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gabe_logan:
wetin u expect, na ibo now!! na so they dey call am

Thanks alot, i quite appreciate your nice & kind contribution to this discussion.
For your information, i'am not an Ibgo by tribe, i only try to quote the guy the way he said it to give a much more clarification to my story & the readers.

@Ezinwannem
Emenla Chukwu goziegi. Thanks, God bless you.

StephenP:
Because seriously though, that's the best you could come up with? Cousin's sister? You probably should have thought through the story before posting this.

Thanks alot, i quite appreciate that.

@ topup
i quite appreciate your nice & kind advice.
But topup do you kow that i never discussed anything like marriage or relationship with this guy?
I was very surprised at him bringing it up, that was why i took it to be a joke.

@ jay bee
Thanks alot

@ojujoan
thanks

@steven p
to be honest & sincere with you, it's not what you thougt.

@ solamanne
Thanks 4ur advice a quite appreciate that.

Thanks 4ur contributions i quite appreciate u, God bless u all.

i don't know if she is despirate to get married. but my friend told me that she is presently in Kano State doing her NYSC.

There was this guy (a senior friend), whom i meet at my place of work. He told me that he wants me to marry his cousine sister. I took it to be joke but i never new he really meant what he was saying. Today he gave me her phone number & email address & promised to bring me her pictures when next he travels. He went to the extent of giving me her residential addresses in two states, where she is based, while i am in another different state entirely.
Note that i have never seen nor meet this girl before.
I am confused & despirately in need of a true & genuine advice.

@coffri
1st of all posses all the qualities in the kind of man you want.
2nd kindly place your address, email & picture on the internet to enable the lucky guy to see & trace you as i believe you will definitely also like to see his picture & contacct address or email (so as to know wether you are interested in him or not).
But i have a question for you, why must he be yoruba & musn't be from Ilorin?

1. Which is better : is it to marry the person that i love or the person that loves me?

2. In any relationship, whose love should be much more; the man or the woman?

3. Can a woman marry a man she doesn't love or vars-vasal?

@seandiddy
Move on with life. sometimes ladies don't really mean what they say. They try to push u off balance & see what your reactions will be. Sometimes they want they want to prove to we guys that they are not cheap.
Your can try the following Tips
1 Never show it to her that you were annoyed
2 Pretend as if nothing has happened (relate with her the way you used to do b4 ur proposal)
3 Go through her best friend 2help u talk to her.
If any of this did not work, Man i will really advice u 2move on with life. She dosn't love u.

@all
i quite agree with you all that both goes hand in hand. but learn to love people for who they are and not for what they are. if you love a lady or guy for what he has (money / wealth) does that mean you really love him?Do you know that money is not everything? if the money is not there tommorrow what will you do? do you know that the poor man of today could become the richest man in the whole world tomorrow? (e.g @ home Nig. Chief M.K.O ABIOLA). it is better to have a peaceful home with love and care than to have a rich / wealthy home miserable home with pains and crys etc.

Why should people love when it leaves such a bitter experience when we fall out of love?
we lost loved ones, our hearts are sometimes broken by people that are rear and dear to our hearts, yet we love, what trauma it leaves, we somtimes regrets why we fell in love in the first place, yet we still love?
This is mystery to me, could someone please help me out.

@desiree 1
i requote my 1st statment;
dea is a hiden itention bhind every action.

@desiree 1
dis ar my conclusions: despise d fre lunch, dea is a secret bhind every intention ( i mean rit from d very 1st day he ofa to help u.
maturity is of mind not age. that girl is not frend. A man remains what he is or even get worst as long as he lives, if he does dis 2u, expect d worst wen u bot setle down as couples. u hav 2soft a hat; change it; else he uses ur felins 4him 2inflict u d more. dis may'nt b easy but i hav 2say it, leave & 4get abot him, if he loves u, he will combak 2u.

@Desiree 1
cud u pls kindly ans dis quests, i got them all from ur story:
why shud u liv wit a man for 6monts?
As soon as u left, he changed & when u cam bak he reconcilled w / o any reason?
After a while things b / cm nomal but begin to distance himself from u yet w / o any reason?
d girl & ha stories hw they had sex?
u cal & told him but he defended himself, if man shud do such, do u expect him to disclose (note i didn't say he did) esp. 2d d person he claims to love?
whose affection is much more yours or his?
u also said u are so hurt yet u love & pity him?
he hurts u doesn't care yet u care for him?
pls don't be ofended wit all thes quests, i just want to know so as to know what to advis u to do.

@xkanty
i quite undestand your plight. it's better to have a broken r/ship other than having a broken home. if she does this to you during your r/ship, expect the worst when you both settle down as couples. think & act fast b4 it's too late.

@poster
Men don't really like praying such prayers but if you do your resarch very well you will discover that up to 99.9% of women treat their husbands as wives when they are richer.
no love, no respect, sometimes they go to the extend of turning the man into a maid. could you please tell me why?
we don't really like doing doing this but your characters makes us do so.

hi guy Its a nice once. i love it. more of that.

@poster
show him how much you really love & care for him, if he loves you, he will do everything possible to keep you & will never want to loose you no matter what.

nekkyo:
but for any reason if i want to do otherwise by marrying another man i should inform him first! Am thinking if he is giving me a go ahead to check out other men or he is not sure of his ability to make it a reality because he also said i cud work hard and join him

Did you note his statements as quoted above?
Answer these questions:
whose love is much more; yours or his?
Is he straight forward?
How does he acts & reacts whenever he is with you you?
Ask him Specific questions (e.g Do you love me? will you marry me?) etc. Note the way he will respond & answer those questions?

@ missy B
You don't have to wait. Just go the bank and collect the cash they are watin 4u.

@spikecylinder
What do you mean by Scrap? what are expecting me to redeem? baby girl this is Real, I mean the truth.

@ poster.
What a nice write-up. I love that.

Missy B:
Which of 'em is my bank?

You don't have to be told; just read over the write and you will know where you belong.

spikedcylinder:
How?

Just the way you saw it.

@ all.
is this an answer to a question? is it a crime to ask a quetion? what crime has he commited to deserve all these? To our Profs. & Lectuters if the Topic or Grammar is wrong why don't U just correct it other than critisizing him, after all nobody is a reservoir of knowledge.

@ poster
This question i will say applies to both sex.
My answer is this; they couldn't control their emotion.

Do u marry a man for who he is or for what he is? are u marrying the man or his wealth? Do u know that money is not everything? Am afraid if one could get true love this days.

nothing could b hidden under the sun. ur pretence will definitely come to lamp light some days when u least expect it. b urself.