Hi, do anyone know of a very good cake maker in Nigeria. Thanks

@ Wislet,

Thanks so much.

@ Richfella,

I typed up at work coz I was in a rush, that’s why.

@ Ivynwa

Hi, I must say I really appreciate your input and all points are noted, thank you.

As for the post, I will amend the post accordingly.

Thank you all.

@ Enoquin

Please see the reply I wrote to Airpure about his relatives.

You know the reason why I am asking all this is that are there still people that do weddings without the parents there even though they are alive and kicking?

@ Ujujoan

I don’t see how my post is confusing, I tried to explain as much as I could.

I am not so bent on having her there, but for once, I don’t want any trouble especially with MIL, and also I don’t want to be blamed for something I didn’t do. For example, few months back, my fiancé came to visit me because I wasn’t feeling too well, his mom called him, he put his mom on speaker and she heard my voice at the background, so immediately the woman ask him where he is, and “he said I came to visit my fiancée”, the next thing she said is quoted “must you always go and visit her, that Seun has put your head under her, always controlling you” so already she has that negative mindset against me that I am controlling her son. And this is why I am trying to avoid her trouble and I don’t think there is anything wrong in that. I’m only trying to let peace reign. Like I said I’m not bent on having her there, I only just asked for people’s advice that what should I do and not to be criticize.

@ Odunnu

The Redeem church doesn’t have anything against it. The woman was just saying because she goes to MFM so therefore somethings have to be removed from the list.

Thank you so much Airpure.

I prayed and fasted to God for conviction from God that he is the chosen one before we started dating and on three occasions I got the confirmation myself, he did the same also. But you know our Nigerian parents, if you tell them you have found someone, they will want to pray over it also which my mom did and she also got positive confirmations.

I know it’s not right for him to put this burden onto me but I appreciate it because he opened up to me who his mother truly is. As for the dad, d dad lives in Nigeria, so many times the children told their mother that when is she bringing their dad to the UK, she always tell them that she can’t bring him to UK because she doesn’t want their dad to come and be holding her down in UK. And since I have been dating my fiancé, I discovered the woman is not even bearing the husband’s surname, she has been using her dad’s name. And I also noticed that this woman always call the shorts, its whatever she says that must stand maybe because she’s always sending money to him so the poor man doesn’t have much say. I remember when the argument started in April when the mother said the wedding must hold in Lagos, my fiancé spoke to his dad, and to my surprise the dad said its whatever you mom wants that’s the final. Imagine that. My fiancé told me his mom is not on a good terms with her husband’s family mainly because she’s always calling the shorts and its whatever she says that stands. So on this issue, the dad does not have anything to say because of his mom.

To be honest, regardless of what the Pastors are saying I still want this woman....but the main issue at hand now is her changing the rules behind the engagement which is beyond my control as the elders in my family are not very pleased, they are saying that is not how engagement is done culturally and traditionally. Bearing in mind, this same woman had once mentioned to my fiancé that the engagement is normally done in the groom’s compound, I was like what on earth?

I knw Pastors are involved, but right before they were involved, my fiance has had so many dreams about his mom that worries him alot. So the Pastor's input is just a plus thing...

Thank you cotton101

Thanks Odunnu, my fiance attends Redeem and so am I.

Thank you all for your input