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This days people get furious over another fellow not first saying greetings to them, and some of this people go far as asking for this greetings,
greeting is something you do at will no sentiment attached,i dont have to know you before i say hello,you know.
When people ask for greeting what they actually asked for is worship, man should only worship God ,it is foolish and senseless to start asking for greetings from other people,instead greet. the wrong thing about asking for greeting is noted in the bible in the case of Haman and Modacai .
Haman was closer to the king and held an important position in the kingdom, at that time modacai is nobody to reckon with, so haman noticed that modacai does not GREET HIM when ever he passes ,so haman got furious,and wanted to punish modacai, but he said modacai is too small for me to deal with so i will deal with anybody that had anything to do with modacai. at that time haman was ready to wipe away the generation of modacai ,because modacai refused to greet, to caugth the story short God used esther a jew the wife of the king to punish haman and even led to his death,youcan read the book of esther to get the whole story.......PEOPLE HIDE UNDER THE UMBRELLA OF CULTURE TO ASK FOR WORSHIP,ONCE YOU ASK FOR GREETING,WHAT YOU ACTUALLY DOING IS ASKING FOR WORSHIP.... DONT ASK FOR GREETING IT IS WRONG,YOU RATHER GREET.OK

zboyd: A Nigerian based in South Africa has expressed her view on the issue of having a fair share in the "parent-child-discord". The author reveals her odd relationship with her mum, asserting that a good number of Nigerian parents are the root of many evil-rooted thoughts of their children towards them.

Do Nigerian Parents Exert Too Much Authority Over Their Children?
By Folakemi Ibrahim

In light of the story about 21-year old Tolani Ajayi (pictured below), a student of the Department of History and International Relations, Redeemer University, RCCG Camp, Ogun State who killed his father on Tuesday July 3rd, I will like to share a little bit of my story to educate many parents on the dangers of abusing their power and authority over their children. I believe there are a lot of people with stories similar like mine will have the courage to speak out after they read my story, and they will also realize that they are not alone in their experience.

While the action of the RCCG student was despicable and evil, the truth of what led to it may never be known, but I believe there is an opportunity for a lot of people to learn from that unfortunate story about how parents can sometimes push their children to the extreme limits. While my experience did not end up a tragedy as that of this unfortunate young man, I believe it might have had the same underlying tone and pattern.

I am a 40-year-old successful woman who is based in South Africa. I’m happily married to a wonderful man and just had a bouncing baby girl. I have a good life and I love my life, but the only thorn in my life is my relationship with my mother. I grew up having a very toxic relationship with my mum, a relationship that soured after her divorce from my dad while I was a child. After the divorce my mother took all the children with her and for some reason singled me out by physically and emotionally abusing me repeatedly. She believed I had a lot in common with my dad, whom she hated with a passion.

I grew up in a home where my mother will call me various malicious names, and repeatedly tell me I will not amount to anything in life. She once told me she wishes she had aborted me when she was pregnant. I remember being chased out of the house as a teenager and left to sleep outside alone overnight for not properly doing house chores.

This toxic relationship endured into my adulthood. I grew up never having the opportunity to have all the beautiful things a relationship with one’s mother can bring; every time something great was happening in my life my mother was always there around the corner to “pour sand in it”. She went as far as cancelling my wedding a few times because I would not invite one of her friends to it. She has managed to destroy every meaningful relationship I have with all my siblings and extended family members by telling lies about me and going on a campaign of ensuring I am cut off from everyone. All attempts over the years by family members to show her that she was being malicious to me went on deaf ears. She spent most of the discussions denying everything and convincing everyone that I am a liar.

I have personally approached her on several occasions to see if I could get her to change but that also failed. Not too long ago she claimed that she came to visit my family and, since I was pregnant with my daughter and close to delivery, my mother was always around and almost destroyed my marriage by sowing seeds of discord between me and my husband. She went as far as gossiping about me with everyone that cared to listen. This included my friends and neighbours. It became so stressful for me that I couldn’t take it anymore. She did not even consider that I was heavily pregnant.

