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ruby360:
Is your life sex getting boring or monotonous? Not anymore! Because I have tips on how you can spice it up.
New relationships are always exciting, especially when it comes to sex.
The whole act of exploring each other and experiencing new together times in bed can be a rush that few things can ever give you.
In a perfect relationship, your compatibilities have to be perfect and the sex has to be awesome.

HERE ARE SOME FACTORS THAT WORK AGAINST YOUR MARRIAGE
Physical Problems
Physical problems and the medications prescribed for the problems often lead to a sexless marriage. Some of the most common illnesses that cause sex to end are lupus, fibromyalgia, rheumatoid arthritis and chronic fatigue syndrome. Drugs used to treat those conditions could also hinder sex drive, as can drugs prescribed for depression and birth control.

Personal or Religious Beliefs
Some people might have been taught that sex is bad or evil when they were children and have a difficult time having sex as a result, even after marriage.Some people’s religious beliefs teach that sex is for procreation only. They might have been taught that sex is sinful except for procreation. That thinking leads to a sexless marriage if you aren’t trying to have kids.

Past Traumas
A past trauma involving sex can block any sexual feelings you might now have, which can lead to a sexless marriage. If you’ve been a victim of sexual abuse and never were properly treated for it, you can be suffering from depression, anxiety or post-traumatic stress disorder — all of which can make it difficult for you to want to have sex.
It’s often particularly difficult to maintain a healthy sex life if you suffer from PTSD caused by sexual abuse. PTSD causes withdrawal, recreating the event in your mind and avoiding any circumstances that remind you of the abuse.

Emotional Problems Within the Marriage
If you and your husband aren’t getting along, it’s difficult to want to have sex. If you are always irritable with each other, judgmental toward each other, critical of each other or blame each other whenever there’s a problem, you won’t feel much like having sex, and you might find yourself in a sexless marriage in no time.
Note that makeup sex happens when you have an active sex life and are happy with each other but have had a fight about something. This differs from chronic feelings of hostility, which may indicated a love-hate relationship.
Some people withhold sex as a power play in the relationship, or they do so as a passive-aggressive way to punish the spouse for something.

Porn Addiction
Porn addiction sometimes causes sexless marriages. It’s one thing if you or your guy watches porn sometimes, either alone or together, and another altogether when one of you becomes so addicted to porn that it affects your everyday life and your relationship.
People who are addicted to porn want to stop watching it, but they can’t. The urge is just too great for them to control. This can hurt a partner in a marriage, making that partner feel rejected, not good enough or even unloved. That makes it difficult for two people to have sex.

Alcohol or Drug Problems
If one partner has a substance abuse problem, the marriage will probably suffer, and so will the sex. When one partner abuses drugs or alcohol, the marriage is probably an unhappy one, and the couple usually experiences an emotional distance. There are often fights about the substance abuse and things related to the substance abuse, such as money problems, trust issues, and anger at the substance abuser for neglecting responsibilities. There might even be physical fighting.
If you or your spouse has a problem with drugs or alcohol, the problem won’t go away on its own. It will probably get worse without treatment. Please consult a counselor and seek help for your drinking and drug issues as this is destroying a lot of marriages in Nigeria.

Cheating
Cheating often leads to sexless marriages. Even spouses who are happy in their marriages sometimes cheat, but there’s often a big price to pay. If a spouse is caught cheating, it’s very difficult for a marriage to stay together, and it’s sure to suffer. The spouse who did not cheat now doesn’t trust the spouse who did and carries hurt or anger, neither of which is conducive to a healthy sexual relationship within the marriage.

Age
The aging process could lead to a sexless marriage because sexual interest tends to lessen with age. But if older people schedule sexy times, it could help. It might not be arousing for a long-term couple to simply see each other anymore, but if that couple starts to have pre-intimacy or some other sort of sexual activity, they can get in the mood again. It’s almost like going to gym: you might not want to go initially, but if you make yourself go, you enjoy being there and feel better for it when you’re done.

SOLUTION TO POOR SEX IN MARRIAGE
Talk with Each Other - It might be difficult to bring up the subject at first, but it’s important that you and your spouse talk about the lack of sex. Don’t blame your partner or sulk about it. This is a time to bring the problem to the open and then share your wants and needs. Then let your partner share his.
See a Professional - Sometimes you need a professional to get you back on track. A therapist who specializes in intimacy and sex difficulties can offer suggestions to bring sex back to your marriage.

