave us to make changes, and spread the word some way some how.

maybe people should just have self control!

@ smooooooth

yh everyone is human and gets tempted but it is up to us to not fall for it. thinkin of sexing someone is temptation then it is a sin if u actually hav sex wit the person. there are even thoughts that are not really u and d devil temption u, lol. serious.

@ smooooooth


i definately feel wat ur sayin, but at the same time wat im sayin is dat wen u enter into a relationship, i feel as though u should respect like the rules of relationships do u feel me. like, to me cheatin is like the worse thing u can do to ur partner. im a christian and i sin but i know i can never kill someone, do u grab? ok maybe u can love someone and cheat, but the love that u SHOULD have should be the one where u treat the other person as u want to be treated. like u cant give or show ur love to another woman or man u know.

@ CARUSO

ur perception of love may be wrong then if u will 'bang ' another chick. as for me, lovin someone is like lovin the person as much as i love myself, u just dont jump to wat ur feelings are leadin u to do or makin u feel like ur doin.

Nowadays a lot of boyfriends and girlfriends act like married couples. they start to live together, even have kids, and some other stuff sha. dat is why i prefer dating and knowing someone, and then get into a relationship wit them. as for this guys situation i actually think his relationship was becoming like a married couples own. wat i will say is dat u guyz need Jesus in ur lives and hopefully u will find the right person. u can forgive her if u want toonly if she changes. through this i have gained the ability of reading peoples mind and actions.

@ mohawkchic


so r u sayin it is ok to cheat in some cases? Hell no!!!

I have never believed in cheating (which means i don't like it and will not partake in it) and never will. Lately i have been seeing different cases of infidelity in relationships and it just makes me have mixed feelings as to why people cheat on their wives or husbands.

As for me, i can never take back a partner who cheats on me because i believe cheating is a process

1. your with the person your cheating on your partner with. 2. feelings of a sexual nature start to form. 3.u mite feel a sudden connection. 4. u may start to kiss or whatever. 5. touching starts to take place. 6. two of u get naked. 7. the business starts.

If u can not stop yourself from reaching stage 4 at most, then you're not serious, hiss. this is one of the reasons why i don't think cheatin should be accepted. it is good to forgive o, especially being a Christian, but,  i dnt even know. people should not cheat if they really love their partners. i hav seen some cases where things like cheating cause mental harm to the person being cheated on and it is so sad. also the person loses trust and whatnot. what do u guys think?


I know a lot of nigerian women today whose lives are so down and unhappy because of their husbands. A lot of people are short sighted on how cheating affects the other partner.

Church was very good today, i can definately say i was touched by the Spirit. God bless everyone!