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Autos / Re: We Buy Old, Rickety, Dilapidated, Scrap, Accident Vehicles by owolabi5: 2:42pm On May 19
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Politics / Re: Yorubas Will Never Insult, Claim Host’s Land – Nwo Diali by Zooposki(f): 2:41pm On May 19
Same people calling for the genocide of the Niger Deltans? NWO Diali, you are a very big fool. May Ogun kee you, and may Amadioha render you impotent. Nonsense and foolish talk.

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Properties / Re: How I Landed My House After Squatting by Loverboi2cute(m): 2:38pm On May 19
it can only get better 4rm here....
U don talk am finish

Politics / Re: Edo 2024: Stop The Greed Okpebholo by OviaTheGreat: 2:36pm On May 19
Senator Monday Okpebholo is winning this election, if una like talk things wae e no be
Business / Re: Football (+/Other Sports) Betting Season 18 ➜ ➜ ➜ by Joeblaze26(m): 2:31pm On May 19
DiskJokeyManic:


I don't knw if I should say u talk too much, or u just wnt to show us u can type well or u jst simply have comprehension issues........in summary of what am saying:::: they accuse people of nt posting tickets here but dey do desame...........

We are saying desame tin... Go back, Use ur akamu brain ND read it slowly dis time👍
You don help me reply am...Thank you 😂😂😂
Sports / Re: EPL Final Day: Who Is Winning The League? Arsenal Or Man City? (Photo) by Tballack: 2:31pm On May 19
Omo i bin dey support gunners sidely b4,but since d day den don beat my club 5-0,chaii all d demons of d world don turn against them,..i tip gunners b4 but nt again..make mancity dey rule us de go..even arteta self no say its over like kalistus talk
Business / Re: Football (+/Other Sports) Betting Season 18 ➜ ➜ ➜ by DiskJokeyManic: 2:29pm On May 19
OilandGasMarket:

I don't really understand all you typed up there but it sounds like you don't what you are saying. Mayor of Ekiti that people praise so much posts games and people win from it. Even the joeblaze guy won yesterday. If your tickets always cut will you continue playing or you meet another person whose luck might be different from your own? Nigerians love to be worshipped that's why the concept of help is strange here. Posting of tickets is not a big deal. It will not reduce the money in your bank account. It will increase it cos if the person wins, he will appreciate you for dropping the code. Don't be a bum please. You can't be the richest man from betting. Even the owners of these sites are not amongst the top 50 richest people of the world. Share games, share happiness.

I don't knw if I should say u talk too much, or u just wnt to show us u can type well or u jst simply have comprehension issues........in summary of what am saying:::: they accuse people of nt posting tickets here but dey do desame...........

We are saying desame tin... Go back, Use ur akamu brain ND read it slowly dis time👍
Crime / Re: Senior Military Officer Nabs Soldier Extorting Money From Motorists (Video) by kyuniii(m): 2:20pm On May 19
Sermwell:

Go and get some education!! That money is now an exhibit!! cool

It can no longer be used for any monetary transactions!!
See who is talking about education, am not sorry but you need it more, check up the definition of naira mutilation before coming on line to talk ill of one comment, Peace.
Romance / Re: How Do I Fix My Marriage, It Has Crashed - Family - Nairaland by MrIcredible: 2:18pm On May 19
tomi4life:
Not sure if this is the right forum, but I am unhappy, as I type this message, I think it is usually too late to cry when the head is cut off, but i will cry anyways.

I have been married for 6 years now and brethren it has not been easy, I think I married a wrong person, am not a perfect neither is she, i just think we are not compatible. There is is no love between us. Our values are different. Me and my wife dont get along, well.

We have just been tolerating each other. I only realize what i am missing because i recent caught feelings for this colleague of mine. So there is this colleague of mine, we have worked together for almost 2 years now but more related to work. I have started catching feelings for this girl o and it all started in a party we attend together. I know she too has feeling for me. I see it in her eyes. She comes to sit with me, and we talk about alot of private stuff. She tells me all that is happening in her life, i also do same. she knows I am married with kids but i am sure if i make a move she will agree. I never could imagine I will find myself in a situation, tempted to commit adultery. When i have a wife at home, this opened my eyes and push me to want resolved the relationship issue with my wife. I approached her some days ago to voice my concern that the marriage is not working, we dont communicate, there is no love, what can we do to resolve the matter. My wife said she is used to our situation. I asked what can we do differently and she says we shd go see a marriage counselor. I said fine but can we even discuss and she tells me she is tired she wants to sleep and then stops responding to me.

My wife prefers to sleep alone, despite me telling her we shd sleep together as a couple. if she is in the room and I come to the room she will immediately goes to the parlor, we rarely have body contact. The few times we have sex she never kisses even when i try, she puts her mouth away. Even in the car we can be on a drive for 1 hr, without mentioning a word to each other. Most times it is either the car radio or my kids that break the silence. What surprises me is she is very comfortable with it, you just see her on her phone. The only saving grace is I have a source of income and provide for the home that why she listens sometimes.

