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My daughter recently went over her boyfriend’s house last Saturday night to hang out like she has done in the past. I fell asleep and realized she wasn’t home and it was past her curfew. I looked on my phone and found messages from her saying she is sleeping over her girlfriend’s house. I am a bit upset over the fact she didn’t ask permission and I know she is lying!

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I asked her why she didn’t ask me prior to now and she said she fell asleep. More lies. I decided I would let her stay over her “girlfriend’s” house knowing very well she is probably at her boyfriend’s. I knew arguing at this time of night wasn’t going to get me anywhere so I said we would talk about this in the morning when she comes home.

Next morning comes around and like I suspected she stayed at her boyfriend’s house! I was extremely upset because we had this discussion before and I am totally against it as well as her father. She tells me that she doesn’t understand what the big deal is? Lots of parents let their kids stay at the boyfriend’s house.

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I said, ” Well, it’s not okay with this parent.” She said my reasoning did not help her understand why it was wrong or inappropriate because she found nothing wrong with it. They weren’t doing anything and they are 17.”

How do I talk to a teen rationally about this? I am spitting nails and fuming. I think at one point I saw Jesus and asked for help because I’m gonna need it.

My daughter would not let go of the fact that there is nothing wrong with the sleepover and that it’s not wrong.

So, I am asking .. Am I wrong? Do you allow your teen to sleep over their boyfriend/girlfriend’s homes? Have times changed THAT much? I need someone to please help me understand this or at least help me make my daughter understand.



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I did explain to her that sometimes in life, just because we don’t think it’s not inappropriate or wrong, doesn’t mean it isn’t. There isn’t always a logically reason.

That same day my husband called my daughter’s boyfriend’s dad and told him that she was not allowed to sleep over and unless he hears it from us, don’t believe it it is okay with us.

I mean really? These teens now a days have found a way to basically make everything a battle. sleepover with boyfriends? Yay or Nay?

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We've all done things we regret in relationships. But it seems some people have done things they regret a LOT more than others. Like these people, who all bared their souls on a Reddit feed asking people to confess the craziest things they've ever done while with a partner.

It seems insecurity and jealousy can turn people into, well, madmen (and women)....



some people reveal the craziest things they've ever done in a relationship like



"I tried to impregnate her when it was clear our relationship was going downhill.

"I was successful. I can't say I'm proud of that.

"She was extremely stressed out at the time, and it miscarried very early on."


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"I was seeing this guy about 10 years ago on and off for a few months. I was waaaaay more into him than he was with me but I didn't let that stop me being a complete psycho. He tried to break it off with me at one point because I was too needy, so I broke into his house in the early hours of the morning and sat in the corner of his room until he woke up.

"I was convinced he would be so happy to see me that he would want to get back together. He woke up, screamed and threatened to call the police if I didn't get out of his house. Amazingly, that still didn't deter me and I continued to stalk him for another month or so. I honestly cannot believe how fucking crazy I was. It makes me want to hide under a rock whenever I think about it. Needless to say, I had to do some serious work on myself before I could ever inflict my crazy on another person. Now I have been married for three years and I'd like to think I'm pretty relaxed and non stalkery."

let's hear yours.



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Youth Unemployment occurs when young people are without jobs and have actively sought for job within a short period. It is one of the macro-economic problems which every government is expected to monitor and regulate. Different programs have been introduced by various administrations over time to address youth unemployment, which has been an issue of significant public concern since the days of SAP.


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In fact, youth unemployment became the focus of the social policy of the military government that ruled Nigeria for much of its years as an independent nation. The initial reaction of the government was to draft unemployed youth to public programs such as Operation Feed the Nation (OFN) and the Directorate of Food, Road and Rural Infrastructure (DIFRRI), which provided immediate and direct jobs to participants interested in agriculture. More coordinated and planned measures later followed, and these were classified into three categories:

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labor demand, labor supply and labor market interventions . Labor demand strategy focused on creating jobs immediately through public works or creating certain jobs in the private sector aimed at promoting entrepreneurship and skills enhancement. Labor supply strategy dealt with the training and education of prospective job seekers. The labor market intervention strategy focused on improving the labor market and matching demand and supply interrelationships. Furthermore, certain institutional arrangements and agencies have been established to promote employment among youth with little or no inpact on the prevailing situation.


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PREVALENCE OF YOUTH UNEMPLOYMENT IN NIGERIA Several factors may be blamed for the prevalence of youth unemployment in Nigeria. There is a high population growth rate—3.5 percent per annum—which accompanies an already large national population of over 170 million people. In addition, deficient school curricula and poor teacher training have contributed to the failure of educational institutions to provide their students the appropriate skills to make them employable. Acquisition of special and relevant skills and creation of jobs have remained a focal point in the Nigerian Government policy overtime without proper implimentation. Government have created different skill acquisition programs without proper and efficient monitoring agencies to make sure it achieve the desired aim.

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However, factors which include inadequate funding and late release of funds from the federation account among others have impaired the effectiveness of the these programes. There is a lack of vibrant industries to absorb competent graduates. This obstacle was in part caused by an infrastructural deficit and a debilitating structural adjustment program (SAP) implemented by Nigeria in the 1980s, which led to the closure of many industries and from which the country is yet to fully recover. The youth unemployment situation has been aggravated by flawed and inconsistent public policies on employment.


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WHY GOVERNMENTS’ STRATEGIES DOES NOT YIELD RESULT While many programs have targeted creating opportunities for youth employment, the outcomes have been greatly limited by a host of factors, including: Training is often not accompanied by soft loans, which graduating trainees could use as start-up capital in order to facilitate their quick integration into the labor market. Targeting has also presented a challenge. Often, all categories of unemployed youth are lumped together as if they are homogeneous (in terms of education, skill, capabilities, etc.) when, in fact, there ought to be distinctions on the basis of education, experience, and willingness to learn. The lumping together of graduates of primary school with those coming out of secondary schools and/or tertiary institutions makes training not only ineffective but also less impactful. Public policies directed at addressing youth unemployment have faced different challenges including finance, the absence of good administration and implementation, inconsistent policies, unimpressive responses from would-be trainees, and unqualified resource personnel handling the training programs.



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PROBLEM OF YOUTH UNEMPLOYMENT Youth unemployment is a global trend, but occurs mostly in developing countries of the world, with attendant social, economic, political, and psychological consequences. Thus, massive youth unemployment in any country is an indication of far more complex problems and an opportunity for youths to be actively mobilized by politicians, warlords, criminal gangs, illegal migration syndicates. Unemployed youth are readily available for anti-social criminal activities that undermine the stability of societies; especially in the area of Internet Usage, manipulations and other social vices. Unemployed and underemployed youth are more exposed to conflicts and illegal activities-many of them fall prey to armed and rebel conflicts’. WHAT IS THE WAY FORWARD Government should increase the working hours in the country as it is in countries like America, Canada etc to acccomodate more workers. A system of education should be evolved where students are given technical training so that it will eventually help them in securing suitable jobs in appropriate lines of occupations. Government should create enabling environment to promote investments and job opportunities for the youths. This includes provision of power, maintaining law and order, and adequate security. Our justice system must be strong to facilitate strong contracts and protect mutual trust. Education curriculum must be immediately revised to incorporate skills acquisitions exercise, Entrepreneurship Development, and enterprise to limit the rat of paper works. Agriculture is a viable source of investments for young people if it is made attractive. There should be a swift transition from subsistence to commercialized farming. Farm and non-farm activities should be better packaged to make them really attractive. There should also be adequate investment in rural education. This will boost rural opportunities and reduce rural-urban migration and its concomitant challenges. The time to do this is now for they say,a stitch in time saves nine. By Jomo Iroha Iroha writes from Enugu Nigeria.


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youth-unemployment-nigeria-weapon-destruction/Youth Unemployment occurs when young people are without jobs and have actively sought for job within a short period. It is one of the macro-economic problems which every government is expected to monitor and regulate. Different programs have been introduced by various administrations over time to address youth unemployment, which has been an issue of significant public concern since the days of SAP. In fact, youth unemployment became the focus of the social policy of the military government that ruled Nigeria for much of its years as an independent nation. The initial reaction of the government was to draft unemployed youth to public programs such as Operation Feed the Nation (OFN) and the Directorate of Food, Road and Rural Infrastructure (DIFRRI), which provided immediate and direct jobs to participants interested in agriculture. More coordinated and planned measures later followed, and these were classified into three categories: labor demand, labor supply and labor market interventions . Labor demand strategy focused on creating jobs immediately through public works or creating certain jobs in the private sector aimed at promoting entrepreneurship and skills enhancement. Labor supply strategy dealt with the training and education of prospective job seekers. The labor market intervention strategy focused on improving the labor market and matching demand and supply interrelationships. Furthermore, certain institutional arrangements and agencies have been established to promote employment among youth with little or no inpact on the prevailing situation.



