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this man needs to be in prison

MissOpe:
You cannot hate other women and love your mother...
It only makes you an hypocrite mm

i do

### The Real Lesson Isn't About Skills—It's About Standards

This may be unpopular, but I think the original article misses an important point.

The problem is not that a woman earns less money than a man.

The problem is when a man chooses a partner based on pity, rescue fantasies, or the belief that he can "fix" someone's life.

Too many men are taught that being a good man means taking responsibility for an adult who has not taken responsibility for herself. They see a woman struggling and immediately feel obligated to become her provider, mentor, sponsor, and life coach.

That is not marriage.

That is adoption.

A relationship should be a partnership between two adults who have both invested in themselves.

It is interesting that society often tells men to "build together" with women who have little to offer financially, professionally, or personally. Yet very few people would advise a successful woman to marry a man with no ambition, no skills, no career direction, and no plan for his future.

Women are generally encouraged to marry across or above their socioeconomic level. Men are encouraged to ignore these considerations and focus on being providers.

That double standard deserves discussion.

The question is not whether a woman currently makes less money than a man. Many successful marriages involve one spouse earning more than the other.

The real question is: **What has this person done with the opportunities available to them?**

Do they have discipline?

Do they take responsibility for their choices?

Do they continuously improve themselves?

Do they bring value beyond their appearance and emotions?

If someone has spent years making poor decisions and has shown little effort to develop themselves, it is reasonable to question whether they are truly prepared for a serious partnership.

Love alone cannot compensate for a lack of character, discipline, ambition, or accountability.

Men should stop feeling guilty for having standards.

A man is not obligated to become a rehabilitation project for another adult.

He is not obligated to sacrifice his future because someone else failed to prepare for theirs.

Marriage works best when both people come together as complete individuals who are already moving forward in life—not when one person is expected to carry the entire weight of the relationship.

The goal should not be to marry "below" or "above" your status.

The goal should be to marry someone whose mindset, values, work ethic, and contribution match your own.

That is a stronger foundation than love, money, or sympathy alone.

The Real Lesson Isn't About Skills—It's About Standards
This may be unpopular, but I think the original article misses an important point.
The problem is not that a woman earns less money than a man.
The problem is when a man chooses a partner based on pity, rescue fantasies, or the belief that he can "fix" someone's life.
Too many men are taught that being a good man means taking responsibility for an adult who has not taken responsibility for herself. They see a woman struggling and immediately feel obligated to become her provider, mentor, sponsor, and life coach.
That is not marriage.
That is adoption.
A relationship should be a partnership between two adults who have both invested in themselves.
It is interesting that society often tells men to "build together" with women who have little to offer financially, professionally, or personally. Yet very few people would advise a successful woman to marry a man with no ambition, no skills, no career direction, and no plan for his future.
Women are generally encouraged to marry across or above their socioeconomic level. Men are encouraged to ignore these considerations and focus on being providers.
That double standard deserves discussion.
The question is not whether a woman currently makes less money than a man. Many successful marriages involve one spouse earning more than the other.
The real question is: What has this person done with the opportunities available to them?
Do they have discipline?
Do they take responsibility for their choices?
Do they continuously improve themselves?
Do they bring value beyond their appearance and emotions?
If someone has spent years making poor decisions and has shown little effort to develop themselves, it is reasonable to question whether they are truly prepared for a serious partnership.
Love alone cannot compensate for a lack of character, discipline, ambition, or accountability.
Men should stop feeling guilty for having standards.
A man is not obligated to become a rehabilitation project for another adult.
He is not obligated to sacrifice his future because someone else failed to prepare for theirs.
Marriage works best when both people come together as complete individuals who are already moving forward in life—not when one person is expected to carry the entire weight of the relationship.
The goal should not be to marry "below" or "above" your status.
The goal should be to marry someone whose mindset, values, work ethic, and contribution match your own.
That is a stronger foundation than love, money, or sympathy alone.

okosodo:
Americans do not know what they are doing leaving a muslim as a mayor. America will be destroyed by islam