Reflecting back on if i had to opportunity i wont have married her, she has caused me alot of pain. she doesnt play that supportive role expected of a wife, she has this feminist tendency. She also has this ego issue and find it difficult to take feedback, whenever i raise an issue, she just get very upset and in many times it turns into a fight. There are days I fall sick, my wife no send o. Even cooking for me is like stress. She goes out without telling me, does things without getting my consent or even carrying me along. When she brings people to the house, she wont even introduce them to me as her husband. she doesnt send respect or regards me. I tell you an example of something that happened last year, we were travelling November last year to the UK on holidays with the children, because of our luggages we took two uber vehicles, I sat in one with my daughter, my wife sat in the other with my son. While on the way to the airport, do you know my wife asked the driver to take a detour to shoprite that she wants to give someone the left over stew and food items we had. Shoprite is not on the way to the airport, we had less than 2 hours to go for an intentional flight. It was me that noticed their car going a different direction, I had to call the uber driver to tell him to turn back immediately. When the uber guy came he told me he had asked my wife to mention it to me, but she said no need, I dont need to be told. We got to the airport while offloading the luggage from the car, my wife suddenly disappeared. I had 8 boxes , 2 children to move with. Thank God for those people that help with the luggage at the airport. I passed through customs and NDLEA and began to clear with the airline before she showed up. I was so mad, even a custom lady was yelling at her, how can you just disappear leaving your husband with all the loads and children. My wife didnt even apologize, she said she went to drop the food items with the person she asked to come to the airport, after i asked the uber driver to reroute to the airport. That is how disunited we are.


The good side is not cheating, and she is spiritual, she can go to church 10 times a week, currently serves in 2 units and hold leadership roles in those unit. I have told her if she give 20 percent of the time in church to our relationship and family we would be happier. The major complain she mentioned from my side is we shd go out together more often, she wants me to organize morning devotions, that we shd pray more with the children, this was something I believe her dad did when they were growing up, the experience is different for me. I have told her I will try. She also mentioned I like to complain, which is not true.

This whole thing is hitting me hard cos I dont want to cheat with my colleague and i just experienced a glimpse of what we shd be enjoying. I also have the chance of relocating to the Australia but i knw if we do, I will enter one chance.

Does anyone knw a good marriage counselor, that can be recommended, I saw one done by one of this popular pastor they are asking for $150 for a 1hour session, I also dont want to involve my family or her family.

I am tempted to just leave the house for 2 weeks and go stay in an hotel, but how will that help it will only make matters worse.
My only problem with you is your stupidity and nativity to thinking or believing that she's not CHEATING on you, just because "she can go to church 10 times in a week"....
Yet, your wife prefers to be on her phone than anything that concerns you.
What do you think she's doing on her phone? Playing candy crush?

Do you know the people she's talking to? What kind of communication she's having?
Do you have access to her phone?
Do you know her password?

You seem to know nothing about women...
It will surprise you that in that your 6 years marriage, there are other years of relationships with other men you know nothing about... Even the ones older than your relationship and marriage with her...

No woman feels comfortable in a toxic environment or marriage, unless she's having an affair with others outside and she's enjoying it.
It could be with her ex
Her pastor
Her church member
Or boss...



It's even possible you're not the father of one or both children you think you have together.

If you doubt me, try hacking her phone and seriously monitor her for just 3 months and you'll find all the answers you're looking for.
Life is already too complicated and you don't have to allow one winch of a wife to be stressing you more.
If you can't find peace with her, DUMP HER! Forget about the children, they'll be fine as long as you take care of them and take good responsibility for their care. You don't her to be with their mother to do that.

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NYSC / Re: Nysc For Foreign Born Nigerians by MaziObinnaokija: 2:15pm On May 19
EggSoup:
People still dey go this NYSC?
Stupid people
Du₩b boy talk.So after(probably u are dropout/done urs)u have done yours,it is now useless abi undecided? Same way some idiots living abroad will tell u to stay @,hone that abroad isn't easy again sad.Meanwhile, those useless people have refused to come back home

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Health / The Sweet Tooth: How Sugar Affects Pregnant Women by Listen114: 2:13pm On May 19
Hey there, expecting moms! Let's talk about sugar. We all know it's sweet, but did you know it can have a not-so-sweet impact on your pregnancy?



Here's the deal: when you're pregnant, your body is already working overtime to grow a tiny human. And when you consume too much sugar, it can make things a bit more complicated.



Here are some ways sugar can affect you and your baby:



1. *Gestational Diabetes*: Consuming high amounts of sugar can increase your risk of developing gestational diabetes. This can lead to complications during pregnancy and even after giving birth.



2. *Baby's Weight*: Eating too much sugar can cause your baby to grow too big, which can lead to difficulties during delivery.



3. *Premature Birth*: A high-sugar diet can increase the risk of premature birth, which can lead to health problems for your baby.



4. *Allergies and Asthma*: Some research suggests that a high-sugar diet during pregnancy may increase the risk of allergies and asthma in your child.



5. *Energy Crashes*: Consuming too much sugar can cause energy crashes and mood swings, which aren't fun for anyone – especially during pregnancy!