One fateful day I told her she had to leave out of my house and my life before she manages to destroy the best things in my life. Until she repents and realizes the errors in her ways, I was not willing to relate with her again. While it was disheartening for me to take that action it was the most liberating thing I have ever done. Rather than repent, my mother ha again has gone on a campaign of letting her minions know that I “chased” her out of my home and that I’m so ungrateful after all she had done for me. Sometimes when you push a child to the wall you never know what they might do, while I could never dream of killing my mum, the anger and rage she evoked in me could have easily led me to a dark place, if not for the grace of God.

The general idea of a mother is someone who is nurturing and ever loving. My experience have been far from that. There are things my mother did that I cannot even add to this write-up. A lot of Nigerian parents do not know anything about parenting a child; their mentality is that you should raise a child the way your parents raised you. This approach involves flogging the child and abusing him/her emotionally, as one wishes; there is nothing systematic to it. While some of these children grow up and forgive their parents, even going as far as replicating their upbringing on their own kids, some realize that things could have been different and are willing to stop the cycle.

Do you agree with this author's point of view?

Source: naij.com

huun na wa ooooo

mstik: What is wrong with these people? First they called for sanctions for Nigeria for making homosexuality illegal now they want to remove Russia as the host of the next worldcup Is it that they don't have any issues in their own country that they have enough time to poke-nose in other country's affairs?

bros america is ruling the world...........

Dotng: So, what you are saying is that you will give NFF money and would not have a say about how they manage their affairs? Kindly tell us any successful private organisation that will ever agree to that include FIFA if you think they will agree to that kind of arrangement.

this thing is beyhond just having say,what have there say brought us in the past,okay look at it now other countries who will play for russia 2018 have started preparation meanwhile we are here fighting FIFA,look take it or leave it, THE F.G IN ANY THING IS A WASTE OF TIME,what we want is result....we dont want this people claiming to have say dictating for coaches on players to feature in tournaments...its whole bulllshit............

well i see this as a way foward,i mean which sector is actually working in this country, is good let them stay clear,let the private organisation come in,i think with this development nigeria is moving foward, football is a lucrative business in nigeria, 253 million is not so much money that football cannot generate in nigeria, if the likes of ,merrybet,premierbet,etc are making massive income in their millions,i belive NFF can survive with or without FG.......

well i see this as a way foward,i mean which sector is actually working in this country, is good let them stay clear,let the private organisation come in,i think with this development nigeria is moving foward, football is a lucrative business in nigeria, 253 million is not so much money that football cannot generate in nigeria, if the likes of ,merrybet,premierbet,etc are making massive income in their millions,i belive NFF can survive with or without FG.......

Rhymeyjohn: Anyone who picks your phone would be scamming himself. I believe you would only be able to recharge that phone line registered to your account and not any other phone line[number]

u dint get it am talking about transfering credit btw phones..

ibituyifarms: GTBank 737 allows you to instantly recharge your phone by dialling *737*Amount# on
a line associated with your bank account. For example, if you wanted to recharge your
phone with N900, you dial *737*500# on your associated phone line and your phone is
credited with N900 while your bank account is debited the same amount of money. I applaud this service as it provides a very fast and available means of topping up.
However, I believe the service has made recharging dangerously too easy to effect. What
if someone maliciously converted all your cash at bank into calling credit? I think the transaction should be PIN-protected. How could you just dial an USSD and
your account is instantly charged?

what if someone pick my phone recharge it and start making calls or transfering credit..

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Original J: Another strategy by ASUU to seek public sympathy...y dem no FAST n PRAY before embarking on the strike? Now they r suddenly solliciting for God's intervention abi.

Now make we reason this issue together, I ask you for money, U tell my children say you don pay am to my account, no be me go check my account to confirm?
ASUU should relax their muscles and do the needful, cos FG is nt only concerned with the education sector...so let em confirm the money demselves.

guy u no dey make sense o....oøoo

Baba_Eleko: Jonathan thinks he is bigger than Nigerians. 2015 dey come when we go show am say na only paper we need to fling am back to the river bank where he belong.

dont be fooled jonathan is not mocked.

