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Romance / Re: Should I Let Him Lick Me? by Rubysims: 1:15am On Feb 16, 2018 |
What are you doing it for? Money? Is your boyfriend bad in bed or does he not give you MouthAction? Do you no longer love your boyfriend or you just want to try out other men?If you have a good man don’t do it. If you let another man sleep with you what’s different between you and an ashawo? Are you willing to lose a man you love over a couple naira? 9 Likes |
Romance / Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Rubysims: 4:25pm On Jan 04, 2018 |
olalat: I know he loves me. He is not perfect. I am not perfect. Some things I have written here are a summary of the bad things. When he does have money he tries for me. I remember when I was in college I think for a year and a half to 2 years. I didn't pay rent I stayed with him. We went on multiple vacations on him.. He might not cater to every single one of my needs but he tries when he can. |
Romance / Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Rubysims: 4:04pm On Jan 04, 2018 |
ConcernedNL: Thank you sir. It is very hard considering the time but I will pray for God to give me the strength. His habits are bad but lately since this happened he seems to have come back down to earth. The situation has really humbled him and he is remorseful. What makes it complex is he is my friend also. |
Romance / Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Rubysims: 4:00pm On Jan 04, 2018 |
Homguy: If you read well, a condom was involved. The lady was also playing dumb acting like she doesn't know how it happened. If it were me and I hooked up with someone I dont know I would have taken extra precautions like the morning after pill. Im not defending my bf they were both at fault for what happened. I just dont understand why she is coming with a belle story the man doesn't want to hear. He is confused, himself and does not know how that could have been possible and believes foul play was involved |
Romance / Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Rubysims: 12:36am On Jan 04, 2018 |
CrescentMoon: Thank you. Im sorry for misunderstanding. Thank you for your advice it means a lot 1 Like |
Romance / Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Rubysims: 12:01am On Jan 04, 2018 |
CrescentMoon: I will no longer reply to your negativity. This lady slept with him even though she knew about me. He was drunk she doesn't drink and was fully aware of what she was doing. Im not pushing blame. They were both in the wrong. When life teaches you your own lesson, always remember and never forget how you judged my situation. God bless |
Romance / Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Rubysims: 11:32pm On Jan 03, 2018 |
CrescentMoon: Did you not read the part when I said my trad is this year. Read with intent to understand not to respond. This complicates the life we had planned and are working toward for our children and family. When a situation is not yours you always have an answer I dont blame you. When life throws obstacles your way you will be slow to answer |
Romance / Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Rubysims: 11:23pm On Jan 03, 2018 |
CrescentMoon: Let him with no sin be first to cast a stone |
Romance / Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Rubysims: 10:49pm On Jan 03, 2018 |
TheSuperNerd: Thank you so much for mentoring me. This is the response I needed and I believe God speaks through people. When I get home today I will sit down, read your message thoroughly and reflect. Honestly I would never abort, I know why it's hard for her. Even when she said she would although relieved and we celebrated I was really sad inside for her although I didn't tell him. I was just really angry at why she wouldn't protect herself and still sleep with him even though she knew he was in a commitment. Thank you for speaking to me maturely like a child of God..this is what I needed. Sometimes you need someone compassionate who lets you know no matter the decision it will be well but choose wisely. I have really great guy friends who try shoot their shot but i turn them down. Maybe it's time to rethink. But first I want to go on a journey of peace before I allow someone else into my life. Thank you so much God bless you, multipy you and ypur well of happiness never run dry 1 Like |
Romance / Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Rubysims: 10:31pm On Jan 03, 2018 |