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PREVALENCE OF YOUTH UNEMPLOYMENT IN NIGERIA Several factors may be blamed for the prevalence of youth unemployment in Nigeria. There is a high population growth rate—3.5 percent per annum—which accompanies an already large national population of over 170 million people. In addition, deficient school curricula and poor teacher training have contributed to the failure of educational institutions to provide their students the appropriate skills to make them employable. Acquisition of special and relevant skills and creation of jobs have remained a focal point in the Nigerian Government policy overtime without proper implimentation. Government have created different skill acquisition programs without proper and efficient monitoring agencies to make sure it achieve the desired aim. However, factors which include inadequate funding and late release of funds from the federation account among others have impaired the effectiveness of the these programes.



There is a lack of vibrant industries to absorb competent graduates. This obstacle was in part caused by an infrastructural deficit and a debilitating structural adjustment program (SAP) implemented by Nigeria in the 1980s, which led to the closure of many industries and from which the country is yet to fully recover. The youth unemployment situation has been aggravated by flawed and inconsistent public policies on employment. WHY GOVERNMENTS’ STRATEGIES DOES NOT YIELD RESULT While many programs have targeted creating opportunities for youth employment, the outcomes have been greatly limited by a host of factors, including: Training is often not accompanied by soft loans, which graduating trainees could use as start-up capital in order to facilitate their quick integration into the labor market. Targeting has also presented a challenge. Often, all categories of unemployed youth are lumped together as if they are homogeneous (in terms of education, skill, capabilities, etc.) when, in fact, there ought to be distinctions on the basis of education, experience, and willingness to learn. The lumping together of graduates of primary school with those coming out of secondary schools and/or tertiary institutions makes training not only ineffective but also less impactful. Public policies directed at addressing youth unemployment have faced different challenges including finance, the absence of good administration and implementation, inconsistent policies, unimpressive responses from would-be trainees, and unqualified resource personnel handling the training programs.

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PROBLEM OF YOUTH UNEMPLOYMENT Youth unemployment is a global trend, but occurs mostly in developing countries of the world, with attendant social, economic, political, and psychological consequences. Thus, massive youth unemployment in any country is an indication of far more complex problems and an opportunity for youths to be actively mobilized by politicians, warlords, criminal gangs, illegal migration syndicates. Unemployed youth are readily available for anti-social criminal activities that undermine the stability of societies; especially in the area of Internet Usage, manipulations and other social vices. Unemployed and underemployed youth are more exposed to conflicts and illegal activities-many of them fall prey to armed and rebel conflicts’.


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WHAT IS THE WAY FORWARD Government should increase the working hours in the country as it is in countries like America, Canada etc to acccomodate more workers. A system of education should be evolved where students are given technical training so that it will eventually help them in securing suitable jobs in appropriate lines of occupations. Government should create enabling environment to promote investments and job opportunities for the youths. This includes provision of power, maintaining law and order, and adequate security. Our justice system must be strong to facilitate strong contracts and protect mutual trust. Education curriculum must be immediately revised to incorporate skills acquisitions exercise, Entrepreneurship Development, and enterprise to limit the rat of paper works. Agriculture is a viable source of investments for young people if it is made attractive. There should be a swift transition from subsistence to commercialized farming. Farm and non-farm activities should be better packaged to make them really attractive. There should also be adequate investment in rural education. This will boost rural opportunities and reduce rural-urban migration and its concomitant challenges. The time to do this is now for they say,a stitch in time saves nine.

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By Jomo Iroha Iroha writes from Enugu Nigeria.

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2019 is around the corner soon campaign will start
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It's official. The age of the female gold digger is over.

These days, it's men who are dating women for their money. So how do you know if a man is after you or your wallet?
Here are the seven signs he's only dating you for your money, not your personality.


1. You've got sugar mama potential.

Whether you're a partner in a law firm, a successful entrepreneur or simply one of the many women who are very good at her job and is well-compensated for her skills, any lady of means is a possible sugar mama. It's not just women who are successful in business — recent widows and divorcees can become providers as well.

"Perhaps [the potential sugar mama's] spouse has died and she was left a significant amount of money. Sometimes she is financially secure due to her divorce settlement. Other times, she's the successful career woman



2. He pays for things... at first.


he'll be a total gentleman when you first meet. Then, all bets are off. She mentions that "If the person is a true gold digger, it can be hard to tell in the beginning because he's often are putting on a full-court press in order to win you."

these charming men will pull out all of the stops just so you'll fall for them. First, they'll pay for everything until you're interested, and then BAM. They reveal their true identity.

But there's more. She confirms that "Often they will pretend to have their own money, but in reality, they are borrowing from Visa to pay Mastercard [so they can] finance the relationship until you're hooked." Eventually, he'll stop paying for things and assume that you'll provide and pay for things most or all of the time.


3. He has expensive tastes.


Does he only like to go to the fanciest restaurants? Does he have a penchant for Dolce and Gabbana? Is he hounding you about taking a trip to Tuscany?

A man is dating you for your pecuniary prestige if he consistently proposes you go shopping together, makes continual references about traveling with you or constantly suggests going out to expensive venues."

It's easy to go from talking about future romantic trips to suddenly paying for vacations. That's why
If you're concerned someone is dating you for your money, leave your wallet and purse behind." Don't let yourself fall into the trap of buying or accepting extravagant gifts.


4. He has financial troubles, and they're never his fault.

This next one is a doozy. If you suspect that your man is dating you for your money, finding out whether or not he's in a lot of debt or if he's borrowed money (and not repaid the loan) is crucial. The first step?

you must "get them to talk about their last serious relationship or marriage and how it ended. You can find clues there."

Beware of the man who doesn't accept responsibility for his lack of funds or poor credit score. Usually, he'll blame his problems on another woman or a previous spouse. If you fall for that, the next empty bank account could be yours because this is one of the major signs he's only dating you for your money.

5. He asks you for money. All the time.



Asking for a loan is a sign that he may see you as a cash machine rather than a real love interest. If you suspect this is the case, talk to him about his financial situation
You need to know how you would be sharing expenses and his values towards spending, credit, and sa


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6. He's a total deadbeat.

Ladies, use your common sense. Being unemployed or working part-time doesn't mean a guy is a gold digger. But if he doesn't have career ambitions and is content to spend your money, that's a red flag.

guys who want your money might dream big in terms of your future together, but earn little and have no plans to amp up their career. Also, Johnson advises women to watch out for the guy who "encourages you to enjoy your opulence [and doesn't] support fiscal responsibility."

7. You just have this feeling.


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Above all else, listen to your instincts.

If you're seeing a majority of these signs in your relationship, you might be dating a financial opportunist. But not all monetarily impaired men are out for your cash; a man who relies on your money can make a wonderful husband and boyfriend.

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Is an ongoing refusal to have sex with your spouse a betrayal similar to adultery?
Does a persistent absence of sex within a marriage excuse or justify going outside the marriage to get it?
I’ll tackle the first question below and the second in a follow-up post.

There are several things I want to clarify before we begin:
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Although I will sometimes use the term “sexless marriage," the discussion applies to any long-term relationship in which the partners expect exclusivity.
I am aware that adultery is not always about sex, and often occurs while there is still sex in the primary relationship. But in this post I’m specifically talking about adultery motivated by sexual dissatisfaction in one's relationship.
I’m assuming that this sexual dissatisfaction starts some time into the relationship, after an initial period during which both partners were generally satisfied with their sex life (and which generates the feelings of disappointment or betrayal when it ends).
There are many articles about marriages in which both people lose interest in sex (at least with each other), and many discussing what a frustrated partner can do to renew his or her partner’s interest in sex. But there are not many that discuss the ethics of one spouse refusing to have sex with the other on an ongoing basis. This is unfortunate but understandable—I was hesitant to discuss it myself, but the issue obviously strikes a nerve and merits some discussion.