So, what can you do?



1. *Limit Added Sugars*: Try to limit foods and drinks with added sugars, like sweets, sugary drinks, and processed snacks.



2. *Choose Natural Sugars*: Opt for natural sources of sugar, like fruits and veggies.



3. *Read Labels*: Check food labels and choose products with less added sugar.



4. *Stay Hydrated*: Drink plenty of water to help control cravings and keep your body happy.



5. *talk to Your Doctor*: If you have concerns or questions, always chat with your healthcare provider.



Remember, a balanced diet and a healthy lifestyle can help you and your baby thrive during pregnancy. Keep it sweet, but not too sweet!
Politics / Re: Minimum Wage: We Won’t Shift Ground On ₦‎615,000 Demand, Says Labour by codedguy1(m): 2:11pm On May 19
imagrg:
You people want to completely finish the average Nigerians that aren't working.

Don't you know that this will heighten inflation in the country?

Rudderless people.

So the govt has been lenient with average Nigerians with what is happening?

When they buy 160m jeeps for themselves, collect about 30m monthly, increase taxes, electricity rate, fuel while using dollars to bribe each other during elections, they did not finish the average Nigerian abi and all of these did nothing to affect inflation.

When one idiot can pay sch fees of his children for years and the sch had to refund the part of the money means nothing to you.

This guy managed a state for 8yrs, if he can do this, imaging what he did for that 8yrs then multiply by 36gov to see the negative impact. Let's not talk about ministers.

It is now labours request of a minimum wage that will cause inflation. Seems you just discovered the word INFLATION and are eager to use it.

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Politics / Re: Rivers: My One Year In Office Better Than Their Eight Years – Fubara Mocks Wike by desiredhome: 2:08pm On May 19
highchief1:
u may hate wike.But pls be truthful to yourself.the only thing that destroyed obidients was that they played politics with emotions.How can u do in one year what someone couldn’t do in 8yrs.Which kind magic be that.yesteday wike was rated second best performing minister after tunji.make una Dey talk the one when person do o.thats maturity.wike was one of the best govs in his time we wish sim well.
It's the people of the state that determine if he was the best or not, wike was just singing his own praises as an emperor he was, the moment you disagree with him, he will eliminate you........
Fubara has promoted civil servants in 3 to 4 levels that wike never did, in his 8 years etc....... Leadership is not just building structures without touching lives ....
Fubara is building structure and also impacting lives the more.....
Nairaland / General / Is Yescoin Legit Or Scam? Read The Full Details About Yescoin by Twinbrodas: 2:05pm On May 19
When it comes in the world of cryptocurrencies, there are different digital currencies which are lunched while some are yet to be lunched. YesCoin has emerged as one of the noteworthy coin that is captivating the attention of investors and enthusiasts alike. So the question now is, is YesCoin Legit?

Before we talk about is YesCoin is Legit or Scam, let's first see how to mine this coin and how it works.

YesCoin has been online for sometimes now and many people has been on this coin because of the lunch of notcoin in recent times. The only reason why some people are still confused if this coin is legit or not is because it has not been listed on Binance and it's transactions and mining is almost done on telegram.

Meanwhile, www.lanegist.com has explained everything you need to know about this coin and the complete details.

You can read the whole article at https://www.lanegist.com/is-yescoin-legit-full-details-of-yescoin-and-how-to-start/

If you have any questions or contributions, you can also make your contribution below.
Romance / Re: How Do I Fix My Marriage, It Has Crashed - Family - Nairaland by dawnomike(m): 2:04pm On May 19
tomi4life:
Not sure if this is the right forum, but I am unhappy, as I type this message, I think it is usually too late to cry when the head is cut off, but i will cry anyways.

I have been married for 6 years now and brethren it has not been easy, I think I married a wrong person, am not a perfect neither is she, i just think we are not compatible. There is is no love between us. Our values are different. Me and my wife dont get along, well.

We have just been tolerating each other. I only realize what i am missing because i recent caught feelings for this colleague of mine. So there is this colleague of mine, we have worked together for almost 2 years now but more related to work. I have started catching feelings for this girl o and it all started in a party we attend together. I know she too has feeling for me. I see it in her eyes. She comes to sit with me, and we talk about alot of private stuff. She tells me all that is happening in her life, i also do same. she knows I am married with kids but i am sure if i make a move she will agree. I never could imagine I will find myself in a situation, tempted to commit adultery. When i have a wife at home, this opened my eyes and push me to want resolved the relationship issue with my wife. I approached her some days ago to voice my concern that the marriage is not working, we dont communicate, there is no love, what can we do to resolve the matter. My wife said she is used to our situation. I asked what can we do differently and she says we shd go see a marriage counselor. I said fine but can we even discuss and she tells me she is tired she wants to sleep and then stops responding to me.

My wife prefers to sleep alone, despite me telling her we shd sleep together as a couple. if she is in the room and I come to the room she will immediately goes to the parlor, we rarely have body contact. The few times we have sex she never kisses even when i try, she puts her mouth away. Even in the car we can be on a drive for 1 hr, without mentioning a word to each other. Most times it is either the car radio or my kids that break the silence. What surprises me is she is very comfortable with it, you just see her on her phone. The only saving grace is I have a source of income and provide for the home that why she listens sometimes.

