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2buffagain:
To even enter the boldened, it is mostly women who don't know how to act when they find themselves in that position.
With the exception of a few good women, a lot of them would feel the guy needs to be disrespected constantly....eventually leading to the destruction of the marriage.

Some careers just have different end-game earning potential.

If one was to now say "no women should be hired as executives in fortune 500 companies so they don't feel their non-executive-but-very-comfortable husbands are beneath them", that one will be another issue all-together, not to mention stupid.

That's why all that old toxic thinking does no good for anyone's marriage in this day and age.

Anyway, people evovle in different speeds.

Best to leave cavemen to marry cavewomen, and for modern men to marry modern women.

But it's ok for a man to misbehave if he has money abi.
Mtcheeeeew

Elder001:
First of all I'm a married man.

Your aim in marriage is not to stay at home and look after children.. Please stop saying that nonsense.


Yes whatever you work for is yours alone and whatever the man works for is his alone.

From this kind of words I'm sure your type will deliberately turn into a full time housewife in the name of looking after kids then later after you've wasted your own life without making money and acquiring properties you'll start dragging properties in case of divorce.


No man feels intimidated when his wife is earning more. .Stop saying nonsense.


Go out there make money and acquire your own properties.

Please stop misquoting me.
Whatever I work for is not mine but for my children.
And since most women work for their money take care of their children then of what use is a man?
If I can do all by myself I don't need a man now.

Yeye dey smell keep thinking you sound woke and call me immature it's your opinion and it has no impact in my life.

Growing up I believe you need a man so you can build a future together and you make sacrifices for each other.

I'm glad most women are getting enlightened. Make sure you show your wife too. Nonsense

Elder001:
From what you just wrote it is clear that you're obviously a kid or who else starts a text with insults?.. Indomie generation without manners.


First of all your mandate in marriage isn't to sit at home, clean and take care of children. This is the 21st century.

There are many women who don't have nannies that are working and still taking care of children.

What's the purpose of nannies and house help?

If you can't afford nanny you can beg your mum to come and do omougwo till the kid gets to 4years.

Contrary to your claim most Nigerian men want their wives to have their own money.

Your husband can't decide for you.

You can't decide to stay at home and waste your life then later you start saying the man was the one who wasted your life.
Go out there make money and acquire your own properties.

As long as you men refuse to reason like people in the 21st century I won't reply you like one.

What is the primary aim of marriage if it's not to raise a family have someone to protect and shield you against the world.
You people have turn marriage to a war zone who is better who is to do what everything I work for is mine alone not ours. Where is love? you are not married you are creating a topic on how to divorce your wife and hide the property you don't have and might never have.

So many women are ready and we are getting wiser because most men are nothing but a gender nothing more.

They are many women with nannies that their husband sleep with whose fault is it the wife now.
you know what since its the 21st century the father should come and do omugo now.
Mtcheeeeeeew.

You men are confused when the woman is earning more you feel intimidated. Then you start creating stupid thread of how your wife is sleeping with her boss and getting promoted and shit.

You are just annoying me try to sound sane when you are the total opposite.

eitsei:
how?

By marrying your lazy lonely ungrateful asses

Elder001:
why don't you share your own properties with him? who barred you from acquiring your own property during the duration of the marriage?.

Nobody wasted your life.. go make money and acquire your own properties.

Who be this one? You greedy fools how many men allow their women to be independent abi how many of you will agree to sit at home to clean and care for your children.

Confused beings you want a loyal independent self made woman that will take care of you and the children and what do you bring to the marriage nothing but your tiny penis.

Women wise up a man that is not ready to share responsibility both financially and at home is not worth marrying find yourself a sperm donor and live your life
Marriage is not a criteria to make heaven.

lilbest4:
then stay at your father's house

I will stay in my own house.

Hyinkar97:
How can you be so sure? This is a faceless forum o and you don’t even know if this is your boyfriend

Lol.

Hyinkar97:
Cee C is beautiful but long dresses make her look like a village girl. She should stick to short ones biko

Village girl ke. I bet you've never dated a chick this classy.

eitsei:
leave her life for you? so marriage is a favor to the man?

Yes.

Which one is funicating.

o42austino:
you need a Doctor

You need a psychiatrist.

I don't understand you this men. I expect you to use your head but yet I get disappointed everyday.
A woman will leave her life just for you, serve you and the kids but when you make the money it's for you alone abi leaving 10 to 20 years of her life for you.
If you can do it alone please do not marry just get a baby mama you can't have it all.
Women are not for serving men. You want a woman that is everything but you don't want to give anything who will leave a man because he is good kind and loving?
You african men are confused egomaniacs you say your mother is the most important person in your life yet you watch your father treat her anyhow and yet you treat wives the same way your father treated your mother .
Women if a man is not legally married to you he doesn't owe you shit. Work and make your money if you like cheat on him as long as you are happy don't sacrifice your life/happiness for one sperm donor.
Iranu

GeeString:
The advantages of Nairaland - any hoodrat can claim to be anything.

