He was in school when we met and has since stopped going. I am not really looking for marriage advice. We are all human and none of us are perfect. I am only looking for opinions or thoughts about privacy. Is he right and deserving of such a secret life from me or should there be no secrets in marriage? What do yall think?

Funny, some say I should just suck it up and take care of him and let him live how he wants to. What you don't know is I am up everyday going to work for 14 to 16 hours a day, helping with the house, helping with the kids and a full time college student. What does he do, what ever he wants. No work. Not school. Just whatever.

@ AT, wanting privacy and not wanting your husband to read anything you have as "private", Isnt that a bit different. My husband has a HARD time expressing himself through words but can through writing. I just want to know what is going on in his life since I work all of the time. I even asked if he would just let me read them with him sitting there with me just so I can see what is going on in his life. He says it is none of my business and to butt out. How else can I figure out what is going on in his life? I ask him and I get "nothing" or if I ask him what is bothering him when something clearly is, I get "I dont know" or "dont worry about it".

Me and my husband have been having an ongoing argument with a privacy issue. He was raised to be private with phones, email etc. I was raised the opposite, when a man and woman join together in marriage, two become one. So if that is the case, why is there a need to keep things so private. He says he is not hiding anything but he has left his email open on serveral occasions and I have found emails where he has addressed other women with "whats up sexy lady" and ended emails with "huggs" and I have also found ones where he told a female that I was questioning him about her and he was telling her about the sitution and said "I just told her to shut up". Do I have anything to worry about as far as him hiding anything or should I just let it go and let him have his privacy and pray that he is not doing anything behind my back?