Reflecting back on if i had to opportunity i wont have married her, she has caused me alot of pain. she doesnt play that supportive role expected of a wife, she has this feminist tendency. She also has this ego issue and find it difficult to take feedback, whenever i raise an issue, she just get very upset and in many times it turns into a fight. There are days I fall sick, my wife no send o. Even cooking for me is like stress. She goes out without telling me, does things without getting my consent or even carrying me along. When she brings people to the house, she wont even introduce them to me as her husband. she doesnt send respect or regards me. I tell you an example of something that happened last year, we were travelling November last year to the UK on holidays with the children, because of our luggages we took two uber vehicles, I sat in one with my daughter, my wife sat in the other with my son. While on the way to the airport, do you know my wife asked the driver to take a detour to shoprite that she wants to give someone the left over stew and food items we had. Shoprite is not on the way to the airport, we had less than 2 hours to go for an intentional flight. It was me that noticed their car going a different direction, I had to call the uber driver to tell him to turn back immediately. When the uber guy came he told me he had asked my wife to mention it to me, but she said no need, I dont need to be told. We got to the airport while offloading the luggage from the car, my wife suddenly disappeared. I had 8 boxes , 2 children to move with. Thank God for those people that help with the luggage at the airport. I passed through customs and NDLEA and began to clear with the airline before she showed up. I was so mad, even a custom lady was yelling at her, how can you just disappear leaving your husband with all the loads and children. My wife didnt even apologize, she said she went to drop the food items with the person she asked to come to the airport, after i asked the uber driver to reroute to the airport. That is how disunited we are.


The good side is not cheating, and she is spiritual, she can go to church 10 times a week, currently serves in 2 units and hold leadership roles in those unit. I have told her if she give 20 percent of the time in church to our relationship and family we would be happier. The major complain she mentioned from my side is we shd go out together more often, she wants me to organize morning devotions, that we shd pray more with the children, this was something I believe her dad did when they were growing up, the experience is different for me. I have told her I will try. She also mentioned I like to complain, which is not true.

This whole thing is hitting me hard cos I dont want to cheat with my colleague and i just experienced a glimpse of what we shd be enjoying. I also have the chance of relocating to the Australia but i knw if we do, I will enter one chance.

Does anyone knw a good marriage counselor, that can be recommended, I saw one done by one of this popular pastor they are asking for $150 for a 1hour session, I also dont want to involve my family or her family.

I am tempted to just leave the house for 2 weeks and go stay in an hotel, but how will that help it will only make matters worse.
Where is your location? I can recommend a counsellor to you if you're in the southwest.
NYSC / Re: Nysc For Foreign Born Nigerians by EggSoup(f): 2:04pm On May 19
Chikel20000:
which kind talk be dis?
Holluwhakemmy:
After you have done yours

dangoteinlaw:
just yesterday here at a beer parlor one man was blabbing how education is useless but when he got to the 3rd bottle he kept talking about how he went for 1st master’s degree, 2nd masters, writing his thesis etc. this is the same person saying education is useless. Even u talking u have done yours but here u are dropping misleading advice.
go to Facebook, click on the search bar and type "RIP NYSC" search results pops up, click on posts and see gory and heart rending images and you'll feel so sorry for the country
Politics / Re: Rivers: My One Year In Office Better Than Their Eight Years – Fubara Mocks Wike by desiredhome: 1:59pm On May 19
highchief1:
u á hate wike.But pls be truthful to yourself.the only thing that destroyed obidients was that they played politics with emotions.How can u do in one year what someone couldn’t do in 8yrs.Which kind magic be that.yesteday wike was rated second best performing minister after tunji.make una Dey talk the one when person do o.thats maturity.wike was one of the best govs in his time we wish sim well.
For your information, I am a Rivers State indigene I reside in Rivers State, because to most of you ignorant fellows, the moment anyone points out the evil in wike the person is automatically an ipop or obedient.....sorry for you people.......
Secondly, His Excellency, Semilaye Fubara had served in the Amechi, wike and partly Peter Odili's government, so I believe him when he said he has done more than wike in 3 months, no sentiment...........
Sports / Re: Usyk Beats Tyson Fury To Win Historic Undisputed Heavyweight Championship Fight by diamond68: 1:58pm On May 19
Fearurcreeator:

Same lewis hating on AJ ... And for usyke ... He doesn't look like a racist ... Usyke Sabi abeg
.. fury Sabi talk down on colleagues in the game too much ... I don't like that kind of person...
I notice usyk anytime there is a black interviewer he walks away or doesn’t pay attention to them.
Sports / Re: Usyk Beats Tyson Fury To Win Historic Undisputed Heavyweight Championship Fight by Fearurcreeator: 1:57pm On May 19
ericmor:


Because commentator said that abi? So how did he recover and forth till the end nau? If he had not made use of the rope and he fell earlier, won't he stand up. You people will just be talking as if you have seen the future. talk about what have happened and not make things up ok
Na you see future ... Ref for no come na ... And let see if he would stand up ... Some that couldn't exchange punch or defend himself again ... He fit die sef
Sports / Re: Usyk Beats Tyson Fury To Win Historic Undisputed Heavyweight Championship Fight by Fearurcreeator: 1:56pm On May 19
diamond68:
the fury’s are good people. Forget the showboating etc these are white guys who think like and relate to black people. I mean how many white guys would name their son after a black man ? Fury is named after mike Tyson. Also in this fight his coach is a black man. I got nothing against the fury’s. In a perfect world I would be rooting for fury because usyk looks like a racist weirdo plus he beat our AJ. So in a perfect world Tyson fury would be my man. But I know Tyson fury is a pawn in a white supremacy agenda to label him the GOAT because the white man always feels the need to be labeled as the greatest. And that’s the only reason I went against their greater agenda of trying to dethrone Muhammad ali and Lennox Lewis the real heavyweight GOATS
Same lewis hating on AJ ... And for usyke ... He doesn't look like a racist ... Usyke Sabi abeg
.. fury Sabi talk down on colleagues in the game too much ... I don't like that kind of person...

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Religion / Re: I Struggled With Pornography – Pastor Isaac Oyedepo by femi4: 1:54pm On May 19
Righteousness2:
Ponography
Masturbation
Gambling
Sexual immoralities( fornication, adultery, prostitution, Gay, lesbianism, etc)
Smoking , drinking, drugs,etc

These are major spirits the devil has used to cage and bound ladies and men today.
They go hand in hand as one Opens you up to the order. They cripple you Spirtuallly and Physically.
Many do not even have a single CONTROL of these wicked forces on them .

Many are busy looking for solutions in rhe wrong places.
Many are taking the wrong Diagnosis for their problems.
Many are using psychological , medical and so on solutions to solve a Spiritual matter.

Listen! The Only Perfect solution is in JESUS Christ. And you who is the Victim have a Role to play.

These things are Wicked spirits and you can only be totally free when the Spirts take off.

To be Free , you need DELIVERANCE.
The First step to Deliverance is to know and Surrender to JESUS CHRIST.
Do well to seek a true Bible Beliving Church or a genuiely spirit filled born-again beliver who can attend to you.

Once prayers of deliverance are administered and the spirit is cast out, you are Free. But you Have a part to play. If you do not play your part, the spirit could return to you in a greater measure.

After your salvation and deliverance, do yourself well to build a Personal relationship with JESUS CHRIST.
Having a relationship with JESUS CHRISTis not a one day thing. It is a Continous thing.
The Word of GOD ( The Holy Bible) becomes your partner. You must have Daily Quality time with JESUS Christ. In prayers and in With HIS Word. The More you Engage the Word of GOD, the more you are Purified. The more you are sanctified. The more the Spirit of GOD fills you.
You may not even be concious of what is happening in you.

As you continue building your relationship with GOD, a time comes and you Notice, these evil habits are becoming irritating to you.

A time comes, you hear some one talk about these evils or you happen to see it anywhere, but your spirit man is angry , irritated and disgusted.

A time comes , your flesh may want to engage in those evils, but your Spirit being is totally against it.
That is because the Spirit of GOD, the spirit of Holiness, righteousness has taken over you. The flesh is no longer in control.
Add internet/nairaland addiction to the list
Foreign Affairs / Re: Russia-Ukraine War: World News, Weapons & Battlefield Discussions - Live by obedience4(m): 1:49pm On May 19
Kingsnairaland:


He is emotionally angry that why he does not remember history or know it

They just talk without even making research

In the next twenty years they will forget that Russia took over 20%of

Ukraine lol.

Lol, spokesman,
Your lord said 20% actually just 9% was taken by Soviet union.

Dude said a city was taken, by the Soviet. When Just a town vyborg and two island were taken.

I can't take a man serious who said the USA was funding boko haram because they were caught using a private owned starlink system.

grin

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Family / Re: How Do I Fix My Marriage, It Has Crashed by UjuJoan2: 1:48pm On May 19
tomi4life:
Not sure if this is the right forum, but I am unhappy, as I type this message, I think it is usually too late to cry when the head is cut off, but i will cry anyways.

I have been married for 6 years now and brethren it has not been easy, I think I married a wrong person, am not a perfect neither is she, i just think we are not compatible. There is is no love between us. Our values are different. Me and my wife dont get along, well.

We have just been tolerating each other. I only realize what i am missing because i recent caught feelings for this colleague of mine. So there is this colleague of mine, we have worked together for almost 2 years now but more related to work. I have started catching feelings for this girl o and it all started in a party we attend together. I know she too has feeling for me. I see it in her eyes. She comes to sit with me, and we talk about alot of private stuff. She tells me all that is happening in her life, i also do same. she knows I am married with kids but i am sure if i make a move she will agree. I never could imagine I will find myself in a situation, tempted to commit adultery. When i have a wife at home, this opened my eyes and push me to want resolved the relationship issue with my wife. I approached her some days ago to voice my concern that the marriage is not working, we dont communicate, there is no love, what can we do to resolve the matter. My wife said she is used to our situation. I asked what can we do differently and she says we shd go see a marriage counselor. I said fine but can we even discuss and she tells me she is tired she wants to sleep and then stops responding to me.