> I disagree with the claim that America will be "destroyed by Islam" because it is based on assumptions about a religion rather than the actions of individuals. In a democracy, leaders are elected based on their qualifications, policies, and ability to serve the public, not solely because of their religious affiliation.
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> If we are looking at America's challenges, many of the country's most serious social problems were not caused by Islam. The United States has struggled with issues such as gun violence, drug abuse, opioid addiction, mass incarceration, obesity, political polarization, and high levels of consumer debt. These problems developed largely within American society and culture, not because of Muslim influence.
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> It is also worth noting that Muslims have lived in the United States for generations and have served as doctors, teachers, police officers, military personnel, business owners, and elected officials. The success or failure of a mayor should be judged by their performance in office, not by their religion.
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> History shows that societies are strengthened when people are judged on their character, competence, and actions rather than stereotypes about their faith, race, or background. If a mayor does a poor job, they should be criticized for their decisions and results. If they do a good job, they should be recognized for it. Religion alone is not a reliable measure of whether someone will be an effective leader.
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> Ultimately, America's future will be shaped by how well it addresses its real challenges—crime, education, healthcare, the economy, and social cohesion—not by the religion of any single elected official.

I find it deeply concerning that a secondary school would discipline students by shaving an "X" shape into their hair. Such a practice can be humiliating and may have a negative impact on a child's self-esteem. While schools have a responsibility to enforce discipline and maintain standards, disciplinary measures should be reasonable, respectful, and focused on correcting behaviour rather than embarrassing students.
In my view, there are many more appropriate ways to address misconduct, such as counselling, detention, community service within the school, parental involvement, or other educational sanctions. Publicly marking students with unusual hairstyles risks causing unnecessary distress and ridicule from their peers.
Parents have a right to question the school's actions and seek clarification on the disciplinary policies that permitted such treatment. If they believe the school acted improperly or violated students' rights, they may wish to pursue the matter through formal complaints procedures and, where appropriate, obtain legal advice regarding their options.
Schools should aim to discipline students in a manner that preserves their dignity and promotes positive behavioural change, rather than using measures that could be perceived as degrading or humiliating. students do have legal rights, although schools also have authority to enforce discipline.
Some of the key rights that may be relevant are:


Right to dignity and respect – The Nigerian Constitution guarantees the right to the dignity of the human person, and the Child Rights Act also recognizes a child's right to dignity. Disciplinary measures that humiliate, degrade, or publicly shame students could potentially be challenged on this basis. [nigeriarights.gov.ng], [nigeriarights.gov.ng]


Protection from abuse and harmful treatment – The Child Rights Act seeks to protect children from physical and psychological abuse, exploitation, and other harmful practices. [nigeriarights.gov.ng], [awjai.org]


Right to education – Students have a right to receive education in a safe environment. Schools are expected to maintain discipline while respecting students' welfare and rights. [nigeriarights.gov.ng], [awjai.org]


Freedom from discrimination – Children are entitled to protection from discrimination and unfair treatment. [nigeriarights.gov.ng], [nigeriarights.gov.ng]


Regarding the specific issue of shaving an "X" into students' hair, whether it is illegal would depend on the circumstances, the school's rules, parental consent, and whether a court or regulatory body considers the action degrading or abusive. Merely being a military-style school does not automatically give it unlimited authority over students' appearance. [nigeriarights.gov.ng], [nigeriarights.gov.ng]
Parents who are concerned could:

Request an explanation from the school.
Review the school's disciplinary policy.
Submit a formal complaint to the school authorities.
Escalate the matter to the State Ministry of Education or relevant education board.
Seek independent legal advice if they believe their child's rights were violated.

From a personal perspective, many people would argue that marking a child with a distinctive hairstyle as punishment is unnecessarily humiliating and that more constructive disciplinary measures could achieve the same objective without causing embarrassment. Whether it amounts to a legal violation, however, would ultimately depend on the specific facts and applicable law.

Lovelink1991:
The man was so pain by the wife's betrayal. A whole 5 times they have been doking each other

Multiply that 5 by 3 = 15times

dominique:
The women's team will also share their prize money with the men's team so what's the fuss?

Oh you mean the 2M they get paid...

Stop undervaluing yourself by constantly seeking someone else's attention or validation. In many cases, excessive calling or texting can create an imbalance, making it seem as though you are pursuing the relationship far more than the other person. Healthy relationships involve mutual effort and interest.
Pay attention to actions rather than hopes. If someone genuinely values and cares about you, they will usually make consistent efforts to communicate and stay connected. If you find yourself doing all the work while receiving minimal effort in return, it is worth considering where you truly stand in that person's priorities.
Be honest with yourself about any warning signs you see. Entering a long-term commitment while ignoring clear concerns can lead to disappointment later. While no one can tell you whether to marry someone or not, it is important to evaluate the relationship based on reality, not on the expectation that things will automatically change.
Most importantly, never beg for love, affection, or commitment. A strong relationship is built on mutual respect, genuine interest, and equal investment from both people. Know your worth and choose someone who is equally excited about building a future with you.

