This is not help, when you expect the people whom you ve helped to render the same thing back to you directly or indirectly.
When you remind the people you have helped, what you gave them or did to them.
When there is an issue between you and that same person you helped, and the next thing you say is “give me back my things”
This is not just a write up, it’s real and happens in the world around us. Our problem is while helping others, we don’t do that for the sake of Ar-razzaq [The provider], we do that and expect those people to be grateful to us, to be good to us, and to become the best to us.
Allah has done so many things for us, we didn’t even have the time to thank him. Yet, he didn’t stop being good to us. We forget that when relating to others. Because our hearts have been occupied by the kindness, and the reward.
Remember , anytime we are showing kindness, or giving out something to people, let totalize our kindness to Allah alone.
Prophet muhamed said:
«لَيْسَ لَنَا مَثَلُ السُّوءِ، الْعَائِدُ فِي هِبَتِهِ كَالْكَلْبِ يَقِيءُ ثُمَّ يَعُودُ فِي قَيْئِه»
(It is not befitting us to be an evil parable. The person who takes back his gift, he is like a dog that vomits and then goes back to his vomit.)

The prophet compared the person who takes back his gift to an animal, not just an animal but a dog.
By : sekinat Abubakry Sulaimon

It has to do with the way we see challenges, when challenges comes our way, instead of focusing on it, we should turn to Allah. The purpose of challenge is not for me to carry it, but it is for me to ask Allah for help, to take care of it.

While you are turning to him, you have to work on it externally but your heart should be with him. All the things we think as means or solution, are all about duniya.

We don’t turn to Allah when we have problems, that is why we are left to ourselves, because we are trying to carry the burden on our own, we are trying to solve the problems by ourselves.

Why do we breakdown when faced with challenges? It is because we are depending on things rather than Allah. for example, we depend on doctors and drugs when we are sick, rather than asking Allah to heal you, then you use the drug. Everything that comes our way has a purpose.
Everything given to us by Allah can be good for us “only” if we respond to it as something good .when we are face with challenges ,we should seek Allah immedietly. for instance ,when you are given a difficult question to answer in class, we try really hard to solve it ,we put the pressures on ourselves ,what if we ask the teacher to put us through, imagine how easier it becomes.

When Allah test us ,the purpose is for us to ask Allah for help. our ideaology is that, we depend on people ,that is why we fail ,and we become weak.

My dear brothers and sisters in islam, rise above the water ,don’t expect too much from the creation ,expect everything from Allah .He can do it and he will do it .even if he doesn’t do it ,he has a better plan for you.
Ibn al-Qayyim said :
“were it not that Allah treats his slaves with the remedy of trials and calamities, they would transgress and overstep the mark. When Allah wills good for his slaves,he gives him the medicine of calamities and trials according to his situation, so as to cure him from all fatal illnesses and diseases,until he purifies and cleanses him,and then makes him qualified for the most honourable position in this world,which is that of being a true slave of Allah (uboodiyyah), and for the greatest reward in the hereafter,which is that of seeing him and being close to him”.