Why the hesitation? We are wary in modern society of suggesting that anyone should be expected to have sex with another person, including his or her partner. Most of us today believe that sexual activity should be completely voluntary, and we fight hard to protect people from coerced sex, whether it's in the form of physical assault or threats related to employment or blackmail. For this reason, most people are very reluctant to suggest that partners “owe” each other sex, either in general


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Let’s set that aside for a bit, and instead ask: If there were such a duty to have sex in a relationship, how would this relate to the duty of fidelity (or duty not to cheat)? Most wedding vows—indeed, most understandings of committed relationships in general—involve a promise of fidelity, usually understood to encompass sexual relations at the very least, but often including any type of external romantic entanglements. Partners are expected to abstain from sexual or romantic activity outside of the relationship, but does this imply that they are entitled to it inside the relationship?

That’s the crux of the matter: It seems natural to say that if one partner promises not to seek something outside the relationship, then he or she has a right to expect it within the relationship. But in ethics, we make a distinction—albeit a somewhat controversial one—between duties of inaction and duties of action. We feel more comfortable saying that someone should abstain for doing something rather than saying they should do something.
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For instance, we say that you must never push a child into a lake, but we sometimes stop short of saying that you’re required to dive in to pull one out, although you would be strongly encouraged to do so! Traditional wedding vows reflect this: They are specific as far as what spouses must not do (“forsaking all others”) but vaguer on what spouses mustdo (“love and cherish”). It’s much easier to tell a person not to have sex with other people than to tell that person that he or she must have sex with the partner—especially given the strong sense of autonomy we grant to sexual activity.

But maybe it’s not just sex. Are we willing to enforce any duties within marriage? Very few people today—outside of certain communities that enforce strict traditional marriage—will assert that anyone “has to” cook, clean, or take care of children for his or her spouse. (Admittedly, it has traditionally been the female partner who has been expected to do these things, which is, appropriately, widely repudiated today.) In fact, the only duty we seem willing to enforce on married people is a specific and negative one—the duty of fidelity. Partners have no duties toward each other than to abstain from forbidden activity with other people.

But this poses a conflict. Consider the following three statements:


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People in relationships have sexual needs.
They are restricted from satisfying those needs outside of their relationship.
Their partners have no obligation to satisfy these needs for them within the relationship.
These three statements are mutually inconsistent, and one of them has to break. Perhaps the one we expect to break most often is #2, in which the frustrated partner does go outside the relationship for satisfaction. I would imagine #1 also breaks, in the sense that the frustrated partner may suppress or deny his or her own needs. This may seem like the noble solution, putting the relationship and the partner above one’s own needs, but it reduces the concept of a sincere need to a mere desire or wish. Some people may find this easier to do than others, but this doesn’t mean they should have to—and some that try but fail end up breaking #2 instead.


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Of course, #3 is the third rail in this situation, the one we are hesitant to question. Nonetheless, if one partner voluntarily enters into a committed relationship knowing that the other partner has certain needs—needs that, according to the terms of their relationship, cannot be satisfied elsewhere—doesn’t this imply some level of obligation or responsibility to either satisfy those needs or allow them to be satisfied by someone else? It’s this sense of an obligation that leads some people to say that a refusal of sex is a betrayal on the same scale as adultery.

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Modern-day dating can be extremely tricky. And by “tricky” I mean often infuriating, frustrating, and unclear.

It’s ironic that with all the texting and Facebooking and Snapchatting and oodles of other ways to send messages back and forth nowadays, never has communication felt more…non-communicative. No one’s dating anymore, they’re “hanging out.” And in the midst of all this super casual “hanging out,” signals and wires and intentions seem to have gotten crossed.

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Instead of the men pursuing the women, a lot of men seem to be sitting back waiting on the women to pursue THEM.

Now, please don’t make me launch into some diatribe about how men are natural hunters and gatherers and were born to be the initiators of relationships (because it’s true, but I don’t feel like doing the research to prove it). And please don’t misunderstand me, either. I’m not suggesting we, as women, sit around sniffing our smelling salts like Scarlett O’Hara and play the helpless female in need of a big, strong man to come and rescue us.

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That’s not my point here at all. My point is this: Men seem to have forgotten how to pursue women. And women seem to have picked up that slack by becoming the pursuers. And in my humble opinion, a relationship that begins as a result of a woman chasing a man doesn’t tend to have a happy ending. I know this because I’m 36 years old and I can say in full confidence with years of dating experience under my belt that anytime I have chased a man, the relationship has gone nowhere fast. But when I sit back and relax and stay open and receptive to the relationship without openly pursuing it, it has always, always, always worked out better. (And b-t-dubs: I consider myself a feminist. But part of being an empowered woman is knowing your heart, your time, and your company is worth being wooed and pursued.) Perhaps you have a different opinion or have had a different experience, and that’s okay. That’s why this is my blog and not yours – LOL! If you do connect with this concept, however, and if you’ve lost months or years of your life to endlessly chasing a man who always seems to stay one step ahead…here are five reasons why chasing a man is the actual worst:

It’s humiliating, exhausting, and downright bad for your self-esteem. It’s impossible to feel good about yourself if you’re willing to trade in your dignity for a pair of running shoes in order to chase after any man. And your dignity and self-esteem are never worth surrendering, for anyone or anything.

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If you have to chase him, ladies, here’s the cold, hard truth: He doesn’t want to be caught. A man who wants to be with a woman will always be running TOWARD her, not away from her.
He’s clearly not that great of a guy. Why? Because a man of character would stop dodging and evading and being shady and would sit down with you face-to-face to tell you honestly that he doesn’t want to be with you.

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He wouldn’t keep playing games with your heart or keep you hanging around as his backup plan.
You are missing out on the things and people and relationships that are meant for you by wasting all your time and energy and emotions on the things that are not. When you stop chasing the things that aren’t for you, you give the things that ARE a chance to catch up to you. But as long as you’re caught up in the drama of an on-again, off-again endless pursuit, you literally have blinders to all the amazing things already staring you right in the face.


Even if you catch him, you won’t really ever HAVE him. I’ve learned this firsthand, the hard way. You can catch someone’s body and still not capture their heart. (And no, I’m not talking about sex here.) You can have someone’s physical presence there with you and their heart can still be light years away. On the bright side, the really amazing thing that sometimes happens by catching someone you’ve been chasing after for so long is it finally opens your eyes to why God never intended for you to catch him at all. Because sometimes it takes getting everything you ever thought you wanted to fully understand it’s nothing you need, and far from what you deserve.


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I hope wherever you are in your journey today, you’ll realize that you are worth being pursued. You deserve a man who is willing to do whatever it takes to capture your heart. Take off those running shoes and give your legs and your heart a break.

Skill can simply be referred to as unique practical knowledge or know-how of a particular thing or project/work.

Every living being has the God-given skills that vary from one another. These skills are of different volumes, sizes and length (longitivity). Their differences are in the long run determined by individual’s effort such as personal determination, skill discovery, skill development, knowledge acquisition, skills advertisement etc.

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We shall consider some of the efforts required to make skills known and realistic in our nest publication.

The benefits of skills cannot be underestimated. Some of them are wealth creation, poverty reduction, crimes reduction, self fulfilment, national economic growth, reduction in unemployment etc.

In some developed countries like the USA, there are policies and adequate provision for skill acquisition which has encourage so many of their citizens (majorly youths) to learn a vocation or the other. The reverse is the case in countries like Nigeria where you have people being stigmatized for learning a vocational skill. They are either referred to as dullards who cannot cope with schools (formal education) or poor who can’t afford to pay their tuitions. The government is not even helping matters. There are no policies in place to correct the stigma and encourage informal skills. All emphasis and concentrations are on formal education.



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In Nigeria, it is assumed that without you going to the university, you cannot succeed in life, while we have so many graduates that are up to millions in numbers who wander about the streets and cities without a job, a shelter and even food to eat; instead of learning a skill (vocational) to earn themselves a living. This Rate of unemployment caused by the negligence of informal skill acquisition has increased the rate of poverty, unemployment, crimes, poor standard of living, and unqualified graduates in the labor market

Informal skill acquisition is alternatively the best in countries such as Nigeria and Ghana where we have large numbers (millions) of unemployed graduates every year to fight for jobs (thousands). Most of the great people in the world today achieved their greatness not because of their formal educational certificate, but by the skills they have acquired or discovered informally.

Meanwhile, I am not saying that formal education is bad, but more emphasis need to be placed on informal skill acquisition in order to have national growth and development. And by this, the dependents on the government will be minimal.

Therefore, all youths should try to acquire, discover and likely rediscover their God-given talents which is a potential to their successes. These skills and talents will eventually open doors to their successes, and it will also create a job for them.

Some of the skills youths or graduates should discover are shoe making, welding, mason, painting, sculpturing, drawing, screen printing etc. these are opportunities that youths should embrace without doubt.