CrescentMoon: But why did you not read and fully understand what I said. It's still not formed its in early weeks but why force a child on a man who does not want it? I also don't want this child because that means we have a broken home. Although I dont want it. I can do better because of my upbringing. I will take care of the child, thus will need God's help.imagine having to live with an illegitamate child out of cheating.. I just pray she is not pregnant.why bring a child to face all this wahala. She can not touch me with her juju. Im not perfect.far from it and I understand where the girl is coming from. Honestly I would never abort. It's a hard decision and my boyfriend and I rejoiced when she said she would, it just sucked when she changed her mind. We just would want to give our kids the best. Broken home is not easy and I speak from life experience. Right now although I dont agree with it.The situation is a mess. The solution is a pill and everyone goes their own way. |
Romance / Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Rubysims: 9:59pm On Jan 03, 2018 |
kelizosuy: The things she says always link to money or what car he drives. If It's just not for monetary gain, she wants him to commit to her- which he made sure to let her know will never happen but she is trying to trap him and to keep the baby to spite him and destroy our relationship.. This girl went to some pastors and they told her apparently he has someone in his life..Pastors in nigeria over the phone..what kind of pastors be that? I dont think God goes around telling people who is dating who. They knew each other as she was 2 years his senior in school. They met after 18 years here in the month of November. Had sex the same month, 4 weeks later she is pregnant. Does that sound logical to you. Would you get pregnant for a man you dont know? They didn't talk after the hookup |
Romance / Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Rubysims: 9:34pm On Jan 03, 2018 |
kelizosuy: Im not excusing his actions..we have a lot of friction right now. Infidelity is a big thing.. He is really going through it with me. He is also tired of talking about the girl. We didnt want a broken home.But the deed is done.. What do you want me to do biko? He has been faithful and he fell. He is currently in the dog house. Honestly she is forcing this on us but what to do. Should it be we will accept her child and do what is right but if she thinks her get rich quick scheeme will work to trap us she is in for a big surprise. We can just move back to Africa and provide when we can child support no be by force |
Romance / Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Rubysims: 9:04pm On Jan 03, 2018 |
GoodFaith: Lol you are funny.. I really appreciate everyone who is posting and making jokes thank you for making me laugh and forget the problem |
Romance / Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Rubysims: 9:02pm On Jan 03, 2018 |
TheSuperNerd: Thank you for saying this. Our biggest problem for years is- He wants me to pray all the time when we are praying together. He never wants to pray when im there he wants to do it seperately. I yearn for a man who can pray with me. He fasts even more than I do. Trust me..lol even in doing bad things he asks for God to bless him.. I know there's a difference between someone who believes in God and someone who follows him. We currently fasting right now and I told him. "I'm fasting and praying for happiness and my relationship with God and not any man like that. "As people do dissapoint..this really hurt him as he wants us to pray and fast for the unity. The other thing is he is so jealous..I cant have a male friend and no man can talk to me I wouldn't say I love him more. He knows im not easily held down and I can walk. I have left him before and he came begging. Im the type of women who will leave even with kids if its too much to bear and he knows this. |
Romance / Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Rubysims: 8:51pm On Jan 03, 2018 |
GoodFaith: I mean $500 a month |
Romance / Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Rubysims: 8:39pm On Jan 03, 2018 |
GoodFaith: I believe he is going to be great. He has potential and that is what I look for in a man he really tries to work hard. Although I dont agree with how he lavishes money sometimes. Im all about saving and he is all about mostly buying loubotin, gucci then save. I want to encourage him to fulfil his dream.no one is broke forever |
Romance / Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Rubysims: 8:35pm On Jan 03, 2018 |
greiboy: No he is not with me for financial gain. I told him about my background after we had dated for I think 5 years. |
Romance / Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Rubysims: 8:25pm On Jan 03, 2018 |
Im not insulting anyone.just the posters who are calling me names and telling me i should have got pregnant or I was giving free sex for 10 years. This man told me he wanted me to know what he did before I agree to marry him or the trad so I can go into it knowing what is going on. He said he could have taken care of it and hidden it from me..But he wants me to marry him from my heart |
Romance / Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Rubysims: 8:19pm On Jan 03, 2018 |
