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Elantracey: you should know that's a joke

I see! So which 1 should we believe now

Elantracey: #teamnobombomatall

Woooooow! Now I can talk about u having a good carriage or not. If u're part of team no bombom @ all den u must hv deceived us on the thread on d cons & pro of big bosoms

Well, u're still naïve as I can see but I won't advice u to tell him exactly how u feel for him 1st. Just show him subtle signs that u're interested & see if he'll be man enough to take it up from there. If he doesn't then my dear just move on & take him as a friend (meaning he'll be stuck in ur friend zone). It happens to guys but some even shy guys will express their feelings if the lady in question gives signs of interest.

Freesexzone

Guys don't u think Brazil can be hammered again tonight??

Matthewbriggs: Lots of friend zone threads flying around lately. Evident of the fact that this is a very controversial and heated topic. I know this is an overflogged topic lately ... therefore What I intend to achieve via this thread is to bring to light, some perspective to this subject.

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What does it mean to be friend zoned ?

To be friend zoned means to really like a lady in a romantic way instead of letting her know directly, you instead try to do nice things for her, buy her stuff, be a good friend, a listener, be her Mr nice guy and all that stuff for a really outrageous period of time ... all because you want her to fall in love with you, only to be surprised that she really do not have any feelings for you instead has it for a totally different guy, and instead of moving on you, think you can still win the ladies heart by still been her friends and been nice ... Only to be emotionally drained, sad and miserable.

Been friend-zone is more than rejection of your advances and a lady saying she wants you to be her friend. The Friend zone is hanging in as a friend even when it is clear she aint into you ... hoping she falls in love with moving on ...

Below are Tips, Concepts and ideologies to help you get out of this Emotional mess


1. Been Friends with a woman is different from been friendzoned :- This is a common misconception among ladies and guys ... that been Friend-zoned and been friends with a lady is the same thing ... They are completely different things.
The fact is ... it is very healthy for you as a guy to have female friends they come in very handy ... from helping you land clients ... to serving as a casual date for an event to chatting and getting a females perspective on things.

To be friends with a female means you have no romantic feelings for her, you do not give her any form of special treatment ... She is your friend ... because she is adding value to your life not because you hope she ends up been your lover

While been friend-zoned is the complete opposite.


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2. Define what type of relationship you want from any woman from the start and communicate that definition clearly :- When you meet a woman for the first time. The first question you should ask you self is what do I want from her is it sex, romance or just been friends.

You definition should influence how you approach her ... Whatever your definition is never fail to communicate it to her as early as possible through words or via action ... her reaction should decide your next course of action ... If she does not accept your definition by all means move on.

Eg. You like this particular Lady in your dept and you want her to be your girlfriend ... go and woo her do not I repeat try to be her friend in the hopes of getting her to like you ... be bold go directly for the kill. If she refuses and strings you along too much ... move on.

The truth is if a girl really likes you ... In Most cases you wound not have to try sooo hard... speaking from experience


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3. Drill this into your head the average girl will not think twice before friend zoning you :- The AVERAGE woman just like you wants to eat her cake and have it. Just like MOST guys want as much sex without commitment so do women want attention, they want to be treated like princess, with love and care and admiration ... without the burden of commitment ... and they would go as far as stringing admirers like you ... not because they of they have feelings for you ... but because of the way you make them feel. The can mess with your feeling for years under the guise of friendship beware.

As a guy one of the greatest gift you can give any woman is your attention, your time ... she must deserve this attention ... do not give it to her on a platter of gold.

For a woman to be the centre of your world ... You must be the centre of her existence.

4. You do not win a girls heart by trying to be just her friend ... you win her heart by trying to be her lover. A lover is a friend and romantic partner meshed into one.

Hit on her from the get gooo. let her know you like her, give her those seductive glances, hold her hands, make her know you want her ... tell her how you feel.

I cant seem to understand why a guy who likes a girl instead of flirting with her and hitting on her left right and centre is busy doing her home work, going on errands for her and keeping her company hoping that by doing so she would fall in love with you ... he tries to be all mr nice guy ... dude you are on long thing. The truth is that such a guy is nothing more than a wimp, a mugu and would be severely USED. Note I am not against guys been all nice and caring but against doing such when he sees it as a way to trick a lady to fall in love with him ... instead of been direct.