My wife prefers to sleep alone, despite me telling her we shd sleep together as a couple. if she is in the room and I come to the room she will immediately goes to the parlor, we rarely have body contact. The few times we have sex she never kisses even when i try, she puts her mouth away. Even in the car we can be on a drive for 1 hr, without mentioning a word to each other. Most times it is either the car radio or my kids that break the silence. What surprises me is she is very comfortable with it, you just see her on her phone. The only saving grace is I have a source of income and provide for the home that why she listens sometimes.

Reflecting back on if i had to opportunity i wont have married her, she has caused me alot of pain. she doesnt play that supportive role expected of a wife, she has this feminist tendency. She also has this ego issue and find it difficult to take feedback, whenever i raise an issue, she just get very upset and in many times it turns into a fight. There are days I fall sick, my wife no send o. Even cooking for me is like stress. She goes out without telling me, does things without getting my consent or even carrying me along. When she brings people to the house, she wont even introduce them to me as her husband. she doesnt send respect or regards me. I tell you an example of something that happened last year, we were travelling November last year to the UK on holidays with the children, because of our luggages we took two uber vehicles, I sat in one with my daughter, my wife sat in the other with my son. While on the way to the airport, do you know my wife asked the driver to take a detour to shoprite that she wants to give someone the left over stew and food items we had. Shoprite is not on the way to the airport, we had less than 2 hours to go for an intentional flight. It was me that noticed their car going a different direction, I had to call the uber driver to tell him to turn back immediately. When the uber guy came he told me he had asked my wife to mention it to me, but she said no need, I dont need to be told. We got to the airport while offloading the luggage from the car, my wife suddenly disappeared. I had 8 boxes , 2 children to move with. Thank God for those people that help with the luggage at the airport. I passed through customs and NDLEA and began to clear with the airline before she showed up. I was so mad, even a custom lady was yelling at her, how can you just disappear leaving your husband with all the loads and children. My wife didnt even apologize, she said she went to drop the food items with the person she asked to come to the airport, after i asked the uber driver to reroute to the airport. That is how disunited we are.


The good side is not cheating, and she is spiritual, she can go to church 10 times a week, currently serves in 2 units and hold leadership roles in those unit. I have told her if she give 20 percent of the time in church to our relationship and family we would be happier. The major complain she mentioned from my side is we shd go out together more often, she wants me to organize morning devotions, that we shd pray more with the children, this was something I believe her dad did when they were growing up, the experience is different for me. I have told her I will try. She also mentioned I like to complain, which is not true.

This whole thing is hitting me hard cos I dont want to cheat with my colleague and i just experienced a glimpse of what we shd be enjoying. I also have the chance of relocating to the Australia but i knw if we do, I will enter one chance.

Does anyone knw a good marriage counselor, that can be recommended, I saw one done by one of this popular pastor they are asking for $150 for a 1hour session, I also dont want to involve my family or her family.

I am tempted to just leave the house for 2 weeks and go stay in an hotel, but how will that help it will only make matters worse.

I don't think you married a very nice person. We only heard your side shaa, but somethings you mentioned are just plain disrespectful and wicked.

Also, it’s very possible shea cheating. You only think that's not possible because she's “born again” but ve had enough experience with those types that I know that they are even worse. Nature hates a vaccum. Nobody can be that detached. If she’s not showing that passion to you, she might be showing it to someone else, or be in love with someone she cannot be with.

I think counseling is a good idea so you guys can figure out the way forward in your marriage. Sometimes counseling guides you on how to move forward and seek for healthier relationships .

As for the other lady you have feelings for, again like I said, nature hates a vacuum. I'm sure you must have felt for your wife at one point the way you feel for her now, your heart is seeking a replacement for that passion and that is completely normal. It doesn't necessarily mean she will make a better spouse if you get involved with her.

You wife acts like she is pissed about something, maybe something you did in the past? She may have a bitter and unforgiving heart and is reacting the only way she knows how to. But she is taking it too far and maybe she really doesn't want to be in the marriage anymore.

You need to figure it out. Marriage is not meant to be endured. The whole reason for getting married is to have a partner and a companion to share life with. The way you guys are going, you might as well be single.

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NYSC / Re: Nysc For Foreign Born Nigerians by Chikel20000(m): 1:44pm On May 19
EggSoup:
People still dey go this NYSC?
Stupid people
which kind talk be dis?

