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Please I got some concerns as regards my tier4 dependant application documents (spouse)

My hubby currently lives with his friend in Scotland, UK and also has another accommodation in a priest big house in St Andrews which is far from school. But he prefers to stay in his friend place which is close to school but my concern is submitting where he lives since its not his own direct accommodation..

A friend told me it's not necessary submitting where he stays as that worked for her

Please house, I need your guidance on this
@justwise @lexusgs430 @all experienced persons

imnotconfused:
@shawtykel

I empathize with your situation,no parent wants to leave a very young baby to go and hustle.

It must be very difficult and I'm sure you will make the best decision with the baby's future and that of your family in mind.

I started work when my baby was 4 months old,it was hard!! Family came in to help as much as they could at the time.I'm sure many people would have sneered at me at the time and called me irresponsible.

I still feel guilt sometimes but it has been for the best,to provide stability, emotional, mental, and a decent lifestyle as well.


No one really knows what a child will turn out to be,you can only do what you can.


You are the one in that situation,think clearly and strategically then do what you believe is best!!


I wish you all the best ,I assure you that things will definitely get better with time.

Thanks a lot sis.. God Bless you

Good morning everyone and happy mother's day to every mum out here doing great things.

Please I got some concerns as regards my tier4 dependant application documents (spouse)

My hubby currently lives with his friend in Scotland, UK and also has another accommodation in a priest big house should in case he wants to stay there but my concern is submitting where he lives since its not his own direct accommodation..
A friend told me it's not necessary submitting where he stays as that worked for her

Please house, I need your practical contributions here

marylandcakes:
I understand where you are coming from, but your statements come more from your heart and more from an emotional point of view. Sometimes we have to strip out the emotions and make practical decisions based on the reality of the situations.

I don’t know much about rules of visa applications that’s why I don’t contribute much to it, but this lady says that money is a limiting factor at the present time now, she has to join her husband to help and then bring her baby later. Some people on this thread have already advised that there will be no problem in bringing her baby later. I’m sure this lady, as a mother already feels bad enough, you don’t have to make her feel worst than she already feels. In her mind this is the sacrifice that she has got to make now for a better future for that baby. In years to come when she tells her child the story of her sacrifice, that child will thank her, adore her and look up to her. Cos like most people have said on this thread it’s a heartbreaking decision for any parent to make.

This really touched me and got me in tears � �
God bless you plenty @marylandcakes

RalphJean:
My son was born December 2014
I came to the UK on a T4 Visa in November 2016.
My wife joined me in June 2017 (left the 3year old son with grandma).
Wife got a job an we saved enough to have the maintenance money for a dependant.
Applied for Son in January 2018.

Summary:
Me, wife, son have been here. We are gathering money now to apply for daughter (aged 10).

At no point did anyone ever ask why we were leaving the children.


But ...wait a minute. Did I read that your hubby’s T4 Visa is for only 1 year?

Wow!! Thanks a lot for this..
I'll pm you should I need more info concerning this

justwise:
That is heartless and irresponsible

Sir @justwise you wouldn't understand the situation until you find yourself in one..
People don't just wake up to such decisions.. Trust me it's really a hard one but then knowing this hustle is been done for them for a better future and passport, would make you consider the latter.
Thanks a lot

Heritagee:
I don't think you need to explain why you are not applying with the kids. I know of someone who left a 2-month old baby to join her husband. The baby joined them when he was 6 months

Wow!! 2 months and I'm already feeling guilty leaving my 4 and 2 years old behind.. Well, as long as the child is in safe hands and better care, it shouldn't be a problem.. Like a lot of people said here, circumstances are different and one wouldn't know how difficult it was for her to make such a decision..
In the end, it paid off as all family are residents in US.. Thank God for her.
Thanks a lot @Heritagee

LagosismyHome:
I looked at the official document and it doesn't state that spouse dependant must apply with children. It states dependant can apply together or separately

If your kids are in goods hands i think you can go ahead and submit your application. Just ensure you meet all the requirements

@LagosismyHome, thanks a lot for this

Shawtykel:
Happy Valentine to this wonderful family..

Please I have an issue that's bothering me and I'll need an advice whether to go ahead or not.
My husband is in UK on a tier 4 visa, we have three kids. He wants me to come over asap to support him since I'll be working full time as his is limited.

The issue now is we don't have the finances to apply for me and my three kids together..
Can I apply alone and come back to pick my kids after we've been able to save up hopefully in three months?
Are there implications to this of not taking my kids @ the moment?
What possible best reasons do I have to give for not taking my kids along? (my mum lives us so they're used to her and mother in law is also ready to join her)
Any case like mine ever? Just wondering

P.S my kids are 4years and 2years old twins
@Justwise @fatima04 and everyone who can help
Thank you all

Please I really need to know if there are implications to this of not taking my kids @ the moment?
What possible best reasons do I have to give for not taking my kids along?
Any case like mine ever?

Like I previously said hubby is on tier 4 visa for one year and I really need to hustle to support him while hoping he gets a switch to tier 2 before his one year elapses or I get tier 2 while in UK then come for our kids.
Thanks a lot

justwise:
Then I think you should wait a it, getting a job now is hard and the brexit is not helping at all. Things may start looking up job wise from April up and he will be able to work and save up for application.

I don't think that leaving those young kids behind is a good idea.

P.S Hubby tier 4 visa is for one year plus 4 extra months.

Yes I know leaving them behind is not a good idea but then the funds for four of us at the same time is not available and hubby is yet to get a job.
Coming with them now will may not let me work as much as I want considering the fact that child care is very expensive over there.

In Nigeria, they're in safe hands, my mom is 45yrs old plus my sisters and Mother in law are ready to double the help.
I really need to know the implications of applying alone without them? If it's a red flag?
@Justwise, yes April is better for me to come in

justwise:
When did your husband traveled to the UK? Last Sept?

He traveled this year January and before I put in the application, it would be late march as I'm yet to put the 28days maintenance funds in a single account

Happy Valentine to this wonderful family..

Please I have an issue that's bothering me and I'll need an advice whether to go ahead or not.
My husband is in UK on a tier 4 visa, we have three kids. He wants me to come over asap to support him since I'll be working full time as his is limited.

The issue now is we don't have the finances to apply for me and my three kids together..
Can I apply alone and come back to pick my kids after we've been able to save up hopefully in three months?
Are there implications to this of not taking my kids @ the moment?
What possible best reasons do I have to give for not taking my kids along? (my mum lives us so they're used to her and mother in law is also ready to join her)
Any case like mine ever? Just wondering

P.S my kids are 4years and 2years old twins
@Justwise @fatima04 and everyone who can help
Thank you all

Happy Valentine to this wonderful family..

Please I have an issue that's bothering me and I'll need an advice whether to go ahead or not.
My husband is in UK on a tier 4 visa, we have three kids. He wants me to come over asap to support him since I'll be working full time as his is limited.

The issue now is we don't have the finances to apply for me and my three kids together..
Can I apply alone and come back to pick my kids after we've been able to save up hopefully in three months?
Are there implications to this of not taking my kids @ the moment?
What possible best reasons do I have to give for not taking my kids along? (my mum lives us so they're used to her and mother in law is also ready to join her)
Any case like mine ever? Just wondering

P.S my kids are 4years and 2years old twins
@Justwise @Zoey and everyone who can help
Thank you