More so, it’s an added advantage for youths with formal education to get more connected to higher profiled prospects to get a job or contract. Therefore, we should embrace informal skill acquisition education as a best alternative for formal education.

If the governments have failed on their part to create job opportunities, and the private/corporate bodies are insisting on employing people with 10 years’ experience. You can make yourself a boss and a director. The skills that will lead you to success are placed right before you.

Make a choice now and you will be glad thereafter.



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Love ,Lies And Divorce Episode 2


'It's okay, I totally understand, we all have bad
days.' Edima smiled and warmed up to where
Amaka sat.
Just like old times, they laughed and gossiped,
only that one person was missing...
Love, Lies And Divorce - Episode 2
She had gone out to buy some meat from the
frozen store down the street, Femi hadn't spoken
to her for days now, ever since their last fight.
She had been married to this man for six years
now but they had one issue... His family w...

...ouldn't

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stop interfering in the marriage.
Maybe he encouraged them as their constant
visiting had led to their last fight.
'You do not like my people? What's wrong with my
niece coming over here so she could stay with us
and go to the University from here?' he'd yelled
angrily.
'I am not saying anything is wrong but we can give
her money for the hostel. We need our privacy
Femi. We don't even have children yet, we should
be focusing on that.' she'd replied calmly.
But he'd said the most hurtful thing to her....
'You're talking about children? Our inability to have
kids is clearly your fault. You are barren Lola, face
it!' He spat those bitter words that left her crying
all night.

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But that pain wasn't as enormous as what she
faced right then.
He wasn't in the house when she'd left, he'd
written her a note telling her he'd be gone to the
barber's shop to get a clean shave.
So on her return, she was a bit shocked to find his
car well parked and the door she'd locked was
open.
'Femi?' she'd called but there was no answer.
She dropped the meat into the freezer and poured
herself some yoghurt that Zainab had prepared
herself. Speaking of Zainab, she pulled out her
pocket diary and realized they had a date.
'Gosh!' She was going to be late and the other
girls would be so mad. She gulped the contents of
the glass hurriedly and decided to take a shower.
She needed this, she needed to see her friends. It
had been a very long time.

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'Femi? Please talk to me?' She called again but
there was no answer. Then she walked slowly at
first towards his bedroom to spy on him. As she
approached, she heard the sounds... What was
that?
His door was slightly parted and the moans of the
woman became louder... She saw her husband of
six years thrusting in and out of the lightskinned
young lady on her matrimonial bed... Yes, each
bed in the house was sacred.
'Femi!!' she screamed and they broke apart that
moment but they soon ignored her and continued.
'Close the door Lola, can't you see am busy?'
Mockery laced his voice.
'Come here darling....' The young woman drawled,
ignoring her completely.
She was lost, what could she have done? She
was still lost as she moved to the kitchen and sat
on the tiled floor.
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...And Divorce - Episode 2
This wasn't the man she'd seen while dating Femi.
Yes, he'd cheated on her severally but he'd been
a little too bold this time around.
Pain soured through her, numbness embraced her
bones and her thoughts flew across the skies.
How could a man bring his mistress home? How
could he make love to her in their own home? It
only meant one thing, Femi had no respect
whatsoever for her.


She picked up her phone, hesitant and confused...
Was it right to tell Zainab and the girls what had
happened? Why was she always the unlucky one?
Out of their four marriages, hers had been on the
rocks right after the honeymoon. Femi had been
one of the nicest guys back on campus but after
they got married, he suddenly changed... or did he
change? Had he always been like this? Had she
been blinded by his looks and flamboyance?
She had come from a very lowly family. She met
Femi in her first year at the University and they
had both fallen in love with each other. There was
no denying the attraction between them. He loved
and adored her very much.
There was nothing as precious to him as Lola back
then. But after the marriage, he changed totally.
He still cared for her no doubt, he'd told her to
stay back and look after the house so she'd
declined the jobs that she'd been offered by some
foreign companies and became a housewife.
Femi always paid the bills. He bought her clothes
and jewelries.. When It came to provision, he was
the perfect man but his ways weren't straight when
it came to the marriage bed. Femi was an
unrepentant infidel.

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This had done it, grief choked her throat and she
groaned in pain... How could he hurt her like this?
She couldn't believe Femi had the heart to unleash
such cruelty but she wasn't dreaming, it was real.
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'Zee... I cannot make it.... I am in trouble...don't
wait up for me....' Without thinking, she had dialed
Zainab's number and spoken those words
hurriedly.
'Hello? Lola, what's wrong? Talk to me... Did
something bad happen?' The anxiety in Zainab's
voice was glaring.
'It's Femi, he brought a woman to the house. I
don't know what to do, I am totally confused.' she
sniffled.
'Hey, calm down it's okay. Are you sure you really
wanna be in that house? Why don't you come over
to my place and spend the night?' What Femi had
done was despicable.
'I don't know Zee, I think I'm going crazy... Can
you call back later?' Lola brought the call to an
end when she heard footsteps approach the
kitchen.
'Are you done reporting me to your stupid friends?'
Femi walked into the kitchen, leaned on the
cabinet and studied his wife briefly.
'Is that all you have to say after bringing that
LovePeddler into our house?' Indignation rose to her neck
as her fair complexion became a bright red... How
dare he?!
'Our house? You serious about that? I built this
house with my money so, stop saying 'our'...' he
scoffed and fetched himself a beer from the fridge.
'Why are you doing this Femi? Why are you
hurting me? If I have done anything wrong, you
should tell me...' tears flowed unrestricted from her
eyes.
'Hey! Hold up, why are we even speaking to each
other? My life ended the day I married you Lola,
can't you see?' he swallowed the drink greedily.
'How could you say something so callous? Do you
think I'm some toy made in China? You think I'm
some inanimate object? I'm human Femi, I have
feelings...' she wiped her face and launched a
plate at him.
'Wow, great move' He dodged and moved from
where he stood.
'I want a divorce.' He spoke curtly.
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'What?' Maybe she hadn't heard him well, the
words faded the moment he spoke them.
'I want my freedom Lola. Marriage was never for
me. I don't wanna be with you anymore so just go
wherever... I'm done here.' He licked his lips and
drank some more.

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'No, this cannot be happening. No Femi, You can't
do this to me.' Her sobs increased. How could he
throw to the birds everything they had shared.
'It is happening baby. I know you married me
because of my wealth. I promise you, you wouldn't
lack anything even after the divorce. I just want to
be free...' he continued and almost chuckled at her
dramatic display.
'No, you are drunk, that's the beer speaking to me
right now. You're sick if you think I'm gonna let
you dump me just like that. We're in this together,
for better and for worse. Please Femi I love you...
can't you see? I loved you from the first day we
met in the library. My heart is in your hands,
please don't break it.' She walked towards him
and held his hands. She sought warmth, she
yearned for comfort in his hands but they were
cold, just like his eyes.
'I am being honest. What have you offered me,
Lola? I needed children, this would be our seventh
year in marriage and it isn't working out as we
planned. How many doctors? How many hospitals
have we visited? Just look at me. Look at us. We
weren't like this before. We need to go to our
separate ways. I've already called a lawyer, he's
arranged the papers, I just need you to sign it,
thank you.' He released her arms and began
walking out the door but her question stopped him.
'Wait, Femi... Are you doing this because of your
family? Did you ever love me for real?' Her eyes
burned with fresh tears as she waited for the truth.
'No Lola, I am doing this for me. And as for your
other question.. Yes, I once loved you but love
fades.' He turned around and left.
'God, let this not be real! Where do I start from?
How do I get over him?' All her life, she'd lived for
this one man and he'd betrayed her. He'd broken
his promises to her.
'I might just have to take Zainab's offer....' She
whispered fearfully as she tried to shake off the
burden that weighed heavily on her.
.... To Be Continued.

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'I am glad we really found out time to do this... I
missed you guys.' Zainab smiled and set the table
for her two friends.
The id-el-kabir celebrations were still ongoing
and she'd chosen that special day to celebrate
with Amaka and Edima.
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'Uhmmmm....this taste awesomely nice.' Edima
dipped the rice pancakes into the peppery sauce
that was offered.
'It's called Masa in hausa, you should try the
Dambu Nama , flaked ...

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...s no man for her save for him
...meat.' Zainab instructed and
observed that her other friend had been strangely
quiet.
'So where is your husband and the kids?' Edima
wondered why the house was awfully quiet. She'd
been friends with Zainab for long and knew what
Zainab's house could be like when her children
were around. She had been married for ten years
now and the union was blessed with Aisha,
Umaima and Abdulkhadir, her three children.
'Oh about that, Abdul decided to take the kids
shopping, you know they'll return to school after
the holidays. But I think he planned to take them
to the movies...that man can spoil his children
dirty!' Her eyes gleamed with admiration for the
man she had married.