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Sports / Re: Usyk Beats Tyson Fury To Win Historic Undisputed Heavyweight Championship Fight by ericmor: 1:42pm On May 19
Fearurcreeator:

... 100 of 100 times... Yeye talk ... Na two them fight he didn't win the two you were talking about 100times

The second looks more like a cheat and AJ was running from punches. They know better than you do which is why they refused to call for a Third fight. AJ can't fight Ruiz and will never try him in is prime, may be later when they are weak and just want to make money. I fought u and nocked you out and u came for rematch running around the ring to survive and gain point. You think AJ promoters mumu like some supporters that don't know when to back off
Politics / Re: Sim Fubara’s Political Mind Games by Wainey: 1:41pm On May 19
Very long.
I am not sure if Fubara is just lucky or a powerful figure is in the shadows giving him backup.

But one thing is that Fubara is giving Wike camp issues, Wike loves to talk and brag when things are going his way, but whenever he is calm and quiet, just know he is having a tough battle and is losing.
The only time we saw a quiet Wike was immediately after PDP's primary when he was taught politics 101 and this very issue with SIM.

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Romance / Re: How Do I Fix My Marriage, It Has Crashed - Family - Nairaland by Observer23: 1:40pm On May 19
tomi4life:
Not sure if this is the right forum, but I am unhappy, as I type this message, I think it is usually too late to cry when the head is cut off, but i will cry anyways.

I have been married for 6 years now and brethren it has not been easy, I think I married a wrong person, am not a perfect neither is she, i just think we are not compatible. There is is no love between us. Our values are different. Me and my wife dont get along, well.

We have just been tolerating each other. I only realize what i am missing because i recent caught feelings for this colleague of mine. So there is this colleague of mine, we have worked together for almost 2 years now but more related to work. I have started catching feelings for this girl o and it all started in a party we attend together. I know she too has feeling for me. I see it in her eyes. She comes to sit with me, and we talk about alot of private stuff. She tells me all that is happening in her life, i also do same. she knows I am married with kids but i am sure if i make a move she will agree. I never could imagine I will find myself in a situation, tempted to commit adultery. When i have a wife at home, this opened my eyes and push me to want resolved the relationship issue with my wife. I approached her some days ago to voice my concern that the marriage is not working, we dont communicate, there is no love, what can we do to resolve the matter. My wife said she is used to our situation. I asked what can we do differently and she says we shd go see a marriage counselor. I said fine but can we even discuss and she tells me she is tired she wants to sleep and then stops responding to me.

My wife prefers to sleep alone, despite me telling her we shd sleep together as a couple. if she is in the room and I come to the room she will immediately goes to the parlor, we rarely have body contact. The few times we have sex she never kisses even when i try, she puts her mouth away. Even in the car we can be on a drive for 1 hr, without mentioning a word to each other. Most times it is either the car radio or my kids that break the silence. What surprises me is she is very comfortable with it, you just see her on her phone. The only saving grace is I have a source of income and provide for the home that why she listens sometimes.

Reflecting back on if i had to opportunity i wont have married her, she has caused me alot of pain. she doesnt play that supportive role expected of a wife, she has this feminist tendency. She also has this ego issue and find it difficult to take feedback, whenever i raise an issue, she just get very upset and in many times it turns into a fight. There are days I fall sick, my wife no send o. Even cooking for me is like stress. She goes out without telling me, does things without getting my consent or even carrying me along. When she brings people to the house, she wont even introduce them to me as her husband. she doesnt send respect or regards me. I tell you an example of something that happened last year, we were travelling November last year to the UK on holidays with the children, because of our luggages we took two uber vehicles, I sat in one with my daughter, my wife sat in the other with my son. While on the way to the airport, do you know my wife asked the driver to take a detour to shoprite that she wants to give someone the left over stew and food items we had. Shoprite is not on the way to the airport, we had less than 2 hours to go for an intentional flight. It was me that noticed their car going a different direction, I had to call the uber driver to tell him to turn back immediately. When the uber guy came he told me he had asked my wife to mention it to me, but she said no need, I dont need to be told. We got to the airport while offloading the luggage from the car, my wife suddenly disappeared. I had 8 boxes , 2 children to move with. Thank God for those people that help with the luggage at the airport. I passed through customs and NDLEA and began to clear with the airline before she showed up. I was so mad, even a custom lady was yelling at her, how can you just disappear leaving your husband with all the loads and children. My wife didnt even apologize, she said she went to drop the food items with the person she asked to come to the airport, after i asked the uber driver to reroute to the airport. That is how disunited we are.


The good side is not cheating, and she is spiritual, she can go to church 10 times a week, currently serves in 2 units and hold leadership roles in those unit. I have told her if she give 20 percent of the time in church to our relationship and family we would be happier. The major complain she mentioned from my side is we shd go out together more often, she wants me to organize morning devotions, that we shd pray more with the children, this was something I believe her dad did when they were growing up, the experience is different for me. I have told her I will try. She also mentioned I like to complain, which is not true.

This whole thing is hitting me hard cos I dont want to cheat with my colleague and i just experienced a glimpse of what we shd be enjoying. I also have the chance of relocating to the Australia but i knw if we do, I will enter one chance.

Does anyone knw a good marriage counselor, that can be recommended, I saw one done by one of this popular pastor they are asking for $150 for a 1hour session, I also dont want to involve my family or her family.

I am tempted to just leave the house for 2 weeks and go stay in an hotel, but how will that help it will only make matters worse.