5. Be sharp move on if you are not getting what you want from her ... Be it friendship, sex, love or whatever. As a guy no woman is indispensable ... there is always someone better that her out there.

Do not put any woman on a pedestal ... tying your joy and happiness to her if she does not do same to you. I am yet to understand why a guy would want to kill himself ontop a woman that every signal in the world is telling you that she is not that into you ... dude MOVE ON, Even if you decide to settle as friends Move on emotionally... Kill every form of hope of having her as your gf.

Yes it hurts to be rejected, and lose something you love. But if one thing life has taught me is that ... what should matter most to you is your happiness and the moment you are not fulfilled in a friendship with whatever lady move on.

There is someone more better, curvier, finer, intelligent prettier lady than her that is dying to have you as her man ... The world is freaking filled with beautiful women ... one of them is looking forward to be yours ... do not spend time with another man's future wife all in the name of some stupid feelings.

In all it is not a crime to have a female friends, have the ones for fun, for intelligent discussion, as business partners, the FWB if you so please.

but it is a crime in this twenty first century to be Friend zoned and even worse to to remain there... move the F$uk out of that zone before you get brother zoned.

Mathew Briggs

@OP nice 1 dude

What! U must hv eaten wella with ghetto girls to think this..........

angela98: I love this trend. Guys keep posting its helping me to know your secrets. I dey learn experience. Oh really na so una be?

Peeping tom.........I see u ooooo [color=#006600]

crackhaus: Is there a theory that says only guys should do the 'asking out'?

Anyone can ask anyone out if they want to.

I mean the normal african mentality..........Ask the ladies this question & believe me it's not how u think anyone can do the asking out

crackhaus: Lol...seems you don't understand what I meant by confidence.
Okay it's like this...as a guy, you're already used to playing cat while the lady plays mouse...then all of a sudden, she's the one playing cat.
The first thing that comes to you is a feeling of 'self-confidence', almost like you feel really cool with yourself...this is the confidence (ego boost).

As for your question, it's not really about accepting or saying YES or NO.
I would just hang out with her, if possible that same day or fix a date (another day not too far away), then whatever happens during or after that first date determines if it sticks or if it'll just be another fling.

Alright I quite understand you now. That means u're not part of that theory that says only guys should do the asking out

crackhaus: Memories...
Damn, I have come across some very crazy unstable girls in this my short life.

As for feelings, it's the same kind of feeling anyone would feel when they realize they're been desired by the opposite sex.
Not really excitement, just some ego boost and a feeling of confidence... especially if the girl is really pretty.

Hmmmmm......feeling of confidence Ok let me ask this question, will u accept her advances right there or on a later date? Provided she's pretty as u said

JoeCutie: They do. In my lodge, as you're walking, you have to bend low to dodge series of pants hung at the hanging zone.

That's because u're in a lodge, corper's lodge perhaps. On a normal ground dey don't spread dem out like other clothes

JoeCutie: But Pant is a clothing material just like every other material sha.

Funny dude! Why don't they spread them outside like every other clothing material

b3llo: hahaha...

I like your style, indirect things.......

merit12: Brb

I'm waiting....

teeo: Most girls I know that liked me don't say it directly. They give signs and get closer to you. Most times the smart ones do it so well that you don't know when you ask them out.

As to how I feel, if the babe fine me I go happy but if she wowo, I go vex check the kind soap wey I use baf that day.

Hahahahahahaha.......bro that's sentiment. Wowo girls no go marry

b3llo: That feeling of Joy that words can't describe.

Lol, but your word are quite opposite of your signature.....

tpia5: seduction is different from what you just described.

and subject to varying interpretations.

I understand you but it's one thing to be seduced and it's another thing to be asked out directly without giving you any sign

Davidairmarshal: IT SHOULD BE THE OTHER WAY ROUND.

I understand when it is the other way round. I've seen guys who see it as weird & react harshly to it & I've seen guys who embrace it with both hands. My point is to know we guys point of view about the issue

I've seen and encountered different ways ladies react to being 'asked out' by guys. I want to know how guys feel too if they experience the same from ladies.

chisong: pls i hav a small waist can i i get a girl friend

No......u need to add flesh. Lol

joychioma19: its a no for macho. I love slim guys.not too slim though. slim guys have long joystick and I like it.

Badt girl.......u and long things..