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Abdul was the love of her life, her first love and
their marriage was the most perfect of her friends'.
God had blessed her. She counted herself lucky to
be with a man that devoted all his time and
attention to her, a man that wasn't ready to take
other wives. Abdul was just the right man for her.
'Wow! Hearing you talk about your family like this,
makes me miss him.' Edima lowered her eyes and
focused on the dish, her appetite suddenly
disappeared and she resumed thinking about the
man that had broken her heart... How could he?
'Are you seriously doing this right now?' Amaka
lifted her brow and wondered why Edima would be
this emotional, it had been three long years yet
she couldn't get over him.
'Now, that's cruel Amaka...have pity on her for
once.' Zainab moved over to where her friend
sat... Tears had begun to stream down her cheeks
'Whatever....' Amaka shrugged and left for the
kitchen. She needed to think, she needed a drink
but knowing Zainab and her religious nature, she
didn't expect to find a tinge of alcohol in there so
she chose to move outside for some air.
'Darling it's okay...I understand how you feel, I
know you loved Fred but he is gone. Wherever he
is, he would want the best for you, he would want
you to be happy....okay?' She squeezed her
shoulders lightly.
'I don't know Zee, I just keep thinking about him, I
miss him so much...how could death be so cruel?'
She swallowed a sob and took the hankie Zainab
offered.
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years ago. There wa...


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...s no man for her save for him
but that fateful day he got involved in a car crash
that ended their six months marriage. She relived
the memories of their young marriage... She
wished he would come back to life... But there she
was, sad and alone.
Her friends had been her pillar and without them,
she would have committed suicide a long time ago
as she'd become very depressed after her
husband's demise.
'Stay here, let me talk to Amaka, something isn't
right with her.' Zainab rubbed her hands on her
skirt and walked outside.
'Hey, what's wrong with you? Having a bad day?'
Zainab walked towards her other friend.
'I don't want to talk about it. Have you heard from
Lola?' They had planned to spend the day together
and at Zainab's place but she still wasn't here....
'No, you know her, she is always the late one.'
Zainab replied as her lips widened. She loved her
friends so much and she was glad they'd come to
spend time with her.
'Sly cheated on me.' Amaka replied curtly
'Excuse me?' The words were alien to her ears.
'You heard me, the idiot confessed it this morning.
He had been shagging his secretary but lied to my
face that it just happened once and he is sorry. I
don't know what to believe Zee, I am hurting. I
don't know if I can ever trust him again.' A tear
slipped down her cheeks
'My god, how could Sylvester do something like
that? He seemed so responsible....' Zainab was
stunned.
Sly and Amaka had been married for five years
now and they had a child, Odinaka.... They
seemed perfect and happy. Why on earth would
Sly do such a thing?
'I don't know Zee... I am confused. He broke my
heart. Do you think I can ever forgive him?' She
looked into her friend's eyes searching for
answers.
Zainab's marriage was perfect, her husband was
faithful and down to earth, he never gave her any
problems, so they'd always looked up to her for
advice.
'Yes you will, you just need time dear, you will
heal eventually.' Zainab replied and hugged her
friend.

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'Hello girls... Do you think Lola is still gonna make
it? It's getting late.' Edima had decided to come
out and get some air, she was suffocating inside.
'uhmmm, let's see...' Zainab released her friend
from the hug and rubbed her hair thoughtfully.
'Don't you get to remove that?' Edima chewed on
the rice pancakes, wondering why her friend had to
wear her Hijab all the time.
'It's her crown girl, leave Zee alone.' Amaka
chuckled softly
'Well, it's my choice...' Zainab ignored her friend's
teasing, glad they both now were okay.
'I am sorry I sounded that way Edima, I had no
right to sound so rude to you. Forgive me...'
Amaka was remorseful.
'It's okay, I totally understand, we all have bad
days.' Edima smiled and warmed up to where
Amaka sat.
Just like old times, they laughed and gossiped,
only that one person was missing...
.... To Be Continued.

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Look at what this guy did to his girl friend over minor issues that can be trashed and restore peace,He used motor saw to cut her both hands off just because he caught her flirting with another guy.
Relationship is not by force when things are not working when smiles and joy are no longer flourish just walk away instead of living with a monster who will finally chop you into pieces.
Ladies learn to select who will value you not who will send you to early grave, forget what you enjoying from his pocket your life matters.

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Encouraging creativity and innovation, particularly among youths in the country can salvage Nigeria’s failing economic and reduce the growing rate of youth unemployment, experts said.





According to the experts and teenagers, who gathered at a 1-day creative arts workshop in Lagos, organised by  showitnaija a talents discovery and creativity agency

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Collective to cultivate the passion for arts and culture among Nigerian youths as alternative to economic growth, desired national development is achievable if efforts are concentrated on driving creativity in the country.

Indeed, the participants lamented that Nigeria’s current economic shortfall and unemployment figure were the direct consequence of the lack of strategic plans by government to promote non-oil initiatives.

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Speaking at the event Founder and Executive Director of the agency, Jamimah lucas said innovation remained the engine of every society but Nigeria has not tapped into the opportunity.

“Nigeria has always been a mono-economy depending on crude oil”, Jamimah said, adding that it is high time government prioritise creativity as means of economic diversification.

“World economy in creative arts is over $600 billion but Africa’s contribution is less than one per cent of that figure,” she said.

To her, looking at the success of developed countries, the organisation realise the importance of innovation in driving sustainable economic growth and development, adding that the summer camp, organised for children of ages 14-17 at Temple Secondary School in Ikeja, was an attempt to fully insert Nigerian children within the global narrative of innovation.

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She said the programme would remain an inclusive and affirmative space for Nigerian children, who would be interested in exploring the creative arts for everyday artistic expression or as a professional career.

Though Nigeria has a long way to go in terms of development but people must decide to go creative and innovative so that the country could “get one step closer”, she said.

However, she added that for Nigeria to understand the role of creativity and innovation in national development, the people must first understand ourselves.

“Please realise that you do not have to think outside the box. Because the rules have changed and successful companies have shown us that there is no box,” Jamimah said.

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According to her, Nigeria has depended on natural resources for so many years, but with recent economic changes, oil may no longer be a top earner.

Jamimah  who believes that the only creativity remained the only hope for Nigeria, said importation has been a major barrier to the development of creativity and innovation in the country.

“Everybody tells you don’t need to produce, you only need money to buy so our originality is not encouraged.”

she  stressed that for national development to happen, people must find individual expressions through creativity.

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this sound unbelievable but true


a young lady call Anita not real name has come out to cry to the public to help her

plead with her mum to stop harassing her male friends .

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according to Anita her mum introduced her into the game of lesbianism and also sleeping with

married men since she was 15 years old.


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they have been practicing the act but now she has realize is is wrong she wants to settle down and have a family but her mum is not ready to let her go as she keeps chasing every man that comes her way.



in a chat with showitnaija .com.ng, Anita confess not to know the number of married men she has slept with   and how many marriages she has destroyed .


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she said ,she is tired of using her body to make money to give her mum.

her mum wont let her keep friends, she does not know what to do any more



in her word"this is a hard confession but i have to do to safe my life before i kill myself one day".

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if you are reading this and have a word of advice for this lady please post it



she is reading every advice from you.

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If your doctor gives you the green light to have sex during pregnancy, go for it! "In a normal pregnancy, there's no reason to refrain from intercourse as long as you want it, and as long as it's comfortable," says Chicago-based ob-gyn Lauren Streicher, M.D., author of Love Sex Again

Staying comfortable is the rule, and that may be a challenge both in the beginning of your pregnancy, when you're feeling bone-tired and barfy, and at the end of your pregnancy, when you're huge and (again) feeling exhausted. The key is to find sexual positions that feels comfortabl

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Sexual Positions During the First Trimester
It's perfectly normal (and understandable!) if first-trimester fatigue and morning sickness have you feeling less than sexy. But if you are in the mood, first-trimester sex has its advantages: Most women are naturally well-lubed, have no big belly to work around, and may be extra-enthusiastic, thanks to the surge in pregnancy hormones that make your lady parts engorged and extra-sensitive.


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Sex positions to try: "Anything goes during the first trimester," Dr. Streicher says. So go ahead -- scissor, get acrobatic, play with intimacy gadgets, or explore the entire Kama Sutra! If you're tired, the missionary position is a beautiful thing -- just lie back and enjoy the ride. Spooning can also be a great lazy-day option.