Feel free to quote me on an empty thread if you would like a complimentary one-on-one session to discuss strategies for salvaging your marriage.

In the meantime, please take the time to carefully read the following information and identify the key issues that have impacted your relationship with your wife.

____________________________
The leading causes of divorce can vary depending on cultural, social, and individual factors, but several common reasons are frequently cited. Here are some of the primary causes:

1. **Lack of Communication**:
- Poor communication can lead to misunderstandings, unresolved conflicts, and emotional distance.

2. **Infidelity**:
- Extramarital affairs often lead to a breakdown of trust and intimacy.

3. **Financial Problems**:
- Disagreements over money, debt, and spending habits can cause significant stress in a marriage.

4. **Lack of Intimacy**:
- Emotional and physical disconnect can make partners feel unloved and unimportant.

5. **Constant Conflict and Arguing**:
- Persistent disagreements and unresolved conflicts can erode the relationship over time.

6. **Unrealistic Expectations**:
- When partners have unrealistic expectations of each other or the marriage, it can lead to disappointment and frustration.

7. **Lack of Equality**:
- Imbalances in responsibilities, decision-making, and contributions to the relationship can cause resentment.

8. **Substance Abuse**:
- Addiction to drugs, alcohol, or other substances can lead to destructive behavior and neglect of responsibilities.

9. **Domestic Violence and Abuse**:
- Physical, emotional, or psychological abuse can make it unsafe and intolerable to remain in the marriage.

10. **Incompatibility**:
- Over time, couples may find they have grown apart and have different goals, values, or lifestyles.

11. **Life Changes and Stress**:
- Major life changes, such as moving, career changes, or the death of a loved one, can put a strain on the marriage.

12. **Lack of Commitment**:
- A lack of dedication to the relationship can cause it to deteriorate when challenges arise.

13. **Mental Health Issues**:
- Untreated mental health problems can lead to significant strain on a marriage.

Addressing these issues often requires open communication, counseling, and a willingness to work on the relationship from both partners.

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Satellite TV Technology / Re: Solar Energy, A Complement To FTA by Compliant(m): 1:36pm On May 19
Trippledots:


That boy that came for maintenance is my prime suspect. You have to know how to bypass the connection to be able to successfully steal that thing without the users knowing. Trace when your wife asked you that question, if it was after the boy visited, go use slap and knock make the boy talk truth.

He did not deny it. He only said he is sorry for everything
Sports / Re: Usyk Beats Tyson Fury To Win Historic Undisputed Heavyweight Championship Fight by ericmor: 1:34pm On May 19
Fearurcreeator:

Na lie ... He won't ... He was never wobbled like that before

Because commentator said that abi? So how did he recover and forth till the end nau? If he had not made use of the rope and he fell earlier, won't he stand up. You people will just be talking as if you have seen the future. talk about what have happened and not make things up ok
Politics / Re: Minimum Wage: We Won’t Shift Ground On ₦‎615,000 Demand, Says Labour by triplechoice(m): 1:32pm On May 19
Doyin2:


It is actually you should be asked whether you went to school or not.

Inflation is a function of money supply and not percentage of people.


You can calculate how many trillions the government will be spending only on wages, even if every worker earns N 615k per month!!

Private sector workers are also entitled to minimum wage.

You're making baseless claims. Back it with evidence please.
Show evidence of how the increase of minimum in the past in this country led to hyperinflation. That's all and stop saying things based on textbook economics theory and principles which doesn't always apply in real life.

Less than 5,% are civil servants in Nigeria. Moreover, not everyone in the private sector is required to pay minimum wage. There's a condition that must be met before they must pay minimum wage.

So your talk that trillions will be used to pay minimum wage once increased is you imagining things that aren't real.

FYI, the 615k is just a proposal.
You don't know enough hence your resistance to a living wage for workers.

1.Civil servants are about 5%

2. Not everyone in the private is mandated to pay minimum wage. You certainly didn't know this if not you wont say all the things you've said something far.

3. There's a minimum wage act which makes it mandatory that minimum wage is reviewed upward every 4 years for workers to earn a living wage. You also don't know this and the calculations involved to arrive at a living wage.

Go and get yourself better informed before you can discuss this with anyone
.

If a living wage would cause hyperinflation as most of you have been singing everywhere , you wouldn't be one to tell us . The federal government would have been saying so during
the ongoing negotiations, and even the world bank and the IMF who like to poke nose unnecessarily into the country's affairs all the time would have advised against.



Maybe you assume you know more than them. But I know you don't know. You're just overreaching yourself with the little you know,like some others here, to ring the alarm bell of hyperinflation when you don't need to.
Foreign Affairs / Re: Russia-Ukraine War: World News, Weapons & Battlefield Discussions - Live by Kingsnairaland(m): 1:32pm On May 19
WriteerNg:



🤡 🤡 🤡 🤡 🤡 🤡


What did i tell you about quoting me?

He is emotionally angry that why he does not remember history or know it

They just talk without even making research

In the next twenty years they will forget that Russia took over 20%of

Ukraine lol.

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