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tosyne2much:
Any lady I can't talk to and she would listen to me, is automatically a no-go-area for me.. Men are meant to be in control of women, but your own case seems to be different

You even had to leave your own church at the expense of pleasing her... Bro, this is NOT but childishness

Everything I did was out of Love Bro... I didn't want to sound or look so rigid over her...

HARDDON:
she is the man in the relationship. its obvious she is financially more balanced than u r.

Stop collecting stuffs from her, start by respecting yourself.

If she is like this when u havent put a ring on it, she wud turn a monster when u do cos no matter what, you are like a fzoned lover. such an Herculean task to come of that place. very rare


final word?

Break it off! broken r/ships is beta than broken marriage.
if you dont, God help u in the nearest future

Thanks alot Bro... obviously, she is more financially stable than I... but when met, I never knew she is more financially stable than I, everything unfolded months after we started dating...

ZarZar:
OK, but does she realize that she has a problem? Is she willing to change? There's a saying that goes like, we're more hurtful to the ones we love. I guess because there are emotions involved. Every small thing strikes an emotional chord, causing one to lash because they're also hurting inside. Someone like that is usually in need of supportive people, even though they make it hard for people to wanna stick around. Many have given up, so in her mind she's probably waiting for you to do the same & when you don't, she'll keep pushing until you do, so that she can say "I knew it". It's not healthy & you don't have to put up with it- she's just a troubled person that is having a hard time dealing with her own emotions. Perhaps you should sit her down & come up with ways to handle her outbursts. Like taking some time away from each other to cool off when things get heated, etc. Validation also works. Own up to your part of the problem instead of making excuses & getting defensive. It escalates because maybe she feels unheard, ignored or like you're doing things on purpose to hurt her. Why she gets that way is where your answer lies. Nobody gets angry over nothing. Is it something you've had issues with before but keeps happening or is it a new issue every single time? Personally, I become like your GF when I feel unheard. Like if I say, without fighting, that I don't like when you do xyz, it makes me feel 123 & you keep doing it even after I have explained it to you nicely...then you must be looking for a fight in my eyes. I always regret it afterwards though but in that moment I don't care, I only care about what you've done & I will go on a verbal attack to get the frustration out. I'm working on it though. That's the most important part- being self-aware.

Thanks a lot for this wonderful ideas. What pains me most is that, I have done almost all you said, like staying away and cooling off, gave her books on anger management. I went to the level of deserting most of my friends, deleted most of my female colleagues and stopped chatting with them. I had to leave my own church to join her in her own so that she can be happy, yet all to no avail. I was always doing the house chores with her whenever am home, even whenever she is cooking. She told me, doing all these will make her calm down. Yet after subjecting my self to doing all these things, her anger still never stopped radiating whenever she gets upset. Sexually, I make sure she gets it however she needs it, to her satisfaction. Financially, I try my best not to let her complain. Now what is really her problem...?

prela:
we all have different ways of showing our anger, even if you leave her you need to let her know why you are ending it, so her attitude doesnt ruin her next relationship

Okay... I will...

prela:
we all have different ways of showing our anger, even if you leave her you need to let her know why you are ending it, so her attitude doesnt ruin her next relationship

Okay... I will...

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biz2get:
Don't Break Up,

Do this... Delete Her Number, Her Photos, Her Everything From your Life

And Move on...

One day she will miss you and call you and you did be like who is this.?

Nobody has time for this kinds of girls... Imagine this in your marriage? How frustrated would you bee then.?
Guy...

A friend just told me same thing now...

TheRealestGuy:
Bro you need to let her know how much it hurts you and breaks your heart.

Then tell her that if she continues you'll have no option than to quit the relationship...

If she doesn't change, my brother dump her sorry ass, she's not ready for a committed relationship.

Hope this helps...

Thanks alot bro, at least am bit relieved...

SorftWerk:
and depression... That one can kill a man!

Seriously, am really depressed right now...

SorftWerk:
You need Jesus to appear physically to you before you know what to do bah? Continue, I won't advice you

How do you mean...?

We started dating since April 2016, she loves me and cares so much about my future and career but she has this habit of hurling abuse and insulting me, whenever she is upset or angry. She will always remind me of everything she is doing for me. Until she must have caused havoc and disaster with her mouth she will never rest. Now our relationship is threatened by this ugly act of her's. She keeps telling me she loves me so much, yet I wonder why she keeps raining heart breaking abuse on me at a slight provocation. The love I have for her has really depreciated, am so confused right now because am planning quitting the relationship any time from now.
My wise brothers, please what do I do now? I have already introduced her to my family and she has done the same to her own family.

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