 
Sex positions to avoid: Good news -- there are no no-nos! And if you're worried that having sex during pregnancy will bring on a miscarriage, rest assured. "When you look at the data on miscarriage, or early pregnancy loss, there doesn't seem to be any connection," Dr. Streicher says. So talk to your doctor if you're concerned, but know that unless you have a specific medical condition, sex during the first trimester should be perfectly safe.

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Sexual Positions During the Second Trimester
Welcome to the "honeymoon trimester" for pregnancy sex! You'll likely have passed the morning-sickness-and-fatigue stage, and may suddenly feel much more energized. Add in raging pregnancy hormones and, hello, you're ready to bring sexy back.

Sex positions to try: Here's your chance to do fun poses that may get more challenging in the third trimester, thanks to your growing belly.

Sit and stare. With your man sitting in a chair, straddle him face-forward, so you can gaze into each other's eyes.
Hands and knees. This version of "doggy style" facilitates deep penetration, something you may not find comfortable in your third trimester.
Reverse spooning. Lie on your sides, facing one another. Enjoy this face-to-face pose while you still can!
Sex positions to avoid: Once you're 20 weeks along, avoid positions that have you lying flat on your back, such as the missionary position. "When you lie on your back, the enlarged uterus puts pressure on your aorta, which compromises blood flow to the placenta," Dr. Streicher explains. (Hate to give up that one? Then try wedging a pillow under your left hip. "It displaces the baby off the aorta," Dr. Streicher says.)



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Sexual Positions During the Third Trimester
Sex can still be great when you're in the homestretch, but your ballooning belly may force you to get creative in bed.

Sex positions to try: Ultimately, the ideal pose places no pressure on your belly and lets you control the depth of penetration. Some sex positions you may find most comfortable at this stage include:

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Spooning, or side entry, which involves no weight on your belly and shallower penetration
Woman on top, where you're in control
Rear entry -- whether you're kneeling over a bed, chair or sofa, sitting on your partner's lap (facing away from him) or standing up (perhaps resting your hands on a wall or the back of a sofa)
Seated on the edge of a bed or chair (or the kitchen counter -- whatever works!) with your partner facing you, kneeling or standing as needed to adjust to the right height
Sex positions to avoid: Although no positions are technically unsafe (other than those that have you flat on your back), some women don't like the feeling of very deep penetration. And while a recent Parents.com poll of pregnant women revealed that back-door sex was suddenly very enticing, tread carefully. "There is a risk of infection, for starters," says Ari Brown, M.D., co-author of Expecting 411: The Insider's Guide to Pregnancy and Childbirth, as bacteria can spread to your vagina. And, practically speaking, many pregnant women suffer from hemorrhoids.
"The last thing you want is to flare those up with intercourse and make them bleed," Dr. Brown adds.

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Lastly, a note about MouthAction: It's totally fine to give and receive during any trimester, but your partner should never blow or otherwise force air into your vagina, as in very rare cases it could cause a dangerous embolism (when a burst of air blocks a blood vessel).

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The true key to growing as a photographer is to dedicate and immerse yourself in it on a consistent basis. Passion and enjoyment are key to becoming great at your craft.

That beings said, there are many things to consider in order to progress through this journey as effectively as possible. If I were to start all over again, these are the stepping stones that I would have preferred to have taken, beginning with the technical and ending with the
conceptual.
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Part 1: Learning the Technical
1. Look at Light
When you start out in photography, it seems obvious to say that learning to use your camera is the logical first step. However, thinking this way can actually confuse you. The camera is just a tool that has the ability to record light.

When you walk out the door to photograph, the first thing you should think about is light, and not the camera. What time of day is it? How strong is the light and what direction is it coming from? Is it sunny or cloudy? Is the light soft or contrasty? Is the sun in front of, or behind you? Where are the artificial light sources and what colors do they give off?

This is the first thing that a seasoned photographer will look for every time they begin to shoot, and constantly be aware of while they are shooting. They do this for a reason. The light will affect how they shoot and the settings that they use. Even a slight change in direction to your light source can completely change how an image will look. You can’t learn how to use your camera correctly if you do not first understand the light.



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2. Learn Your Camera Setting
Once you evaluate the light and environment, and figure out how you want the image to look, that is when you want to think about camera settings. For instance, do you want as much of the image as possible to be sharp, or do you want a lot of bokeh in the background? Do you want to zoom in and have a compressed look to the image or would you rather use a normal or wide angle lens? Do you want it to be a high-key shot, or on the darker side?

That is when you change your settings to achieve the desired effect. It sounds like a lot of work just to take a single photo, and it is. However, if you start out shooting this way, eventually it will become second nature. It is just like learning a basketball shot or a golf swing. Doing it the correct way might feel unnatural and weird at first, but eventually it will come naturally and quickly, and you will be much better off for having spent time at the beginning to focus on it.

Take your camera off Auto and experiment with either shutter priority, aperture priority, or manual mode. Some photographers take pride in shooting manual, and sometimes it makes sense to shoot that way, but manual is no better than shutter or aperture priority modes, and in many situations it can be a worse way to shoot. It all depends on the situation.


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Experiment with different zooms on your lens, with different apertures and shutter speeds, and experiment with different ISOs to see how the digital grain (noise) looks. Do not be afraid to raise your ISO when you do not have a tripod. Go back to look at your photos in Lightroom, zoom in to the details, and look at the settings to see how they altered the way your images look.

3. Composition and Form
Now is the time to think about composition. Some newer photographers tend to have a bad habit – they look up, see something interesting, then they photograph it quickly and move on. Yes, sometimes you’re on the move and this is the only way to shoot, but take some time to compose your image in the best possible way. The difference between a snapshot and a work of art is thought. If you see an interesting scene, you need to think about how to best capture it. Where is the best place to stand? Can I include other elements into the scene to create a more complex composition?

I prefer to think about composition in this way – if I made a larger print, put it on my wall, and a friend came over and saw it for the first time, where would their eyes begin and how would they move through the image? How would it feel to them? Where are the lines in the image? What is the relationship of the main subject to the background? Is rule of thirds better here or is it better to center the main subject? Are there interesting shapes in the image? Do the edges of the image look good and keep the viewers eyes from moving out of the composition? Is there a foreground, middleground, and background in the image and does the image even need that?


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The difference between a decent image and a great image could be moving a foot to the left. This is another idea that can seem overwhelming at first, but will come to you more naturally the more you pay attention to it.

4. Color
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Color (or lack there of) is a very important element of photography. Look at a color wheel and study how the colors work together. What do different colors represent? Do the colors add to the image or detract from it? I enjoy creating both black and white, and color images, and this is one of the first questions I think about when I am editing.

What is the color quality of the light? Is it cool or warm, is there a color cast, and does that add or detract from the image?

In addition to thinking about color while shooting, you will find yourself significantly improving your ability with color while you are editing. Play around with color temperature to see if you like an image warmer or cooler. Desaturate it, or add a little saturation, to see how it feels. How does changing the contrast affect the colors?

For doing quality color work, make sure that you have a good monitor that has been recently color corrected. All your work will be for naught if your monitor shows colors that are different from the file and final print.

5. Learn Lightroom



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Editing is vitally important to developing your vision and becoming a good photographer. I suggest using Lightroom, as it is the industry standard and it works well for so many photographers. Photograph in RAW to get the most flexibility and quality in your images and explore all of the RAW development settings. Try to recreate the looks of other photographers to get a feel for how their editing was done.

Be diligent about organizing your archive. A little time spent each time you upload images will save you so much time in the future. Star your good images (Lightroom allows 1 through 5 stars) so they are easy to find, and create collections based on ideas that you grow over time. Viewing your work in this organized fashion will help you develop your skills much faster than if you have a messy archive.

6. Print
Maybe my views are rooted in the past and nobody is going to print in the future, but I do not feel like an image is truly complete until it has been printed and framed. That is the final step to all of this, and it is a great feeling to put an image on your wall.

36×48 inch Corkboard

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But there is another aspect to why you should print. It is one thing to see how your images look on a monitor, but it is a completely different experience to see them in their final, printed form. This will allow you to see how the light, the color, and your camera settings all affected the final image. You will learn a lot about how to shoot, from the art of printing. Try different papers, and view your prints under different lights.

My favorite printer is the Epson 3880, but you do not need to do the printing yourself. Create a relationship with a local printer, or one of the reputable companies online, and have them made for you. If you do not print frequently, it can be much more affordable to have your prints made for you than making them yourself. But, don’t forget that doing the printing yourself can be very fun and satisfying, and it gives you the ability to make slight changes and see how they look right away.