This is what I see

One-sided effort in communication and maintaining the relationship.
Lack of strong interest or enthusiasm from her.
Delayed or inconsistent responses.
Not being treated as a priority.
Possibility of being a backup option rather than her first choice.
Ignoring warning signs and hoping things will change after marriage.
Chasing affection, validation, or commitment.
Unequal emotional investment in the relationship.

why are they covering her identity, lets see her. Women are generally evil......all of them are.

LeopardX:
I believe that husbands whose wives abuse domestic helps should also be arrested and investigated.
Too often, we hear terrible stories of children and domestic workers being tortured inside homes. Recently, reports emerged of a woman who allegedly poured hot water and candle wax on a young child in her care. Such cruelty and evil act does not usually happen in one minute or in complete secrecy. Someone in the house often sees the signs, hears the cries, or notices the injuries.

A husband should not be allowed to simply say, "I didn't know." If a child is being abused repeatedly in a home, every responsible adult in that home should answer questions from the police. If investigations show that the husband knew about the abuse, ignored it, encouraged it, or failed to report it, then he should face the law alongside his wife.

Children and domestic helps are human beings, for crying out loud. A home should be a place of safety, not a place of fear and torture. Holding all responsible adults accountable will help discourage abuse and protect vulnerable people.
Silence can sometimes be as dangerous as the abuse itself.

And since this issue is common place in our society today, there should be a law holding husbands of these women equally responsible for these crimes against children and domestic help.

What do you guys think?

I understand the concern about protecting domestic workers and children, but the idea that husbands should automatically be arrested is a bit extreme and unfair.
Accountability should always be based on individual responsibility and evidence, not assumption. Just because someone lives in the same house doesn’t mean they are aware of everything happening, especially in situations where abuse may be hidden or deliberately concealed.
If a husband knew about the abuse, ignored it, or enabled it, then absolutely—he should be investigated and held accountable. But to suggest that he should be arrested simply because of his relationship to the abuser undermines basic principles of fairness and justice.
You can’t replace due process with blanket blame. Otherwise, you risk punishing innocent people based on association rather than facts.
Also, this shouldn’t be framed in a one-sided way. Responsibility in a household applies to any adult, regardless of gender. If the roles were reversed, the same logic should apply—anyone who is aware of abuse and fails to act should be accountable.
Protecting vulnerable people is critical, but it has to be done in a way that is fair, evidence-based, and balanced, not driven by assumptions.

she is an idiot.... you should not hit anyone. instead of saying the man should not hit you, why not control yourself first.

I get the idea of privacy, but this mindset is exactly why a lot of modern marriages struggle. You can’t build a real partnership without some level of transparency—especially around finances.
It’s not about control, it’s about trust, planning, and being on the same page. Wanting complete secrecy just comes across as self-serving rather than building something together.
Marriage isn’t two individuals living separate financial lives—it’s supposed to be a team.

Checkwell:
Why would he think someone wil cry for him? Of all the problems the country is facing right now? He should just keep dreaming.

Of all the issues the country is currently facing, one might question the priority. That said, at least he is taking action rather than just talking. It’s easy to criticise, but much harder to step forward and try to make a difference.
While I may not necessarily agree with everything Sowore stands for, credit should be given where it is due—he is doing something that many others are unwilling to do.

They always lie once they are not chosen...the left overs

All na to bribe bribe...APC

Bastards ----- Group of useless fools

Women...small sense like this..they don't have.

If I see this guy, I will personally beat him up myself. What a low life

They know they have more to loose...

That is viagra. nothing wrong with that. I dey use am too.

I hear what you’re saying, but I don’t fully agree with that take. Every long-term marriage goes through tough patches—yours included—and the fact you’ve stayed together for 17 years shows that working through issues is actually possible.
I don’t think divorce is something to celebrate like that. Sometimes it’s necessary, of course, but a lot of relationships go through difficult seasons and come out stronger on the other side. Not every hard moment means people aren’t “breathing” in the marriage—it can just be part of the journey.
At the end of the day, it’s about growth, patience, and effort—not just walking away when things get tough.

We know he is one of the problems of Nigeria

legendarystar:
No truer words has been spoken

sex? Married men have the least sex....... the wives don't give them nothing.. thats why most cheat.

AntiChristian:
Most women get married when they see something that makes them happy in a man!

What do men enjoy in marriage?

