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Mystery9:
Do you use to have sex in dreams and have you ever masturbated before?

oprah007:
You will overcome it indeed just like I am doing right now.
Let me share my case with you; Around mid March when this Corona virus issue started to escalate and countries began to close borders, I recorded quite a substantial loss in my business (I am a Flight Ticketing officer). Most of my customers who had boarded were sent back before entering the countries of their destination. I began to receive complaint calls from customers and it made me panic.
My fiancée was spending a week at my place. I returned from work one night and was seriously down, that night, we made love and it was hot and great as usual. After a round or two, I laid on the bed, cuddling my girl but my mind was on the problems I was having at work. About an hour later, my woman started doing her trademark touching, smooching that often signal that she wanted more action. I had always risen to the occasion anytime she came knocking, I reciprocated the romance and my P-man got the message that he was needed. I became hard but I noticed that it wasn't as hard as I used to be. After about 15-20mins of fore-play, she was already craving to have me inside her, I was ready to dive in as well. As I was about diving in when my mind wondered to my problems at work and I became flaccid. Omg! I didn't think of it much but my girl wasn't happy, she kept touching to see maybe P-man will rise but it didn't, I apologised and promised her a good session by dawn before I prepare for office.
At dawn, she was already awake, with kisses over me and all, I drew her close and was ready for action in no time but as I was about diving in, I went flaccid again. This really pained my girl and she started crying, she tried all she could but my P-man won't bulge. I felt so embarrassed that I thought about it all through the day at work. I wanted to make her smile again, I put my mind on doing wonders that night after work but I couldn't. Panic sets, anxiety followed, I started thinking of so many things. What is wrong with me? Am I going impotent? Is my many years of masturbation/porn getting at me now? Is this what I am gonna start enduring onward?
I started avoiding sex, I stopped porn and masturbation, I told my girl what was happening, she was unhappy and scared, we argued, she accused me of getting tired of her and feared that I might have eye for a new lady, I fought back, she left the morning after our fight. I became so scared of losing my girl that I took a day off work and went to a doctor nearby, after my complaint, the doctor told me that I was suffering from Performance Anxiety. She advised I start taking some supplements (Reload for Men and Re-youth men capsule), she also gave me Vam Vira by Tuyil pharmaceuticals to take an hour before sex, and most importantly, I had to start taking fruits (Watermelon, Carrot, Apple and bananas), ginger, garlic and lime blended with warm water and exercises too. My fiancée came back about 3days later, begged and apologised for her actions, she promised to fight the issue with me, I told her about the drugs too. We had sex that night and it was like we used to (even better as the Vam Vira made me really rock hard). After about 3 rounds of hot, sensual sex with multiple of orgasms, my girl started begging . I felt so good that night, my girl was happy and slept like a baby.
I took all what the Doctor said and started doing them religiously. I took the Vam Vira just twice and I have not taken it since then. My girl came around last week for my birthday and we had good sex session. She confessed to me during one of our sessions saying, 'Honey, you are really back!'
I won't say I have fully recovered but I am getting myself back steadily and I pray to keep going.
Note: I have stopped porn and masturbation since and I have been exercising in my room every morning. My ginger/garlic solution I have been taking on a regular and I Don become one baddest fruits lover

I hope you can learn and pick few things from my experience to help you recover. But one thing is certain and that is
'Millions of men have experienced and recovered while more will experience and recover from what you are experiencing right now' This too shall pass. SHALOM

welturebotanical:
Dear o.p, we sell sex enhancers but dear you don't need it. Your issue is more psychological than medical, first of all change your mindset. I don't know why you should get scared of having sex. Sex is fun and relaxing,it strengths the bond of marriages and relationship. Change your mindset sir, avoid stressing your self, eat fruits, don't get too excited, put the fun mindset on mind.

Dear o.p, try some pre-intimacy, sex isn't a lake, it's an ocean with big waves, you need to warm up.
If you are not charged during pre-intimacy, thEn
there's more to it

kalufelix:
You too dey rush...leave that prick inside trouser first...use your hand & tongue until the prick can't hold any longer...Also there's a chance you are making love to boring log of woods...