Try creating a photography corkboard. I have a 36×48 inch board next to my workstation and I swear by it. Fill it up with 5x7s and 4x6s and constantly change it. See how the images play off each other, which images last, and which you lose interest in. Use this as a playground for your prints.


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Part 2: Developing Your Photographic Voice and Style
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Once you have gotten this far you are in a very good spot. Technically, you know what you are doing, your prints look beautiful, and they are well composed. But what’s next?

The next step is to figure out how to take unique and interesting photographs. It is now time to spend more effort thinking about what it is that resonates with you in photography, and what makes an image stand out in your mind.

7. Photograph!
This is so simple, but it is the key to everything and needs to be said. So many people only take their cameras out on trips or vacations. They go to places that are specifically for photographing, such as mountain ranges, zoos, gardens, safaris, cute towns, or cities with great architecture. While this is great to do, push yourself further than that. Take some photographs during the course of your everyday life. Even use a cellphone when you are unable to take your main camera with you.

The best photographers can take great photographs in the most ordinary of places. Practice this. Go out, anywhere, or specifically go out to someplace that you think will be terrible for photography, and figure out how to take an interesting photograph there. This practice will help you so much in your development. You can understand light and camera settings cold, but if you are not out photographing in a variety of situations on a somewhat consistent basis, then you are selling yourself short as a photographer.

8. Galleries, Photo Books, and Reading
Disconnected, NYC.

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One of the best ways to develop your own voice and style is to look at the work of others. Go to galleries, purchase photography books, and study the images of great photographers. The internet is a great place to view photography, but it is so easy to get lost. Galleries and books are curated for a reason. Study the images, think about how they were done, and figure out the context behind them. Sometimes images will hit you whether or not you know the context behind them, but other times it can be important to learn about the photographer and the history that are behind the image. This will add another layer to your appreciation.

Try out the different styles of photographers that you like. Try to shoot like them to learn how they did it and why. Pick and choose your favorite elements from different photographers and merge them to create your own style.

Purchase some prints. I’ve heard this a few too many times (sorry for the gender stereotyping) but it’s usually a wife saying something to me like, “I’d love to get this for our wall, but if my husband sees me buying the work of another photographer, he’ll kill me!” The average home has a lot of walls; enough for many artists.

Yes, there is something satisfying about seeing an image, then going and figuring out how to create it for yourself, but it is really important to appreciate the works of others. Buy prints from other photographers to display along with books. Immerse yourself in the works of others to create your own inspiration.

Finally, one of my favorite ways to gain inspiration is to read about things unrelated to photography. Learn about where and what you are shooting. Read poetry, read current events, read anything. This practice is about growing your voice outside of photography; the two are related.

Nerves, SoHo, NYC.

9. Keep Coming Back
Pick an area or a subject and immerse yourself in it. Go back to the same place at different times, in different light, and keep photographing it. This is very important for your growth since it will allow you to learn the area or subject like the back of your hand. Your images will take on more depth. There are photographers who have spent 40 years photographing in the same area.

10. Curate a small group of photographers and friends to show your work
The internet is an amazing place for sharing your work and learning about photography. However, it is also a very impersonal place. Everyone sees thousands of images a day from hundreds of people. While it’s definitely possible, it can be tough to get a proper critique and evaluation of your work over the internet.

Find a few people and put together a group to show physical images to every once in awhile. You ultimately want to shoot for yourself, but seeing how others relate to your images is important for your growth. The more they get used to your work and your style, the better comments and thoughts they will have for you.

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These people do not have to be photographers. They can be friends, creatives, even significant others. A good tough critique from your partner can be very valuable. It can sometimes be tough to hear at first, but figure out how they really feel about an image. Your partner will know you well enough to be honest and not hold back, and that will be good for you to hear. Figure out what they like, and what they don’t like.

11. Put together an edit of similar images
One of the most beautiful aspects of Lightroom is that it allows you to create collections of images outside of your normal file structure. Start to group and sequence your images that relate to each other. Begin to turn them into a project. You can see how the images in this post relate to each other. This was done over time, not all at once. You can, and should, think about projects from the very beginning and go out to photograph them, but often projects and ideas will come about naturally during the process of daily shooting.

Doing this will help you notice these moments when photographing in the future and over time you will develop ideas organically into beautiful projects.

12. Develop a voice in your photograhy
If you have done the rest of these steps, your voice and style will develop organically over time. Think about it, and pay attention to it as you progress, but do not force it. Let it come to you over time. You can learn to use your camera quickly, but you cannot become a good photographer overnight. Take your time and try to improve a little bit each day and you will make huge strides over the course of a few years.

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The Federal Government has appealed to Nigerians to bear with it over the slow pace of work in the construction and rehabilitation of roads in Lagos, Ibadan, Benin, Ofosu, Ore, Ajebandele and Sagamu.

Engr. Emmanuel Adeoye, the Director for Federal Highways (Southwest) who made this plea during an inspection of some of the roads asked for more time to complete the roads.

Adeoye said the government has only been able to do only 15.9 percent of the work on Benin-Ofosu-Ore-Ajebandele and Sagamu dual carriage way phase four with N#18 billion in the past four years. The road is being constructed by Reynolds Construction Company (RCC).

He blamed the slow pace of work on the road on insufficient funding by the federal government.

“This reconstruction has been awarded since 23/10/2014 and was expected to be completed by 23/10/2018 this year but due to insufficient funds and debts to the construction company by the Federal Government the work has been delayed till now.



“Between December 2017 and January 2018 we released the sum of N6 billion to the company in order for them to continue and right now the government is keen on finishing the reconstruction and that is why we are on inspection,” he stated.

He promised that the outstanding debt would be settled as soon as possible to allow for smooth sail of activities on the roads.

Giving estimates of the work done so far, the controller of federal roads and in Ogun, Engr. Popoola Olukayode, revealed that the reconstruction of the roads provided employment for 620 Nigerians while local contractors have been able to get contracts to supply materials for the construction.

“Presently, we have 11 expatriates, 620 Nigerian employees, 2000 tons of cement have been used, while an aggregate 6,261 tons of bitumen had been used and about 156 tons of reinforcement had been done”.

“The works suffered slow progress in the past because the federal government was owing the contractor but now all that has been settled as workers are being paid monthly. Contractors are also getting their money. Hopefully work will continue day in day out on the roads,” Olukayode assured.

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Lionessza:
Nice write up.

Point number 4.
This isn’t lying, but embellishment.
Don't know why this got me ....

THANKS

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1) We can tell when you’re doing something because you saw it in a Indecency.
Most sex in porn is about what’s good for the camera, not what’s good for the participants in it, especially the women. In fact, many things that look good in porn can keep us from having fun in real-life sex. For instance, in porn the only parts of their bodies the actors often touch are their genitals, so that the camera can get a full view of the action. But in real life, sex is more of a whole-body experience, and the genital-only thing can feel cold and masturbatory.


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Of course, we know that men know this, and most would deny that they’re doing stuff because it looked good in a porn and not because it felt good in the moment. So we’d rather not bring it up when you do stuff that looks better in porn than it feels in life. We don’t want to argue over whether or not that’s what you’re doing. But when you do something you picked up in a porn that doesn’t add to the real-life pleasure, we take notice and we’re often hoping you get it out of your system so we can move on to activities that are actually fun.

2) Endurance is overrated.
It’s not that jokes about two-pump chumps are completely baseless. Women do like having sex, and most of us can point to at least one or two experiences where a man orgasmed as soon as he touched you, and then rolled over and fell asleep while you wondered if that was all you’re going to get.

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But just because women would prefer intercourse to last more than 60 seconds doesn’t mean that longer is always better. If you consider a point of pride that you can thrust away for an hour without coming, there’s a high chance your partner is lying under you wondering how on earth she can say she’d have liked to wrap it up 40 minutes ago, but is afraid to say anything because she doesn’t want to stomp all over your accomplishments. The vagina’s ability to continue lubricating itself is limited, which can make marathon sex feel more like a duty than a joy.

3) We actually do know what will get us to orgasm.
Are you trying this and then trying that and finding nothing works to get her there? There’s a strong possibility she actually knows exactly what needs to happen, because she’s had practice masturbating, but is afraid to say so because her path to orgasm has been perceived by other men or the culture at large as bitchy or emasculating. She might feel that bringing a vibrator in bed will make you feel like less than a man, or she might worry that having you eat her out at length is boring for you. So she won’t ask.