Mobsync: I know the university. Send me a pm, let's talk.

must u be contacted privately,i guess u want to make busine$$ out of it.

Femi samuel lagos state university

Promhize: God punish this idiots. I was almost supporting them but on a second thought, this guys are greedy old men, destroying students lives with no sense of regret.

Why can't they just sue the FG since it was an agreement, wait let me guess, they don't want to spend their money, but they can waste students lives without twitching an eye.
We always blame FG, but these lecturers are as worse as the politicians themselves, I can bet that over 40% (esp Professors, Dr) are not in Nigeria as we are speaking, we complain that our politicians children aren't schooling in Nigeria but these greedy men are not different, even the son of Ondo state's deputy governor schools at OAU - tell me why he would want to send any of his children to FG universities later.

I just don't understand, this idiots are fighting for their pockets - for bigger offices, ac fitted - not students. I school in OAU and I'm not complaining, in-fact, no student is complaining. OAU increased Acceptance fee from 2000naira to 20,000naira, a whooping 1000% increase, when we students protested they advised us to stop and called us all sorts.

No lecturer supported students. For Pre-degree programme, the fee is over 150thousand naira, to write post utme, you'd have to pay over 3000naira, to check you'd have to pay over 3000naira, pls where do you think all these money is going to. Its not like we are given free food or learning materials.

This lecturers sit in AC tight offices, travel anyhow even during school semesters all in the name of research, the same lecturers fighting for students will come back from trips in the middle of semesters and give students only course outline and ask us to go learn ourselves.

Same lecturers demanded more than once that their retirement age be extended when millions of graduates are out of work. They want allowance because they are teaching more than 1 course, these same men and women of no reputable standard went to school on scholarship, with free food, books, and so on.

Damn ASUU and their sympathisers. They sit in AC tight offices with numerous gadgets when ordinary ceiling fans in students room aren't working.

They collect hundreds of millions in different fees but must new classrooms in OAU are built by Private companies and individuals such as first bank, I bet the rest are from FG funds.


I WILL STOP UNTIL EVERYONE KNOWS THAT EVEN THOUGH FG IS CORRUPT, THESE LECTURERS ARE NOT ANY BETTER.

huuun o ga

albacete: Does 'he' have a soul? Or conscience?

God is great!

man no be God

Ur papa

njuwo: Hahahahaha!! I just can't stop laughing. This
is the awkward Truth About some husbands.
A group of men gathered at a church
conference on how to live in a loving
relationship with their wives. The men were
asked, "How many of you love your wife ?" All
the men raised their hands. Then they were
asked, "When was the last time you told your
wife you love her ?" Some men answered
today, some yesterday, majority didn’t
remember. The men were then told to take
their cell phones and send the following text
to their respective wives: I love you,
sweetheart...
Then the men were told to exchange their
phones so one can read the other wife's reply
to the love message.
Here are some of the replies:
1. Have you impregnated someone again
2. That was then, not now
3. You wan borrow money abi?
4. What did you do again? I won’t forgive you
this time.
5. Meaning?
6. Is that a new song?
7. Am I dreaming?
8. If you don’t tell me who this message is
actually for, you will die today!
9. U dis man!! I asked you to stop drinking.
10. Abeg na who be this?

lol

lobell: All you need is in here bro...

https://www.nairaland.com/1468876/full-details-2009-ASUU-fg-agreement#18653794

All tha best!!!

thanks bro

Afam4eva: This just supports the notion that Billionaires hate neigbours. We remember how Bill gates bought an estate in Washington state and chased all the neigbours away by using money to slap them. The same with Ellison of Oracle that bough a whole beach front in Malibu, California and payed of all his neigbors to have his privacy. I intend doing the same too. The whole Bannana island will be mine. Yuzedo should look for alternative accomodation cos i'm buying everything

good dreams.