Lol at that poster who asked if he is a yahoo boy..must everyone be 419 lol..you are funny though. I'm aware of what he does to earn a living "and I wanted him to stop so he gets a regular job"..so we start the phone business we wanted to start. This guy met me as a girl and has watched me evolve over the years |
Romance / Re: Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Rubysims: 7:42pm On Jan 03, 2018 |
Anyone can say anything he is not perfect but this man loves me. All these sad people saying 10 years this or that..this man will never leave me for anyone and I can confidently say that. I was in school and I dont believe in children out of wedlock. Unlike some people writing rubbish I was raised well and won't dissapoint my parents.I was pursuing a career I'm not the woman that lives of a man. I want to help my partner too.. I admit I played a part in making him upset or nagging him. Im sorry to dissapoint all these people name calling me, I will not birth children without a commitment. His sister's and people agree with me on this and commend me for wanting to do the right thing. His sister has begged her to remove it its just taking a pill as it has not formed yet. It takes 2 to Tango females should stop playing the victim. You take measures after a one night stand to prevent this it's not all the mans fault. She is holding on to hopes she will have him. He told me that even if I dont stay he will never be with her. He has made it very clear to the lady but she wont get it through her head. Im sure now she is keeping it to get as much as she can. Women see expensive clothes, cars, watches. You dont know that another woman has made him that way. People like finished product sha. Im sorry i'm not trying to cause division by saying yoruba . I have just heard stuff about women and men alike. I know everyone is not the same. I dont want to generalize. I just heard these girls use jazz a lot and trap men.they think pregnancy will make him stay and change his mind. I can confidently say even if I dont end up with this man. Theres nothing he wont do for me even if he goes on to marry someone else. This is how tight our bond is. We are friends first and partners after. It makes me sad seeing him sad and talking about how he has to deal with a baby he doesn't even want. He is also still in denial and says stuff like im working for my family which is you not for any woman or kid like that. All these olodos insulting me on here. I told you my father is a millionaire I don't need any man. I'm good. I just wanted someone to help me reason as sometimes loves over powers common sense. He is sure it will never happen again and he seems sincere about it. Most people just run from relationships with problems you will date someone new or marry it will be the same thing. My heart is heavy and the trad is this year..im fighting within myself whether I should go ahead but I dont want to live without my bestfriend. I dont even know if my family will accept this. He is scared to tell them about it....I know they will want me to walk.. Ive stayed with him even through the stigma of dating a nigerian..which is not really accepted back home.he doesn't even know how to tell his parents. I pray it's not his..he wants to wait until paternity is done before anything..but I think shes a smart girl she got pregnant and played her cards right ..i love nigerians guys im not trying to divide my best friend is an igbo lady and she wants me to walk and says I deserve and can do better.Maybe its her putting the anti yoruba thing in me 1 Like |
Romance / Help! Boyfriend Of 10 Years Had One Night Stand And Got A Yoruba Girl Pregnant by Rubysims: 5:42pm On Jan 03, 2018 |
Hi Everyone, As I write this I dont even know where to start. I am Zimbabwean and I have dated a Yoruba man for 10 years now. We have our fair share of problems but he has remained consistant over the years. I met him when I was 19. He courted me for a full year before I accepted him. I went to school for my bachelors and Masters different continents he always made an effort to follow me wherever I went, or be there whenever I needed anything he would make sure he provided where he could and its done. I eventually moved to the USA and he eventually relocated to be with me. I have a good job and I come for a very well off family. Im not perfect but I constantly strive to grow in my relationship with Christ. I cook most of the nigerian dishes. Take care of him when he needs me and I support him when necessary too. One time this man came to live with me for a very long time. He didnt support me with rent, bills or food. I did it anyway out of love. You guys, I also stayed for years when he didnt meet any of my needs and all he would say is 'God will provide.' All I ever wanted was an equal partner..of course I submit and Im respectful but I would really also want a man who takes care of his home and family as if you dont it causes resentment. Anyway fast forward ..4 months ago we