The fact remains that you desperately sought for a man to take you to the United States. You didn't ask for a fellow woman, you specifically wanted a dude.

You might even reside in Jupiter but it doesn't erase your hypocrisy.

I can sought for a man however I deem fit and who say I need a man for relationship smh.
It has nothing to do with feminism.
And still I won't insult you because feminism has taught me self respect so i won't drag my self in the mud with you, enjoy your filth alone.
So move on I've given you the attention you want bye bye.
I won't be replying anymore quotes from you. So you can decide to continue fooling yourself .
Have a good night rest. Next

GeeString:
This is rich coming from a feminist who literally begged for any Nigerian Man living in the United States.
https://www.nairaland.com/4369020/need-serious-nigerian-guy-living

Very rich.

I would have loved to insult you. But I won't
I recently moved to the states so if you want to self-service on that too please do.
I'm still a feminist so you can faint.

LadyMarionette:
You misunderstood her. She was referring to the OP. You made the point that the OP was ass-licking in order to get validation from men. She then consolidated that point implying the OP might be fishing for a hubby.

Breathe!

Just did. Thanks I apologised to her

LivingFree:
LOL! Sis, you misunderstood my comment...

I meant the op's need for a husband, not you.

Don't bother arguing with people on nl as far as feminism is concerned because they have misunderstood it but then again at least it's being spoken about which is the silver-lining. They love feminism when it's about paying half the bill but anything else it's hated.

Ok. I thought you read my profile and you wanted to attack me .
I'm Sorry I misunderstood the message and called you stupid
If the op was a man I won't bother commenting but for a woman I'm disappointed and I had to say something.

LivingFree:
The need for a husband is real!!

Feminism has been abused on this forum but ANY Publicity is GOOD publicity...

So because I'm a feminist I should not get married or I should not have sex.

I'm amazed at your response because as a woman I expect you to use your brain well.

If my post offends you abeg waka pass. Stupid girl.
Don't bother I won't reply

ubunja:
you're not proud. just angry. if you were proud you wouldnt be here.

If I was angry I would be ranting like you've been doing.
And don't bother quoting me again except you have something intelligent to say because I won't dignify you by responding to your stupidity.
Thanks

Stupid thread. The only asslicker in this thread is the op herself. You still need validation from men to feel important smh.
Op please know what feminism is before creating a topic about it.
I amj God bless you only a weak man will fear feminism.
For those wanking on this thread keep waiting for feminism to die.

I am a proud feminist.

DMainMan:
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It's not out yet now.
There's nothing on the site

Mtcheeeeew

LaCruzz:
Sex na food??

Yes n.a. food.
When the man is not dead.
2 years not 2 month o. I won't even try 2 months sef when my husband is well and alive

SoapQueen:
Did I act rudely or in any way misbehave, dear?

No you didn't now.
It was for your comment about feminist acting meekly to their husband.
Why won't they I'm a feminist and I melt for my bf like a stupid girl. But the day he thinks he can try rubbish I will show him pepper.
Just because I love someone doesn't mean I should be mistreated .
I can always say no.

SoapQueen:
I was about saying thank you till I saw the end. Haa.. This one strong gaan.

On a more serious note, I won't let listen to these feminists. What works for them might not work for me. Many of these women who hide under the umbrella of "staunch" feminism mislead young ladies while they go home and act very meek to their husbands.

Feminism doesn't say you should be rude or you should misbehave.
It tells you to have a standard where no one will take you for granted because he has a penis.
Thanks

abbey621:
That your criticism falls on deaf ears, that you don't matter to them and you are better focusing your energy on something more meaningful. In short, make something of yourself!

Mtcheeeew take your own advice fool.

abbey621:
Did they give the attention you seek? Do they even you're alive? I guess not, just accept your NOBODY status and be cool

What are you saying?

abbey621:
Whether you have money or you are broke is not the point. When it comes to personal relationships those in the relationships are somebody while external influences who are not related to them are NOBODIES! In short, mind your damn business!

I'm minding my business it is davido that is not minding his business. As long as they post rubbish about their relationship it becomes mine and everybody on social media too.
I don't want my children growing up where girls think endurance is the new name for gold digging and laziness.
Thanks

Espada10:
Even if I believe you but one thing for sure is that you guys are not plenty

Maybe.

Espada10:
TELL IT TO THE BIRDS

I have heard this statement from every woman who claims to be different. ..but I know the reverse is always the case

Sir change your circle and environment.
We plenty and we are a movement. #

Ugosample:
The guy is talking rubbish as far as I'm concerned

Women of the past (our grand ma era) suffered a lot of disrespect and shit from their men (well not all men were like that, but a lot were) beating, chasing out of the house, cheating and polygamy and the list is endless

Didn't they still stay with such men

Or because they were "married" to such men?

The society has evolved, and it has come to stay.

whether we like it or not is immaterial

Lol.
Our mothers stayed due to metal slavery.
Money is the new name