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Some wives fall in love with their partner's money instead of their partner,some also get married cos their friends are married forgetting that marriage is an addendum not fulfillment,I think we all need to discover ourselves first before getting married,know your temperament traits,love language and all

This man is confused

ken711:
I have been dating a girl for about 18 months now. Very pretty but my brothers, let me tell you... Look before you leap when it comes to pretty girls.

From the minute I met this girl it has been one money request after another. If it was small sums I guess I wouldn't really mind, as I have always worked for blue chip companies and can afford it. The thing is, her requests are always very big!.....20k this, 20K that.....but my brothers, I have to tell you the one that has made me even disappointed in myself.

She lives with her parents and they are the most dysfunctional family I have ever heard of... Everyday one person is fighting the other, and this my girlfriend, as fine as she is, is the most arrogant, prideful, violent & rude person I have ever met. She hounded me everyday that I must get her an apartment of her own, so she can escape her home, and I agreed to but by saving monthly.

Would you believe, one night, when she was working at a bar as an usher for guinness, she gave her number to 2 different men just because of this apartment. My spirit kept telling me that she gave her number out, but she kept lying...only for me to catch her texting one of the men when we were at church of all places.......

She even went as far as going to meet this rich man at a hotel, but the man ran away when she made that request, and I as a fool decided to finally do it for her. (I suspect she cheated on me that night and I always tell it to her face because she has cheated on me twice before)

I live on the Island and tried to get her to rent here as well, as I really want to keep an eye on her..... She has too many guys around her who live in that area and she is this kind of person who cheats out of revenge, even over small things.....this girl refused and threatened to break things off!....bro, as a mumu I sent the money to her to rent the place and for other things, about 400K.....

Ever since that money left my account, it's like my eyes cleared!!! I couldn't believe that instead of saving my hard earned money, I went and sent it to a girl that has cheated on me twice (or even more), lied to me, slapped me and done so many things.....but I just decided to leave everything for God, seeing as she was desperate.

The problem now is that the demands for that apartment is now becoming too much!!! The expenses just to get the place finished are such a burden on my financial and mental state...

The worst happened about two days ago, she wanted me to pay 20k. Infact I just got so tired of bills that I kinda was stalling on it, but what happened next truly shocked me. Would you believe this girl started punching me, slapping me and even tore my shirt cos of 20k. She even threatened to break my office laptop (working from home) until I sent the money, after that she left........

Now she is trying to apologize so that I will pay for bed and gas and the remaining things....my brothers, I know u will say am a fool!...I accept...I am a handsome guy, studied abroad, I just don't know why loneliness made me fall in love with such a sadistic user... My only problem is, do I pay for the bed and just finish what I started or just free the whole thing and the nearly 500K I have already spent...

Please help!

LEAVE HER ALONE,WHY SPENDING ON SOMEONE THAT DOESN'T GIVE YOU REST OF MIND,WHAT'S YOUR GAIN?

The essence of a relationship is marriage,don't go into any relationship if you ain't ready for marriage but poster she didn't force you to spend on her nah,it was your choice,you started what you cannot finish but some girls dey Bleep up sha,guys are confused too

Guys thanks for sharing,I just searched on Google for the lyrics and I got this,thanks

iamloyalty:
She is not God so she doesn't know everything in this life.

I'm sure you understood what I meant

Our parents are always right in their own opinion,especially my mom,she knows everything in this life,so I just go with the flow,if she says anything "Okay" is my everyday response,I don't stress myself for explanation, I already know what is right in my head

Not all of us o,some of us doesn't care.....

She was so desperate to get married,OP how come you just discovered these things after marriage?I'm sure you saw the signs but ignored, anyway do what makes you happy, for the sake of your sanity and happiness,it's better you divorce

ProfDview1:
There is this lady I like so much, even my friends know that I like her so much and will love to spend the rest of my life with her.

One day, I saw her with my friend and I later asked her why she is so close to my friend. She said they are dating each other, that she cannot marry me simply because I am tailor.

My friend is a yahoo boy, he doesn't have any work. The only way he eats is via internet scam. To be honest I was so pained, moreover she is not the only lady to have done this to me. Have met several ladies that told me that they can't marry a tailor and they end up dating yahoo Boys for my street.

They always tell me to leave my tailoring job and go hustle like my frnds to make cool money.

Guys, I am tired.. Should I leave the tailoring job and join my friends to do the yahoo stuff?

Girls keep rejecting me up and down and I am fed up.

Pls advise me

Obviously you have a low self esteem,you're yet to discover yourself,cos girls keep rejecting you,you want to leave your fashion designing job,wawu,boboyi owa okay,if yomi casual abandoned his fashion designing that year,he wouldn't have been where he is today,tell me, do you want to live for girlsbetter face your work

Olatara:
He was cheating on me, so I asked for break up, he said ok. Only for him to call me that he wants us to be friends, I said ok.
Then we started having sex again. The relationship started all over again, with cheating, lets be friends, sex.
Until it gets to the fourth time. I was so mad at myself.
The last time I did, I told him to move on that I need to be in a serious relationship, then I blocked him.
That decision was cool, but I am still mad at myself that I allowed him to use me.

Boo you need to forgive yourself,I understand how you feel tho but shit happens

bigcee:
Lol The guy is immature.

Very immature goat o�

Virus99:
For real I am rolling on the ground laughing
How old is he pls

He was 27 then

Lol thought he was sorry for real,he invited me over to a restaurant, so as to apologize, he was checking my phone for recent pictures,baba codedly stood up to receive a call,went with my phone and never looked back lol,he called almost all my contacts asking them for money.....The guy na bastard

Why is she deleting their convos thoOP try to catch her red handed before asking questions but to avoid been hurt,don't check her phone anymore

OP almost all families has challenges,you should thank God they told you the truth,some ladies hide theirs,choose the one you're happy with and pray.....then you're good to go

Samueltemi337:
I have been short of blood for over 10 years?

See a doc then

I think you're short of blood....get HB12 forte

OP thanks for sharing your story,so touching and inspiring,I like the fact that you avoided mr Greg and ijebu guy

Please follow your heart, your happiness matters,do what makes you happy,let your parents know the reasons why you want her and let them know ,they can always visit you

Nigerians sha.....we no dey hear word,may God help us