had a big fight and it was over me encouraging him to get a job and not rely on hustling, buying and selling etc. The fights started about how I have changed, im this and that. I quickly became the enemy. I also warned him about alcohol consumption as a lot of his money atleast $500 a month is spent on booze and when he drinks he becomes very aggressive and angry. He also asked me for a lump sum of money. He wanted me to withdraw it from my savings and give it to him but I could not do so at the time. Finances make relationships akward also. Lastly he was pestering me about having a baby for him. I said I will not, I was raised well and will never have a child out of wedlock. Anyway he then moved out and went back to his old state and got a place. Whilst there a friend he knew from school contacted him on ig. They started talking again and the girl made trips to his house. He said about 4. He hardly knows the girl and said they just attended the same school in naija. Fast forward to my birthday he comes to visit and he started crying. I have never seen this man cry EVER. I asked him what was wrong and he mentioned his mom and a lot was going on in his life..I Knew she wasn't too well before.I started crying too and comforted him..he left and started acting funny the next day. After a lot of back and forth days later he broke down again and told me he got a girl pregnant and he was crying saying i wish it wasnt happening and it was you. He sent a message to the girl telling her to get rid of it and asked her why she would want to get married for a man she doesnt know after one night stand. "Girls that trap men sha.. It was a mistake he was drunk and just wanted to bust a nut. They used protection by the way and she was acting like she does not know how it happened. I asked him if he disposed of the condom, no she did. I asked him if he was a learner? Women trap men all the time with sperm. He went over to her place I was on the other end of the phone listening in. She said she wouldn't do it and was acting possesesd. She said a whole speech about how she can do it alone and his name wont be on birth certificate etc and how she doesn't want a man who does not want her child. She also said 'if your parents did that to you would you be here driving this very expensive car' clap hands for the gold digger everyone. Just as I had suspected.other women see a good thing and want a finished product, they dont know its someone elses work. He told her, he can never ever be with her even if she kept it. He left her house. 30 minutes later his door bell rings and we were still on the phone. She says a whole speech and says she will remove it. When she left we celebrated and we were so happy. God forgive us. I said to myself now I only have to work on trusting him again. Next day she calls and says she changes her mind.. goodness..my boyfriend doesnt want her or her child and she's forcing it on him. Is it by force yoruba gehs sha lol.. I also really need prayers guys I think she does jazz. She told my bf that her pastor in nigeria told her he has someone in his life. What kin pastor b dat.bf is scared to display my pics and I cant see her face because he thinks she might want to harm me. A pastor of God we talked to wanted to talk to her but she says she fears what the girl might do to her. Omg please pray for me. My boyfriend and i really didnt want a broken home.whats the point of keeping a baby the man doesn't want. I asked him to ask her how much she wants and we will give her the money. She blocked him and got her brother to call him. He was so desperate he was willing to do anything for her to get rid of it but she wont budge, she has even blocked him.I am praying its not his, she's not pregnant or she just lets us be abeg. Please give me guidance and support. Should i leave this man, will I be able to live with a bastard child and constant reminder of his infidelity? I forgave him eventually after his people begged me and due to our history. He wants to go see my people so we do the trad, engagement etc so we start on our family..he waited all these years for me to go to school and do what I needed to do and now this. I have to see that mumu woman who ruined my life forever. But believe me you although her child will be catered for she will not get a dime from me or my personal family's inheritance and the wealth acquired from me and my husband. The child will get something but not to the extant she thinks. I will do my homework and file paperwork to protect myself. Is it common for Yoruba women to trap men. You dont even know this man and one night stand you wont let him be..nawawo. Do I seem desperate for staying? It has been 10 years and this was not only my man but my friend. I have everything going for me, men approach me always but I turn them down. I have zero baggage. Please help 2 Likes |
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