Danny110:
Well.... It depends on d mind set bro... Change it.. Change how u see d girl.. Whenever she comes, treat her normally, remove ur mind from sex infact see her as a normal girl or a very good friend... When d urge comes don't rush it... Allow it build up gently... Tell her things that turn u on, discuss sex with her, let her know d things dat drive u crazy sexually.. Does she ever seduce u? Is she seductive? Do u guys dry hump


I used to feel like dis wit my ex but her own case was dat she was a virgin.... D erection was not always strong enough t do d job and when it becomes, she complains of pains and den I becomes flaccid again.. She wasn't really seductive tho beautiful but she wasn't slutty if u know what I mean... I get hard wit her at first, den wen I persuade her and she becomes reluctant I loose d erection or I become semi erect...
Its really embarrassing bro.. And now av been wit diff girls and am doing perfectly fine... So one thing is ur anxiety another thing is her bedmatics skills, for play etc.. So free ur mind.. Play wit her, build up d tension... Let her stand up, watch her dance on panties, allow her give u a lap dance, dry hump her and watch urself come out victorious...

DriggityDre:
OP, it seems your mind wants to have sex but your body is telling you otherwise. You are forcing your body. Your mind is not there. Settle every problem that's bothering you. That could be the root of your anxiety. Discuss with her to let her know that you're not interested in having sex, for now.
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sirmyke:
Guy be careful it maybe ur body warning u

clevybrown:
bro... Ur problem here is more of psychological. Why u do have failed erection is because of the thought of ur previous sexual failures thereby causing anxiety and immidiately renders u incapable. Hope u know sex itself is psychological, so anything that distracts u immediately takes u off the mood. So always bear it at the back of ur mind that failed erection is a complete normal thing that could happen to anybody depending on is mood and circumstances. So haven known this, u need to relax ur mind and never allow ur previous failed attempts ever cross ur mind again. Once ur mind is sound, relaxed and focuses on the sex which is meant to be enjoyed, u sure have a great sex. Always see urself as boss which u are

Also, pls quit masturbation and pornography, it kills ur self esteem... Always face real sex, it's more healthier....

klenton:
lol....its always like that
you have to stop working hard for a solution cus the solution is you, just remove your mind from it.

why are you anxious?? its cus your afraid of not getting an erection, therefore tell your gal there wont be sex for now, give her any reason or tell her the truth but with that u have suppressed that which makes you anxious

klenton:
lol....its always like that
you have to stop working hard for a solution cus the solution is you, just remove your mind from it.

why are you anxious?? its cus your afraid of not getting an erection, therefore tell your gal there wont be sex for now, give her any reason or tell her the truth but with that u have suppressed that which makes you anxious

Randy100:
Anti anxiety medication like setraline will help you.

Austine567:
my guy go and look for this nollywood movie miss flawless that's exactly what happened to the guy ,you will get your answers there ,(in broda shaggy's voice) because oyibo says a problem shared is half solved .thank you

bestabigaelever:
Relax brother Relax

Skmoda:
dude, take your mind off sex and see everything fall in place.....you just need to stop taking drugs. Do you have any underlying ailment or you do take drugs to fvck women before? If yes, stop and stay off sex for a while....and change your diet...go protein and eat lotta fruits and more water.....

spiano11:
You need to relax your mind bro....and stat taking ginger..trust me

Spman:
alright give me a feedback as time goes on..
I knw hw u feel. Mine i was depressed, i even took sex enhacing drugs sef

milliman:
U dey watch porn too much you cant get hard with a real woman that's for the anxiety

McBrooklyn:
First of all, have it at the back of your mind that sex is overrated.. Then give sex time and stop to dey soapy that's if you practice the act more frequently.. Try chop Wella while you abstain and get enough fruits to eat as well e.g watermelon and the likes..


Prick wey fall still fit still rise once again with proper motivation.. You go dey alright!

milliman:
Stop watching all at once and dont masturbate, exercise well so you get comfy with your body

Spman:
I had dx same issh earlier dx year.

Pls reduce ur sugar intake.
Stop masturbation

then do exercise mostly squats and kegel then chew bitter kola,eat fruits and when she is around watch movies with her first or any comedy skit and laugh together thenn proceed let ur mind be on her ....dont let anythin distract u

Kobicove:
You need to relax and just let things flow naturally when you're with a lady.

By the way it's possible you are on some medication that is interfering with your hormones

milliman:
U dey watch porn too much you cant get hard with a real woman that's for the anxiety

iyke926:
Hmm...this one is strong.

You need to exercise more, relax your mind. Be cool. Try smooching her... romancing her for a long time before banging.

Stop taking any drink or substance.

The only thing that might make my prick not stand, is maybe when she ain't beautiful, i see something that turns me off, or I have no interest in sex that moment.

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sammychimex:
Is your anxiety covid-19 related? If not, We are prioritizing right now. We will deal with your sexual fantasy/anxiety later.

Larryfest:
Guess you are always too excited with new fishes that's why you don't get hard the first time but as soon as you realizes you have already conquered the "land" you don't face such problems anymore. Why not just constantly act like a conqueror always