If you suspect this might be the case, it’s well worth bringing up. But don’t do it during sex, when fear of judgment is that much higher. While you’re sitting on the couch watching American Idol will lower the stakes of this discussion tremendously.

4) “Getting there” is more trouble than it’s worth.


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This is only true for a minority of women, but when I put the call out on Twitter for women to tell me what they don’t tell men, the women who said this were the most passionate respondents. For women who have trouble orgasming, sex could be fun, but it isn’t not because of their lack of orgasm so much as their fear they’ll disappoint their partners. They find themselves avoiding sex because they don’t want to have to endure endless attempts to bring forth an orgasm that will never come, but they still like to masturbate, even if they usually can’t reach orgasm. S

So, when you’re having that talk explaining that you’re not going to freak out if she starts speaking up about her needs, be clear that you’re not going to judge her if she’s feeling like orgasms don’t have to be the star of the show every time she has sex. Many women don’t fake orgasms. But pretty much all women turn the volume up on the ones they do have, because they know you like it. This isn’t lying, but embellishment, and it would be nice if men returned the favor. Sex is no time for masculine stoicism. A little verbal appreciation in the form of moaning and groaning makes a nice two-way street.

5) Our bodies are very sensitive when aroused, so err on the gentle side.
When I put the call out for suggestions for this article, this was probably the No. 1 category, with comments like, “That’s a clitoris, not an elevator button.” Nipple-twisting was also denounced, and one woman noted that not every woman is a fan of finger-banging, which can feel rough and sort of pointless. Men who dive at your genitals with their mouths were appreciated for their enthusiasm, but not so much for their technique.


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Overall, the feeling was that more pressure can be added as needed, but the shock to the system of having someone overdo it can be a major turnoff.

Obviously, every woman is different, and even with these most general of guidelines, you’ll find dissenters. Communication between partners is the ideal. But have some sympathy on women who haven’t read enough self-help books or seen enough therapists to overcome their fear of speaking up. You might find that having patience and understanding will make it easier to draw them out over the long run. To encourage more communication, don’t make faces or act like your ego is hurt when women do push themselves to speak up. It likely took a lot of courage to do so in the first place.

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DLove has a funny way of making us do things, say things, and try things we might otherwise never experience—or heck, might even actively avoid. Here are 21 things that you wouldn’t catch us doing unless we were head-over-heels, crazy in love with an awesome guy.

crazy about a guy
1. Learn the name of every single player on his favorite sports team, when previously you were totally cool with referring to the quarterback as “that sexy one with all the tattoos.”


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2. Test out his sexual fetish. You’re not saying you’ll ever be into sucking on his toes, but you’re willing to try.

3. Be really, truly vulnerable. When you’re in love, it’s A-OK to ugly-cry on his shoulder.

4. Give him the last bite of the chocolate chip cookie dough ice cream.

5. Get embarrassingly mushy on Facebook.

6. Or fight your every urge and keep it totally cool on social media. After all, the couple who stays low-key on social media stays together. And you’re in this for the long haul.

7. Have a goofy grin permanently pasted on your face—the kind that makes strangers assume you’re cray-cray.

8. Take you for a twirl around the dance floor—a.k.a. your kitchen—any time a love song pops onto your Pandora station.

9. Dad bod? What dad bod? When you’re head-over-heels, you only seen your man’s imaginary six-pack.


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10. Kiss and hug him even when he’s drenched in summer sweat.

11. Don’t go postal when he puts your favorite cashmere sweater in the washing machine.

12. Go to Target for that one thing you need and leave with a cart full of items for him.

13. Listen to every single one of his bad jokes and die laughing at the end of each.

14. Swap our cotton undies for sexier underthings—even when Aunt Flo is in town.

15. Text his mother just to say “hello.” If you want to be family, you have to act like family!

16. Say “I love you” way more often than is necessary, to the extent that even your dog rolls his eyes when he hears you spitting out that same sentiment for the 17th time in two minutes.

17. Whip up a three-tier raspberry chocolate mousse because it’s his favorite dessert, when your idea of baking is breaking open a Betty Crocker box.

18. Work out way more than necessary because you want to look good naked—and with him, you’re naked a lot.

19. Baby talk. What can we say?

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20. Take his dog for a walk when you actually really, completely, totally dislike anything with that much fur and capacity to slobber.

21. Go above and beyond in bed because it’s really important for you to please him.

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The Nigeria Union of Local Government Employees (NULGE) said that only nine states have so far voted in support of Local Government autonomy in the ongoing effort to amend the constitution.

The National President of the Union, Mr Ibrahim Khaleel who made this known at a press conference Wednesday in Abuja said two states outrightly rejected the bill.

Khaleel called for the abolition of State Independent Electoral Commission, adding that the existence of the commission has made democracy at the local government level a mockery.

Khaleel said Kwara, Benue, Niger, Plateau, Bauchi, Cross River, Bayelsa, Ogun and Ondo are the states, which have endorsed the local government autonomy bill, while Edo and Imo rejected it outright.

While accusing governors of the two states and their party, the All Progressives Congress (APC) of influencing the State Houses of Assembly to reject the bill, he said governors of the northwestern states also influenced their state assemblies to defer its consideration.

He urged the states to approve the bill in the interest of Nigerians.

He said that the union was not asking legislators to automatically endorse the bill, but to conduct a public hearing as agreed by the Speakers Forum and the Governors Forum.

“I want to call on our governors to, as a matter of respect for Nigerian citizens who have spoken and aspiring to have a local government system they can call their own, that will be free for them to participate democratically by electing their Chairmen and Councillors as and when due without undue influence from the government of the state.

“The governors should begin to have some level of decorum in their approach to governance. Look at the shame brought to bear on our democracy by the election in Kano where underaged were the ones that mostly voted.

“These are some of the issues that we have been trying to make Nigerians understand. That is not only in the area of democracy.

“The idea behind establishing local government is by way of bringing governance closer to the people and providing a platform for everybody to participate at his own community level.

“But the governors have hijacked this tier of government for their own advantage. This is why we are doggedly following this issue and we are not happy with most of the governors that are foot-dragging on this issue. If you look at the governors from the northwestern states, they are foot-dragging,” Khaleel said.


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President Muhammadu Buhari is scheduled to preside over a meeting of the Council of State on Thursday at the Presidential Villa, Abuja.

This is the third time Buhari will be hosting the meeting of the council that has all living former Presidents and Heads of Government as members since he assumed office in 2015.


Those expected at the meeting scheduled for the Council Chamber of the Presidential Villa include former President Shehu Shagari, former President Olusegun Obasanjo and former President Goodluck Jonathan.

Others expected to be in attendance include former military Heads of State, Gen. Yakubu Gowon (retd.), Gen. Ibrahim Babangida (retd.), Gen. Abdulsalami Abubakar (retd.), as well as the former Chairman of the defunct Interim National Government, Chief Ernest Shonekan.

Vice-President Yemi Osinbajo will also attend the meeting alongside the Senate President, Bukola Saraki; Speaker of the House of Representatives, Yakubu Dogara; all living former Chief Justices of Nigeria; all the 36 state governors and the Attorney General of the Federation, Abubakar Malami, who are all members of the council.

The spate of killings being carried out by herdsmen in parts of the country is expected to form part of discussions at the meeting.

The two earlier meetings of the council presided over by Buhari were held in October 2015 and September 2016.

The council has the constitutional duties of advising the President in the exercise of his powers with respect to national census, prerogative of mercy, award of national honours, the Independent National Electoral Commission, the National Judicial Council and the National Population Commission.

It also has the responsibility of advising the President whenever requested to do so, on the maintenance of public order within the federation or any part thereof.

Meanwhile, the governorship candidate of the Peoples Democratic Party in the 2017 poll in Anambra State, Mr. Oseloka Obaze, has blamed both the federal and state governments for the proliferation of arms in the country.


He also blamed the failure of policy makers in both the federal and state governments in addressing the issue of proliferation of dangerous automatic weapons for killings by herdsmen who are in possession of such arms.

Obaze, who spoke on The Political Economy of Cattle Colony in Nigeria at this year’s annual lecture organised by the Department of Economics of the Nnamdi Azikiwe University, Awka, described the frequent clashes between herdsmen and farmers as a national disaster in the making, regretting that there had been incremental militarisation of Nigeria’s domestic and geopolitical space.

He said, “We are witnesses to the incremental weaponising and militarisation of Nigeria’s domestic and geopolitical space.”

Obaze said solving the herdsmen, farmers’ conflict required that Nigerians would rise above “the battle space and seeking solutions that serve a common cause.”

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