Oyind17:
I went to my elder brother's house for a visit and I lost my peace due to what I saw there.
I didn't call him on phone before going, I knocked and their first son opened the gate for me, when I entered they were eating.

Shymm3x:

i). How come Nigerian men tend to be happier in relationships with other black women compared to Nigerian women?
ii). Why are Nigerian men always eager to date/marry black women of other nationalities, in lieu of Nigerian women – whereas black men of other nationalities seldom date/marry Nigerian women?

Mindfulness:



A cultural or religious revolution needs no money but even here we cherish a culture and mentality which developed nations left behind decades ago.

Do you know that it was a religious revolution, the Protestant Reformation, that changed whole nations including their economies?
It was initiated by people who dared to think differently and in the midst of poverty.

babygirlfl:
The article was massively generalised. I believe a large number of African men would treat a foreign wife better than they would treat an African wife. However, there are African men who treat their African wives well and like a queen. The African man and African wife both share a fault in the difference in the way the African woman is treated.

Mindfulness:


Poverty should drive people instead of stopping them. Religion is definitely a problem or shall I rather say what people make out of it.

Thanks for the answers. I won't dig deeper into it as we would derail too much and simple answers wouldn't do this topic proper justice.

TooNoisy:
Why do you think Nigerian women are not exactly appealing to white men and men of other nationalities. If indeed Nigerian women possess all these great and wonderful qualities which should make them endearing to men of any colour or nationality. The question is why?

More Nigerian men would prefer Becky to Adesua and the average white guy wouldn't even think of Adesua. Well may be Adesua should examine herself and stop believing that she is the best thing God created. She believes she is way better than Becky but the rest of the world disagrees with her.

Truth is that she should stop her self deceit. The first thing the Nigerian women needs to know is that most men today do not want a stay at home wife. I did not say all, but I will say at least 75% of Nigerian men do not want a stay at home wife. This basically means get a job and be relevant to your society. More men want women who are intellectually presentable. I am not talking about women who understand quantum physics, but women who can at least solve basic problems in the house on their own without waiting for the man for everything. And women who can discuss something more than African Magic and Telemundo.

Most Nigerian men seek self advancement even after marriage, but you see our women pad-locking their brains once they are married and start giving birth. Nigerian men can hand over control to a white woman or a Nigerian woman that shows ability to handle that control. But if you don't even know anything about anything, what do you want to control.

Mindfulness:


True but I still don't understand why Africans can never be innovative. The progress that takes place in Africa is always the result of the imitation of the Western world but never anything original. And even the imitation is always delayed.

Shymm3x:


Regardless, this type of topic is just boring. Folks need to start taking responsibilities for their own actions and whatever reaction they get – and stop moaning. Once you learn how to give out the right energy, you’ll start getting the same energy back in return. If Nigerian men are putting foreign women on a pedestal, it shows foreign women have things Nigerian women fundamentally lack. And perhaps it’s high time they started looking in the mirror and making amends to whatever reflection they see.

Mindfulness:


So were white women in the past. Why have they changed? Why have Nigerian women not?

You just need to watch some of the advertisements from the 50s and you will see what gender roles were prevailing at this time. Here is an example of a wife who is supposed to please her husband.

This is true but we should not make it look like Nigerian women have no options. Nigerian families educated their daughters and thus empower them by giving them the opportunity to be independent.

CabbieAC:



Pheeew! Madam this topic again?

It happened only in Ondo.Ezes are everywhere in Yorubaland not just Lagos and Ondo

I guess its just part of their culture.

This is the first time we're experiencing the Eze issue in Yorubaland so I believe they've always been respectful

As per the emboldened,It has always been like that right from time.I mean this is Nigeria,there are no rules.

Speaking of Obas taking bribe and what not, I don't know but I really doubt it

CabbieAC:
[size=16pt]Igbos having ‘Eze, Igwe, Obi’ in Yorubaland is an affront – Ondo Obas[/size]

Zuris:


Who is the ignorant person here?
So you were there when she told the parent she wasn't interested and they forced her?

What she did was wrong. How long is two weeks that she couldn't wait for her madam to come back and table her grievances.