Try New Things Sexually - Maybe you stopped having sex because you weren’t getting much from it. If that’s the reason, it’s time to try some new things. There’s dozens of sex positions, and odds are you haven’t tried them all. Try some sex positions that are fun.
Find Out Your Partners Desires - The two of you should tell each other your sexual desires to get the sex going again. Here’s a list of some the top fantasies of men and woman. Maybe one or more of them are yours:
• One of you be in charge: the person who’s in charge directs the sex that night
• Have MouthAction: if MouthAction stopped, start it up again(Finger he tonight)
• Watch each other masturbate
• Watch porn BUT make sure you enjoy it with your partner
• Have sex in a public place (making sure you won’t be caught)

SOURCE: www.naijapleasures.com

sinaj:
yea we gonna try having sex in d public...um...mayb im children's park


Rubbish!!!!

*checks op nationality*

ifedubatoochukw:
President Muhammadu Buhari on Friday in Abuja directed the central command of the military to relocate to Maiduguri, Borno, to intensify the fight against Boko Haram insurgency.

Buhari, who gave the directive in his address after his inauguration, said it was impossible to achieve victory against the insurgents if the command continued to operate from Abuja.

He said that the command center would relocate and remain in Maiduguri until the insurgents were subdued.

No where in the History of world military History will the military central command be located right in the combat zone it is the height of unprofessional-ism which is about to force me to revisit the issue of Buhari certificate scandal. let us use the United state of America model as a case study .

Military Central command are non combatants they are not infantry units but expertise from various field of course


Structure

Central Command headquarters staff directorates include personnel, intelligence, operations, logistics, plans & policy, information systems, training & exercises, and resources, and other functions. The intelligence section is known as Joint Intelligence Center, Central Command, or JICCENT, which serves as a Joint Intelligence Center for the co-ordination of intelligence. Under the intelligence directorate, there are several divisions

In the United State the Central Military Command directs four "service component commands" and one subordinate unified command and no fighting units directly subordinate to it:

The United States Army Central (USARCENT), and the United States Air Forces Central Command (USAFCENT), both headquartered at Shaw Air Force Base in South Carolina, the U.S. Marine Forces Central Command (USMARCENT), headquartered at MacDill Air Force Base, Florida and the U.S. Naval Forces Central Command (USNAVCENT), headquartered at Naval Support Activity Bahrain in the Kingdom of Bahrain. MacDill Air Force Base also hosts a Sub-unified command called the Special Operations Command Central (USSOCCENT).

In 1983, U.S. Military Central Command was established to succeed the Rapid Deployment Joint Task Force, formed at MacDill AFB, Florida on 1 March 1980, to handle US national security interests in Southwest Asia, Central Asia and the Persian G

The USA Central Military Command main headquarters is located at MacDill Air Force Base, in Tampa, Florida. A forward headquarters was established in 2002 at Camp As Sayliyah in Doha, Qatar, which in 2009 transitioned to a forward headquarters at Al Udeid Air Base in Qatar to serve American strategic interests interest in the following countries as the Area of Responsibilty.



Area of Responsibility Countries for USA Central Military Command Located in Mac Dill Air force Base in Tampa Florida..


Afghanistan
Bahrain
Egypt
Iraq
Jordan
Kazakhstan
Kuwait
Kyrgyzstan
Lebanon
Oman
Pakistan
Qatar
Saudi Arabia
Tajikistan
Turkmenistan
U.A.E.
Uzbekistan
Yemen

Tactically its a great Blunder for Mr Buhari to relocated the Military Central command right into sambisa forest when he knew quite well that these people are non combatants they are not infantry soldiers and their area of responsibilty covers a wider area than just boko haram. they monitor , deploy and protect both Nigeria air land and water from both internal and external aggression.

Relocating Nigeria military Central Command to frontline war zone is the most senseless decision any president have ever taken and such action is capable of endangering Nigeria external security an outside force may invade the nation of Nigeria in time like these..

This wrong decision calls for us to revisit Buhari certificate scandal and how he come about his title of Major General when he is incapable of simple kindergarten Military Decision

Ifeduba ThankGod T ( political Analyst writes in from Anambra state)

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