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Well i don't like my best friends flat mate - i can not stand her! But when i go over there or if she comes out with us when we go clubbing then i am civil and say hello and how are you and some other small talk and that is all i say. I know its a kind of different situation but i am respectful to her out of love for my best friend.

I don't really like some of my husband's friends - if she loves you enough then she will try her hardest to not let it compromise your relationship - she has to understand that he is your best friend - just because his your friend and she's your girlfriend it doesn't mean they will automatically get on.

Why doesn't she like him?

I can't really lie and say that it won't effect your relationship because it will.

Is it so bad that she won't even be around him? Can you talk about him infront of her?

Hauwa - i was thinking the exact same thing

Annoyed - please answer the question?!?!?!

Racism only destroys relationships if you allow it to - not all interacial relationships are about getting something out of it - you are obviously very ignorant.

Who is not understandable?

That is the most rubbish i have ever heard!

Nakedboi - So the only reason a Nigerian man would marry or date a white girl is for sex and mixed race children

have you spoken to her about it?

So you assume that all white girls are like that then?

I am sorry that you are having probems with your wife but all us white women are not the same!

Have you at least had a chat with her? I would be so upset if i found out my husband was resorting to a website to solve our marital problems.

Please do not generalise about white women it is not fair!

Leilah please stop embaressing yourself and all other fellow people in interacial relationships. All your posts in all different threads are about cultural differences and colour!!! Marriage is for life so surely you should have thought about all this before you said I do! If you are so convinced that he is going to leave you for someone else then why are you even consulting this board? If you spent as much time trying to talk to your husband as you do asking other people about it then I'm sure you would not have any problems. I'm sorry if he has only married you for his papers if that is the case but unless you have proof of this then what is the point in divorce! I am married to a Nigerian man and he is wonderful an I never have doubts about him leaving me for someone else - it is all about trust! How could you marry someone you can't trust?

and some more,

Sorry TGirl - must of got a bit carried away.

Here are my pics of the snow anyway,

Never done this before so don't know how its going to come out!!

I am a West Ham fan as i grew up in East London - but i do not mind Arsenal. I want Man United to win the league this year as thats the team my husband supports.

We are going to kick Man U's ass on sunday!!!

Oh thats cool - i work in Finsbury park so not far from Highbury - its nice around here - apart from having to look at the Emirates from my office window - thats quite depressing!!!

I went in September and it wasn't too bad apart from 1 day that was really hot and travelled to V.I with no air conditioning in the car - but my hotel had good air con so didn't really notice

Nope i haven't been on nairaland before - i'm a nairaland virgin Why do i remind you of someone?

Where abouts in London did you live before?

My husband is in Lagos at the moment visiting family and when i call him he's moaning about how hot it is and i'm moaning about how cold it is.

Still i will be going there in April so not long left until i can sunbathe!

Of course we can but it may depend on where you live - are you living in Oxford?

Im in Essex and no snow at the moment and i'm in North London now and no snow at the moment. Had to come to work today - not happy. Woke up and looked out my window and very disappointed

Why do you wanna get out of Nigeria so bad?

Why do you wanna get out of Nigeria so bad?

Well apparently there is going to be another 5-10 inches of snow starting tomorrow!! Hopefully no work on friday! Fingers Crossed

Yes it would also be a good idea to talk to him - but i wouldn't stand for it. A man knows when he is not treating a woman right and there should be no need to ask him to behave because he should just do it! If he respects you enough he should anyway. If you really want to make this work then talk to him and tell him he needs to change - if he doesn't do it after you have spoken to him then you really need to end it.

It's a hard situation to be in - when you love someone so much its hard to let go but if he's not treating you right then there is someone out there that will!

Breaking up is never easy - thats why no one likes to do it. You should break up with him and stick to it and do not change your mind. He will treat you even worse if he knows you will keep coming back to him. It will be hard at first but eventually you will move on and realise that you made the right decision. Everyone deserves to be happy and i wish you the best of luck.

I think it depends what their opinions are and the reasons behind the fact that they wouldn't want you to date this person.

This is an argument i have had with my father many times - as long as i am happy then thats all that should matter. Thats what he has said to me my whole life - but bring someone home that he doesn't like and all the morals go out the window.

Well my spouse is Nigerian and i am English - BIG problems from both sides of the family as you can imagine. But i never once doubted ending my relationship because of it and i couldn't be happier.