What if the neighbours she dropped the child with were paedophiles or ritualists?
You keep going on as if that 2 weeks pay is much more important than the life of the boy she was given take care of.

Meanwhile, your uncouth words shows the kind of person you are. Am not surprised.

Eketem:


Send your own 11 year old daughter to be a househelp then come back and tell us if your daughter was a " good one" to somebody.

An 11 year old child has no business being a househelp, she is a developing child who needs to learn and play not be saddled with your kids. Gosh, what is wrong with us? Stop this please. Hire a professional or get a creche, stop being penny wise and pound foolish not to talk of illegal, an 11 year old can barely take care of herself. If you are afraid of your husbands fidelity with an older girl then deal with your husband not make a child your maid abeg.

Zuris:


Was she forced into child labour? If the arrangements did not favour her, why did she agree to it?
Is it not better for her to stay with her poverty stricken family than to turn herself to a thief?

The problem with people like you and the omo odo thief is you want immediate gratification.
Can she quantify the opportunity she was given to be able to educate herself and become a better person in the future?
I hope she will eat the meat and drink the juice forever as that seems to be the solution to her problems.

Zuris:


All what you wrote is jargons.
If the school fees is free, is the books and uniform and Sundry items free?

Why didn't she wait for her madam to come back and make a request for her salary for the two months instead of stealing and running away.

If she's being referred to as an omo-odo, is that not what it is? Why is there no dignity in Labour in this country? Everybody wants to be an oga.

If her future matters so much to her, she will endure the omo odo stuff. Afterall, is it not only for two weeks?

Rukemi291:

Shollypopz.... I doubt you read well/understood the post.

You speak of chores..... I have a washing machine... so washing plates is a chore? Picking up my boy from school with transportation fully paid for... is a chore? They are things I do myself before she came.

mind you, she hawks for her mum where they stay.

From ur post I can see you don't have a child yet if at all you are working... When you have all combined like it is for me, I will task you to come back and read your post and judge yourself.

Did you even read the part that her academic year would start counting from January? She was in JS2 with very poor results and her mum said she should repeat JS1 so that she would improve. I assure u, we had both started learning together too.

You speak of tuition fee obviously u didn't read d post. Did u see that I just registered her? U won't pay for registration? uniforms and all? I paid.

You are the type that gets a teacher on one topic for weeks.

fr3do:
Stop this slavery!
Employ an adult part time to do chores for you.

MayorofLagos:


Symbolism my dear...symbolism is a protocol of communication in society. I agree with you, Eze, to the extent that in some neighbourhood in Lagos we even have two or three, have been abused. On meaning....Iyaloja is the only acceptable leadership of a market in Yorubaland.

Shymm3x:


You're late.

Gregory was installed as the Eze Igbo of Ondo and cos of his title, he challenged the orders of the King of Akure and installed an Igbo as leader of the market over there.

One thing led to the other and gregory was flogged mercilessly by Ondo youths.

That was what Mayor was alluding to in his parable.

Gregory getting his arse whooped:

MayorofLagos:


Isn that same shyyt that got Gregory invited for @ss whooping in Akure Gregor installed a leader against the IYALOJA institutiin and so Deji summoned him for explanation....where he got flogged!

Eleko is behind Iyaloja of Lagos. Dont worry, we will summon Eze of Alaba to meet Eleko at the waterfront.

Shymm3x:


Hmmmm.....

Try this then:

https:// youtu.be/OrXB31Znxpk

MayorofLagos:




If we take Lagos and donate it to Ibo, in 6yrs there will be no trace of Ibo language left in alaibo....Yoruba Yoruba would be their linguafranca from Nsukka sector down to Aba. You are joking with our relevance to the Oduduwa dynasty.

Shymm3x:
Sh0llypopz

My Ekiti e-frenemy, now that you're back - I need to dedicate one of favourite tunes to you.

Jaheim - Put That Woman First

IlekeHD:


Sh0llypopz, this is MOL..... our oldest elder on nl

IlekeHD:


He's alive and he is still my "brother". He's busy, I guess.

Wanna holla @ my bro? Just lemme know and I'll set the date