Most women marry for convenience

okomile:
Ask your mother

Leave the man alone
I don't believe this story sha

What's d reason for the DNA

Why should the man be left alone?

Why cover their faces?

adenigga:
Source: https://www.vanguardngr.com/2026/05/power-sector-biggest-scam-in-nigeria-ajaero-nlc-president

Despite decades of reforms, significant public investment, and the privatisation of the power sector, millions of Nigerians continue to experience unreliable electricity supply, rising tariffs, and deteriorating infrastructure. For many households and businesses, access to stable power remains more of a hope than a reality.
More than ten years after the unbundling of the Power Holding Company of Nigeria (PHCN), expectations of improved efficiency and increased generation capacity have largely not been met. Instead, the sector continues to struggle with structural inefficiencies across generation, transmission, and distribution—each segment constrained by the weaknesses of the others.
At the core of the issue is a lack of coordinated planning. Power generation has not significantly expanded to meet growing demand, while transmission and distribution systems remain inconsistent and often unable to handle available supply. The result is a cycle of underperformance that affects economic growth, investment, and overall quality of life.
Concerns have also been raised about the effectiveness of the privatisation process. Critics argue that rather than attracting strong technical expertise and long-term investment, the sector has suffered from inadequate capacity, financial instability, and a focus on short-term returns. In some cases, companies lack the resources required to maintain or expand infrastructure, leading to persistent service failures.
At the same time, Nigerians continue to face increasing electricity tariffs, often without a corresponding improvement in service delivery. The introduction of banding systems has further deepened concerns about fairness and accessibility, with many communities receiving limited supply despite higher costs.
There is also growing public frustration over the perceived lack of transparency and accountability in the sector. Questions continue to be raised about how funds are allocated, the effectiveness of regulatory oversight, and whether current policies truly prioritise the needs of citizens.
What is clear is that meaningful reform is urgently needed. Addressing the challenges in Nigeria’s power sector will require:

A clear and long-term national energy strategy
Investment in new and diversified generation sources
Strengthening of transmission and distribution infrastructure
Greater transparency in funding and decision-making
Stronger regulatory enforcement and accountability

Improving the power sector is not just a technical necessity—it is central to economic development, job creation, and the well-being of millions of Nigerians. Without reliable electricity, businesses struggle, innovation is stifled, and everyday life becomes significantly more difficult.
The time has come for stakeholders—government, private operators, and regulators—to move beyond excuses and deliver practical, measurable results. Nigerians deserve a power system that works, and achieving that goal must be treated as a national priority.

Playing with another mans wife can result in bad consequences...you have been warned. Men no dey joke that kind joke and he knows it. He is no longer safe.

There is a need for stronger measures to address cases of paternity misrepresentation and related forms of fraud, ensuring fairness and transparency for all parties involved. One potential approach would be the introduction of mandatory DNA testing at birth, which could help reduce instances of disputed parentage and provide clarity from the outset.

There is a growing trend in parts of modern society where divorce is increasingly normalised and, in some cases, even celebrated. While it is important to acknowledge that some marriages do genuinely need to end for serious reasons, presenting divorce as something to be embraced or encouraged without careful thought is deeply concerning.
Marriage is a serious commitment, and its breakdown often carries long-term consequences—not just for the couple, but especially for children. Evidence and lived experience consistently show that children are the most affected, facing emotional, psychological, and sometimes economic challenges when family structures collapse. Treating such a serious matter lightly risks overlooking the lasting impact on the next generation.
Equally troubling is the culture where individuals may be encouraged to walk away from relationships without prioritising reconciliation, communication, or professional support. Strong support systems should ideally promote stability, responsibility, and thoughtful decision-making, rather than reinforcing decisions that may have far-reaching consequences.
For societies like Nigeria, it is essential to carefully reflect on which cultural influences are adopted. Not every trend observed elsewhere aligns with the values, structure, or long-term well-being of local communities. Preserving strong family foundations should remain a priority, as they are central to societal stability.
There is a need for greater awareness, guidance, and support for couples facing challenges—focusing on conflict resolution, counselling, and shared responsibility. Governments, community leaders, and families must take proactive steps to strengthen the institution of marriage and prioritise the wellbeing of children.
If this issue is not addressed with urgency and balance, there is a real risk of long-term social consequences that could be difficult to reverse. The goal should not be to stigmatise divorce where it is necessary, but to ensure that it is not treated as a casual or celebrated outcome where it might have been avoidable.

very bad this is happening again